Dear Young Person

Ntongha Ekot
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Your 20s are often called the building phase of life, but what happens when you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure of your next step? Dear Young Person is a podcast rooted in honest conversations, lived experience, and wisdom shared from a slightly older perspective to those still finding their footing. This is not a podcast about having all the answers. It’s about asking better questions, slowing down long enough to listen, and choosing growth, even when it’s uncomfortable. So if you’re in your building years, if you feel behind, tired, uncertain, or quietly hopeful… This space is for you.

  1. Don’t Be in a Hurry to Cut People Off | Boundaries vs Bitterness

    2D AGO

    Don’t Be in a Hurry to Cut People Off | Boundaries vs Bitterness

    Cutting people off is trendy.But maturity knows how to navigate people.In this episode of Dear Young Person, we talk about something uncomfortable: not everyone you fall out with is a villain. Sometimes they’re just human.You are the villain in someone’s story, too.We unpack: The difference between boundaries and bitternessWhy “protecting my peace” can sometimes mask unforgivenessWhy cutting people off should be a last option, not a first reactionHow to change access without creating enemiesWhy burning bridges can quietly cost you future opportunitiesPeople can be difficult without being dangerous. Discernment is knowing the difference.If you’ve been quick to cut people off, this conversation might challenge you.#DearYoungPerson #Boundaries #HealthyRelationships #EmotionalIntelligence #ConflictResolution #PersonalGrowth #ProtectYourPeace #ChristianLiving #Forgiveness #SelfDevelopment

    22 min
  2. The Dark Side of Productivity No One Talks About

    FEB 12

    The Dark Side of Productivity No One Talks About

    Over-productivity is real. And it can quietly destroy you. In this episode of Dear Young Person, I talk about something I had to learn the hard way: you can hit your goals, tick every box, and still be deeply exhausted. For a long time, I was running on my to-do list. I loved the feeling of productivity — finishing tasks, achieving goals, moving forward. On the outside, it looked like progress. But my body wasn’t having it. My mental health started struggling. And I realised I wasn’t just productive — I was overproductive. In this conversation, we unpack: 👉🏻 The difference between healthy ambition and overworking 👉🏻 Subtle signs of burnout 👉🏻 Why rest is not weakness 👉🏻 How to recover when your body forces you to slow down Work is a gift from God. But so is rest. I also share practical ways I’ve learned to handle burnout For the believer, burnout can sometimes be an invitation — a retreat with God. A call to be still. A call to tell Him how you really feel and embrace His rest. If you’ve been pushing non-stop… If your to-do list owns you… If your body is sending warning signs… This episode is for you.

    23 min

  3. FEB 5

    Gut or God? How to Make Life-Changing Decisions Without Ruining Your Life

    Some decisions don’t just affect a season—they can redirect your entire life. In this episode of Dear Young Person, we talk about how to make life-changing decisions and how to know whether you’re following your gut—or following God. Choices around marriage, career, faith, relationships, and where you live can either build your future or quietly derail it. Yet many young people are pressured to decide quickly, emotionally, or based on vibes alone. “Experience is the best teacher” doesn’t mean it has to be your experience. This episode is for the young person who: Feels the weight of big decisionsIs afraid of getting it wrong Wants to trust God but also be practicalNeeds clarity without panicBecause faith isn’t passive. And trusting God doesn’t mean abandoning wisdom. If you’re standing at a crossroads, this conversation is for you.

    19 min
  4. Before You Take That Job: Know Your Negotiables, Perks, and Deal-Breakers

    JAN 28

    Before You Take That Job: Know Your Negotiables, Perks, and Deal-Breakers

    Before you take that job, you need clarity, not just excitement. In this episode of Dear Young Person, we talk about why accepting a job offer without asking the right questions can cost you your peace, growth, and long-term direction. So many young people are grateful just to be chosen—but gratitude shouldn’t replace discernment. A job is more than a salary; it’s where you’ll spend most of your time, energy, and mental bandwidth. In this conversation, we unpack the career questions you should always ask before saying yes, including: How this role contributes to the organisation’s missionHow performance and KPIs are measuredWhether professional development and growth are actually supportedPolicies around sick days, vacation, and flexibilityHow managers support, motivate, and respond to failureHow this role interacts with customers, users, and other teamsWe also talk about one of the most overlooked questions of all: What will I be expected to accomplish in the first 90 days?This episode is for the young person who: Keeps saying yes out of fear or pressureHas accepted roles that didn’t align with their valuesWants to grow without burning outIs learning that boundaries apply to careers, tooBecause it’s okay not to know exactly what you want yet—but you should always know what you don’t want. Before you take that job, pause. Ask questions. Choose wisely.

