Notes on Vulnerability

Alex Resilience Coach (Shore Coaching)
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Stories of resilience, courage and being human. When we lean into the discomfort of vulnerability that's when we find out who we really are and how incredible life can really be.

  1. 17h ago

    S4 E 11 The Identity Crisis Nobody Talks About In Your 30s & 40s

    Why do so many people feel lost in their 30s and 40s, even when life looks successful on paper? If you've ever found yourself wondering, "Is this it?" or feeling strangely disconnected from the life you've worked so hard to build, this episode is for you. In this solo episode, resilience coach Alex explores the identity crisis that so many people experience in midlife - but that hardly anyone talks about. You'll discover why feeling lost isn't a sign that something is wrong with you, but often a sign that you've outgrown the version of yourself that was built to survive, achieve and keep everyone else happy. Alex explains why the traditional life milestones we've been taught to chase can leave us feeling empty, how "identity fatigue" develops, and why authenticity is one of the missing ingredients in resilience. In this episode you'll learn: Why your 30s and 40s can trigger an unexpected identity crisisThe hidden cost of building your life around achievement, reliability and approvalWhy feeling lost doesn't mean you're failingHow your nervous system influences your sense of identityWhy authenticity is essential for resilience, confidence and self-trustHow to stop asking "What's wrong with me?" and start asking "Who am I, underneath all the roles I've been playing?"If you're ready to stop performing the version of you that no longer fits and reconnect with who you really are, this episode will give you a completely different way of understanding what you're experiencing - and why it could be the beginning of something much bigger than you realise. If you'd like support with this, you can book a free introductory coaching call here. Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

    14 min

  2. Jun 23

    S4 E10 Agnes (The Ginger Witch) on Living Fearlessly, Kung Fu in China & the Art of Saying Yes

    What does it look like to actually live on your own terms - not just talk about it? Agnes, known on Instagram as The Ginger Witch, is the woman doing all the things a lot of us only dream about. From 10 days of silent meditation in a Vipassana retreat (twice!) to seven weeks training at a kung fu school in the mountains of China, Agnes has made a life out of leaning into discomfort - and she wouldn't have it any other way. In this episode we talk about: How Agnes found her path and what she's building towardsThe Vipassana silent meditation retreat - what it is, what it costs you, and why she recommends it to everyoneHer kung fu experience in China, and how it changed her relationship with discipline and her own mindWhy fear and excitement are the same thing - and how to choose which one you feelSelf-actualisation, side quests, and why being a "jack of all trades" isn't a flawThe surprising freedom that comes from routineHer philosophy on joy, vulnerability, and connecting with the world around youAgnes is living proof that the biggest barrier between you and the life you want is usually just the decision to go for it. This one will stay with you. Find Agnes on Instagram: @gingerwwitch Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

    39 min

  3. Jun 16

    S4 E9 Why do some people seem able to change their lives while others stay stuck?

    It's easy to assume the answer is discipline, motivation, or confidence - but in this episode, resilience coach Alex reveals what actually makes the difference, and it's none of those things. Alex explores the concept of capacity - why some people have more of it, where it comes from, and crucially, how you can build more of it. She breaks down the real reasons change can feel harder for some people than others, including the often-overlooked roles of financial background, emotional stability in childhood, and nervous system regulation. In this episode you'll learn: Why feeling stuck is not a reflection of your character - and what it actually meansHow your money mindset (and where it came from) is shaping your financial reality right nowThe connection between emotional stability, attachment, and your ability to make changeWhy your nervous system has a bigger role in your life than your mindset doesPractical first steps to start expanding your capacity and moving forwardIf you've ever looked at someone who seems to change their life with ease and wondered what do they have that I don't? - this episode is for you. Find Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

    20 min

  4. Jun 9

    S4E8 Conversations on Patriarchy and Possibility - Sean Faingold + Cat Lee

    What does it take for a man raised inside a deeply patriarchal religious system to become one of the internet's most prominent voices against misogyny - and then fall in love with a woman who challenges him every step of the way? In this episode, I sit down with Sean and his fiancée Cat - a couple who met in Instagram DMs after Cat noticed Sean posting calm, measured responses to Andrew Tate videos. What followed was the birth of a relationship built on radical transparency, shared values, and a mutual commitment to doing the inner work. We talk about: Sean's journey from Jehovah's Witness upbringing to anti-manosphere content creatorThe "rock bottom" moment that finally broke down his conditioningHow Cat spotted something different in Sean - and what transparency in a relationship actually looks likeWhether men can truly change, and what it actually takesHow two people shaped by patriarchy in very different ways managed to build something genuinely healthy togetherThis is a honest, nuanced conversation about accountability, authenticity, and what it looks like when men actually do the work. Find Cat and Sean here. Here are links for: Use Code NOTES15 at YCODE for 15% off men's skincare.Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

    49 min

  5. Jun 2

    S4 E7 Forget Breathwork + Cold Dips, Orgasms Are Medicine For Your Nervous System

