The Ready For Polyamory Podcast

Laura Boyle
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Welcome to the Ready for Polyamory Podast! Your charming host, Laura Boyle, will be talking to members of an ever more illustrious group of guests to present the concepts and nuances of Consensual Non-Monogamy, Polyamory and relationship skills in general. Like many polyamorous authorities, she has both mixed educational background (in English Literature, Sexual Diversity Studies, and Law) and personal experience (15 years at the time of this writing) in the field of consensual non-monogamy, and ten in polyamorous relationships more specifically, and this podcast is for the Big General Concepts that don't fit the nerdy detail of the blog (www.readyforpolyamory.com), or the bite-sized format of social media. It's an ongoing examination of polyamorous love, strengths, and challenges, as seen by a 30-something relationship and sex educator and coach.

  1. 01/22/2025

    Season 9 Episode 1: What's in A Name: Polyamorous Jargon

    Do you hear words like "compersion" and "metamour" and cringe internally? Or are you someone who is excited to have in-group markers like talking about a Kitchen Table relationship? This episode talks about when these terms are useful, when they're less so, why we use them, and the definitions of some of the most common ones. I maintain the most frequently cited Polyamory Glossary online, at https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/polyamor... but I am not an unconditional jargon booster - learn more in today's episode. (and make sure you and your partners are on the same page when using terms!) See you next week, when hopefully I start to get better at YouTube. You can find me at most other socials @readyforpolyamory, and I'll be teaching a class for Wicked Grounds on Jan 26 on Negotiation for Edgeplay (because I teach kink stuff not just polyam stuff) and you can find links to all my upcoming things in my linktree: https://linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory

    32 min

  2. 08/15/2024

    Season 8 Episode 5: Post Non-monogamy and Beyond

    In a conversation that ranges a little beyond both books, Laura and Andrea Zanin discuss: What is Post-Non-Monogamy? Does it matter whether non-monogamy is an identity? What benefit can we glean from a post-non-monogamous identity? What are some reasons one might be post-non-monogamous? The flexibility of this concept and identity More than two, second edition, and what parts of it Andrea is most proud of putting into the world, as well as the process of taking the ten year old book apart and putting it back together. The future of non-monogamy. This conversation got a little deep, but also very funny, and I hope you all enjoy it. Andrea Zanin was an absolute delight to interview as well as to read, and you should go out and get their books. You can get Post-Nonmonogamy and Beyond from Bookshop here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/post-nonmonogamy-and-beyond-more-than-two-essentials-guide-andrea-zanin/20579162?ean=9781990869556 Or find a list of ways to get and review it as well as upcoming events here: https://thornapplepress.ca/books/post-nonmonogamy-and-beyond/ And likewise More Than Two, Second Edition can be found here: https://bookshop.org/p/books/more-than-two-cultivating-nonmonogamous-relationships-with-kindness-and-integrity-eve-rickert/20964103?ean=9781990869587 and a more complete list of ways to get it and upcoming events promoting it are here: https://thornapplepress.ca/books/more-than-two/ You can find Laura & her upcoming book events here: https://readyforpolyamory.com/events

    50 min
  3. Season 8 Episode 4: More Than Two, Second Edition

    08/09/2024

    Season 8 Episode 4: More Than Two, Second Edition

    Eve Rickert, co-author of both editions of More Than Two, is on the show to discuss the process of creating More Than Two, Second Edition, what about it is different, why a second edition, and more. You can get More Than Two, Second Edition anywhere books are sold, with the official release date Sept 2, but preorder from the links provided by Thornapple Press here to support them: https://thornapplepress.ca/books/more-than-two/ You can follow MTT 2nd Edition on IG here: https://www.instagram.com/mttbook/ Laura and Ready for polyamory have a big book release coming up as well; get Monogamy? In this Economy? before it comes out Aug 21, check out tour stops as they get added, class dates, and more at my linktree here: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory

    39 min

  4. 05/16/2024

    Season 8 Episode 3: Change is the only Constant

    "In Parable of the Sower, Octavia Butler has that affirmation, change is the only constant - and I think that's an important way to look at these life transitions. We can't be trying to stop change from happening, for us or for our kids." Libby Sinback of Making Polyamory Work sits down with Laura in this episode to discuss big life changes this week, and how they affect us, as polyamorous folks - especially through the lens of the two of us as polyamorous parents. Much is made, often, of trying to minimize changes in our lives - at least as they'll impact our families - but the reality is that our lives can be seen as a series of choices and changes, so today we talk about lenses, questions and strategies for listeners to consider and take away as they move through big changes, expected and not, and "positive" or "negative." (Remember - a "negative" change like a divorce, deescalation or move out might still be a net positive in the lives of those involved, but have a bunch of bumpiness or messiness on the way - so let's think of ways to navigate them while remaining in our values to the best of our ability.) Libby Sinback is a relationship coach, educator, and host of the podcast, Making Polyamory Work. She helps people who want to live and love outside the status quo break out of the harmful relationship patterns that are holding them back from nourishing, authentic, boundless love in their life. Libby believes love is why we are here and how we heal. You can find Libby at her website http://libbysinback.com, her podcast https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/makingpolywork , and her upcoming group the foundations of open relating here:https://www.libbysinback.com/foundations-of-open-relating. She also wrote the foreword to Laura's upcoming book, Monogamy? In this Economy? Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory, which you can find for preorder here: https://bookshop.org/a/101457/9781805011187 Non-men can join Laura for the women&femmes support group every second Sunday, the upcoming one May 19 has all proceeds donated to a GFM for a Palestinian family: https://femmessupport5.eventbrite.com Laura is moderating (and occasionally giving snarky commentary to) a class by the brilliant Dr. Marie Thouin called Compersion and You based on her new book, the first research-based book on compersion, on 06/06/2024, join us! http://compersion.eventbrite.com Laura and Sarah Casper will be co-teaching a class on 06/09/2024, Building and Breaking Boundaries, come check it out and bring your questions about boundary setting in interpersonal relationships: http://buildingboundaries1.eventbrite.com Special Guest: Libby Sinback.

