Whit's End: Real People, Hard Questions

Whitney Scarborough

Authentic conversations about life that help us navigate the hardest aspects of living out our faith.

  1. Aug 26

    Trusting God that Nothing is Wasted with Davey Blackburn

    Today’s conversation is raw, moving, and deeply powerful. About a year ago, my co-worker Melinda came across a book by Davey Blackburn. In 2015, Davey’s world was completely shattered when his wife, Amanda, was tragically murdered during a home invasion. As you can imagine, this event was not only devastating, but it shifted his life in a completely different direction. Today, Davey is remarried to Kristi, and together they have dedicated their lives to living out the truth that when you follow Jesus, Nothing is Wasted. They lead a multi-faceted ministry that helps people navigate trauma, grief, and major life transitions and helps them find purpose in their deepest pain. Melinda and Davey both sit down with me today. If your life has ever been affected by the type of grief that causes you to wonder if God can bring good from your story, this is worth the listen. We jump into the conversation with Davey giving us as glimpse of his life and the incredible journey that led to starting Nothing Is Wasted Ministries.  Memorable Quotes: “You’re not blended until you’re first broken.”  “We want to be guides to help accelerate people’s healing journey, because pain is the common denominator of life.” “I saw people’s suffering as an obstacle to our mission.” “When the enemy sets something in motion in our life, God already has a redemptive plan in mind.” “I realized early on that I was never going to get a full explanation for why this happened. I will one day, I’ll see Jesus face-to-face and I’ll look at him, and all of my questions will be resolved…once I step into the unadulterated presence of God, I don’t think I’ll even have to ask, I’ll just go, ‘It makes sense.’” “Until then, when I don’t have explanation for something as senseless as this that has happened in my life, what I have to look for is I have to look for mean, I have to look for purpose, to go, ok God, I’m choosing to partner with you and you’re going to have to help me to undo the work of the enemy in my life.” “There is abundant and and a blessed life in store for you in God’s healing and redemptive plan, but that is also held in the same open hand as continued suffering. There is a both and.” “If you’re going to have a message that is going to be true and genuine, that is refined, you’re going to go through fire.” “I was able to be the rawest, realest version of myself at the feet of Jesus, and as excruciating as it was, what it did was it began to then allow me to see where God was in the middle of my story.” “We’ve got to confront these things head on and go, ‘Ok God, I’m going to trust you, as I deal with this, as I face this, that you’re going to meet me here and you’re going to heal me in this.” “God is always in the work of being for our good and His glory and the world’s gain.” Show Notes: Psalm 116:15 John 10:10 Romans 8:28 Romans 12:1-2 Acts 7:54-60 Acts 9:16 1 Peter 5:8 Nothing is Wasted by Davey Blackburn Through the Eyes of a Lion by Levi Lusko Walking with God through Pain and Suffering by Tim Keller

    Trusting God that Nothing is Wasted with Davey Blackburn
  2. Aug 19

    Culture Shock, Calling, & the 401k of Relationships with Josh Bradshaw

    Tim joins me for this conversation with our good friend Josh Bradshaw. Josh first came into our lives when he started dating our long time friend, Maggie Amini. Josh and Maggie are now married and recently welcomed baby Ruby into their lives. And when I first heard Josh’s story, I was enthralled. Sometimes God reminds us through testimony just how creative He is, and today we get to hear all about his childhood years in London, what eventually brought him to fall in love with Jesus, and the wild story of how he landed in Texas where he’s lived and served in different ministry capacities for nearly 20 years.  This conversation is full of hearty laughs and poignant moments as we talk about everything from culture shock, to pressures high schoolers face today, the 401k that is relationships, and what we pray for our children. Ahh, this is such a good one - I’ve been so eager to share it! Memorable Quotes: “My parents were genuinely living by faith.” “I believed in Jesus from a young age but didn’t really want anything to do with him if he looked like that.” “I lied my way through the interview. I could just make stuff up because I grew up in church and I wanted to get out of the house, I wanted to do something different, I had no future with this failed high school transcript.” “I didn’t hear the gospel part, just the soccer part.” “I think it’s Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller where he talks about how he hated jazz music, and then he talks about how he went somewhere, probably New Orleans, and sees a guy playing jazz music, blood, sweat, and tears and goes - ‘wait that’s jazz music? I like that.’ It was the same for me and Jesus.” “All of a sudden, my 9-year old brother blurts out - ‘There’s something different about Josh.’ And no one really gave that any thought…but I went upstairs that night and said, ‘Jesus I don’t know what you’re doing, but I’m in.’” “One of my friends says that his 401k is relationships. And that’s exactly what my life felt like.” Show Notes: Blue Like Jazz by Donald Miller John 10:10 Psalm 42 Subscribe to Josh's Substack where he writes on faith, marriage, work, and the everyday ways God shows up.

