The Unblocked Woman with Amy Sanders

Amy Sanders
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The Unblocked Woman is for high-capacity women who know better and still catch themselves doing the same thing. Again. I'm Amy Sanders, master-certified coach, best-selling author, and creator of The Unblocked Method. Every week we go underneath the pattern: the overthinking, the proving, the saying yes when you meant no. No fluff. No pretending the work is easy. You're not broken. You're patterned. And patterns can change. New here? Start with The Mirror at amysanders.co. My book, UNBLOCKED, is out now.

  1. 3d ago

    178: You Have No Idea What You’re Capable Of. And That’s the Problem.

    I qualified for the Boston Marathon in my twenties. Then I spent years cheering from the sidelines. Eventually, I convinced myself my marathon days were over. My body couldn’t do it anymore. That chapter was closed. But I’d never actually tested that belief. In this episode, I’m sharing the story behind my return to running. Three marathons. A qualifying time that still didn’t get me into Boston. A whole lot of tears. And the decision to keep going. Now I’m heading to the New York City Marathon. My book is going on a billboard in Times Square. A few years ago, I hadn’t even allowed myself to imagine this version of my life. This conversation is about the dreams you’ve quietly talked yourself out of. The opportunities you’ve dismissed. The old conclusions you’re still allowing to make your decisions. Why are you letting an outdated version of you decide what the current version of you is capable of? In this episode, we explore: How your own dreams become optional while everyone else’s get priority. The difference between a real limitation and an untested belief. Why your capacity and your identity can tell different stories. How The Default Loop™ turns avoidance into evidence. How The Aligned Loop™ creates new evidence through action. Why a failed attempt is information, not an identity. Three questions to challenge a story that’s keeping you small. Your invitation this week Write down one limiting story you’ve accepted about yourself. Ask: Is this actually true? Who do I become when I believe this story? What would I do differently this week if I stopped treating that story as a fact? Choose one action that gives you a chance to find out. About Amy Sanders Amy Sanders is a best-selling author, master-certified life coach, entrepreneur, and host of The Unblocked Woman. With over 20 years of experience in personal transformation and business growth, she guides ambitious women through the identity patterns behind their recurring struggles. Through The Unblocked Method™, The Mirror™, and her coaching, Amy guides women toward greater awareness, aligned decisions, and lasting change. Read Amy’s Book Unblocked: See It. Shift It. Become Magnetic. Writing her own book was another dream Amy carried for years. In this episode, she shares the full-circle moment of heading to New York to run a marathon while her book appears on a Times Square billboard. Explore Amy’s book and her work at amysanders.co. Connect With Amy Website: amysanders.coInstagram: @coachamysandersEmail: amy@luckysanders.com If this episode spoke to you, share it with a friend who’s been ruling herself out. Leave a review to bring this conversation to more women. See It. Shift It. Become Magnetic.

  2. Oct 20

    177: When Your Growth Turns Into Judgment (And What It Costs You)

    Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “If it were me, I would never have done that”? In this episode, Amy looks at how personal growth can quietly turn into judgment, and what it costs your friendships, your marriage, and your closest relationships when it does. You’ve done the work. You know your patterns. And somewhere along the way, the choices you made for yourself may have started to sound like a verdict on everyone who chose differently. Amy comes into this one a little raw, without a perfectly wrapped-up lesson. She shares what it felt like to read a friend’s post about a change she’d made and feel judged by it, and then turns the question around: who might be feeling that way about you? In this episode: Why “if it were me” is the wrong measuring stick for someone else’s response How two people with different histories can both believe the other is handling everything wrong The difference between “I’m choosing to stop doing this” and “women who do this are...” Where this shows up: money, fitness, faith, and personal growth language itself Why judgment feels like clarity from the inside, which is what makes it hard to catch What it costs: people don’t tell you they feel judged, they just tell you less What to do when someone else’s pain starts to feel like an inconvenience If you’re the one who’s hurting: understanding someone does not mean minimizing what happened to you The Loop (Experience, Meaning, Response, Result, Reinforcement) and how to interrupt it at the meaning Three questions to ask before you assume One question to ask before you post a strong opinion online Questions to sit with: Who is one person whose response you’ve been judging? What did you actually see, and what did you decide it meant? What might be true about their life that would make their response make sense? Who might be telling you less than they used to? This week: Pick one person. Before your next conversation, ask yourself, “What am I assuming about them?” Then find one honest question you could ask, and listen to the answer. Read My Book The Unblocked Woman If you've ever wondered why you keep repeating patterns even when you know better, my book takes you deeper into the identity work behind real transformation. It's about recognizing what's been keeping you blocked, rebuilding your relationship with yourself, and becoming the woman you've always known was there. Because knowing better is one thing. Becoming the woman who chooses differently? That's where everything changes. Discover my book at https://amysanders.co/book Connect With Me: Website: www.amysanders.co Mirror: www.amysanders.co/mirror  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.amysanders/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/itsamysanders/

