The Fox and the Phoenix

Savannah Hauk, Author and Julie Rubenstein, Style Consultant

Understanding the Feminine Crossdressing Experience To de-mystify, humanize, and celebrate the crossdressing trans community, providing a positive and realistic understanding through conversation between a crossdresser and a cis-ally.

  1. 1D AGO

    250 - Red Light, Green Light, 1-2-3

    In this episode, Julie and Savannah chat about an important topic as it applies to gender-expansive men and their cis-female partners or spouses. So many crossdressing men hide in the shadows, revert to closeting their feminine behavior after sharing their queerdom to their partners. When partners are told, so many emotions are felt and so much understanding and support is needed for both parties. What happens when the novelty wears off? What happens when the man chooses to be smaller than they should be to avoid conflict and keep everyone comfortable? How does each partner maintain the validity of their emotions while not taking agency away from each other? Listen in! ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” and “Living with Crossdressing: Discovering your True Identity“. While both focus on the male-to-female (mtf) crossdresser, “Defining a New Normal” delves into crossdressing and relationships and “Discovering Your True Identity” looks at the individual crossdressing journey. Her latest achievements are two TEDx Talks, one entitled "Demystifying the Crossdressing Experience" and the other "13 Milliseconds: First Impressions of Gender Expression". Savannah is a male-to-female dual-gender crossdresser who is visible in the Upstate of South Carolina, active in local groups and advocating as a public speaker at LGBTQ+ conferences and workshops across the United States. At the moment, Savannah is working on more books, blogs, and projects focused on letting every crossdresser–young and mature–find their own confidence, expression, identity and voice. IG @savannahhauk | FB @savannahhauk | FB @livingwithcrossdressing | web @livingwithcrossdressing.com ------ JULIE RUBENSTEIN is a dedicated ally to transgender community and the certified image consultant and co-owner of Fox and Hanger. F&H is a unique service for transgender women and male-to-female crossdressers that creates customized virtual fashion and style “lookbooks”. Julie intuitively connects with each client to find them appropriate clothes, makeup, hair, and shape wear all in alignment with their budget, body type, authentic style and unique personality. Julie also provides enfemme coaching and wardrobe support. Julie has made it her life’s work to help MTF individuals feel safe and confident when it comes to their female persona, expression and identity. IG @Juliemtfstyle | FB @foxandhanger | web @FoxandHanger.com

    47 min
  2. FEB 11

    249 - Giving Her Permission

    In this episode, Savannah reads a letter to Julie about late-blooming male-to-female crossdresser Olivia who has come to the realization that their feminine side might want to create a wish list for herself. The idea of giving herself permission to want something for her feminine side is new and seemingly a novel concept. Is this typical for a late-blooming CD? Is it too near adjacent to the Pink Fog? Using a wishlist list is a perfect way to organize, find your style, be mindful about what you want vs need, and a way to share with others who are interested in giving that femme side of you a supporting gift. ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” and “Living with Crossdressing: Discovering your True Identity“. While both focus on the male-to-female (mtf) crossdresser, “Defining a New Normal” delves into crossdressing and relationships and “Discovering Your True Identity” looks at the individual crossdressing journey. Her latest achievements are two TEDx Talks, one entitled "Demystifying the Crossdressing Experience" and the other "13 Milliseconds: First Impressions of Gender Expression". Savannah is a male-to-female dual-gender crossdresser who is visible in the Upstate of South Carolina, active in local groups and advocating as a public speaker at LGBTQ+ conferences and workshops across the United States. At the moment, Savannah is working on more books, blogs, and projects focused on letting every crossdresser–young and mature–find their own confidence, expression, identity and voice. IG @savannahhauk | FB @savannahhauk | FB @livingwithcrossdressing | web @livingwithcrossdressing.com ------ JULIE RUBENSTEIN is a dedicated ally to transgender community and the certified image consultant and co-owner of Fox and Hanger. F&H is a unique service for transgender women and male-to-female crossdressers that creates customized virtual fashion and style “lookbooks”. Julie intuitively connects with each client to find them appropriate clothes, makeup, hair, and shape wear all in alignment with their budget, body type, authentic style and unique personality. Julie also provides enfemme coaching and wardrobe support. Julie has made it her life’s work to help MTF individuals feel safe and confident when it comes to their female persona, expression and identity. IG @Juliemtfstyle | FB @foxandhanger | web @FoxandHanger.com