    Culture Shock, Calling, & the 401k of Relationships with Josh Bradshaw
  3. Aug 12

    Neighbors & Enemies : The Scandal of the Good Samaritan

    The phrase “Good Samaritan” is familiar to both the church and the broader culture. It usually evokes the image of someone stopping to help a stranger in need. But it wasn’t until I was asked to teach on this passage that I realized how much more there was beneath the surface. In Luke 10, Jesus is confronted by an expert in the Jewish law who isn't seeking truth but trying to trap Him. Rather than playing the man's game, Jesus responds with a parable that cuts straight to the heart. In just a few sentences, He dismantles assumptions about righteousness, exposes pride, and challenges deeply held prejudices—likely leaving both the lawyer and His own disciples unsettled. As we explore this passage, we'll discover that Jesus isn't simply teaching us to be kind. He radically redefines who our neighbors are, confronts the way we view our enemies, and calls His followers to a costly, compassion-filled discipleship that is as challenging today as it was then. Memorable Quotes: “Jesus was much more than a rabbi, but he was certainly no less than an excellent teacher.” “Are there places in our lives where we are asking questions, deceiving ourselves, trying to escape obedience to God, when He’s already made it clear?” “Where am I asking a question in an attempt to get myself off the hook?” “Jesus’ implied definition of our neighbor is not based on similarity or affinity, but on need and proximity. In other words, Jesus implies that our neighbor is anyone we cross paths with who has a need.” “Friends, Jesus conquered our most real enemies so that you and I don’t have to make that our life work. Jesus defeats our true enemies, which frees us up to be a neighbor.” “Faith and obedience go hand in hand. Being a Christlike neighbor to those in need proves you are in fact a disciple of Christ.” Show Notes: Luke 10:25-37 Deuteronomy 6:4-5 Leviticus 19:18 Genesis 3:1 Luke 9:51-56 Acts 9:10-19 Video: Alistair Begg on the Good Samaritan  Book: Dietrich Bonhoeffer's Cost of Discipleship

    Neighbors & Enemies : The Scandal of the Good Samaritan
  4. Aug 5

    Making Home Here: How Travel Impacts Family Culture with Heather Nelsen

    I first met Heather about 25 years ago when we were navigating friendships and crushes while beginning to walk with Jesus. Today, we take a little walk down the halls of Lassiter High School and reflect on the people and decisions that formed us into who we are today. Heather Nelsen is now married to her high school sweetheart, Matt.  Together they live with their 4 precious kids down the road from where we grew up, just outside of Atlanta, Georgia. She shares the story behind her travel account Making Home Here, and how that project grew out of a simple, intentional hope: to raise kids who see the world, serve others, and recognize they can use their gifts and resources to make a difference, even from a young age. We talk about practical choices they’ve made as a family to cultivate curiosity, service, and perspective in their children. We touch on how even the most challenging aspects of travel have paved the way for faith-building conversations. Heather also gives some practical tips for making memorable experiences accessible, why travel is so important for building a family culture, and how she’s wrestling through managing a public account as she seeks to honor her kids. Memorable Quotes: Whit: “Be steady in faithfully serving the Lord where you are because you really just don’t know, you don’t know the impact that your life might have at any stage.” “As far as everyday life, I’m trying to be more conscious of what I record and what I share and make sure they’re a part of giving their permission for that.”  “Matt and I just had an honest conversation, several honest conversations, about how we want our kids to grow up feeling thankful for what they have but also to have an understanding of how other people live, and we wanted and still want for them to know that they can make an impact no matter their age, no matter their finances… so for us, what we said, is we want our kids to learn how to serve at a young age and we want them to understand what they’ve been given, and what they can do with what they’ve been given, either in their time, or talents, or even in their finances at an early age.” (around 8-9 minutes) “When you get back from the trip, every day of life has its low moments, but we always found when we got back from a trip what stuck with us was all the highs…you learn, you grow so much as a family, you rely on each other so differently…” “Being able to say, this is how Jesus loved people, what you guys are doing when you’re tired and when you’re hot, this is what Jesus did and this is what you’re doing.” “I think my stand on it is that I never want to live in fear, I do feel like God has called me to this, and it’s just a matter of always re-evaluating what this is, ya know? How does He want to use this, what is the purpose of this, is the purpose still supposed to be the same, and then just honoring our kids as they get older.” “I think now, for now, is just I am only going to post when I feel like I have something to share, and I’m going to make sure it’s ok with our kids if it’s something they’re a part of.” “Some of our favorite trips have been the most simple ones.”  Show Notes: One World Health   Healing Waters 410 Bridge IG: @makinghomehere

