V.&Me: Vaginismus - Let's name it not shame it

Audrey Cairo
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  • SEXUALITY

"Hey, your first time might hurt a bit" might be one of the few things that has been said to you before you had penetrative sex. But what happens when things don't go to plan and it keeps hurting? Or what if your V.(agina) simply says "Hell No"? After having been challenged by vaginismus herself, professional coach Audrey Cairo decided to combine her personal and professional experience to empower women who are being challenged by these conditions. In the V.&Me Podcast series you will join her and her brave guests in real open and honest conversations of how vaginismus or other V. challenges has effected them so far. Connect with host on insta @letscallherv, coaching@audreycairo.com or find more V.&Me support on www.audreycairo.com/vandmeDo you wish to support the podcast?https://buymeacoffee.com/v.andmepodcast

  1. APR 29

    Vulvodynia - When sex hurts - in conversation with Dr. Caroline Pukall

    Join V.&Me in conversation with the wonderful Dr Caroline Pukall, one of the co‑authors of When Sex Hurts and an internationally recognised expert in genito‑pelvic pain. While V.&Me has primarily focused on vaginismus, this conversation widens the lens to explore vulvodynia, a chronic pain condition affecting the vulva that is often misunderstood, under‑diagnosed, and closely intertwined with other sexual pain conditions. With her wealth of knowledge, Caroline helps us understand what vulvodynia is, potential risk factors, available treatments, and how it relates to vaginismus. This conversation is essential listening for anyone experiencing pain involving their V, or for those looking to better understand their body and advocate for their own care. So make yourself comfortable, or take us along on a walk, and join Caroline and me as we discuss all things related to our V. ** mentioned in the podcast  Sexlab:  https://www.sexlab.ca/ If you like to participate in one of Sexlab's research, please know that they are currentlty recruiting participants related to provoked vestibulodynia and a vaginismus study (called Chestnut), find more details on  https://www.sexlab.ca/participate Books: When Sex Hurts: Understanding and Healing Pelvic Pain Human Sexuality: A Contemporary Introduction Email Caroline: pukallc@queensu.ca Socials media:  Bluesky: @QSexLab  Instagram & TikTok: qsexlab Facebook: /sexlab.ca What did you think of this podcast? Click here to let the host know :) Support the show Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible.  For information about V.&Me coaching www.audreycairo.com/vandme

    1h 15m

  2. 11/05/2025

    Vaginismus - How Virgin Island changed my life.

    Join V.&Me in conversation with the brave Pia James. When Pia felt that vaginismus was holding her back she decided to try something different.  Together with 11 other courageous adults she signed up to join the British reality show Virgin Island (Channel 4) where she embarked on an intimacy course that would change her life. In this episode Pia shares her journey to self compassion, confidence, and her experience on this unique show.  So make yourself comfortable (or listen to us while doing the dishes) and join Pia and I for an open and honest conversation about vaginismus, Virgin Island, kinks, and more.  ** mentioned in the podcast Pia James  Instagram - @_piajames Virgin Island - https://www.channel4.com/programmes/virgin-island  The clock method according to googligoo -  " The clock method for vaginismus is a technique that uses a clock face to visualize and apply gentle pressure around the vaginal opening to help with relaxation and insertion." For more information contact a medical professional or pelvic floor therapist. What did you think of this podcast? Click here to let the host know :) Support the show Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible.  For information about V.&Me coaching www.audreycairo.com/vandme

    1h 16m

  3. 08/09/2024

    Vaginismus – Strong foundation and why pelvic health matters – in conversation with Clare Bourne, Pelvic Health Physiotherapist

    Join V.&Me in conversation with the experienced Pelvic Health Physiotherapist Clare Bourne. With a real passion to break down barriers Clare supports both women and men throughout on their pelvic health journey. With her wealth of knowledge we discuss the importance of our pelvic floor in relation to vaginismus, the do's and don'ts with dilating and her book ‘Strong Foundations.’  If there is one episode you need to hear then it's this one! So please make yourself comfortable (or take us with you out for your walk) and join Clare and I while we discuss all things related to vaginismus and our pelvic floor.    ** mentioned in the podcast  https://www.clare-bourne.com/  (Find her book through her website)   What did you think of this podcast? Click here to let the host know :) Support the show Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible.  For information about V.&Me coaching www.audreycairo.com/vandme

    46 min

  4. 05/31/2024

    Vaginismus - Closing the information gap - in conversation with Kate Moyle, Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist

    Join V.&Me in conversation with the experienced Psychosexual & relationship therapist Kate Moyle. With over 10 years working in the field of Psychosexual Therapy and Sexual Wellness,  talking about vaginismus is a big part of Kate's job. With her wealth of knowledge  we discuss many great topics such as dating and relationships with vaginismus, to what to expect when seeing a psychosexual therapist, her book ' The Science of Sex,' and much more. So please make yourself comfortable (or take us with you out for your walk) and join Kate and I while we discuss all things related to vaginismus and more. ** mentioned in the podcast www.katemoyle.co.uk Book - the Science of Sex -  https://www.katemoyle.co.uk/book Podcast - The Sexual Wellness podcast - https://www.katemoyle.co.uk/podcast Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible. For information about V.&Me coaching www.audreycairo.com/vandme What did you think of this podcast? Click here to let the host know :) Support the show Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible.  For information about V.&Me coaching www.audreycairo.com/vandme

