愛、生活、人生系列

朱雯娟- Jenny Chu

我們的人生,離不開生活,我們的生活,又離不開愛,所以,愛是我們一切的源頭。為了實踐愛,我們要謙虛,修正自己,愛自己,我們要感恩身邊的每一件人、事、物,然後,我們更要感謝宇宙與天地的加持。 在愛的世界裡,我們要有十足的自信與信心,我們有極豐富的想像力,且相信「心想事成」,我們更有相當的勇氣,付諸每一個行動。因著愛,我們不會辜負我們的生活,我們的人生的。 這個「愛、生活、人生系列」的播客,是一連串的分享會,從第一集到往後的無數集,我將分享好多人生的故事,生活的故事,和愛的故事。但願這些美好的故事,是你、我行動力的靈感,生活的泉源,與生命的助力,就讓我們大家,一起隨我來吧! Powered by Firstory Hosting

  1. 1d ago

    Sincerity of People and Places 誠心誠意的人與地

    Sincerity of People and Places 誠心誠意的人與地 Having an honest and open heart means possessing a kind and virtuous mind. In our human’s lives, we work and earn income daily to meet our basic needs for food, clothing, and shelter. In doing so, we are much more likely to trust a genuine person because we believe those who are true to themselves are also likely to be truer and more honest with us. Genuine people take time to figure out their own opinions and perspectives about things, and they are not shy about sharing their thoughts with others. Genuine people are comfortable presenting their ideas and exploring their own beliefs, ideals, standards, and expectations because they rely on the answers to these questions to give them directions and purposes in life. Genuine people are probable to recognize their faults and shortcomings, accept them, and take responsibilities for their actions. Genuineness is a word that it describes the level of honesty and truthfulness we have with ourselves. It also means that we are sincere to our own hearts and others. Sincerity is the virtue that allows us to freely express ourselves and treat others without deception. Then, we can act, think, and feel directly without worrying about anything. Sincerely presenting our feelings with kindness and integrity, ultimately, helps us to learn more about ourselves, about the people with whom we interact, and to significantly impact the quality of our lives because life deserves sincerity. When we act with sincerity, we are contented and happy all the time.       In terms of going to schools, sincerity is the heart of true teaching and learning. A teacher’s genuine care and honesty create an environment where students feel sincere, valued, understood, and inspired to learn. When teachers approach education with authenticity, they build trust, increase motivation, and make learning meaningful. Teachers who embody the values like honesty, respect, and empathy can actually become powerful role models, showing students not just what to learn, but also how to live with integrity. Students are far more likely to internalize values when they see teachers consistently practice values in the classrooms. Besides, sincere teachers, in effect, construct a safe space where students are unafraid to ask questions, make mistakes, and grow. This authenticity fosters deep learning and character development, shaping not only knowledgeable students but also responsible and ethical individuals of society. In the journey of education, sincerity is not just a tool. It is really the foundation to transform the classrooms into a place of trust, motivation, and lifelong learning. A teacher’s sincerity does not just teach; it, indeed, inspires. Imagine our visiting an old bookshop located in a quiet corner of the small street. The smell of aged paper, the creak of wooden floors, and the personalized recommendations from the owner shape an atmosphere that we can sense intimate and real. This bookshop seems authentic and personal, in contrast to the charmless chain bookstores in a commercial mall, with its standardized layout and mass-produced offerings. It’s the unique essence that makes a place feel sincere, genuine and alive. And we believe that it’s an important part of our life. As a matter of fact, places being rich in sensory environments, such as sights, sounds and smells, do enhance our perception of authenticity and remind of our memorable experiences. Similarly, the authenticity of the classroom is also about its unique essence and characteristics. That is to say, sincere and authentic classrooms maintain and serve teachers and students a sense of belonging, stability and continuity. What’s more, sincerity and authenticity of classrooms could surely express the feeling of being true to teachers and students, and a meaningful connection to the surroundings among them. Martin Heidegger (海德格), a German philosopher, argued that true “dwelling” involves more than just physical habitation; it requires a meaningful connection to our surroundings that fosters a sense of being truly “at home” in the world. At the same time, the concept of topophilia, proposed by the American geographer, Yi-Fu Tuan (段義孚), spoke to the affective bond among people and places, suggesting that environments rich in history, culture and sensory experiences enhance personal wellbeing and identity. He advocated that where we live, work and play can deeply affect our emotional and psychological wellbeing. In other words, by seeking out and creating sincere and authentic places for ourselves, we can enrich our lives with a sense of rootedness and genuine connection. Sincere environments, thus, provide us deep and everlasting ties to our memories, personal experiences, physical and psychological emotions, and social benefits. Take me as an example. I’ve experienced the powerful effects of place authenticity and sincerity firsthand. I often find myself in a small, independent coffee shop, Starbucks Coffeehouse (星巴克咖啡店), near my home, which has the aroma of freshly brewed coffee throughout the shop. It gives me the opportunity to work quietly, and the chance to buy coffee and goods. It’s a place where the waiters welcome me, and where conversations flow easily among strangers. This space also lets me feel sincere and authentic in a way that it’s filled with a unique character and a sense of community that resonate with my own values of connection and creativity. Spending time there has become a ritual to me, and reminded me of who I am beyond the routines of my daily life. Hopefully, our classrooms can be like Starbucks Coffeehouses (星巴克咖啡店), offering and sharing their perfect exclusive senses and sincerity to our teaching and learning, too. Powered by Firstory Hosting

