Dad Smarter Not Harder

Jun Loayza
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Jun Loayza becomes a human guinea pig, putting his parenting life in full display with the goal of helping others learn from his parenting mistakes. Let's grow together and become the best fathers that we can be.

  1. 10/03/2023

    Turn a spousal fight into a positive

    When unexpected challenges arise in our household, like our daughter accidentally having an accident in her room, it's easy for tensions to rise. But what if we could turn these moments into valuable lessons for our children? In this video, I share a personal experience where my wife was on the verge of exploding with frustration. Instead of adding fuel to the fire, I chose a different approach: 1️⃣ Immediate Action: I took the initiative to clean up the mess, ensuring my wife could take a moment to breathe and regroup. 2️⃣ Involving Our Daughter: By involving our daughter in the cleanup, not only did we teach responsibility, but we also showed her that she's a vital part of the solution. The result? A strengthened bond and a lesson for our daughter that challenges can be faced head-on without fear. Watch on to learn how you can turn potential conflicts into opportunities for growth and understanding in your family. Remember, it's not about the mistakes we make, but how we choose to handle them. 💪❤️

    9 min

  2. 09/25/2023

    The GrACE Framework for Parenting

    Parenting in today's digital age can be challenging, but with the right tools and mindset, we can raise resilient, empathetic, and self-assured children. Dive into the GrACE Framework, a holistic approach to parenting that focuses on nurturing essential life skills: 🌱 G - Growth Mindset: Cultivate a belief in your child that they can always learn, adapt, and improve. Let's raise kids who embrace challenges and see failures as opportunities for growth. 🏠 r - Responsibility: Involve your child in household tasks and decisions. When they contribute, they learn the value of hard work and the importance of being a team player. 🚀 A - Autonomy: Encourage independence. Let your child take the lead, make choices, and learn from their experiences. It's all about empowering them to be self-reliant. 💪 C - Confidence: In a world dominated by social media comparisons, it's crucial to instill self-worth and confidence in our children. Let's teach them to find validation from within, rather than seeking it externally. ❤️ E - Empathy: The cornerstone of humanity. Guide your child to understand and respect the feelings of others, fostering a compassionate and socially conscious mindset. Join us as we delve deeper into the GrACE Framework, sharing practical tips, real-life examples, and expert insights. Together, let's shape the future by raising well-rounded, empathetic, and confident children.

    11 min

  3. 09/22/2023

    How to improve intimacy with your wife

    Tweet: https://twitter.com/TheeJoelLopez/status/1686494601727836165  Momentous: https://www.livemomentous.com/products/hormone-support-bundle?selling_plan=834371767  Hey parents! Today, we're diving into a topic that many men often struggle with - improving intimacy with their wives. If you've ever felt that the spark is fading or that your wife isn't as interested in intimacy, this video is for you. Contrary to popular belief, the key to a thriving intimate relationship isn't just about the physical aspect. It's about creating an environment of love, respect, and understanding.  🌹 In this video, we'll explore the TWO PILLARS of improving intimacy:  1️⃣ Take Care of Yourself - The foundation of any relationship starts with self-love and self-care. We'll discuss: The impact of porn on intimacy The benefits of lifting weights and staying fit The importance of adequate sleep and a balanced diet Supplements that can enhance your well-being  2️⃣ Take Care of Her - Understanding and catering to your wife's needs is crucial. We'll delve into: The 5 love languages and how to identify hers The significance of giving her space and understanding her boundaries Simple yet effective ways to make her feel appreciated and cherished.  By focusing on these pillars, you can reignite the flame and foster a deeper connection with your wife. 💑

    7 min

  4. 09/19/2023

    How to insult your kids

    Tweet: https://twitter.com/bennyjohnson/status/1685618748495974400  Hey everyone! Today's topic might have caught your eye, but rest assured, we're NOT here to promote negativity. Inspired by a recent incident with Cardi B, we're diving deep into how we should react when faced with haters or negative comments.  We all face criticism, be it online or in real life. But how should we, and more importantly, our children, respond? 🤔 In this video, I'll share a simple yet powerful technique I've taught my kids to handle such situations.  Instead of getting dragged into a war of words or letting negativity affect them, they've learned to respond with a calm "Ok thanks".  🙌 Why? Because by doing so, they're not giving haters the satisfaction of an emotional response. They're rising above, showing maturity, and moving on without letting negativity weigh them down.  👉 Watch on to learn more about this technique and how you can implement it in your life and teach your kids the same. Remember, it's not about stooping down to someone's level, but about rising above and showing them that their words don't define you.