    1h 3m

  5. 05/10/2024

    Vaginismus - Normalizing the conversation - In talks with Dr. Sesay

    Join V.&Me in conversation with Dr. Aziza Sesay. As our doctors or general practitioners (GP's) are our first point of contact for any medical conditions, Dr. Sesay knows as no other the importance of her role. With a passion to inform and support, she runs a platform  called 'Talks with  Dr. Sesay'  sharing health information about common conditions on a variety conditions specifically in womens health. In this episode we have an open and honest  discussion about her own experience and her findings as a GP, and gives helpful tips of how to best prepare when seeing a health professional. So please make yourself comfortable (or take us out for a walk), and join Dr. Aziza Sesay and I while we reflect and get real about vaginismus and much more. Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible. **mentioned in the podcast Talks with Dr. Sesay - https://www.talkswithdrsesay.com/ College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists - https://www.cosrt.org.uk/ Institute of Psychosexual Medicine - https://www.ipm.org.uk/  What did you think of this podcast? Click here to let the host know :) Support the show Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible.  For information about V.&Me coaching www.audreycairo.com/vandme

    1h 3m

  6. 04/26/2024

    Vaginismus - Seeking help and your sense of self - In conversation with Rashmi Pithavadian, Health Researcher

    Join V.&Me in conversation with Rashmi Pithavadian.   As a Health Sociologist and Health researcher, Rashmi has a real passion to support others to find the help they need.  Wanting to address a gap within the field, she made vaginismus her specialist area and dedicated her MRes and PhD researching vaginismus and help seeking.  In  this episode we discuss her findings on vaginismus, help seeking and the relationship to the sense of self. So please make yourself comfortable (or take us out on your walk) and join Rashmi and I while we are curious and reflect on all things related to vaginismus and finding support.  Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible.    **mentioned in the podcast Links to vaginismus related articles: Pithavadian, R., Dune, T. & Chalmers, J. (2024). Patients’ recommendations to improve help-seeking for vaginismus: a qualitative study. BMC Women's Health, 24(203). https://doi.org/10.1186/s12905-024-03026-x  Pithavadian, R., Chalmers, J., & Dune, T. (2023). The experiences of women seeking help for vaginismus and its impact on their sense of self: An integrative review. Women’s Health, 19. https://doi.org/10.1177/17455057231199383 Link to Rashmi’s website coming soon   What did you think of this podcast? Click here to let the host know :) Support the show Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible.  For information about V.&Me coaching www.audreycairo.com/vandme

    1h 7m

  7. 04/12/2024

    Your Pelvic Floor - in conversation with Kim Vopni

    Join V.&Me in conversation with Kim Vopni.  With a real passion for all topics related to our pelvic health, Kim is a women's health educator, author, and fitness professional better known as 'The Vagina Coach.'   As the pelvic floor is a set of muscles we shouldn't take for granted, in this episode we make a start to get to know the important part it plays in our health. So please make yourself comfortable (or take us with you while doing your chores) and join Kim and I while we are curious and reflect on all things related to our V's and our pelvic floor. Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to  like, share & subscribe where possible. **mentioned in the podcast www.vaginacoach.com Social media Kim Vopni - @vaginacoach Book: Your Pelvic Floor (https://www.vaginacoach.com/books) What did you think of this podcast? Click here to let the host know :) Support the show Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible.  For information about V.&Me coaching www.audreycairo.com/vandme

    1h 14m

  8. 03/06/2022

    Vaginismus - My protector

    Join V.&Me in conversation with the brave Georgina.  Suffering from PTSD after an abusive relationship, vaginismus took on a different meaning but the pandemic allowed Georgina to stand still and learn of how to put herself first again. In this episode Georgina takes the courageous step to share her story after years of living in fear of what might happen when she would open up. So hear her story and join us for another open and honest conversation about vaginismus and more. Don't forget to like or rate  where possible or follow @letscallherv  on instagram. **mentioned in the podcast CBT -  https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral or https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/talking-therapies-medicine-treatments/talking-therapies-and-counselling/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-cbt/overview/ V.&Me Group Coaching - https://www.audreycairo.com/vandme What did you think of this podcast? Click here to let the host know :) Support the show Follow V.&Me on insta @letscallherv and don't forget to like, share & subscribe where possible.  For information about V.&Me coaching www.audreycairo.com/vandme

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"Hey, your first time might hurt a bit" might be one of the few things that has been said to you before you had penetrative sex. But what happens when things don't go to plan and it keeps hurting? Or what if your V.(agina) simply says "Hell No"? After having been challenged by vaginismus herself, professional coach Audrey Cairo decided to combine her personal and professional experience to empower women who are being challenged by these conditions. In the V.&Me Podcast series you will join her and her brave guests in real open and honest conversations of how vaginismus or other V. challenges has effected them so far. Connect with host on insta @letscallherv, coaching@audreycairo.com or find more V.&Me support on www.audreycairo.com/vandmeDo you wish to support the podcast?https://buymeacoffee.com/v.andmepodcast

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