    28 min
  3. JAN 28

    248 - From Belgium, With Love

    In this episode, Savannah reads two wonderful email letters to Julie. Recently, Savannah received a correspondence from a bi-gender MTF girlie named Jennifer who hails from Belgium! The content is so poignant and powerful that a summary here could never do it justice! Listen in for an eloquent pair of letters from a gender-expansive person coming to love themselves, share with their family, and find comfort beyond the trials and tribulations of finding their hidden feminine self. ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” and “Living with Crossdressing: Discovering your True Identity“. While both focus on the male-to-female (mtf) crossdresser, “Defining a New Normal” delves into crossdressing and relationships and “Discovering Your True Identity” looks at the individual crossdressing journey. Her latest achievements are two TEDx Talks, one entitled "Demystifying the Crossdressing Experience" and the other "13 Milliseconds: First Impressions of Gender Expression". Savannah is a male-to-female dual-gender crossdresser who is visible in the Upstate of South Carolina, active in local groups and advocating as a public speaker at LGBTQ+ conferences and workshops across the United States. At the moment, Savannah is working on more books, blogs, and projects focused on letting every crossdresser–young and mature–find their own confidence, expression, identity and voice. IG @savannahhauk | FB @savannahhauk | FB @livingwithcrossdressing | web @livingwithcrossdressing.com ------ JULIE RUBENSTEIN is a dedicated ally to transgender community and the certified image consultant and co-owner of Fox and Hanger. F&H is a unique service for transgender women and male-to-female crossdressers that creates customized virtual fashion and style “lookbooks”. Julie intuitively connects with each client to find them appropriate clothes, makeup, hair, and shape wear all in alignment with their budget, body type, authentic style and unique personality. Julie also provides enfemme coaching and wardrobe support. Julie has made it her life’s work to help MTF individuals feel safe and confident when it comes to their female persona, expression and identity. IG @Juliemtfstyle | FB @foxandhanger | web @FoxandHanger.com

    49 min
  4. JAN 21

    247 - A Life's Journey (Part 2)

    In this second of two episodes, Julie asks Savannah about the journey she and other gender-expansive persons have experienced from a tender age of 5-years-old, to the draw to the feminine, to the resulting shame and guilt one might experience during their secretive discovery of self, to accepting and fianlly becoming expansive in a still-gender-rigid world. Savannah and Julie talk frankly and emotionally about a life with some regrets, and a lot of hope. ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” and “Living with Crossdressing: Discovering your True Identity“. While both focus on the male-to-female (mtf) crossdresser, “Defining a New Normal” delves into crossdressing and relationships and “Discovering Your True Identity” looks at the individual crossdressing journey. Her latest achievements are two TEDx Talks, one entitled "Demystifying the Crossdressing Experience" and the other "13 Milliseconds: First Impressions of Gender Expression". Savannah is a male-to-female dual-gender crossdresser who is visible in the Upstate of South Carolina, active in local groups and advocating as a public speaker at LGBTQ+ conferences and workshops across the United States. At the moment, Savannah is working on more books, blogs, and projects focused on letting every crossdresser–young and mature–find their own confidence, expression, identity and voice. IG @savannahhauk | FB @savannahhauk | FB @livingwithcrossdressing | web @livingwithcrossdressing.com ------ JULIE RUBENSTEIN is a dedicated ally to transgender community and the certified image consultant and co-owner of Fox and Hanger. F&H is a unique service for transgender women and male-to-female crossdressers that creates customized virtual fashion and style “lookbooks”. Julie intuitively connects with each client to find them appropriate clothes, makeup, hair, and shape wear all in alignment with their budget, body type, authentic style and unique personality. Julie also provides enfemme coaching and wardrobe support. Julie has made it her life’s work to help MTF individuals feel safe and confident when it comes to their female persona, expression and identity. IG @Juliemtfstyle | FB @foxandhanger | web @FoxandHanger.com

    26 min
  5. JAN 14

    246 - A Life's Journey (Part 1)