    Still grinding through your to-do list, stuck in your head, and wondering why the meditation isn't working? Your nervous system might be the missing piece - and the solution is a lot more fun than you think. In this episode, resilience coach Alex breaks down what nervous system regulation actually means (hint: it's not about being permanently calm), why so many of us stay stuck in a stress response without even realising it, and why the standard advice of breathwork and cold dips is only part of the story. We explore the full spectrum of regulation tools available to you - from dancing and boxing to pleasure and orgasms - and why these are just as scientifically valid as any breathing technique. We also get into the deeper work: why feeling your feelings is one of the most overlooked foundations of regulation, how self-trust underpins everything, and why your nervous system - not your willpower - is the real reason you self-sabotage. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things and still can't seem to get out of your own way, this episode will change how you see yourself. Topics covered: What a regulated nervous system actually looks likeWhy we get stuck in fight, flight, and freeze - and what it costs usDynamic regulation tools beyond breathwork (including orgasms)How hormones affect women's nervous systems differentlyThe link between nervous system capacity and self-sabotageWhy success literally requires safety in your nervous systemHow to start building new neural pathways through pleasure and connectionFind Alex: Instagram @alexresiliencecoach | shore-coaching.com If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

    20 min

  6. May 26

    S4 E6 Breaking the Barrister Mould: Authenticity, Advocacy & What It Really Takes with Anna Morris KC

    Anna Morris KC has represented thousands of bereaved families at some of the UK's most high-profile public inquiries - including Hillsborough and the COVID Inquiry. But her path to King's Counsel looked nothing like the rulebook said it should. In this episode, Alex sits down with her old university friend Anna to talk about what it's really like to stand up in court on behalf of 7,000 grieving families, the moment a member of the House of Lords told her to "stop riling up her people," and why she almost didn't become a barrister at all. They get into: The pressure and privilege of high-profile public inquiry workThe power of silence as an advocacy tool - and why it isn't taughtOvercoming imposter syndrome, neurodiversity, and not fitting the barrister mouldThe stark lack of diversity at the bar and what still needs to changeWhy legal aid lawyers routinely work for free - and what that costs the professionHow Anna balances carrying the weight of others' trauma with being a mother, a leader, and a human beingHer note on vulnerability: staying authentic even when you're the most polished version of yourselfA candid, warm and genuinely inspiring conversation about finding your own way - even when no one else seems to do it the same way you do. Find Anna Morris here. If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

    42 min

  7. May 12

    S4 E5 Why Child Free Women Are Happier Than You Think

    If you've ever felt the  pressure to have children - even when something inside you said otherwise - this episode is for you. Alex, resilience coach and host of Notes on Vulnerability, gets personal in this solo episode about what it really means to be child-free. Drawing on her own experience and the latest research (including a landmark study from the London School of Economics), she explores why so many women never even realise being child-free is a valid, joyful option - and what it takes to fully thrive in that choice. In this episode, Alex covers: Why child-free single women are statistically the happiest subgroup in societyHow social conditioning shapes our beliefs about motherhood - often without us realisingThe fears that keep women stuck (loneliness, FOMO, judgement) and how to move through themWhy having children is no guarantee of company or support later in lifeHow to update your internal map and build a life that's genuinely your ownThe importance of speaking your truth loudly and without apologyWhether you're questioning the path you've been handed, already child-free and working through the noise, or simply curious - this episode offers honest, grounded, and refreshingly unjudged perspective. "The most common regret of the dying is: I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me." Connect with Alex: Instagram: @alexresiliencecoachWebsite: shore-coaching.comIf you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life and start changing your self-perception to one that actually serves you. Here are links for: Use Code NOTES15 at YCODE for 15% off men's skincare.Explore The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.The Resilience Blueprint (£27).Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

    19 min

  8. May 5

    S4 E4 - Born Different, Built Stronger: Erin Harris On Disability, Breaking Records and Lifting Heavier Than Anyone Expected

    Erin Harris spent 28 years hiding her arm under hoodies and baggy jumpers. Today she's the two-time World's Strongest Disabled Woman with four world records to her name - and it all started from a single TikTok video.  In this episode Erin opens up about growing up with a limb difference, the bullying she experienced and how discovering Adaptive Strongman in 2022 completely transformed her life. What started as a gym session to lose weight before her wedding became a world-class athletic career - within just six months of training she won her first competition. We talk about: How Erin hid her disability for nearly 3 decades and what finally changed.Discovering Adaptive Strongman and being mentored by four-time World's Strongest Disabled Man Mark Tonner.The mental game of lifting - imposter syndrome, inner critics, and getting out of your own head.Breaking world records.The lack of funding in adaptive sport and why it matters.Being a role model for children born with limb differences.Recovering from a rotator cuff injury and relearning how to trust her body.Why she refuses to hide who she is online - bad days included.Erin's one note on vulnerability: don't hide who you are. Everything that makes you different is shaping the path you're meant to be on. Find Erin Harris here. If you enjoyed this episode you can sign up for 5 Resilience Coaching Questions to Change Your Life . Here are links for: Exploring The Herbtender range of wellness solutions (use code ADAPT20 for 20%).1:1 resilience coaching - book a free intro call here.Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/paul-yudin/breaking-ideas License code: 6NHMOGUA1OQR97OC

    27 min
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Stories of resilience, courage and being human. When we lean into the discomfort of vulnerability that's when we find out who we really are and how incredible life can really be.

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  • Creator
    Alex Resilience Coach (Shore Coaching)
  • Years Active
    2020 - 2026
  • Episodes
    96
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    Explicit
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