  3. Oct 13

    176: You Didn't Attract This. But You Are Reinforcing It

    You can change your entire life and still run the same old loop. Have money and still worry about losing it. Have a loving partner and still scan for where things will fall apart. Have a team and still carry everyone’s work. I know because I did all three. In this episode, I’m taking you back to an afternoon at McDonald’s as a single mom raising three kids on $24,000 a year. I bought one Happy Meal to split between them. My kids were smiling in the pictures. Behind the camera, I felt completely humiliated. My life eventually changed. Some of the responses I learned during those years stayed with me. That’s what we’re unpacking today. I’m sharing my practical interpretation of karma and dharma: karma is momentum. Dharma is direction. These ideas help explain how familiar responses keep creating familiar evidence, even inside a life you worked hard to build. I’ll walk you through: Why I reject the idea that you attracted every painful thing that happened to you. The five-part loop: Experience → Meaning → Response → Result → Reinforcement. How your old identity shapes the meaning you give an experience. A fictional business owner named Jess who keeps finishing her team’s work at 11 p.m. How helping everyone can reinforce the belief that everything depends on you. Why pleasing, fixing, and overworking provide such quick relief. Where you can interrupt the loop through your next honest response. Why discomfort doesn’t automatically mean you’re off track. How repeated aligned choices build evidence for the woman you’re becoming. Here’s what I want you to take from this conversation: Your defaults are old strategies that once protected you. You can begin choosing a different response. Send the unfinished work back. Ask for support. Tell the truth. Hold the boundary through the discomfort. You don’t control every outcome. You can practice how you show up. Your reflection for this week Take a situation in your life that keeps repeating. Finish this sentence out loud: “See, I knew…” Whatever comes next is a clue to the identity that’s been collecting evidence. Get curious about it. Your past has momentum. It doesn’t get the final say. Connect with me Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.amysanders/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/itsamysanders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachamysanders/ Website: https://amysanders.co/ Explore my work The Mirror™: https://amysanders.co/the-mirror The Unblocked Women Collective™: https://amysanders.co/the-collective The Unblocked Woman™: https://amysanders.co/the-unblocked-woman Get the book: UNBLOCKED Unblocked: See It. Shift It. Become Magnetic. helps you recognize the identity patterns beneath your thoughts, reactions, and choices. Through Awareness, Alignment, and Abundance, you’ll learn to trust yourself and practice choosing differently. UNBLOCKED BOOK LINK: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HKTDL53L UNBLOCKED INTEGRATION JOURNAL LINK: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HM43TY8P If this conversation helped you, send it to someone who needs it. Follow the show and leave a review to help this message reach more women.