    In this first of two episodes, Julie asks Savannah about the journey she and other gender-expansive persons have experienced from a tender age of 5-years-old, to the draw to the feminine, to the resulting shame and guilt one might experience during their secretive discovery of self, to accepting and fianlly becoming expansive in a still-gender-rigid world. Savannah and Julie talk frankly and emotionally about a life with some regrets, and a lot of hope. ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” and “Living with Crossdressing: Discovering your True Identity“. While both focus on the male-to-female (mtf) crossdresser, “Defining a New Normal” delves into crossdressing and relationships and “Discovering Your True Identity” looks at the individual crossdressing journey. Her latest achievements are two TEDx Talks, one entitled "Demystifying the Crossdressing Experience" and the other "13 Milliseconds: First Impressions of Gender Expression". Savannah is a male-to-female dual-gender crossdresser who is visible in the Upstate of South Carolina, active in local groups and advocating as a public speaker at LGBTQ+ conferences and workshops across the United States. At the moment, Savannah is working on more books, blogs, and projects focused on letting every crossdresser–young and mature–find their own confidence, expression, identity and voice. IG @savannahhauk | FB @savannahhauk | FB @livingwithcrossdressing | web @livingwithcrossdressing.com ------ JULIE RUBENSTEIN is a dedicated ally to transgender community and the certified image consultant and co-owner of Fox and Hanger. F&H is a unique service for transgender women and male-to-female crossdressers that creates customized virtual fashion and style “lookbooks”. Julie intuitively connects with each client to find them appropriate clothes, makeup, hair, and shape wear all in alignment with their budget, body type, authentic style and unique personality. Julie also provides enfemme coaching and wardrobe support. Julie has made it her life’s work to help MTF individuals feel safe and confident when it comes to their female persona, expression and identity. IG @Juliemtfstyle | FB @foxandhanger | web @FoxandHanger.com

    38 min
  6. JAN 7

    245 - Spouse's Softer Sides

    In this episode, Savannah chats with Julie about cis-female and gender-expansive MTF boyfriends or husbands where the genetic woman of the relationship prefers their male partner's feminine identity in many ways over when the male partner is presenting in his own AGAB biology. Why is it that so many gender-expansive partners exhibit personality traits that are more attractive to their partners than when presenting in male mode? From a de-stressed state of being to a more fulfilled and full confident authenticity, our feminine identities can provide us much more than just a pretty outfit for ourselfs and our partners. ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” and “Living with Crossdressing: Discovering your True Identity“. While both focus on the male-to-female (mtf) crossdresser, “Defining a New Normal” delves into crossdressing and relationships and “Discovering Your True Identity” looks at the individual crossdressing journey. Her latest achievements are two TEDx Talks, one entitled "Demystifying the Crossdressing Experience" and the other "13 Milliseconds: First Impressions of Gender Expression". Savannah is a male-to-female dual-gender crossdresser who is visible in the Upstate of South Carolina, active in local groups and advocating as a public speaker at LGBTQ+ conferences and workshops across the United States. At the moment, Savannah is working on more books, blogs, and projects focused on letting every crossdresser–young and mature–find their own confidence, expression, identity and voice. IG @savannahhauk | FB @savannahhauk | FB @livingwithcrossdressing | web @livingwithcrossdressing.com ------ JULIE RUBENSTEIN is a dedicated ally to transgender community and the certified image consultant and co-owner of Fox and Hanger. F&H is a unique service for transgender women and male-to-female crossdressers that creates customized virtual fashion and style “lookbooks”. Julie intuitively connects with each client to find them appropriate clothes, makeup, hair, and shape wear all in alignment with their budget, body type, authentic style and unique personality. Julie also provides enfemme coaching and wardrobe support. Julie has made it her life’s work to help MTF individuals feel safe and confident when it comes to their female persona, expression and identity. IG @Juliemtfstyle | FB @foxandhanger | web @FoxandHanger.com