    5 min

  5. 09/14/2023

    Boredom is essential for your kids

    Tweet by Joe Cassandra: https://twitter.com/JoeCassandra/status/1685821159076466688  How to raise an adult: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult In today's fast-paced world, many parents feel the pressure to keep their children constantly entertained and engaged. But is this non-stop stimulation truly beneficial?  In this video, we dive deep into the often overlooked value of boredom for children's development.  🌱 Discover:  Why boredom isn't the enemy, but a catalyst for creativity. 🎨 The misconceptions surrounding children's need for constant entertainment. How overstimulation can hinder a child's ability to think independently. Practical tips for parents: swapping digital screens for tools that ignite imagination. 📝🖍 Join us as we explore the transformative power of letting children experience boredom and how it can pave the way for a more creative and independent future. Remember, it's not about leaving them with nothing, but equipping them with the right tools to let their imaginations soar! 🚀

    4 min

  6. 09/12/2023

    An unhappy wife is an indictment on the man

    Tweet: https://twitter.com/tyromper/status/1685011012016300035  In today's video, we delve deep into the dynamics of marital happiness and the pivotal role a man plays in setting the tone for the family. It's often said that an unhappy wife is a reflection of her husband's leadership. As the protector and provider, a man's duty is to set a clear vision for his family, ensuring that both partners complement each other in their journey towards collective success. If your wife is discontented, it's time to introspect and ask yourself: Are you truly leading your family in the right direction? Join us as we discuss the importance of stepping up, setting the right expectations, and guiding your family towards a prosperous future. Remember, it's not about pointing fingers but about taking responsibility and leading with purpose.  Note: While this video emphasizes the man's role in the family, it's essential to remember that every relationship is unique, and both partners have a shared responsibility for the happiness and success of their relationship.

    7 min

  7. 09/07/2023

    Don't tell your children what to do

    Hunt, Gather, Parent: https://michaeleendoucleff.com/  Have you ever noticed that simply telling children what to do doesn't always yield the desired results? Dive into today's video as we explore the fascinating world of storytelling as a potent tool for guiding and teaching our young ones.  Drawing inspiration from the enlightening book "Hunt, Gather, Parent" by Michaeleen Doucleff, we uncover the age-old wisdom of various cultures that have harnessed the magic of stories to impart values, lessons, and life skills to their children.  🌟 What You'll Learn:  Why direct instructions often miss the mark with children's logical brains. The universal appeal of stories and how they captivate both young and old. Practical ways to integrate storytelling into your daily parenting approach. Join us on this narrative journey and discover how to weave tales that not only entertain but also educate and mold. Let's transform our homes into spaces where stories become the bridge to understanding, growth, and connection! 🌉📚

    4 min

  8. 09/05/2023

    Don't help your children get back up

    Tweet: https://twitter.com/sweatystartup/status/1685319264012582912  How to raise an adult: https://www.julielythcotthaims.com/how-to-raise-an-adult  In today's video, we dive deep into the essential lesson of allowing our children to experience life's challenges and the beauty of overcoming them on their own. It's natural for parents to want to protect their kids, but are we overdoing it? Inspired by the insightful book "How to Raise an Adult," we discuss the pitfalls of over-parenting and the long-term consequences it can have on our children's growth and self-confidence.  By constantly stepping in, we inadvertently send a message that we don't trust them to handle life's obstacles.  🌟 Key Takeaways:  The importance of empowering our children and giving them agency. The dangers of coddling and why it's essential to let kids experience setbacks. How trust plays a pivotal role in a child's development and self-worth. Join me in this enlightening conversation and discover how we can raise resilient, independent, and confident adults by sometimes taking a step back. Let's foster a generation that knows not just how to face challenges, but how to rise from them stronger than ever! 💪

    3 min
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Jun Loayza becomes a human guinea pig, putting his parenting life in full display with the goal of helping others learn from his parenting mistakes. Let's grow together and become the best fathers that we can be.

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  • Creator
    Jun Loayza
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2023
  • Episodes
    34
  • Rating
    Clean
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