Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of eroticism, power, and intimacy

Anisa Varasteh

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SEXUALITY

This is an educational sexuality podcast hosted by a Clinical Sexologist.

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Unscripted-Episode 1: This Isn’t About Sex (But It Is)

If you’ve followed my previous podcast (Sexplicit), you’ll notice a shift — in tone, in depth, in direction. This isn’t a new beginning, but a deepening. In this first season I’ll be reading some of my own writings — essays and reflections that, to my surprise, have resonated deeply with so many people. I first shared them as blog posts and was gobsmacked by the messages I received — stories, confessions, thank-yous — from people who felt seen in ways they hadn’t expected. So I wanted to bring those pieces to life in audio form as well— for those of you who prefer to listen rather than read, and for those who want to feel the rhythm and breath behind the words. In these essays, I write both as a sexologist and as a human. Sometimes I share my own experiences — with love, loss, sex, and intimacy. Other times, I draw from my clients’ stories and the insights that have shaped my work. As one reader put it so perfectly — “They’re meant to be felt, not necessarily understood.”

9 min
02/12/2025

Bonus Episode: The Untold Realities of Male Sex Work

What makes someone leave a corporate career to become a male escort? In this eye-opening conversation, Anisa sits down with George Goulburn, who shares his unexpected journey into the world of professional intimacy. George talks about: The emotional and psychological depth of his work The profound impact he has on his clients’ lives The biggest misconceptions about male sex work Why intimacy—paid or not—is a fundamental human need This episode challenges everything you think you know about sex work. Whether you’re curious, skeptical, or just eager to hear a fresh perspective, George’s story will make you rethink the way you view sex work. Hit play and step into a world rarely discussed but deeply human. Connect with George: Website: www.georgegoulburn.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/george_goulburn/?hl=en

41 min
01/16/2025

Bonus Episode – Lynton’s Story

In this special bonus episode, we step away from expert interviews to sit down with everyday people. Silence and stigma around sexuality can leave us feeling isolated, misunderstood, or even ashamed, but sharing stories reminds us that we’re not alone. Today, I’m joined by Lynton, who candidly shares his personal story. Together, we explore: Polyamory: What it means to embrace ethical non-monogamy.Difficult Conversations: Navigating open and honest communication with partners, even when it’s uncomfortable.The Role of Vulnerability in Connection: How being vulnerable can deepen intimacy and foster stronger relationships.Managing Jealousy: Strategies for working through jealousy in any relationship.Living with an Acquired Injury and Disability: Lynton’s talks about his experience of intimacy, connection, and self-acceptance post-injury.Tune in for an inspiring conversation that might just change how you view intimacy and connection. Resources & Links Our website: www.relatesexology.comLynton's Youtube channel: www.youtube.com/@BeingLynton💬 Have a story to share or a topic you’d love us to explore? Reach out – we’d love to hear from you! 🎧 Don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast – your support helps us continue provide free sexuality education to all.

32 min
12/30/2024

S2E6- Sexual Confidence & Gender Diversity

In this conversation, Anisa Varasteh and Stacey Micallef discuss the concept of sexual confidence in relation to gender identities and the challenges faced by gender diverse individuals. Stacey shares practical tips for enhancing sexual confidence and emphasises the freedom that comes with gender diversity. The discussion also touches on the connection between gender and sexuality, and how individuals can find inclusive therapists to support their journey. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 04:16 Challenges Faced by Gender Diverse Individuals 07:01 Impact of Body Acceptance on Confidence 11:26 The Importance of Labels in Gender Identity and Sexuality 18:38 The Connection Between Sexuality and Gender 21:56 The Benefits of Gender Diversity 23:52 Tips for Feeling More Confident Sexually 30:54 Creating a Safe and Affirming Environment with Therapists Find Stacey here: everybodysexology.com.au

