Sad Intellectual Hotties

Cassandra Vitale and Apocalypsis Anderson
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Sex, Relationships, Spirituality, Kink and Finding Your Way (in a sadness-inducing Postmodern world).

  1. Conflict and Confrontation in Interpersonal Relationships: The Art of Rupture and Repair

    10/30/2021

    Conflict and Confrontation in Interpersonal Relationships: The Art of Rupture and Repair

    How do you handle (or dismiss) conflict in your relationships?  Conflict gets a bad rap!  Some avoid it, others generate it needlessly, and precious few understand its vital role when handled skillfully—conflict is the royal road to understanding and deeper intimacy.  Listen to the hotties break down conflict and confrontation, what drives both avoidance and shit-stirring, the middle path, choosing your battles, and how mastering the repeated process of rupture and repair strengthens all of your relationships.

    1h 11m

  2. 08/31/2021

    You're Not An Empath: Why Sensing Emotions is Not A Special Gift and Other Empathy Myths

    There's a lot of talk on the internet about Empaths vs. Narcissists. The common discussion revolves around the special and blameless Empath being the "good" partner who has been abused and prayed upon by the terrible "Narcissist." TRUTH BOMBS GALORE in this episode. You're likely NOT an empath. You're likely not as special as you think you are. You're likely a person who grew up in a household where you needed to be especially tuned into the feelings of the people around you--especially your caregivers. This is less a special gift and more a trauma response and adaptive behavior that kept you alive. Unfortunately it causes all kinds of relationship problems and codependency and unsatisfactory relationships. We break it all down.

    1h 4m
  3. They're Probably Not a Narcissist: Narcissism Myth + Reality

    08/15/2021

    They're Probably Not a Narcissist: Narcissism Myth + Reality

    Apoc and Cassandra talk about what narcissism is and what it is isn't. We debunk myths and bring nuance to the conversation around pop-psychology and the discussion around narcissism. We outline: How to find out if someone is, how to find out if you're high in narcissism, what to do about it.

    1h 27m
  4. Growth + Grief: The Eternal Love Affair of Pain and Pleasure

    07/15/2021

    Growth + Grief: The Eternal Love Affair of Pain and Pleasure

    The Hotties are often plagued with despair and the grief ever present in all of life. Apoc and Cassandra have a bunch of life transitions happening (listen to find out what's up.) They spend this episode waxing philosophical about love, life, grief, dying and how to engage in the growth process while experiencing grief, celebrating wins and all the in-betweens.

    41 min
  5. Reparative Role Playing: Conscious Attraction and Attachment

    06/29/2021

    Reparative Role Playing: Conscious Attraction and Attachment

    When people unconsciously get into familial role dynamics such as mother-son, father-daughter and rescuer-victim, it can become trauma bonding, replaying of past hurts, never satisfying and it causes resentment and kills sex drives. Apoc and Cassandra outline how to turn these often unconscious trauma bonds into conscious and reparative relationships that promote secure attachment and exciting attraction.

    30 min
  6. When Radical Relationships Come Full Circle: Polyamory as the New Neighborhood and Community

    06/09/2021

    When Radical Relationships Come Full Circle: Polyamory as the New Neighborhood and Community

    Postmodern urban life has effectively dissolved the neighborhood community and village scenario that was once the human norm. The atomization of the nuclear family creates isolation for coupled people. There seems to be a new interest in polyamorous lifestyles--people are craving more intimacy. But is it really sex people are craving or is it something else? We think it's just community and intimate friendships--and yes, sometimes sex!

    51 min
  7. Less Sex, Bad Sex in a "Sex Positive" Culture: Sex in the Age of Risk Management

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    Less Sex, Bad Sex in a "Sex Positive" Culture: Sex in the Age of Risk Management

    People are having less sex than ever even though we are supposedly more sex positive than ever. Apoc and Cassandra discuss two articles, "Sex Negative Society by Jacob Falkovich https://quillette.com/2021/05/13/the-sex-negative-society/ and The New Yorker's book review on “Tomorrow Sex Will Be Good Again: Women and Desire in the Age of Consent,” Katherine Angel https://www.newyorker.com/books/under-review/the-politics-of-bad-sex Sex is less frequent and naturally with less practice comes less skill which can lead to a bad time.

    38 min
  8. Chasing the High: The Perils of Making Your Romantic Partner a Drug

    05/16/2021

    Chasing the High: The Perils of Making Your Romantic Partner a Drug

    So many people cannot keep relationships, jump from relationship to relationship, or end up very dissatisfied in their long term relationships because the whole thing isn't just one big peak experience. People chase that new relationship energy high and they stop being present and become quickly unhappy and the relationship doesn't work or dissolves.

    48 min
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  • Creator
    Cassandra Vitale and Apocalypsis Anderson
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
    15
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