  4. Oct 6

    175: The House That Made No Sense

    You have a dream you keep calling “someday.” The house. The move. The book. The thing you barely admit you want. You’re waiting for the numbers to work. For the plan to make sense. For someone to tell you it’s possible. But a woman who has decided moves differently. In this episode, I’m taking you back to the house Chris and I fell in love with two weeks into dating. We didn’t know where it was. We didn’t have the finances figured out. Building it made absolutely no sense on paper. Today, I’m recording this episode inside that house. I’m also celebrating the release of Unblocked. Another dream I had to move toward before I knew how it would turn out. Through the stories of our home, our pool, my book, and my daughter’s move to the Netherlands, I’m sharing what changes when you stop treating your desire like a distant possibility. You don’t attract what you want. You become available to it. Inside this episode: The difference between hoping for something and deciding.How a decision changes your questions, conversations, and actions.Why the next step often appears before the whole plan.The cost of pushing through something you’re not aligned with.What our children learn from watching us pursue our dreams.Why fear and pride can exist in the same moment.What being unblocked means beyond the book.This conversation also makes room for an important truth: hardship is not proof of failed alignment. Illness, loss, and painful experiences are not your fault because your “frequency was off.” You can choose differently without blaming yourself for everything you’ve lived through. Your invitation this week Name the thing you want. The one that feels a little embarrassing to say out loud. What would your next step look like as a woman who has decided? Get the book: UNBLOCKED Unblocked: See It. Shift It. Become Magnetic. helps you recognize the identity patterns beneath your thoughts, reactions, and choices. Through Awareness, Alignment, and Abundance, you’ll learn to trust yourself and practice choosing differently. UNBLOCKED BOOK LINK: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HKTDL53L UNBLOCKED INTEGRATION JOURNAL LINK: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HM43TY8P Explore the book and its companion, The Unblocked Integration Journal, here: https://amysanders.co/book Read it. Share it with a woman who needs it. Leave an honest review to help this work reach more women. About Amy Sanders Amy Sanders is a master-certified life coach, author, entrepreneur, and identity coach for ambitious women. With more than 20 years of experience, she helps women recognize the patterns shaping their lives, relationships, and businesses. Her work includes The Unblocked Method™, The Mirror™, and The Unblocked Woman Collective™. Each offers a path toward greater awareness, self-trust, and aligned action. Work with Amy Explore coaching, The Unblocked Method™, and The Collective: https://amysanders.co/work-with-amy See your patterns with The Mirror™: https://amysanders.co/the-mirror Connect with Amy Website: https://amysanders.co Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.amysanders/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/itsamysanders/

  5. Sep 29

    174: The Dream I Hid for 8 Years

    In 2018, I told my husband I wanted to write a book. We were alone on a hike in Singapore. My hands were shaking. I could barely say it out loud to the person who loved me most. Then came the questions. Who am I to write a book? What would I even say? What if people read it and decide I’m wrong about my own life? I didn’t go home and start writing. Life was messy. I kept coaching women, studying human behavior, building my work, and living through experiences I hadn’t yet learned how to put into words. I also wrote chapters for three anthologies. Each one gave me a little more evidence that I could share my story. Now my solo book, UNBLOCKED, is coming out. I thought the hardest part would be writing it. Turns out, I could have edited it forever. There was always one more sentence to fix and one more story to soften. At some point, editing became a way to hide. In this episode, I’m sharing what happened between that shaky conversation in 2018 and the decision to let the book go. I talk about the old identity I carried into a new life, the fear of being seen, and why you don’t have to feel like the woman who can hold your dream before you take one step toward it. I also share how UNBLOCKED and The Unblocked Integration Journal work together. The book helps you see your patterns. The journal helps you practice choosing differently. In this episode: Why it took me eight years to write the book I wanted How an old identity can keep running a life that has already changed What writing for three anthologies taught me about using my voice How I caught myself using perfectionism to delay being seen One question to ask when a dream still scares you Before you finish listening, name the thing you keep talking yourself out of. Notice what shows up right after you say it. You don’t have to make the fear disappear. What’s one response you could take that would give you evidence you can hold what you want? UNBLOCKED comes out October 6. If you named your dream while listening, DM me. I would love to hear it. Get the book and journal: https://amysanders.co/book Explore Amy’s work: The Mirror™: https://amysanders.co/the-mirror The Unblocked Women Collective™: https://amysanders.co/the-collective Connect with Amy: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.amysanders/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/itsamysanders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachamysanders/ Website: https://amysanders.co/