39 min
11/06/2024

S2E5- Sexual Confidence Post-Infidelity with Kate Dempsey

In this episode of Sexplicit, Anisa sits down with Clinical Sexologist Kate Dempsey to explore the complex journey of rebuilding sexual confidence after infidelity. This episode delves into the intense emotional landscape that can emerge after betrayal, examining the ways it affects one’s sense of erotic confidence and other areas of life. With practical tips grounded in Internal Family Systems (IFS), Anisa and Kate discuss strategies to manage overwhelming feelings and begin the healing process. Kate is an Accredited Clinical Psychosexual Therapist, Certified IFS Clinical Consultant, and Clinical Sexuality Educator. She teaches in the Psychosexual Therapy Postgraduate Program at the University of Sydney’s Faculty of Medicine and Health and works as an embedded contractor in a psychiatric hospital, where she facilitates sessions on “Sexual Function and Mental Health” and “Sexual Function and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder” for veterans and first responders. Kate also operates a private practice, Sexology North Queensland, where she works with adults in diverse relationship styles. Topics Covered: Overview of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and its application to infidelity recoveryThe impact of infidelity on both individuals and partners, including its effects on self-esteem and sexual confidenceRebuilding trust and courageous communication within relationshipsPractical tools for managing intense emotions during recoveryTune in for insights and actionable advice to help listeners regain confidence and reconnect with their authentic sexual selves, even after the challenges of betrayal.

37 min
09/22/2024

S2E4-Sexual Confidence for Heterosexual Men with Cam Fraser

In this episode of Sexplicit, join Anisa as she dives deep into the topic of sexual confidence for heterosexual men with Cam Fraser, a Certified Professional Sex Coach and Certified Sexologist. Together, they explore the barriers men face when it comes to sexual confidence and provide practical strategies to overcome them. Topics Covered: Insecurities and anxieties men commonly experience in the bedroomThe influence of social norms and masculine identity on sexual confidenceHow sexual education (or lack thereof) shapes men's sexual experiencesPractical tips and resources to build lasting sexual confidenceAbout Our Guest: Cam Fraser is a Certified Professional Sex Coach, Certified Sexologist, and former Tantric Yoga Teacher. His work blends scientifically validated sexual health information with sacred sexuality teachings. Cam helps men move beyond surface-level sex to experience full-bodied, self-expressed, pleasure-oriented sexual experiences free from anxiety and shame. You can learn more about his work at cam-fraser.com.

33 min
09/08/2024

S2E3- Sexual Confidence After Trauma

In this episode Anisa has a conversation with Ella Shannon, the National Chair of the Society of Australian Sexologists, for a candid conversation about sexual confidence after trauma. They explore strategies to reclaiming sexual confidence following traumatic experiences, offering hope and guidance to those on the path to healing. Key Topics Discussed: What is Sexual Confidence? AIs it Possible to Feel Confident Again? Practical Tips for Reconnecting with Safety and Pleasure.The Role of TherapyHow to Find the Right Therapist.Whether you've experienced trauma yourself or are supporting someone who has, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for anyone looking to reclaim their sexual confidence. For more information about Ella Shannon and her work, visit her website at ellashannon.com.

21 min
08/22/2024

S2E2-Sexual Confidence for Singles

In this episode, we dive deep into the world of sexual confidence with Caitlin V. Caitlin V is a sex and relationship coach, YouTuber, and host of Good Sex on Max and Discovery+. Formerly a professional sexual health researcher, she dropped out of her PHD program to start a career coaching men to gain confidence, satisfaction, and transformation both inside and outside the bedroom. Caitlin’s mission is to create a sex and pleasure-positive world. Caitlin shares practical tips and strategies to enhance your sexual confidence, making this episode a must-listen for anyone looking to feel more empowered in their sexual journey. Key Topics: Defining sexual confidence and why it’s importantThe challenges singles face in building sexual confidenceManaging anxiety in dating and sexual situationsPractical tips to boost your sexual confidenceHow to communicate your desires, needs, and boundaries effectivelyLearn More About Caitlin V.: Website: caitlinvneal.comYouTube: youtube.com/caitlinv

38 min

This is an educational sexuality podcast hosted by a Clinical Sexologist.

Creator

Anisa Varasteh
Years Active

2021 - 2026
Episodes

27
Rating

Explicit
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Unscripted: Intelligent exploration of eroticism, power, and intimacy