    50 min

  5. 04/01/2024

    Season 8 Episode 2: Asexuality in Polyamory

    Laura sits down with Evie Lupine to discuss kink, asexuality, and non-monogamy and polyamory and how these intersect for Evie as well as the larger community. Evie shares her experience as an asexual person who finds that a lot of nonmonogamous dating includes "the social dance where people expect the first date to be a nicety they must complete to get to the sex"; and "even folks who express a lot of understanding verbally and have other partners can seem confused or disappointed when it remains that I'm asexual several months into a relationship." We talk a little about the contrast between the polyamorous "public face" of "it's about the LOVE not the SEX" versus her actual lived experience. The episode actually opens with a detailed discussion of the many platforms that have come and gone for sharing information on sexuality, nonmonogamy, and kink, and the ways it's informed and changed the actual experience of end users and of educators and creators, as well. Evie Lupine is a YouTuber, asexual sex educator, and loud advocate for understanding in the BDSM community online. You can find twice-weekly videos from her on non-monogamy and kink on her YouTube channel, and some additional information and services (she does advice!) on her Patreon; Twitter and Instagram have pages for her but are somewhat disused. YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine & https://www.patreon.com/evielupine2 for 1:1 chats, video calls and advice Twitter: https://twitter.com/EvieLupine Instagram: @evie.lupine

    1h 7m

  6. 03/23/2024

    Season 8 Episode 1: Entwined

    Laura sits down with Alex Alberto, author of Entwined to discuss the new memoir, polyamorous media representation, storytelling, and more. Buy Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. Paperback, ebook, and audiobook available. Direct from Alex (https://www.alexalberto.com/store) | Support them! Bookshop.org (https://bookshop.org/p/books/entwined-essays-on-polyamory-and-creating-home-alex-alberto/21003005?ean=9798989669103) | Support indie bookstores! Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Entwined-Essays-Polyamory-Creating-Home/dp/B0CRGZ459N/ref=sr_1_1?crid=A7Q5VVN66IM2&keywords=entwined+alex+alberto&qid=1704904514&sprefix=entwined+alex+alberto%2Caps%2C123&sr=8-1)| If you must. Subscribe to Entwined Mag for stories of polyamory, friendship, and family entwinedmag.com (entwinedmag.com) - and watch that space for adding your own stories! Follow Alex Alberto Website (alexalberto.com) | Instagram (https://www.instagram.com/thatalexalberto/) | TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/@thatalexalberto) Check out Laura's upcoming events (readyforpolyamory.com/events), the women & femmes support group (every second sunday - first meeting March 24 (femmessupport1.eventbrite.com) ) and preorder Monogamy? In This Economy? on Bookshop (https://bookshop.org/a/101457/9781805011187) Special Guest: Alex Alberto.

    43 min

  7. 10/19/2023

    Season 7 Episode 8: A Polyamory Devotional

    Evita Sawyers has been polyamorous for over a decade and is a relationship coach who is well known for creating the instagram series "Today's Polyamory Reminder." Her book "A Polyamory Devotional," out October 20 from Thornapple Press, is 365 daily prompts for thinking through different issues and angles of interpersonal relating, filtered through a lens of nonmonogamy. On today's episode she discusses with Laura how the same issues of nonmonogamy that drive these reflections can drive self-knowledge that serve all our relationships, as well as discussing her work with Chanée Jackson-Kendall on the Metamour's Bill of Rights, and general ideas of growth via conflict and discomfort. Find A Polyamory Devotional here: https://www.amazon.com/Polyamory-Devotional-Reflections-Consensually-Nonmonogamous/dp/1990869238 Find Evita on Instagram @lavitaloca34, and her linktree at https://linktr.ee/lavitalocasawyers

    48 min

  8. 10/12/2023

    Season 7 Episode 7: Living in Small Spaces

    So much of polyamorous cohabitation advice implies that space is easy to come by - that you just have a guest room, or that it's simple to have silence or an extra floor to go to. But for many polyamorists this isn't the case, logistically. In cities and apartment living especially, space, distance, and existing parallel to your partners' relationships can feel like imaginary concepts that maybe other people get to have. Laura and Gabrielle Noel (@gabalexa on social media) discuss the practical and emotional realities of living in small spaces in today's episode. Follow Gabrielle everywhere @gabalexa, or leave the whims of platforms out of it and keep in touch via her website, https://gabalexa.com, where you can find a selection of her writing and links to much of her work. Laura will be teaching a workshop on various forms of polyam cohabitation with Leanne Yau on October 15, you can still get tickets here: https://polyam-nest.eventbrite.com and find her work in general at readyforpolyamory.com. Special Guest: Gabrielle Aelexa Noel.

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Welcome to the Ready for Polyamory Podast! Your charming host, Laura Boyle, will be talking to members of an ever more illustrious group of guests to present the concepts and nuances of Consensual Non-Monogamy, Polyamory and relationship skills in general. Like many polyamorous authorities, she has both mixed educational background (in English Literature, Sexual Diversity Studies, and Law) and personal experience (15 years at the time of this writing) in the field of consensual non-monogamy, and ten in polyamorous relationships more specifically, and this podcast is for the Big General Concepts that don't fit the nerdy detail of the blog (www.readyforpolyamory.com), or the bite-sized format of social media. It's an ongoing examination of polyamorous love, strengths, and challenges, as seen by a 30-something relationship and sex educator and coach.

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