Not Just a Stepmom Podcast

Heidi Farrell & Ellie Marooney

Heidi Farrell and Ellie Marooney co-host a podcast designed to encourage, strengthen, and provide practical tools for women raising stepchildren, biological, and/or "ours" babies.

Episodes

  1. 01/29/2021

    Episode 2: Adding An Ours Baby - When Unmet Expectations Cause Tension in Your Stepfamily

    When a woman has a baby, she is confronted with emotions she never knew she had.   If that woman is also a stepmom -- playing a part in raising children she didn’t give birth to  -- along with adding in an “ours baby,” it can be easy for her to feel a whole extra set of emotions on top of the things she’s feeling as a new mom!  Things like wondering how everyone will acclimate to the changes a baby will bring, to worrying whether her stepchildren will be gentle around the baby, to wondering why her partner seems to be prioritizing his children from the previous relationship over the new baby! When a woman brings children from a previous relationship into a new relationship, she may be concerned that her children are being treated differently than her husband’s children.  In either case, a mother’s heart strings are pulled and she can quickly become defensive and protective. In this podcast episode, we’ll be talking about some of the common feelings of fear or resentment stepmoms feel when they have biological or ours children.  We’ll discuss the dad’s position and even some of the reasons he may be doing what he’s doing.  Finally, we’ll address the stepmom’s role in being clear about her expectations, while also taking steps to be part of the solution.  We’re so glad you’re here. For more resources, check out NotJustAStepmom.com for blog posts, coaching links, and Heidi's eBook, "How to Add an Ours Baby to Your Stepfamily...Without Letting Resentment Get in the Way," and find us on social media!   Schedule a coaching call with Heidi Farrell at notjustastepmom.com/coaching/

    49 min
  2. 01/29/2021

    Episode 1: Help! My Husband Won't Parent His Kids!

    When you think back to when you fell in love with your husband, it’s quite possible that you were drawn to his nurturing father side. You saw a man who loved his children, who looked at them like they were the apple of his eye. In fact, watching him parent his kids gave you a peek into your future together, as you imagined him looking at you with the same affection, and maybe even at the little baby you hoped to bring into the world together. But then you merged lives and households and you started observing the areas where his parenting skills weren’t adding up - like, for example, not holding his kids accountable for their behaviors, or not expecting them to take care of simple household tasks. Maybe his lack of parenting has made you feel anxious, taken for granted, or you’ve even feared for the safety of the baby you now have, or hope to have.  And instead of being endearing, his parenting is making you feel helpless and frustrated! In this podcast episode we’ll be talking about how a stepmom feels when her partner doesn’t handle parenting in a way that makes sense to her.  We’ll address her role and we’ll take a look into our spouse’s mind and consider what is driving them to make the parenting choices they are. Finally, we’ll share some strategies for you to connect with your spouse in a way that you feel like your needs and desires are acknowledged in a healthy way and you can start parenting as a team. For more resources, check out NotJustAStepmom.com for blog posts, coaching links, and Heidi's eBook "How to Add an Ours Baby to Your Stepfamily...Without Resentment Getting in the Way," and be sure to follow us on social media! Schedule a coaching call with Heidi Farrell at notjustastepmom.com/coaching/

    39 min

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About

Heidi Farrell and Ellie Marooney co-host a podcast designed to encourage, strengthen, and provide practical tools for women raising stepchildren, biological, and/or "ours" babies.