    19 min
  5. Stop Saying Yes to Everything: People-Pleasing Is Costing You More Than You Think

    JAN 21

    Stop Saying Yes to Everything: People-Pleasing Is Costing You More Than You Think

    Saying yes to everything isn’t kindness; it’s self-abandonment. In this episode of Dear Young Person, we talk about why constantly bending over backwards for others often comes from an unhealthy need to be liked, and how that pattern slowly erodes your peace, identity, and joy. I share my own struggle with being a “yes-man”, saying yes out of fear of disappointing people, overextending myself, and ending up unhappy while everyone else stayed comfortable. Over time, I learned that setting boundaries isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. This episode is for you if you: feel guilty saying noovercommit out of fear of rejectionare exhausted but don’t know how to stopthink boundaries make you a bad personIf you’ve been saying yes at the cost of yourself, this episode is for you.

    10 min
  6. Why You Must Start Creating Again (Before AI Makes You Lazy)

    JAN 14

    Why You Must Start Creating Again (Before AI Makes You Lazy)

    AI can do almost everything now, but should it be doing your thinking too?In a time where AI can write, design, edit, and think on our behalf, it’s easy to slowly outsource our minds without even realising it. Convenience is rising, but so is mental laziness. Fulfilment, clarity, and meaning don’t come from consumption alone; they come from creation.In this conversation, I talk about why everyone is a Creative, even if you don’t paint, sing, or design. Creativity isn’t limited to the arts; it’s how you think, how you solve problems, how you interpret the world, and how you express what lives inside you.I also get honest about my own experience using AI for work and personal projects. I started using it to write, and slowly became so reliant on it that I used it for everything. AI is a powerful tool, but when it becomes a crutch, it dulls your instincts. In a world where algorithms can do most things, we have to ask ourselves: Should you really be outsourcing your thinking, your curiosity, your voice?This episode challenges you to make a conscious effort to read and to create, whether privately in a journal or publicly online. The goal isn’t visibility; it’s vitality. Creation is how you keep your mental muscles active, how you stay human in an automated age.If you’ve been feeling unfulfilled, uninspired, or mentally numb, this might be your sign. Create something, anything and do it intentionally.#Creativity #AIandCreativity #CreateMore #FutureOfWork #ArtificialIntelligence #ContentCreation #CreativeThinking #AItools #CreatorsInTheAIera #ThinkForYourself #DigitalMinimalism

    18 min
  7. Why You Should Lock In Instead of Lobbying (Especially When You’re Starting Out)

    JAN 7

    Why You Should Lock In Instead of Lobbying (Especially When You’re Starting Out)

    Everyone wants to be seen, but your beginning phase is not for lobbying; it’s for locking in.In a world that rewards noise, speed, and visibility, it’s easy to feel behind when others seem to be moving faster. This episode is a reminder that slow and steady still wins, and that consistency compounds, even when it looks like nothing is happening.In this conversation, I talk about why so many young people are tempted to lobby too early, chasing access, validation, and proximity, when what they actually need is focus, depth, and discipline.So many people quit quietly, not because they weren’t capable, but because the process felt too long. If you’re still standing, still trying, still showing up, that alone is worth honouring. This episode is a call to: Keep your head down Stay in your laneLock in on your craftTrust the processBecause when you truly lock in, you don’t need to lobby. You become the kind of person the right people want to talk to. If you’re in your beginning phase, this message is for you.

    19 min

  8. 12/30/2025

    Dear Young Person - A Reintroduction

    The Dear Young Person by EhnTee podcast is backkkk. It’s been quite a hiatus, but we’re back and better. Here's a little update on what I've been up to since the last episode

    10 min
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Your 20s are often called the building phase of life, but what happens when you feel overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure of your next step? Dear Young Person is a podcast rooted in honest conversations, lived experience, and wisdom shared from a slightly older perspective to those still finding their footing. This is not a podcast about having all the answers. It’s about asking better questions, slowing down long enough to listen, and choosing growth, even when it’s uncomfortable. So if you’re in your building years, if you feel behind, tired, uncertain, or quietly hopeful… This space is for you.

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  • Creator
    Ntongha Ekot
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    22
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © Ntongha Ekot
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