Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One

Kim Vollendorf
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An enjoyable, lasting marriage is rare. If you hope to have one someday, this podcast is for you. Based on her book, "Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One," Kim continues the discussion alongside her younger co-host Adrienne & their wise, insightful guests. Learn about choices you can make now to flourish during your single years & increase your odds for an enjoyable, lasting marriage later!

  1. FEB 10

    Your Single Choices Don't Stay Single

    #168 It's easy to think your single years are just something to get through--but what if they're actually shaping your future marriage right now? In this episode, Kim is joined by Kinsey and Fisher for a candid conversation about the habits, boundaries, and spiritual decisions they made before marriage--and how those choices are paying off today. Together, they talk about discipleship, dating with clarity, growing in faith, and the ways God uses singleness to prepare us for what's next. If you've ever wondered whether your daily choices actually matter, this conversation will remind you: they do. Resources mentioned in this episode: Kinsey's episode #148Fisher's episode #99Processing Your Emotions #147Starting Over in Purity #104Do You Have a Spiritual Mentor? #59Money 101 #45Let's Talk Money #9 For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. Please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

    51 min

  2. JAN 27

    Your Single Season Is Doing More Than You Realize (ft. Adrienne + Leah)

    #167 This episode marks the beginning of our sunset season—and what better way to begin than with the voices who helped start it all. In this conversation, Kim is joined by the original co-hosts, Adrienne and Leah, and we reflect on what God has done through Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One over the past five years. Together, we look back with gratitude and talk honestly about what they’re especially thankful they invested in during their single years—and how that faithfulness is bearing fruit now in marriage and motherhood. From discipleship and work ethic to physical health, waiting, finances, and counseling, this episode grounds the message of the podcast in lived wisdom. It’s a reminder that the choices you make in singleness—especially the unseen ones—are never wasted. As we step into this final season together, Kim's hope is that these conversations help you carry what matters most forward with peace, trust, and hope for what God has ahead. Resources mentioned in this episode: Leah's episodes: #3, #110, Leah's episode on emotions: #147 Courtney's episode: #129 Adrienne's episodes: #28, #112, Money episodes: #9, #9B, #9C, #45, Sam's episode on gossip #32 Jena's episode on contentment: #53 Cat's episode on waiting: #71 For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. Here's the Amazon link for the book: https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Your-Husband-Before-Even/dp/196280254X/ref=monarch_sidesheet_title Instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

    37 min

  3. JAN 13

    Three Kinds of Love Every Woman Should Know

    #166 With Valentine's Day around the corner, this felt like the perfect time to bring back one of the most foundational episodes from the early days of the podcast. In this conversation, Kim and OG co-host Adrienne talk about the difference between love-if, love-because, and love-regardless--and why understanding true love can protect your heart from relationships built on feelings alone. This message changed the trajectory of Kim's life as a college student, and she still believes it's one every woman needs to hear. Kim and Adrienne are joined by special guest Steve Shadrach, who shares wisdom from the Bible study that helped shape Kim's understanding of real, lasting love. Whether you're single, dating, or just reflecting during Valentine's season, this episode is worth a listen (or re-listen). Get your copy of the book that started this podcast at https://amzn.to/4qrBRBZ For more information about the podcast, please visit https://www.kimvollendorf.com

    38 min

  4. 12/30/2025

    2025's Most Popular Episode

    #165 As 2025 comes to a close, we thought we'd revisit our favorite episode from the year. You guys loved it when Danny was a guest this summer! In Episode #153, he sat down with us to talk about patience. What does it look like to wait well--not just in dating, but in every area of life?How do we trust God when His timing feels frustrating or unclear?You'll hear real-life encouragement, a few honest struggles, and some Biblical wisdom that will help you stay grounded in seasons of waiting--all from a guy's point of view! Resources mentioned in this episode: Episode #66 Four Reasons Why He's Not Asking You OutThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark ComerLoving Your Husband Before You Even Have One Bookkimvollendorf.com