  2. Sep 27

    準備好了沒

    準備好了沒 機會就在前面,你相信嗎?有時,我們會想要讓自己準備好了再出發,可是,好像永遠都沒有真正準備好的一天啊?在這個快節奏,充滿變動的時代,我們常常被生活、工作或學業的洪流推著向前,無論我們是要迎來一場重要的考試,轉職挑戰,還是單純地想要在日常生活中,找到主導權,「做好身心的準備」,都是我們維持高效率與幸福感的關鍵。身與心是相互依附的,只有當身體獲得滋養,心靈找到定錨,我們才能以最佳的狀態,應對未來的挑戰。所以,到底我們要怎樣讓自己保持準備好的狀態呢?首先,是思維上的準備,然後,是實力上的準備,最後,則是心態上的準備。       在思維的準備上,我們要清楚自己在做什麼,知道自己要追求什麼,我們要隨時檢視自己的目標,看看是否自己正在軌道上,不偏離初心。我們要不斷地嘗試,找到自己真正的熱愛,努力以赴,散發自己真正的價值。世界上所有的現象,都是由我們自己的心念與思考招引過來的。隨著我們內心的狀態,我們的思考,也會有一百八十度的兩極,因此,抱持光明的思考,我們將會有美好的人生,我們要對未來抱持希望,採取積極的行動,以堅強的意念,確信自己可以做到真正喜愛的事。「強力的思維」,能夠滲透我們的潛意識,無論醒著或睡著,我們如能持續去思考,就有可能把我們自己,推向實現願望的方向。       其次,在實力的準備上,我們要隨時提升自己,朝著目標,不斷學習與成長。身體是實踐理想的載體,我們要有充足且高品質的睡眠,多攝取原型食物,優質蛋白質,與豐富的蔬果,我們要喝適量的水與運動,並將健康的知識,應用在實際的身體行動中,我們要把「愛自己的身體」,當作每天的功課,持續規律的運動,好好吃飯,好好睡覺。我們如能不間斷地努力練習,身體的實力,一定會慢慢養成起來。鍛鍊我們的身體,最實際的例子是,我們要增加自己的肌耐力,因為,增強肌耐力,會使我們在疲勞開始之前,就可以進行較長久的運動,承受較重的負荷,改善肌肉的效能,對骨骼和關節也很有幫助。肌耐力的好處,還包括促進新陳代謝,幫助燃燒卡路里,維持健康的體重或減輕體重。肌耐力指的是,給肌肉在一段時間內持續且重複行使力量的能力。例如,長跑是一項需要肌耐力的運動。在比賽中,馬拉松選手的身體,須一遍又一遍地執行相同的動作和步伐,這需要他們的肌肉具有高強度的耐力。對一般人來說,做「伏地挺身」,一樣能提高肌耐力,我們也可同時練習「深蹲」,「平板支撐」和「前跨弓箭步」,來增加我們的肌耐力。做「深蹲」時,我們先將腳直立,與肩同寬,腳尖朝前,然後,彎曲雙腿,將臀部放低至膝蓋的高度。做「平板支撐」時,我們以手肘和腳尖作為支撐點,手肘打開,與肩同寬,處於身體正下方,腹部收緊,臀部、上背部和頭部在同一水平線上,支撐時,收緊臀部,身體保持挺直。做「前跨弓箭步」時,我們挺身站立,雙腳打開,與肩同寬,手臂放在腰兩側,當往前跨出一隻腳時,核心出力,將重量放在前腿,保持挺胸,後腿只需維持平衡即可。整體來說,做「伏地挺身」,「深蹲」,「平板支撐」和「前跨弓箭步」,都是需要全身上下不同肌肉的運動的,對於訓練肌肉的協調,及增強全肌肉的強度,都很有幫助。我們透過養成每天的運動,提高自己的肌耐力,逐步完成整體身體健康的準備。       最後,在心態上的準備,我們要有自信,有勇氣,願意勇敢跨出每一步、接受未知的挑戰,把握當下與每一個機會。我們要相信自己,美好的前途,是來自於我們的自強、自立與自信的,當我們有勇氣去面對恐懼和不確定性時,我們會突破重圍,看到自己更大的潛能。勇氣能使我們挑戰困難,超越自我,當我們敢於冒險,踏出舒適圈時,我們將會遇到許多新奇的事物,結識各種不同的人,體驗到生活的多彩。勇氣是一種心態,它是對自己的承諾,當我們活出有勇氣的人生時,我們生命中的每一天,都會充滿無限的可能。擁有勇氣,並不是一蹴即成的,它需要時間和努力,我們要試著將長遠的大目標,拆解成每天可執行的「微小步驟」,每完成一個小步驟,我們就要給自己一點肯定與鼓勵。我們要勇於嘗試,無所畏懼,保持飢餓,飢餓於機會、目標,與自我的價值,飢餓於自己的學習與成長,專注地往上爬,挑戰自己的侷限,嘗試新鮮的事物。那麼,我們就會有成就感,更有自信與勇氣。       做好身心的準備,並不是我們就隨時處於「完美無瑕」的狀態,而是我們會傾聽自己身體的訊號,理解內心的情緒,並給予自己應有的照顧與包容。當有困難時,我們也不必無懈可擊,只要好好愛護自己,調適自己的身心狀態,知道自己是有準備的就好。機會是屬於「準備好的人」的,對登山者來說,眼前就是一片無法抓握的山壁,唯一能做的,就是往上爬。我們若不能按圖索驥,就須創造出屬於我們自己的指南書,根據自身的準備,按部就班,身體力行。機會僅存在於看得到的人的眼裡,並不是每個人都能看見機會的,我們要時時養精蓄銳、候機待發。遇到事情時,我們要做正面的評估,逆向思考,讓身心能平靜、安定,盡自己最大的力量,努力去做。人生的每個方向,都是一種未來,即便是條條大路通羅馬,其沿路的風景,也都各不相同。機會是不等人的,稍縱即逝,但準備是可以主動出擊的,與其等待機會,我們倒不如早做準備,給自己多一點時間安排,這樣,我們的人生,才會安穩妥當,信心滿滿。 Powered by Firstory Hosting

