Mental Matters Hosted By Asekho Toto

Asekho Toto
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Mental Matters is hosted by Asekho Toto, author and mental health activist. Through honest conversations with thought leaders, therapists, survivors, and change-makers, the podcast explores anxiety, depression, trauma, healing, resilience, spirituality, purpose, relationships, and emotional wellbeing. If you are trying to understand yourself, recover, or grow, this is for you.

  1. Sep 7

    Clegg - Trauma Recovery, Purpose & Conscious Leadership

    In this episode of Mental Matters, Clegg shares his powerful journey of trauma recovery, mental health, purpose, and personal transformation after experiencing a life-changing accident. Clegg is a leadership development coach, CEO, TEDx speaker, and founder of Leadership Square. He explains how therapy, coaching, introspection, and focusing on his future self helped him overcome trauma and rediscover direction in his life. The conversation explores post-traumatic growth, conscious leadership, emotional healing, finding your purpose, and the importance of improving yourself before leading others. Clegg also discusses why many people become trapped in a “default future”—repeating the same routines without feeling inspired, fulfilled, or connected to their goals. If you feel stuck, are recovering from trauma, or want to become a more self-aware and purpose-driven leader, this episode offers practical insight and encouragement to start creating a different future. Keywords: trauma recovery, mental health, post-traumatic growth, finding purpose, conscious leadership, personal development, TEDx speaker, emotional healing, future self, leadership development.

  2. Aug 31

    Scottie Schneider - You Don't Find Purpose, You Build It: Lessons From a West Point Grad Turned Colombian Jungle Healer

    Scottie Schneider is a West Point graduate, former U.S. Army officer, and founder of Ocóyái, an indigenous-guided healing community deep in the Colombian jungle. Most people wait for purpose to arrive — a sign, a moment, a calling that makes everything click. But here's the problem: Scottie says that's backwards. Purpose isn't something that finds you sitting in your room. He's lived the opposite of it — waking up at 1pm on a beach in Cartagena, buried in alcohol, unable to leave the room in one of the most beautiful places on earth. What got him out wasn't a program handed to him. It was a self-built anti-depression checklist, a 30-day contract with himself, and years later, a complete rebuild of his life around community, plant medicine, and what he calls sustainable healing. Expect to learn why purpose is something you go find rather than wait for, how trauma and daily habits work together to drive anxiety and depression, why alcohol is a normalized drug while others get demonized despite similar effects, what sustainable healing actually looks like day to day, why Western medicine is built to treat symptoms instead of root causes, how community and tribal living shaped human psychology far more than modern isolated life, why hustle culture becomes self-destructive once it ignores the body's basic needs, how to navigate purpose when you're financially trapped in work you don't love, and much more. This conversation will challenge how you think about purpose, healing, and what it actually means to take care of yourself.

  3. Aug 28

    Pamela Michaux - Pain Was My Comfort Zone: How I Broke the Cycle of Generational Trauma

    Pamela Michaux is an author, survivor, and advocate for breaking generational trauma, whose story spans exile at age seven, years of physical and emotional abuse, and the courage to take her own guardians to court at twelve. Most people believe healing means erasing the past. You do the work, you move on, and the pain is supposed to disappear. But here's the problem: that's not how trauma works. Pamela spent years in what she calls "survival mode," unaware her mind had simply filed the pain away rather than resolved it — until becoming a mother forced it all to the surface. Her conclusion is uncomfortable but freeing: pain can become a comfort zone, love can feel like a threat, and real healing means learning to parent your own inner child while still building a life. Expect to learn why children raised around abuse often mistake love for a trap, what it really means to become "a prisoner of the past," why pain tolerance can be both a wound and a source of strength, how identity and belonging get complicated by racial rejection across cultures, why self-forgiveness feels harder than forgiving others, what the "steam pot" model of suppressed emotion reveals about burnout, why men are disproportionately affected by silence around depression, how the Adverse Childhood Experiences study connects trauma to addiction and suicide risk, why "vitamin N" — the power to say no — is something you have to actively build, and much more. This conversation will challenge how you think about resilience, forgiveness, and what it actually takes to stop surviving and start living.

