When a team member is condescending, rude, or dismissive in meetings, most leaders hope it will blow over. It rarely does. Left alone, this behavior chips away at trust, silences good ideas, and creates a toxic workplace where people stop speaking up. In this episode of the Boss Better Now podcast, Joe Mull takes on one of the toughest parts of dealing with difficult employees: how to coach someone whose behavior makes others feel small. Joe walks through his Feedback Stack, a simple way of giving feedback to employees that names the specific behavior, explains its impact, and turns the talk into a two-way conversation. He explains how to tell a one-time slip from an ongoing pattern, how to respond when someone says "that's not what I meant," and how to use your organization's core values to hold people accountable. He also covers when to step in on the spot, how to coach team members to stand up for themselves when the person is a peer, and why keeping people safe at work may be a leader's most important job. In this episode, you'll learn: 🔹 Why words like "rude" and "mean" backfire, and how to describe specific behaviors people can't argue with. 🔹 How to use the Feedback Stack: say what happened, share the impact, and ask "Can you help me understand what that was about?" 🔹 How to acknowledge someone's intent while keeping the focus on the impact of their behavior. 🔹 How to tell when a private conversation is enough, and when the behavior needs to be addressed in the meeting itself. 🔹 How a simple "thank you" email documents the conversation and protects you if the behavior happens again. 🔹 How to change the story you tell yourself so tough conversations feel like a source of pride instead of dread. This episode is for managers, supervisors, and leaders who want practical ways to deal with difficult employees and toxic coworkers, stop workplace bullying before it spreads, and build a respectful culture where everyone feels safe to contribute. To subscribe to Joe Mull’s BossBetter Email newsletter, visit https://BossBetterNow.com For more info on working with Joe Mull, visit https://joemull.com For more info on Boss Hero School, visit https://bossheroschool.com To email the podcast, use bossbetternow@gmail.com #leadership #management #toxicworkculture #teambuilding #workplaceculture #conflictmanagement #employeeengagement #motivation Joe Mull is on a mission to help leaders and business owners create the conditions where commitment takes root and the entire workplace thrives. A dynamic and deeply relatable speaker, Joe combines compelling research, magnetic storytelling, and practical strategies to show exactly how to cultivate loyalty, ignite effort, and build people-first workplaces where both performance and morale flourish. His message is clear: when commitment is activated, engagement rises, teams gel, retention improves, and business outcomes soar. Joe is the founder of Boss Hero School™ and the creator of the acclaimed Employalty™ framework, a roadmap for creating thriving workplaces in a new era of work. He’s the author of three books, including Employalty, named a top business book of the year by Publisher’s Weekly, and his popular podcast, Boss Better Now, ranks in the top 1% of management shows globally. A former head of learning and development at one of the largest healthcare systems in the U.S., Joe has spent nearly two decades equipping leaders—from Fortune 500 companies like State Farm, Siemens, and Choice Hotels to hospitals, agencies, and small firms—with the tools to lead better, inspire commitment, and build more humane workplace cultures. His insights have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Harvard Business Review, and more. In 2025, Joe was inducted into the Professional Speakers Hall of Fame (CPAE). This is the speaking profession’s highest honor, a distinction granted to less than 1% of professional speakers worldwide. It’s awarded to speakers who demonstrate exceptional talent, integrity, and influence in the speaking profession. For more information visit joemull.com. Timestamps 00:00:00 Dealing With the Workplace Bully 00:02:20 Why Leaders Cannot Ignore Unsafe Workplace Behavior 00:03:28 Assessing Condescending Coworker Patterns Versus Outliers 00:05:07 Defining Specific Actions to Prevent Employee Defensiveness 00:06:56 Using the Feedback Stack Conversation Framework 00:08:39 Addressing Employee Intent Versus Harmful Impact 00:11:18 Tying Bad Behavior Back to Company Core Values 00:15:08 Documenting Manager Conversations With Follow Up Emails 00:16:52 The Escalation Path for Repeat Problematic Behavior 00:19:08 Handling Egregious Employee Actions in Real Time 00:22:22 Coaching Timid Team Members to Set Personal Boundaries 00:23:59 Summary of Tactics for Handling Rude Coworkers 00:25:15 Embracing the Discomfort of Leadership Conversations 00:26:19 Event Updates From Des Moines and Jackson Hole Wyoming 00:28:46 Booking Leadership Keynotes for 2027