  3. Sep 21

    自信這件事

    自信這件事 自信指的是「相信自己可以把事情做得符合預期」的心理感受,它同時也包含「自己能否把事情做得好」,及「自己能否在人群中,感到安全」等。有自信的人,知道自己「要」什麼、自己「有」什麼,並對「自己的存在」,感到安全與自在。自信是一種技能,它不是天生的,而是可以透過不斷的努力、練習,來加以提升的。事實上,自信是一種「不論在什麼樣的困境下,都相信自己可以完成任務」的能力。努力,努力,再努力,還是要努力,提升自信最簡單的辦法,就是努力再努力,練習再練習,別無他法,沒有什麼神秘的魔法,能夠馬上提升自信,也沒有其他更快速,或更有效的方法,可以立刻產生自信,其實,有自信最直接的行為,就是練習。練習可以從設定小而可達成的目標開始,完成後,給自己鼓勵與肯定。除非我們能對自己要做的事情,相當的熟悉,非常的精準,否則我們不會對自己產生自信。因此,培養自信最重要的方法,就是「勇敢出發,不要被失敗和挫折所打敗,堅持下去!」我們要向自己精神喊話,自我肯定。我們要時時鼓勵自己、肯定自己:「我是自己生命的主人,我的生命,掌握在我自己的手中」,如果我們連自己都不願意相信自己,別人又怎麼會相信我們呢?最重要的是,我們在達成每一個小目標時,一定要記得獎勵自己、肯定自己,讓自己透過小目標的完成,建立自信,累積成就感。        再者,「喜歡自己」也是產生自信的核心要素,我們要能夠清楚地感受到自己的想法及感覺,並知道自己的各種面向。我們要知道自己喜歡什麼,也要知道自己討厭的事情;我們要知道自己有害怕的事物,也要知道自己有想要勇敢的時候;我們知道自己有喜歡跟別人在一起的需求,但也容許自己有想要獨處的空間;我們知道自己有耳根軟的時候,但也知道自己有不想理會別人的時候。我們自在地讓自己的感受跟想法,在腦中自然發生,沒有對錯,然後,我們再藉由自己身體力行的表現,來充實自己的自信。我們要持續地掌握自己能做的事,讓「正確地預期後果」,及「耐著性子做完對自己的要求」在心中萌芽,並表現出來。真正的自信,並非只是外表挺拔、語調堅定就夠了,而是我們要在和自己獨處的時候,仍然相信自己的選擇與價值。心理學家指出,自信是對自己能力與判斷的信任,這份信任,不是憑空而來,而是透過日常,一點一滴累積出來的。自信的人,並不總是完美,而是願意在不完美中,仍能喜歡自己,尊重自己,相信自己是值得被愛的。       再來,我們除了喜歡自己外,還要接納自己。我們不是不夠努力,我們現在的自己,是「已經盡了最大努力的自己了」。「接受原本的自己」,就是認同「到目前為止,我們在經歷各種事情後,已經是最好的自己了」。我們接受了自己的現狀,也意味著,以後我們仍然有進步的空間的。自信是靠我們自己贏來的,我們每天都要是很努力的,而且,我們要讓「接納自己」,成為生活中的一種習慣。我們很知道自己的局限,但也很願意持續加油,努力以赴。我們要心存感激,不跟別人比較,因為我們每個人,都有獨特的優點和才華,無須和別人較量的,我們只願接受真實的自己,挑戰自己,期待一天比一天更好。還有,別忘了,我們也要在努力行動的過程中,好好照顧自己,給自己休息、放鬆的時間,這才能讓我們的情緒更愉快,更能一直保持著活力。最後,「接納自己」,我們才會有勇氣,也才會反過來更喜歡自己,肯定自己,活出自信,並在我們自己能力所及的範圍內,去嘗試一些自己好奇的新事物。當我們充滿信心地相信自己時,我們就會有勇氣,開啟心靈的門扉,發現更多的可能性。李白說:「天生我材必有用。」我們每個人,都有自己的特點和長處,我們透過努力,持續練習和感恩,保持正向積極、不放棄,我們便有自信,有勇氣,能不斷地嘗試與成長,逐步展現內在潛能,最終達到自我突破。 Powered by Firstory Hosting