  6. Sep 22

    173: What If You Just Asked? The Scary Ask That Could Change Your Life with Patty Aubery

    How many times have you talked yourself out of asking for what you wanted because you were already convinced the answer would be no? You decided you weren’t ready. You told yourself you hadn’t earned it. You assumed someone would notice your work and offer you the opportunity without you ever having to say a word. Look, I get it. Speaking up can feel terrifying, especially when you’ve spent years being the woman behind the scenes. In this episode of The Unblocked Woman, I’m talking with Patty Aubery, a powerhouse speaker, bestselling author, and transformational coach who knows exactly what it means to stop hiding and give yourself permission to be seen. Patty began her career as a secretary for Jack Canfield. Within months, she had reorganized the business and named herself vice president of operations. She later became president of the company and spent decades helping build Chicken Soup for the Soul into a billion-dollar brand. She co-authored 14 Chicken Soup for the Soul books, including three New York Times bestsellers. One of her books had one million copies in its first print run. But none of it would have happened if Patty hadn’t made one big, scary ask. That’s what hit me during this conversation. The opportunity that feels enormous to you may not feel enormous to the person receiving the request. Sometimes, the rejection you’re trying to avoid hasn’t even happened. You simply removed yourself from the room before anyone else could answer. Patty also opens up about the years she spent helping other people become visible while staying safely behind the scenes herself. Her mother’s final words changed that: “I did not raise a daughter to be invisible.” Today, Patty helps women show up, speak up, and be seen. She brings real strategy, decades of experience, hard-earned wisdom, and the loving kick in the pants we sometimes need. In this episode, we talk about: The bold decision that changed Patty’s career What it took to build Chicken Soup for the Soul before the success arrived Why women take themselves out of the game before anyone says no The hidden cost of waiting for people to recognize your value Why copying someone else’s success can leave your work feeling flat The difference between buying another strategy and becoming the woman who can carry the vision Why asking for help gives someone else the opportunity to contribute What it really means to tell the truth faster Being an unblocked woman doesn’t mean fear disappears. It means you stop letting fear make every decision. Do the scary thing. Make the ask. Say what you actually want. The answer might change your life. About Patty Patty Aubery is a powerhouse speaker, bestselling author, and transformational coach. She spent decades behind the scenes helping build Chicken Soup for the Soul into a billion-dollar brand. She co-authored multiple New York Times bestsellers and helped shape a movement that reached millions of people. Today, Patty helps women stop hiding, start speaking, and give themselves full permission to be seen, heard, and fully expressed. Her work combines practical strategy, hard-earned wisdom, and honest encouragement for women ready to rewrite their stories and step into leadership. Connect with Patty Website: https://www.pattyaubery.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theselfhelpgrandma/ Facebook: https://web.facebook.com/PattyAuberyOfficial/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pattyaubery/ Email: patty@pattyaubery.com

    173: What If You Just Asked? The Scary Ask That Could Change Your Life with Patty Aubery

  7. Sep 15

    172: Why You Keep Becoming The Same Version of You

    You can know better and still keep doing the same thing. You can know you need to set the boundary and still say yes. Know you don’t need another opinion and still ask five people. Know you’re capable and still overthink the decision. Know you need support and still insist on doing everything yourself. Why? Because knowing better and being patterned differently are two completely different things. In this episode, I’m breaking down The Loop™—the identity pattern that explains why we can keep recreating familiar results even when we consciously want something different. I’ll walk you through: The Loop™: Experience → Meaning → Response → Result → Reinforcement How The Default Loop™ keeps reinforcing who you’ve learned to be How The Aligned Loop™ helps you create evidence for who you’re becoming Why your identity influences the meaning you give an experience The “See? I knew it” moment that quietly reinforces old patterns Why changing your identity takes more than positive thinking or affirmations How to interrupt the Loop without needing to fully believe the new identity yet Real-life examples around self-trust, people-pleasing, boundaries, visibility, business, perfectionism, receiving, and success The one question that can help you catch the pattern in real time: Which identity is running the Loop? Here’s the biggest thing I want you to take from this episode: The woman you’re becoming needs evidence, not just affirmations. Every time you choose an aligned response—even while the old fear, guilt, or uncertainty is still there—you create another piece of evidence for who you’re becoming. You don’t have to change everything at once. See the Loop. Interrupt the Loop. Align the Loop. One rep at a time. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/its.amysanders/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/itsamysanders/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachamysanders/ Website: https://amysanders.co/ Explore Amy's Work: The Mirror™: https://amysanders.co/the-mirror The Unblocked Women Collective™: https://amysanders.co/the-collective The Unblocked Woman™: https://amysanders.co/the-unblocked-woman