  4. Aug 26

    Adam Tomlin - He Went to Therapy to Save His Son, and Ended Up Saving Himself

    Adam Tomlin is the host of the ACT OUT podcast, where he has spent years hosting honest, unfiltered conversations about identity, authenticity, and what it really takes to live unapologetically as yourself — while quietly working through his own diagnosis of ADHD and complex PTSD. Most people assume you go to therapy when you've hit rock bottom, or when something is visibly wrong. Adam didn't go for himself. He went because he was terrified of becoming the version of his own childhood that he swore he'd never repeat — and he didn't think he deserved to be there for any other reason. But here's the thing: it took nearly a year before he even considered that the healing might be for him too. What he found on the other side wasn't a cure, and it wasn't the calm, untouchable "Dalai Lama" version of peace he expected. It was something much more useful — a way to stay standing no matter what life throws at him. Expect to learn what complex PTSD actually is and why it often has no single "moment" you can point to and blame, how Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy rewires the relationship between your body and your emotions, why external validation becomes a dangerous substitute for identity when you grow up without one, what "parentification" is and how being forced to grow up too fast quietly shapes the rest of your adult life, why so many men equate emotional control with suppression instead of regulation, how the idea of "boys being left behind" shows up in mental health funding and institutional support, why starting therapy for someone else can still be the doorway to healing yourself, what real healing looks like once you let go of the fantasy of being permanently "fixed," and much more. This conversation will challenge how you think about strength, fatherhood, and what it actually means to heal. Follow Adam Tomlin:Podcast: the ACT OUT podcast — https://www.theactoutpodcast.com/Instagram: @actoutpodcastLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/adam-tomlin26YouTube: @theACTOUTpodcast

  5. Aug 7

    Dr. Crystal Harell - I Almost Died Chasing Corporate Success: Why Joy Is a Choice, Not a Reward

    Dr. Crystal Harell is a motivational speaker, life coach, and co-founder of Seven Sisters, a holistic health and beauty company built with her sisters. Most people think success looks like a stable job, a degree, a title — check the boxes and happiness follows. But here's the problem: Crystal did all of it, and her body started shutting down. She kept getting sick. She felt more trapped in corporate America than she ever did growing up with nothing. It took her three days to know she was misaligned, and thirty more to finally walk away — a decision that came after years of unprocessed grief from losing her father at eleven, and a rock-bottom moment at twenty-three that forced her to finally start healing. Expect to learn why joy is a choice but never an easy one, why Crystal's corporate job was making her physically sick and what her body was trying to tell her, how she found the courage to quit without a backup plan, what surrendering to the unknown actually requires versus what people assume it means, why doing inner work doesn't mean abandoning the people or the work you love, what shadow work really is and why the word "shadow" gets an unfair reputation, why heartbreak has a real, measurable effect on the body, why Crystal doesn't believe in failure and calls it redirection instead, how detaching from outcomes lets you actually enjoy the process without losing your drive, and much more. This conversation will challenge how you think about success, failure, and what it actually costs to keep chasing both.

  6. Jul 31

    Nicole Poulton - Why Sobriety Was Never About the Drug

    Nicole Poulton is a sobriety coach who survived childhood sexual abuse, years of addiction to prescription pills, cocaine, and alcohol, and a near-fatal overdose before rebuilding her life from the ground up. Most people think addiction is about the substance. But here's the problem: it's not. Nicole spent years using drugs and alcohol to numb pain she didn't even know she was carrying, until an overdose forced her to confront just how far she'd drifted from herself. Her conclusion is uncomfortable — addiction isn't a moral failing or a character flaw, it's self-soothing that got away from us. And until you deal with the root, no amount of willpower will fix it. Expect to learn why addiction is really just an unhealthy coping mechanism and not a personality defect, how childhood trauma shapes the nervous system long before we have language for it, why some people convince themselves a habit is "fine" simply because it's legal, what the concept of leverage has to do with getting — and staying — sober, why shame and guilt keep people trapped in the same destructive cycles, how to substitute a harmful coping mechanism without just ripping it away, why sobriety doesn't have to be a daily fight and can actually be joyful, what role community and who you surround yourself with plays in recovery, and much more. This conversation will challenge how you think about addiction, trauma, and what it actually means to heal.