  4. Sep 13

    我最想做的事:自我價值

    我最想做的事:自我價值 我們發現,在生活或工作中,有許多人,對自己的自我價值,常常感到懷疑:「我真的有價值嗎?」「如果有,那我要怎麼讓別人看見呢?」有些人會不斷地向外尋找,不斷地證明,甚至在無意識中,透過各種方法和手段,想要獲得被看見的感覺,這是一個很真實、也很普遍的疑惑。因為,我們一方面渴望被看見,另一方面,我們卻又害怕自己沒有足夠的價值,值得被肯定。這種矛盾的心情,常常讓人陷入深深地自我懷疑。有時,在工作、在家庭,或在人際關係裡,我們總是會想:「我做的事情,是不是非要我來做不可?如果有一天,我不在了,別人是不是不會做?」我們真的有這麼重要嗎?「自我價值」是別人給我們的,還是我們自己說了算?        在我們的成長過程裡,我們常常被外在的評價框住,例如,如果成績好,我們就有價值,表現若亮眼,我們就會被看見。我們的努力,如果沒有人讚美,我們便開始懷疑自己,當沒有掌聲時,我們也會陷入自我否定的情緒中。但是,「自我價值」,並不能只依賴別人的眼光啊!我們想要被看見,不光只是來自外在的掌聲,而是要源自我們自己願意承認,並擁抱的那份力量,即使沒有外在的評分,我們仍然有存在的價值:「我盡力了嗎?如果我盡力了,儘管結果不如預期,我們也可以允許,現在就是這樣,相信此時此刻的我,已是最完美的時候了」。        價值不是空談。很多時候,我們會停留在畫大餅、做白日夢的階段,看起來很熱血,但卻缺乏現實感的狀態,其實,真正困難的,往往不是我們怎麼想,而是我們的「行動力」。「自我價值」,是可以在我們一次次的小行動中,被累積出來的。譬如,每天堅持養成某種好習慣,持之以恆,我們就會在這些看似微小,卻是很有意識、刻意的行動中,創造價值。價值,不在於大小,而在於真實的存在,當我們一直看見,並實踐這些小價值時,我們生命的厚度與意義,就會慢慢被編織出來。也就是說,我們的價值,早已存在於日常生活當中了,它只是需要被我們看見而已。試想看看,我們的專業技能:我們在學習與工作中,所累積的能力;我們的生命經驗:我們走過的路、承受過的傷痛與收穫,那是別人無法複製的資源;以及,我們個人的特質與故事:我們的性格、態度與人生歷練,這些都是我們獨一無二的自我價值。只要我們內心承認「我們本來就值得」,我們就會看見自己的自我肯定,與自我價值。        再者,價值也從來不是一個人關起門來定義就算,而是要在與別人的交流中,被感受到與被放大。在日常生活裡,服務別人,與貢獻別人,真的不需要驚天動地,我們只要做到細微但真實的行動即可。回顧自己的生活經驗,我們會發現,好像我們總是很認真地在面對每一件事,用心且全面地在理解別人,處處磨練自己、累積專業能力,認清自己的角色,專心傾聽別人的需要等等···,我們每一個小小的行動,都有可能是別人生命中的轉折點啊!因此,真正的自我價值,是在與別人共同前進的過程中,被創造出來的。因為,自我價值不是只停留在「我覺得自己有意義」就好,而是要透過「我願意去貢獻」被體現出來的。在人際關係裡,當我們選擇真誠地給予與支持時,我們不僅幫助了別人,也深化了自己的存在感,這就是「自我價值」在互動中不斷地被創造、被確認的過程。我們可以從以下三個簡單的方法,來問自己是否有「自我價值」:  1. 每日記錄「自我價值」的時刻:問自己,今天我在哪裡創造了價值?  2. 練習自我肯定:將注意力放在「我做了什麼」,而不是「別人怎麼評價我」。  3. 持續小行動:不必等待重大成就,每一次微小卻真誠的付出,都是價值的累積。 當我們選擇用自我反省的態度來生活時,我們的「自我價值」,會逐漸被創造出來。在我們的生活中,有43%的行動,是出自於習慣,習慣是適合自動進行的,簡單又孜孜不倦的動作,不需要花太多時間去思考,做就對了。目的和獎勵,對於要開始持續做某件事是很重要的,它們幫助了我們在一開始的時候,就養成有益的習慣。如果我們的目的很明確,而且做了有好處,我們肯定會不假思索,馬上去做的,這就是習慣,並且,我們的情境,也會觸發行動。因此,隨時隨地,我們都要營造情境,清楚自己的目的,並給予自己適當的獎勵,那麼,我們就會養成做重複動作的好習慣,日積月累,成效一定驚人,其價值也一定可以展現出來的。        我們這一生,從表面上看來,也許是一事無成,沒有什麼大的成就,也沒什麼大富大貴,平淡無奇,但是,對自己的生命,我們每一個人的心中,都有一把尺,滿不滿意,自己心裡都很明白,那是一種感受與感覺,自己的最愛,其實就是我們最想做的事,也是自我最大的價值。當我們只是很專注地投入在那個當下我們最想選擇要做的事時,這樣的體驗,已經足夠是我們人生最大的價值了。在看見自己的過程中,我們難免跌跌撞撞,曾做過很多荒唐的事情,也曾面對生命中的失落。平時,我們總是循規蹈矩的,常常無意識的揹負著許多不必要的框架、信念與自我譴責,也很有意識地接納那些父母、社會加諸給我們的期許和責任,在社會的標準下,企圖尋求認同。於是,在如此的人生過程中,如果我們還能堅持自己最想要做的事,那麼,我們對自己的存在感與認同感,就是任何外在的成就與肯定,都無法比擬的,那也是我們之所以成為「我們自己」最重要的原因。而當我們充分接納與熱愛這樣的自己時,我們也就沒有理由,為了任何外在的名與利,去放棄自己了。我們為自己的生命,做出選擇,並負起責任,那就是我們一生中最大的價值了。生命本然就該讓心中的熱情,引領著我們,帶著我們,實現自己,即使那是別人最不起眼的,也都是值得我們看重與光耀的。 Powered by Firstory Hosting