    39 min

  5. 12/16/2025

    Reading the Bible: A Rhythym That Shapes Your Love, Your Faith, and Your Future

    #164 What does reading the Bible have to do with singleness, relationships, and a future marriage? More than you might think. In this episode, Kim is joined by co-hosts Jena and Charlotte to talk about one of the most formative rhythms of the Christian life: reading God’s Word. Together, they share their personal experiences with reading through the Bible—what they loved, what felt hard, what kept them coming back—and why this habit has shaped the way they see God, themselves, love, and marriage. If you’ve ever felt intimidated by the Bible, fallen behind on a reading plan, or wondered whether reading the Bible “really makes a difference,” this conversation is for you. We talk honestly about common struggles (hello, Leviticus 😅), give practical tips for building consistency without guilt, and remind you that the goal isn’t perfection—it’s relationship. We’ll also invite you to read through the Bible with us in 2026 using The Bible Recap, and we’ll show you exactly how to join us so you don’t have to do it alone. Whether you’re single, married, brand new to the Bible, or coming back after a break, this episode will encourage you to open God’s Word with fresh confidence—and maybe even excitement. Because loving your husband before you even have one starts with knowing the God who designed love in the first place. Resources mentioned in this episode: To read the Bible with us: 1. Download the Bible app--> https://www.bible.com/ 2. Click on the link below to join our group: Would you read the Bible Plan, The Bible Recap With Tara-Leigh Cobble, with me? 3.Any problems joining the group? Just email Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com For more information about the Bible app and for other reading plan ideas go to https://www.bible.com/ For more information about The Bible Recap go to https://www.thebiblerecap.com/start For more information about the podcast, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. If you are interested in getting a new copy of the book Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One, please use this link on Amazon-->https://www.amazon.com/Loving-Your-Husband-Before-Even/dp/196280254X/ref=monarch_sidesheet_title To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

    38 min

  6. 12/02/2025

    Breaking the "Do Better" Cycle: From Religion to Relationship

    #163 Are you tired of the Christian “try harder” cycle—be consistent, fall off, feel guilty, reset, repeat? You’re not alone. And Jesus never meant for your relationship with Him to feel like that. In this episode, Charlotte and Kim talk with Baylor StuMo staffer Kenzie, who shares why so many young women misunderstand the Christian life… and how Jesus offers something far better than spiritual perfectionism. If you’ve ever wondered why your walk with God feels stuck, this conversation will set your heart free. Resources mentioned in this episode: Episode #54 The Best News EverEpisode #146 Celebrating 40 Years: An Honest Chat with Kim about Faith, Relationships, and Finishing Strong For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

    42 min

  7. 11/18/2025

    Gratitude: The Glow-Up That Gets Noticed

    #162 One of the most powerful choices you can make while you’re single is to invest in who you’re becoming. There are some things you can't change about yourself—but with God’s help, you can grow your character. And here’s the truth: you can fake character on a date, but you can’t fake it in marriage. With Thanksgiving just around the corner, we’re bringing back a favorite episode all about cultivating gratitude—a habit that shapes your heart, your relationships, and your future marriage. The entire podcast crew (including Leah!) is here to share real-life stories, practical tips, and biblical insights on how to grow a genuinely thankful heart. If you’ve been feeling spiritually stagnant, easily frustrated, or just craving a reset heading into the holidays, this episode will help you shift your mindset and your mood. Listen in and start becoming the woman your future husband will thank God for. Resources mentioned in this episode: Char's Roommate's Gratitude JournalRevive Our Hearts website30-day Gratitude ChallengeChoosing Gratitude by Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠. To learn more about Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders To fill out an interest form for Downline, visit https://www.downlinememphis.com/emerging-leaders-interest-form For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

    34 min

  8. 11/04/2025

    When God Becomes Enough: Lessons on Security, Success, and Surrender

    #161 Haley joins Kim and Jena for a powerful conversation about what it means to feel secure — not in your job, your health, your accomplishments, or your relationship status — but in Christ alone. With honesty and humor, Haley shares how God met her in the middle of achievement, illness, and change, proving that His presence is more satisfying than anything the world promises. Resources mentioned in this episode: None Like Him by Jen WilkinIn His Image by Jen WilkinThe Bible RecapFor more information about the ABC bookmarks, please reach out to Kim at kim@kimvollendorf.com. For more information about the podcast and the Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One book, please visit ⁠www.kimvollendorf.com⁠ and Amazon.com. Please note: The book is currently transitioning between publishers. If it isn't available yet, please continue to check back. It will be available soon. To learn more about StuMo, visit https://www.stumo.org/ For video clips from this episode, please visit our instagram page ⁠@sixonesis⁠ Thanks for listening!

    46 min
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An enjoyable, lasting marriage is rare. If you hope to have one someday, this podcast is for you. Based on her book, "Loving Your Husband Before You Even Have One," Kim continues the discussion alongside her younger co-host Adrienne & their wise, insightful guests. Learn about choices you can make now to flourish during your single years & increase your odds for an enjoyable, lasting marriage later!

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