Inside The Consulting Room - Understanding the Child Behind the Behaviour

Kim Lee
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I am a Chid & Adolescent Psychotherapist. The podcast are educational and orientated towards parents. We cover a wide range of sometimes, tricky subjects, in the hope of reassuring parents that no matter how hard things may seem, there are things you can do. Thank you. Kim

  1. 5d ago

    How To Hear Your Child Without Fixing

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  2. 6d ago

    Patterns Not People

    Send us Fan Mail If you have ever listened to a relationship podcast and thought, “Are they talking about me?”, you are not alone. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I made this short, direct explainer to clarify the intent behind my work on abusive relationships, coercive control, personality patterns, addiction, and child mental health. The foundation is non-negotiable: I talk about patterns of behavior, not specific people, and I do it to help listeners make sense of what they are living through.  I unpack a practical way to spot a pattern by separating an episode, an event, and a sequence. A single incident can be confusing, but sequences reveal what is really going on and why it keeps repeating. That lens is especially important when children are stuck in the crossfire of parental conflict, or when someone feels trapped with a controlling or avoidant partner and cannot find a clean way out. My goal is to offer language that helps you see what is happening, reduce self-doubt, and make safer choices.  We also get into parental alienation, why it is not a legal term, and how it can show up as a counter allegation that distracts from child protection. I share why I focus on the story behind blocked contact and how child welfare principles, including the Children Act 1989, center responsibilities and the child’s needs over adult demands. I also point you to a free 16-page booklet and my resource library for deeper reading.  If this perspective helps, subscribe, share the episode with someone who needs a clearer framework, and leave a review so more parents and professionals can find it. What part of the “patterns not people” idea hit closest to home?

  3. 6d ago

    Stop Asking Me To Choose

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  4. Oct 23

    I Can Do Better Than That

    Send us Fan Mail “How good is your sleep?” is the question that cuts through every polished excuse. We lean into a raw, lyric driven story about what it feels like to spend years trying to pull someone out of their own mess, only to realize the mess was the point. If you’ve ever dealt with emotional manipulation, chronic lying, or a partner who blames everyone else while keeping their image spotless, you’ll hear the pattern fast and you’ll feel the cost even faster. We talk about the moment the truth finally lands: when the room gets quiet, memories get loud, and you can’t keep bargaining with yourself. There’s a specific kind of exhaustion that comes from being pushed to “fall in line,” from hearing promises that only apply when they’re convenient, and from watching someone build a whole life on deceit. That’s where boundaries stop being a self help concept and start becoming survival, clarity, and self respect. The heartbeat of the episode is a repeated decision: “I can do better than that, so I did.” We trace what it means to reclaim your identity after you’ve been living someone else’s life alongside your own, and why walking away can be the most honest act you have left. If you’re searching for breakup recovery, healing after a toxic relationship, or practical motivation to protect your peace, this one delivers it with zero sugarcoating. If it hits home, follow the show, share this with someone who needs a clean exit, and leave a review so more listeners can find it. What line stuck with you most?

  5. Oct 22

    Leaving The Box

    Send us Fan Mail Echoes do not politely fade. They press against the walls of whatever box we build, and they find a way out when we least expect it. That is the tension at the heart of this short, spoken-word episode: hope and fear living side by side, while the urge to remember battles the instinct to stay numb and safe. We follow a voice caught between wanting relief and not knowing how to reach it, then we hear a second voice step forward with something rare: proof. “I’ve been there myself,” the narrator admits, describing the slow, difficult choice to climb out of safety and face what was underneath. The piece becomes a meditation on trauma recovery, emotional healing, and what it means to sit with hard memories without letting them write the rest of your life. If you care about mental health, resilience, PTSD triggers, or simply how people survive what they never asked for, the metaphors here land with precision. What stays with me most is the kind of strength that does not perform. It shows up as steadiness, honesty, and the refusal to abandon someone when the pain becomes visible. We also name something practical and often ignored: healing has a timetable, and it belongs to the person doing the work. Sometimes the most supportive act is to stand close, stand aside, and trust that change is coming, even if you cannot force it. If this resonated, subscribe for more, share it with someone who needs a steady voice, and leave a review. What line from the piece are you still thinking about?

  6. Oct 13

    The Seat Is Taken

    Send us Fan Mail Someone reaches for your time, and you don’t negotiate. You don’t audition for approval. You simply point them elsewhere. This short spoken-word style episode is built around one sharp idea: access to you is earned, not assumed, and “try another table” can be the healthiest sentence you learn to say. We talk through what it means to stop living like “damaged goods” and start living like someone who knows their value. The lines about scars hit hard because they’re not performative. They’re about memory, growth, and the kind of emotional resilience you build when you’ve been blind before and you refuse to repeat the pattern. If you’re working on boundaries, self-worth, healing after heartbreak, or breaking the cycle of tolerating fools, this is a direct reminder that you don’t owe everyone your softness. Then we shift into what comes next: moving on, staying quiet, and letting your standards do the talking. The “reserved seat” becomes a metaphor for dating standards and healthier relationships. It’s not about punishing anyone. It’s about choosing the kind of connection that matches your effort, your growth, and your life. If you like reflective storytelling with clean takeaways you can actually use, hit play. Subscribe for more, share this with a friend who’s rebuilding their boundaries, and leave a review telling us what you stopped tolerating.

  7. Oct 12

    When Separated Parents Turn Choice Into Pressure

    Send us Fan Mail “Where do you want to stay this weekend?” can sound caring, but to a child caught between separated parents it can feel like being asked who to betray. I’m Kim Lee, a child and adolescent psychotherapist, and I’m exploring the quiet, unspoken wish many children hold: please don’t make me choose. I break down the crucial difference between giving children a voice and making them responsible for adult decisions in separation, divorce, and child custody arrangements. We look at why kids may give different answers in different homes, why a shrug or silence can be self-protection, and why strong statements like “I don’t want to see my dad” must be heard carefully with real curiosity and safeguarding in mind. I also reflect on how family court dynamics, CAFCASS involvement, and adult “rights” language can pull focus away from the child’s needs under the Children Act. You’ll hear what handovers can represent emotionally, why children get pushed into messenger roles, and how even “neutral” questions about the other house can make ordinary conversation feel unsafe. I share simple, grounded language that keeps the child out of the adult conflict while still taking their feelings seriously, so co-parenting becomes less about winning time and more about protecting wellbeing. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a co-parent or professional who needs it, and leave a review so more families can find these conversations. What’s one question you’ve heard that accidentally puts a child in the middle?

  8. Oct 11

    Paper Thin

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I am a Chid & Adolescent Psychotherapist. The podcast are educational and orientated towards parents. We cover a wide range of sometimes, tricky subjects, in the hope of reassuring parents that no matter how hard things may seem, there are things you can do. Thank you. Kim

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