  5. Sep 6

    Getting Back into Study Mode 收心操

    Getting Back into Study Mode 收心操 Summer holidays are every student’s favorite time of the year. Late mornings, vacations, family outings, endless screen time, and a break from homework, etc. make a summer season enjoyable for everyone. But once the schools reopen, many students struggle to switch back into “study mode.” For example, waking up early feels difficult, concentration becomes weaker, and studying suddenly feels stressful again. This transition is completely normal. After two months of relaxed routines, our brains and bodies really need time to adjust back to structured learning. The good news is that with the right habits and positive mindset, teachers and students can smoothly return to academic learning without feeling stress. In fact, the new term is a fresh opportunity for us to return back to schools to get knowledge, grow, and improve on past academic performances. We should be happy and welcome the chance. One of the biggest challenges after the summer vacation is adjusting to school timings again. During holidays, teachers and students often sleep late and wake up late. Therefore, first of all, it is better that before the schools reopen, teachers and students should begin resetting their sleep schedule gradually. Sleeping earlier and waking up earlier helps our bodies adapt naturally. Having a proper morning routine also improves mental alertness throughout the day. Thus, simple activities like morning walks, stretching, reading, or reviewing notes for 15–20 minutes would always help teachers and students mentally prepare for academic training. Secondly, a bright and organized environment, either at home or at schools, creates a positive mindset for studying. Before reopening, teachers can go to school to check the classrooms and equipment in advance, and students may arrange their textbooks, notebooks, stationery, bags, and study space properly at home. Cleaning and organizing study space and materials gives us a sense of readiness to prepare for the school works. Moreover, teachers have to make plans for the lessons and students could begin with small and achievable goals, such as reading extracurricular books for 30 minutes in order to train their concentration. A timetable helps teachers and students bring discipline back into their daily routines. With consistency and time, discipline would become more automatic without effort. Thirdly, after summer holidays, maintaining healthy habits becomes essential. Physical activity improves memory, concentration, and mood. Even simple activities like cycling, walking, or playing indoor/outdoor games can refresh the mind. Many students might wait until tests or assignments begin before taking studies seriously. However, the best way to avoid academic pressure is by staying consistent from the beginning of the school year. Actually, going to the library daily, listening carefully in class, and completing homework on time helps students stay confident throughout the year. So, we do have the mindset to take action of taking activities and go to school every day. Furthermore, transitioning back to academic life is much easier when students are doing together on campus. They can reach out to classmates, friends, or study groups to catch up and share the studies. When they surround themselves with motivated peers, it helps them back into study mode easily through shared experiences. At last, getting back into study mode after summer vacation, indeed, is not about suddenly becoming perfect or studying for long hours. It is about slowly rebuilding discipline, focus, and confidence through simple daily healthy habits. As a matter of fact, teachers and students truly need time to adjust after a break, and that is completely OK. With proper planning, positive thinking, healthy routines, and consistent effort, teachers and students can successfully transition into the new academic year without stress. A new academic year is not just about scores and exams, it is an opportunity to learn, grow, explore, and become better day after day. The good and right start is very important for teachers and students. It surely can make the entire academic year more productive, balanced, and successful. Powered by Firstory Hosting