  7. Jul 6

    Jim Marshall - The 35 Hidden Scales That Predict Every Human Being's Behavior

    Jim Marshall is a polymathic intellectual, a Human Development Engineer with a Bachelor of Science cum laude from City University of New York, and the discoverer of Septemics — a body of natural phenomena he spent 25 years developing into the book Septemics: Hierarchies of Human Phenomena. Most people believe personal growth is unpredictable — that you either "figure yourself out" over years of therapy or you don't. But here's the problem: Jim spent decades running biofeedback-guided sessions with clients, quietly recording the outcome of every conversation before it happened. What he found was unsettling — every human being operates on a set of measurable, seven-level scales they don't know exist, and almost every problem people face traces back to one thing: they don't know the next level up. Jim calls it the gradient problem, and he says it's been sabotaging human progress for 6,000 years. Expect to learn how Jim discovered 35 seven-level scales hidden inside decades of client sessions, why finding your exact level on a scale produces an instant, involuntary realization, what the "gradient problem" is and why most people fail to change because they try to skip levels instead of climbing them one at a time, how Hitler's basic purpose sitting at the lowest level of that scale explains his otherwise inexplicable wartime decisions, why Jim believes mental health professionals could use this system as a diagnostic tool without ever naming a client's level out loud, how a parent can use a single scale to help a struggling child improve their grades without a tutor or a cent spent, why Jim refuses to ever tell another living person where they fall on any scale, how to read the basic purpose of public figures — living or dead — just by observing how they speak and choose, and much more. This conversation will challenge how you think about therapy, self-improvement, and whether human behavior is really as unpredictable as it seems. Follow Jim Marshall: Instagram: @septemics Website: septemics.com

  8. Jul 3

    Nisha Srivastava - Why 80% of Healing Has Nothing to Do With Exercise

    Nisha Srivastava is a movement and manual therapist, Pilates and yoga specialist, and holistic health coach who works with clients navigating chronic pain, anxiety, and depression. Most people think healing is about finding the right exercise, the right stretch, the right treatment plan. Nisha spent years teaching Pilates before realizing something uncomfortable: movement is only 20% of the puzzle. The other 80% is diet, lifestyle, and — most importantly — belief. If a client doesn't believe the work will change anything at a deep, cellular level, nothing changes, no matter how good the program is. And most of that belief system was written decades ago, long before anyone chose it. Expect to learn why movement alone can't fix chronic pain, what the "name it, blame it, tame it" method is and how it uncovers the real root of physical symptoms, why 95% of human behavior runs on unconscious programming built in childhood, why having a dream, goal, or legacy is a non-negotiable part of healing and not just motivational talk, how to reframe pain as a teacher instead of an enemy, why acceptance — not forgiveness — is often the more realistic path forward, what Hippocrates' four doctors (Diet, Quiet, Happy, and Movement) still teach us about modern health, why sleep, nutrition, and hydration are the three foundational daily practices nothing else can substitute for, and much more. This conversation will challenge how you think about pain, healing, and what actually needs to shift internally before anything changes externally.

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Mental Matters is hosted by Asekho Toto, author and mental health activist. Through honest conversations with thought leaders, therapists, survivors, and change-makers, the podcast explores anxiety, depression, trauma, healing, resilience, spirituality, purpose, relationships, and emotional wellbeing. If you are trying to understand yourself, recover, or grow, this is for you.

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