  8. Sep 8

    171: You Didn’t Choose This. But You Choose What Happens Next.

    There are things in life you never would have chosen. The betrayal. The divorce. The diagnosis. The loss. The way someone treated you. The decision someone else made that changed the direction of your life. Taking responsibility for your life does not mean taking responsibility for everything that has happened to you. Some things were unfair. Some things hurt deeply. Some things changed your life through no choice of your own. But eventually, there is another question. What am I going to do now? In this episode, I’m sharing a conversation I had with one of my oldest friends that made me think differently about responsibility, patterns, and personal power. Two people can go through hard things and tell themselves completely different stories about what those experiences mean. One story says, “Look at what I’ve survived. Look at what I’ve learned. What can I choose from here?” Another says, “Why does this always happen to me?” Neither erases what happened. But the story you repeat can begin shaping the choices you make next. That is where patterns start. Choice becomes repetition. Repetition becomes pattern. Patterns, when practiced long enough, can start to feel like identity. And eventually, you can stop realizing you are choosing any of it at all. This is why awareness matters so much. The second you can see the pattern, you reopen the possibility of choice. This episode is not about pretending everything happens for a reason. It is not about blaming yourself for what someone else did. It is about asking a different question: What is actually mine now? Your boundary. Your response. Your standards. The help you ask for. The truth you finally admit. Your next decision. Sometimes taking your power back is not a huge, dramatic move. It might be telling someone you are not okay. It might be asking for help. It might be choosing not to send the text you know you will regret tomorrow. It might be saying, “I have no freaking idea what I’m doing, but I know I can’t keep doing this.” That still counts. In this episode, I talk about: • The difference between blame and responsibility • How repeated choices become patterns • Why awareness gives you access to choice again • What it means to identify what is actually yours • How to stop letting an old pattern choose for you • Why small choices still build personal power • The question that helped me through some of my hardest moments I also walk you through a simple exercise. Make two columns. On one side, write: What isn’t mine to control. On the other: What is mine to choose. You cannot control what someone says about you. You can choose whether you engage. You cannot control whether someone understands you. You can choose how you show up. You cannot change what happened five years ago. You can notice what you are allowing today because of it. Then ask yourself: What pattern wants to choose for me here? What am I choosing that keeps creating more of what I say I don’t want? What choice will I respect a year from now? You do not have to solve your entire life today. Find the choice that is actually available to you today. A Line to Sit With: “I may not have chosen how I got here, but I am here, and I don’t have to keep choosing what keeps me here.” Your life is not only the sum of what has happened to you. It is also the sum of what you choose in response. You may not get to choose every circumstance. But you still get to choose who you become inside of it. Connect with Amy: Instagram: @its.amysanders LinkedIn: Amy Sanders Facebook: Coach Amy Sanders Explore Amy’s work: The Unblocked Woman Collective™ The Mirror™ The Unblocked Method™ See It. Shift It. Become Magnetic.

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The Unblocked Woman is for high-capacity women who know better and still catch themselves doing the same thing. Again. I'm Amy Sanders, master-certified coach, best-selling author, and creator of The Unblocked Method. Every week we go underneath the pattern: the overthinking, the proving, the saying yes when you meant no. No fluff. No pretending the work is easy. You're not broken. You're patterned. And patterns can change. New here? Start with The Mirror at amysanders.co. My book, UNBLOCKED, is out now.

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