  6. Aug 29

    感恩月、吉祥月和孝親月

    感恩月、吉祥月和孝親月 農曆七月,在民間被稱為「鬼月」,但是,在佛教中的七月,是祈福修善,孝親報恩的「感恩月」、「吉祥月」和「孝親月」。從古到今,每逢農曆七月十五日,佛教寺院會舉辦「盂蘭盆法會」,那是感恩,吉祥和孝親的法會,也就是說,農曆七月,其實是感恩月、吉祥月和孝親月。首先,農曆七月,是感恩月。父母的養育之恩,長輩的疼愛照顧,及生命中每一份曾經幫助過我們的善緣,我們都要放在心上,時時感念,常懷感恩。換句話說,我們要感恩父母、感恩師長、感恩天地,也要感恩一路上曾經給予我們幫助的人。雖然,我們每天穿著衣服,但是,我們不知道做衣服的人是誰;我們住在房子裡,但蓋房子的人是誰,我們也不知道;我們每天走在路上,對於造馬路的工人,我們也不認識,然而,這一切人都對我們有真實的恩德。我們生活在大地上,大地能夠承載一切,也能承載我們的生命及家園,我們真的要常常懷抱著感恩的心,對待我們身邊的一切人事物。生老病死,是我們人人都必須面對的過程,我們若能培養良好的信仰,多多行善、布施、持戒,對我們的現世與來世,都有好處,我們不僅要慎終追遠,更要廣結善緣,行善積德,讓善的力量,不斷延續。不只是佛教,在基督教中,耶穌的救贖與應許,也要我們以祂的恩典和慈愛,來庇護一切,積善造福。我們要用智慧,日日虔誠,時時感恩,感恩的行動,能幫助我們關注身邊的美好事物,也會讓我們自己覺得滿足和幸福。常懷感恩的人,即便在困難的處境中,也能學習耐心,保持平靜。感恩不只是一種情感,也是我們用時間積累,培養出來的能力。當我們對自己和別人表達感恩時,無論是口頭或書面,都可以讓我們及對方,感受到快樂。有了感恩,我們的心靈,就會充滿希望和感動,我們的日子,也會天天歡喜、快樂。       其次,農曆七月,是吉祥月。人生最美好的狀態,莫過於「吉祥如意,福氣安康」。真正的吉祥,不是遠離風浪,而是在風雨中,擁有一顆寧靜安詳的心。當我們懂得感恩,知足常樂時,我們的內心,會有溫暖,我們就能把生活中的壞事變好,好事加倍。吉祥心是歡喜,它來自於我們內在的覺悟、與生命的成熟,當我們自得其樂,並助人為樂時,心中會是滿滿地自在、安然與幸福,我們便自然而然地多說好話、多做好事、多存善念。對信仰上帝的人來說,農曆七月,更是充滿平安的「平安月」,因為真正的平安,來自神的同在,「每天有神,日日是好日。」神的保守,勝過一切忌諱與迷信,上帝是賜平安的神,每一步有祂的看顧,我們都可以安然度過每一天。在佛教中,農曆七月十五日是「佛歡喜日」。早在佛陀時代,印度夏天的雨季,長達三個月,又濕又熱,蚊蟲鼠蟻繁生,於是,佛陀規定,僧眾須安住一處,不必外出托缽,由在家居士供養,因此,僧眾便可安心聆聽佛法,精進修行,因而,有很多人於此時開悟覺性,佛陀心生歡喜,便稱七月為歡喜月,因成就了很多人來修道,所以也稱為吉祥月。      最後,農曆七月,是孝親月。父母在世時,做子女的,就該多關心父母,孝順父母。百善孝為先,孝順不只是一句口號,我們更要落實在日常生活中,一聲溫暖的問候,一頓陪伴父母的飯,都是最珍貴的孝心。農曆七月十五日,佛教寺廟,都會舉辦「盂蘭盆法會」。據《盂蘭盆經》記載,佛陀在世的時候,他的弟子,目犍連尊者,看到亡母墮在餓鬼道中,痛苦萬分,他用缽碗盛滿飯,請他母親吃,但是,當母親把飯送到嘴邊時,立刻變成火炭,不得下咽。目犍連見此,悲哀涕泣,回去告訴佛陀。佛陀說,目犍連的母親,因有罪業,墮在餓鬼道中,雖然目犍連已修成阿羅漢果,但不能救拔母親的苦難。於是,佛陀請目犍連在農曆七月十五日這天,準備百味五果,置於盆中,供養佛僧,仗此功德,可令已故的父母,解脫餓鬼之苦,生人天中,福樂無極。人生在世,我們要恪盡贍養父母的義務,父母亡故,我們也要慎終追遠,祈求安居樂業。另外,在佛教中,農曆的七月三十日,是地藏王菩薩的聖誕。地藏王菩薩,過去世曾為婆羅門女,及光目女,以供養三寶的功德,使生前作惡的母親,得以超拔惡趣。他發願要度脫一切眾生,悉皆成佛後,自己才能成就正覺。地藏王菩薩的成道與證悟,即是孝順的最佳實例。自古以來,中國人講究以孝立國,以孝治天下,孝親是非常重要的。試想,子女幼小時,做父母者,無不盡力滿足所需,扶養長大。等兒女成年後,有能力回報時,我們對於父母所需的飲食、生活等基本物資,也必須要能供應,讓父母歡喜、安心。農曆七月,是體現孝親月最好的月份,我們要特別感念孝道,回饋報恩,身體力行,發揚光大。農曆七月是吉月,是我們祭拜祖先,在家好好孝順父母的日子。農曆七月,我們特別要用感恩、虔誠的心,祈求普天下眾生,不論信仰何種宗教,都能日日靜思反省,天天歡喜快樂。 Powered by Firstory Hosting