    Making Home Here: How Travel Impacts Family Culture with Heather Nelsen
  5. Jul 29

    Milk & Honey Ranch : Why Believing in God's Goodness Changes Everything

    I can’t really say enough just how fun it’s been to get to connect with Brent and Daniela Phillips. You may know them as the owners of a luxury boutique resort located in Burton, Texas, but the road to get there has been truly remarkable. Today they share their tremendous story of how God’s hand has unmistakably been leading throughout their lives. They are open books with the best sense of humor. They talk about how they built the farm from the ground up in the most unexpected way, after a devastating turn of events, and then how a near death accident changed everything and proved to be an opportunity for God to display his incredible power toward us. If, like me, you’ve ever struggled to really grasp the goodness of God and all it means for us as believers in Christ, this episode is a must-listen that will shift your perspective and reframe the way you think about every circumstance that comes your way.  Memorable Quotes: “God had taken such good care of us our whole lives without money, we lived a beautiful life without money, and the moment I got money, that became my best friend…I knew that money had become my source of trust, and it was gone.” (around 10min) “No you don’t understand, this was all by mistake.” “I’ve realized that if you want the best out of me, like my best self, let my family be in trouble, and you will see the very best of me. I will work tirelessly, I will have the best attitude, I will be fearless.” “This is what I learned when the stock crashed, in every fiber of my being, that God is good. He doesn’t need an outcome to be good. You can have mud and pebbles and he can still be good.”  “I’m enjoying this so much, because it’s like having lost the most precious thing in your life and then re-finding it again. She was lost. And so I didn’t care what form I was getting her back in.” “And the Lord just showed me how little we need for the things we are chasing. We’re chasing things thinking - and I know we all say, ‘no, no, that doesn’t satisfy’ - but we still do it. I tasted of what true satisfaction was and that took all fear away of losing everything. I was there with nothing, and my happiness and joy and everything was beyond.”  “I wasn’t worried at all, because I guess I had tapped into something I had never known my whole life growing up in church, but just once again, that God is good, and if He is good, well then anything we face, we will find his goodness in, no matter what it is. So it takes the scary part out of all this bad news.”  Show Notes: Milk and Honey Ranch IG: @milkandhoneyranch

    Milk & Honey Ranch : Why Believing in God's Goodness Changes Everything
  6. Jul 22

    Persecution in the Underground Church : The Cost of Christianity for an Afghan believer

    A few years ago, I had the privilege of interviewing a fellow seminary student named Samir, who was born in Afghanistan and came to faith in Christ as a refugee in Pakistan. Samir went on to found Lumens of Truth, a ministry devoted to helping the people of Afghanistan encounter Jesus, grow as disciples, and serve Him faithfully. Through social media and radio broadcasts, they are able to carry the message of the gospel into a country that remains largely closed off. In today’s moving interview, we continue exploring the realities of persecution and how the underground church operates around the world. I haven’t stopped thinking about our talk since we recorded, and I pray it stirs our hearts to engage meaningfully in this vital, eternal work. Memorable Quotes: “Afghanistan has a population of 43 million people, and less than 5,000 Christians - one of the least reached countries in the world. It was the grace of God and His mercy and favor that through a dream that my mom saw He brought us to Himself.” “From the time Christ came, it has been over 2,000 years, but the people of Afghanistan are hearing the gospel for the first time ever in our history.” “Overall, the underground church, in most places means the church is unauthorized by the government, it is not registered, it’s not known, people meet in secret. Now in the context of Afghanistan, actually the church does literally meet in basements. They do not even sing out loud because of the fear of being found out.” “It has been incredible to see the number of people that come to faith, but one of the biggest challenges in the underground church movements…is the epidemic of lonely Christians, Christians that are not a part of the community, and it makes sense because of the high risk associated with joining a community.” “We have many many people that come to Christ…but they are just believers on their own. And there’s no one around them actually. There’s no local community that they can belong to. And so that is one of the hardships of being a believer.” “Most of the believers won’t get a physical Bible ever in their life, and the other sad thing is that they usually never meet other believers.” “The numbers that Open Doors gives is 388 million Christians are under persecution right now around the world. That is almost the population of the US. So imagine that whole nation, our brothers and sisters under persecution.” “Persecution forces you to either really believe in this, that this gospel is really true, or there’s no reason to believe. Because there’s no solid reason that any rational person would accept this way, other than that they have met the risen Christ that has changed their life.” “My plea with the church in the west is to wake up, because we have taken the gospel so for granted for so long, that we assume it to be true for everyone.”  “Afghanistan is 99.97% Muslim. If  you talk with most Afghans, they would say we are the most Muslim country, we are more Muslim in terms of actually following the rules of the Sharia.” “There’s nothing that I can say, there’s nothing eloquent about what I say, or powerful enough to say, that will change the lives of 42 million people. I’m convinced of that. But if the church prayed, and if the church was on their knees, I’m convinced that the Lord would use even my voice, it’s not a very attractive voice…but he will use this voice, and the truth that comes from my voice.” “What kind of joy would fill our hearts if we saw a million Afghans come to Christ, and they will come, if we pray.” Show Notes: 1 Corinthians 15:34 Link to Season 3 episode with Samir https://www.lumensoftruth.org/ https://www.opendoors.org/en-US/persecution/countries/ If your heart has been moved to respond, consider making a gift using the link in the show notes, or going to give.cornerstone.cc/servantsinternational and selecting “Afghan Lumens” under the Designation.