    36 min
  7. 12/24/2025

    244 - Outside Perspectives

    In this episode, Savannah chats with Nicole and asks her outside perspective of the Boooos Crawl that they, plus friends Victoria and Ramien , enjoyed during an epic Halloween weekend in Atlanta! From getting recognized in the iconic yellow Belle gown (Beauty and the Beast) to a second gasp at the Beast's severed head roped at her side, to an awkward 'You're a dude' moment, to meeting complete strangers and finding out at a shared diner experience in the wee hours that by Savannah showing up for herself, she helped others have the confidence to show up, this was a Halloween Spooktacular to remember! ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” and “Living with Crossdressing: Discovering your True Identity“. While both focus on the male-to-female (mtf) crossdresser, “Defining a New Normal” delves into crossdressing and relationships and “Discovering Your True Identity” looks at the individual crossdressing journey. Her latest achievements are two TEDx Talks, one entitled "Demystifying the Crossdressing Experience" and the other "13 Milliseconds: First Impressions of Gender Expression". Savannah is a male-to-female dual-gender crossdresser who is visible in the Upstate of South Carolina, active in local groups and advocating as a public speaker at LGBTQ+ conferences and workshops across the United States. At the moment, Savannah is working on more books, blogs, and projects focused on letting every crossdresser–young and mature–find their own confidence, expression, identity and voice. IG @savannahhauk | FB @savannahhauk | FB @livingwithcrossdressing | web @livingwithcrossdressing.com ------ JULIE RUBENSTEIN is a dedicated ally to transgender community and the certified image consultant and co-owner of Fox and Hanger. F&H is a unique service for transgender women and male-to-female crossdressers that creates customized virtual fashion and style “lookbooks”. Julie intuitively connects with each client to find them appropriate clothes, makeup, hair, and shape wear all in alignment with their budget, body type, authentic style and unique personality. Julie also provides enfemme coaching and wardrobe support. Julie has made it her life’s work to help MTF individuals feel safe and confident when it comes to their female persona, expression and identity. IG @Juliemtfstyle | FB @foxandhanger | web @FoxandHanger.com

    42 min
  8. 12/17/2025

    243 - Beauty and the Beast

    In this episode, Savannah and Julie talk about Savannah's month-long experience with a rush of body positivity, gender euphoria, and a more positive outlook on her femme life as of late. From some weight loss making the clothes feel and look better, to sources of external support, some renewed internal self-worth validation, and great rewarding events, Savannah has been harnessing all the positive energy from within and from the outside to pump up her self esteem . Because, as we all know, a positive sense of self worth is a balancing act that requires continued nourishment and tending to. ----- SAVANNAH HAUK is the author of “Living with Crossdressing: Defining a New Normal” and “Living with Crossdressing: Discovering your True Identity“. While both focus on the male-to-female (mtf) crossdresser, “Defining a New Normal” delves into crossdressing and relationships and “Discovering Your True Identity” looks at the individual crossdressing journey. Her latest achievements are two TEDx Talks, one entitled "Demystifying the Crossdressing Experience" and the other "13 Milliseconds: First Impressions of Gender Expression". Savannah is a male-to-female dual-gender crossdresser who is visible in the Upstate of South Carolina, active in local groups and advocating as a public speaker at LGBTQ+ conferences and workshops across the United States. At the moment, Savannah is working on more books, blogs, and projects focused on letting every crossdresser–young and mature–find their own confidence, expression, identity and voice. IG @savannahhauk | FB @savannahhauk | FB @livingwithcrossdressing | web @livingwithcrossdressing.com ------ JULIE RUBENSTEIN is a dedicated ally to transgender community and the certified image consultant and co-owner of Fox and Hanger. F&H is a unique service for transgender women and male-to-female crossdressers that creates customized virtual fashion and style “lookbooks”. Julie intuitively connects with each client to find them appropriate clothes, makeup, hair, and shape wear all in alignment with their budget, body type, authentic style and unique personality. Julie also provides enfemme coaching and wardrobe support. Julie has made it her life’s work to help MTF individuals feel safe and confident when it comes to their female persona, expression and identity. IG @Juliemtfstyle | FB @foxandhanger | web @FoxandHanger.com

    40 min

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Understanding the Feminine Crossdressing Experience To de-mystify, humanize, and celebrate the crossdressing trans community, providing a positive and realistic understanding through conversation between a crossdresser and a cis-ally.

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