  7. Aug 23

    自娛娛人

    自娛娛人 人生就像一場漫長的自娛娛人,討別人歡心,是小聰明,每天都能討到自己開心,才是大智慧。「自娛」是一場與自己的心靈對話,不需要華麗的詞藻,也不用在意別人的眼光,當我們開口唱歌,手足舞蹈,用聲音廣播,或出門走走時,我們單純是為了記錄當下的感動,釋放內心的情緒,讓自己會心一笑,那是最純粹的快樂。當然,自己快樂了,再討別人歡心,更是皆大歡喜。       唱歌是一件很快樂的事,它能帶給我們無比的喜悅與滿足。在忙碌的生活中,我們如能唱起歌來,身心會變得輕鬆,煩惱亦會隨著音樂的節奏而消散,這是一種讓我們可以自娛娛人的樂趣。其實,當我們在睡覺時,全身肌肉都是放鬆的,呼吸道會變窄,我們如能經常唱歌,可以訓練到口腔和喉嚨。當我們專注於清楚地唱出每一個音與每一個字時,我們會發出強而有力的聲音,那可使我們的肌肉,有活力與彈性。唱歌同時也是增強記憶力的方式,每當我們開口唱歌時,我們會從腦海中數以億計的信息裡,找到歌曲的相關內容,我們會集中精力,心情舒暢,此時,記憶力最強。再者,經常唱歌,可使我們臉部的皮膚,保持緊緻,我們的肢體動作,也會消耗熱量,練到我們的「深層肌肉」,喜歡唱快歌的人,一邊唱,一邊舞動身體,我們還能達到很好的燃脂效果。歌唱是一種比說話更能表達情緒的語言,當我們有負面情緒時,透過唱歌來抒發,是一種釋放與舒解。心理學家也認為,大聲歌唱,對強迫症、抑鬱症等精神疾病的治療,都有一定的幫助。而且,當我們和朋友相聚,唱卡拉OK時,這不僅是很好的休閒消遣,也可增進友誼的交流與互動,鍛煉自己的膽量與信心,建立穩健的台風,真是一舉數得。      此外,跳舞不只是專業表演,也能讓我們完全地自娛自樂,隨性起舞,放鬆身心。我們可拋開舞步對錯,與外界的眼光,跟隨音樂,自由擺動,找回純粹的喜悅。當我們的身體,隨著節奏搖擺時,舞技的好壞不重要,我們可找回自信,享受律動的活力。我們可以在自己的房間裡,關掉燈光,放一首自己喜歡的歌,不看鏡子,忘記姿勢美不美,只去感受自己的身體,跟著音樂時的流動,這可讓我們緊繃的筋脈,軟化開來。舞蹈是力和美的表現,每一天的日常,行住坐臥,都是一支舞,我們都能跳出屬於自己美麗而優雅的舞蹈,如此的輕鬆自在,就足夠自娛娛人了。      再者,我們如能把做Podcast (播客)當成自我娛樂,不管流量、不看數據,純粹享受說話和抒發樂趣,我們也是可以隨心所欲地錄下自己的奇思妙想、生活牢騷或有趣的故事的。做Podcast (播客)真的可以自娛娛人,因為,我們把腦中的想法,變成聲音,多年後回聽,一定會覺得很好玩。我們在輕鬆的心情下,自然而然地訓練自己的口條和邏輯,不用買昂貴的麥克風,用手機直接開錄就好。我們想說什麼,就說什麼,不用擔心聽眾有多少,我們就是自己的頭號粉絲,如果嫌麻煩,我們甚至可以不剪音檔,錄完後直接播出,存檔留作紀念。做播客真的很快樂,因為,我們的聲音,是能拉近人與人的距離的,透過播放,我們可以自由分享想法,記錄生活點滴,還能強迫自己,主動學習新知,是一場很有趣的個人冒險,與共享經驗。      最後,健走也是一種自娛娛人的活動。健走,看似簡單,卻是很容易融入日常生活,同時帶來全方位益處的運動之一。健走,不需要器材、不挑場地,只要一雙鞋、一段時間,就能開啟自己的運動節奏。從早晨的公園、午休的散步,到假日的城市步道,健走能幫助我們放鬆心情,提升身體活動量,讓生活更有節奏。健走之所以能成為全民運動,不只是因為容易上手,更是因為它帶來的好處,橫跨健康、心理與社交層面。健走能有效地促進血液循環和心肺功能,就算每天只有30分鐘,健走也能讓代謝更順、整個人變得有精神。規律健走,可使我們身體的肌肉,協調運作,步行的節奏,就像一種溫和的冥想,當我們邊走邊呼吸時,身體會逐漸放鬆,大腦也會釋放讓情緒穩定的物質。如果我們常覺得晚上不好睡,試著在白天或傍晚時,出門健走一段,持續一些時間後,我們會發現睡得更沉、更安穩。而且,健走不只是個人的活動,我們和家人、親朋好友一起散步,更能拉近彼此的關係,更有持續的動力。健走的好處,在於它不需要額外的時間,只要把走路變成生活的一部分即可,我們可以每天走10~15分鐘就好,等身體逐漸適應了,再慢慢延長到30分鐘以上。我們可選擇在早上工作前、午休後、或晚餐後半小時,出門走走,當健走成為日常儀式時,身體就會自然地進入要動一動的狀態,久而久之,它就不容易中斷,我們不需要完美,能走就好。健走的魅力,還在於不分年齡、不論體能,都能從中找到適合自己的節奏。健走的技巧,是要我們保持自然站姿,抬頭挺胸,視線看向前方,肩膀放鬆、手臂自然擺動。健走時,我們讓腳跟先著地,再平滑滾動到腳掌中段,最後由腳尖輕推離地。我們不需要追求步數破萬,只要記錄「持續時間」與「距離」就好。每天多走一點,呼吸新鮮空氣,身心都很舒暢。當健走成為我們生活的一部分時,我們會發現,不僅我們的體力變好,心情更穩定,還會開心地呼朋引友,一起活動,生活更多彩多姿了。自娛娛人,真好。 Powered by Firstory Hosting