    Persecution in the Underground Church : The Cost of Christianity for an Afghan believer
  7. Jul 15

    Parenting in Today's Culture : Tools to Disciple the Next Generation with Axis

    Several years ago, I was introduced to the ministry of Axis, a nonprofit dedicated to equipping parents to navigate tough topics and disciple their kids toward a faith-filled life in Christ. I’m a big fan of their weekly newsletter called the Culture Translator, which has become an invaluable resource as my kids are entering the teenage years. Today, I’m joined by Irene Tucker, one of their content creators and podcast hosts.  As a mom of five children spanning a wide range of ages, Irene brings both professional expertise and personal experience to this conversation. I was deeply moved by her vulnerability. Not only does she believe passionately in this work, but she’s also witnessed its impact firsthand in her own parenting—shaping the way she disciplines, engages with, and responds to her children. She shares candidly about what she would do differently if she could go back, knowing what she knows now. Together, we discuss the privilege and responsibility of being our children’s “memory keepers,” why curiosity is often more powerful than jumping to conclusions, and how parents can lean into difficult and sometimes uncomfortable conversations with confidence and grace. And because parenting conversations can’t be serious all the time, we also talk about which '90s trends are making a surprising comeback thanks to viral TikTok videos.  Memorable Quotes: “What I’ve found to be really effective is having an opinion about something and if it is not the right one, it turns into a starting point to have a conversation rather than trying to pull something out.” “It’s really been helpful for me as a mom…taking time to pause and open up and be willing to understand this generation rather than being judgmental or critical even I think has just totally changed the way I parent and makes me want to be curious more often.” “Since working for Axis, I’ve been able to use really mundane moments to connect with my kids in a way that I wouldn’t have thought to before. Whether it’s, I’m doing laundry and putting in an airpod, I could be having a conversation with a kid. So I think it’s just opening me up to realizing the opportunity around me to connect with my kids in a way that is meaningful.” “Sometimes I think we parent in this kind of blanket way, like this is what we do, we go to church, and we go to youth group, and we do these things a certain way as a family all the time, and I think that I wish I would have catered to my specific children in different ways.” “If I could encourage parents in any way it would be to slow down and make margin in your lives for that intentionality because it goes so fast - I know we all say that all the time, but suddenly they’re grown up and and they’re not necessarily right under your wing as a parent in your home every day, where you’re investing. You have an opportunity to invest every day. That moment will come, they will have to leave, and you’ll realize - I wish I took more time to see you.”  “I think listening more than lecturing is probably pretty important in that phase, I think staying curious like we talked about before, and asking, being willing to ask good questions…also being willing to repair after conflicts with your older kids. It takes a lot of humility to tell your kids after conflict, ‘I’m wrong, I did this wrong, I’m so sorry.’” “I think we have to be ok with making them uncomfortable. Sometimes I think with teenagers, we’re so desperate to be in their good books, that we can avoid things as well…but sometimes it’s worth getting uncomfortable for them and for you, and that opens up opportunities for deeper relationship.” Show Notes: Axis: Biblical Resources to Help Parents Disciple Their Teens IG @axisconversations

    Parenting in Today's Culture : Tools to Disciple the Next Generation with Axis
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