  8. Aug 17

    Taboos in Relationships

    Taboos in Relationships When we think of taboos, there are two main areas, i.e., traditional or cultural taboos and the personal taboos. Traditional or cultural taboos have always defined human beings’ collective ways of life, but they also have silenced many voices, killed many dreams, and destroyed many lives. It is true that human beings find a sense of belongingness in their cultural beliefs and practices. Year after year, it, thus, forms their certain behavior and, gradually, shapes how they eat, talk, and even think. Of course, through many years, they won’t allow the actions or opinions to violate their convictions and taboos. Therefore, in society, taboos exist as hidden codes for people to fight against oppositions. It’s much better for us to understand the taboos around the world in order to live peacefully by ourselves and with others.       As for the personal taboos, they are the deep conceptions that we carry about ourselves to deal with other people and live in the world. They are formed in our childhood through families, cultures and experiences, and they can quietly shape our decisions, relationships, and sense of purpose throughout our lives. Understanding our personal beliefs and taboos is one of the most powerful things that we can do for our self-awareness because what we believe determines how we live. Family is our first primary teacher. Our parents, grandparents and caregivers teach us a set of basic principles about how the world works. Then, we learn skills and abilities from education, peer groups, communities and works. Actually, our personal beliefs directly influence our career choices, perceptions, decisions, relationships, and behavior. They operate as mental frameworks that filter how we interpret our life experiences. As the matter of fact, we are not perfect, and we might have our own taboos due to our personal preferences which are different from others. No matter what kinds of relationships in our lives, for example, family members, relatives and friends, navigating people with strong personal beliefs and opinions can really be a challenge. We have to be very careful not to touch the main points of their taboos in order to keep the harmonious conversations and discussions. Stubborn and opinionated people with their taboos often hold firmly to their perspectives, are persistent about promoting their viewpoints when faced with opposite information, and are resistant to changing their views. They rarely admit their biases, but yet, on the contrary, they reveal their blind spots. We should say that people consistently cling to their positions because they believe deeply in them. In this case, it is crucial that, at first, we won’t object them. There would be real value in actively listening, even though we might disagree with them. Perhaps, by asking follow-up questions or clarifying their perspectives, we could demonstrate our genuine curiosity about their viewpoints, showing them that their voice is heard. When we stay mindful of our reactions, at least, we can better guide the dialogues and avoid unnecessary conflicts. Despite our good intentions without knowing the personal taboos, it is still unfair for us to receive criticism and judgment from stubborn and opinionated people. In terms of the personal taboos, it is clear that they won’t change the attitudes, and it’s not the question of right and wrong. We might try to express our kindness to them and the issues. And then, maybe, we can look for the validation and acceptance somewhere else. Instead of retaliating in anger, we could acknowledge the opinions, but don’t engage further in discussions. That is the wise way to handle the personal taboos in our relationships. We are humans, after all, and we would confront lots of difficulties all the time in our lives. However, best of all, we could have complete confidence to show good responses, and are fully in charge of favorable situations. Powered by Firstory Hosting

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我們的人生,離不開生活,我們的生活,又離不開愛,所以,愛是我們一切的源頭。為了實踐愛,我們要謙虛,修正自己,愛自己,我們要感恩身邊的每一件人、事、物,然後,我們更要感謝宇宙與天地的加持。 在愛的世界裡,我們要有十足的自信與信心,我們有極豐富的想像力,且相信「心想事成」,我們更有相當的勇氣,付諸每一個行動。因著愛,我們不會辜負我們的生活,我們的人生的。 這個「愛、生活、人生系列」的播客,是一連串的分享會,從第一集到往後的無數集,我將分享好多人生的故事,生活的故事,和愛的故事。但願這些美好的故事,是你、我行動力的靈感,生活的泉源,與生命的助力,就讓我們大家,一起隨我來吧! Powered by Firstory Hosting