Q4Q: Queer Personals Podcast

Haley Steinhilber
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Let's get personal! Since the dawn of time, humans have been desperate for connection. Then we realized we could solicit strangers through the Sunday paper. You’ve heard of Craigslist personals, just imagine the pining and thirst from lonely queers searching for love. Listen as we read and rate personal ads from the ‘70s through 2000s! If you love gay yearning, you’ll love Q4Q! Be on the show: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc8dOqRD6JF00L1fzyu8kXbBM58Z19ZlOs1aGeRv1usobmIDg/viewform

  1. 06/03/2025

    A "Unique and Wonderful Evening" in Baltimore

    Welcome back to Q4Q! In this episode, local Maryland historian and librarian, Ben Egerman, steps behind the mic to flip through the pages of Charm City’s historic gay papers. Listen as we weave through a glimpse of Baltimore’s LGBTQ+ history—where you can dance the night away at The Hippo, enjoy a “unique and wonderful evening” in Fells Point, and play cards with a guilt-ridden pinochle player. You won’t be disappointed! Find Ben on Instagram @mdhistory.gay, and learn a little bit about Maryland’s queer history in cheeky little zines. And if you want to meet this celeb in person, join us Thursday, June 5th, at 7PM in ClubCar for the next release party. All proceeds go to the Trans Rights Advocacy Coalition @transrightsmd.  Sources:  HistoryPinHistory Pin -  LGBTQ+ MarylandBaltimore’s LGBTQ Heritage websiteHalf a Century Ago, The Hippo Became a Haven for the Local LGBTQ CommunityClub Hippo | Explore Baltimore HeritageAll You Need to Know About Penis Piercings: A Complete GuideBaltimore Gay paper, June 15, 1990 We read Ads from:  Baltimore Gay Paper - 4 Nov 1988Baltimore Gay Paper  - 5 May 1989Baltimore Gay Paper - 15 Sept 1989Baltimore Gay paper - 15 June 1990 Baltimore Alternative - Nov 1990  (Ben’s find)Baltimore Gay Paper - 2 Feb 1990  (Ben’s find)Poem- Baltimore Gay Paper - May 1987Send a text Support the show

    56 min

  2. 02/14/2025

    Valentine's Day, Q4Q's Way

    Hey folks! I'm coming out of the woodwork to wish you a Happy Valentine's Day to all who celebrate. Not only is this a special episode drop, but it's a redo of a previous Valentine's extravaganza with a new twist. Listen and rate us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Find a copy of the adult coloring book, Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History at Women & Children First bookshop in Chicago, or order from them online! You can also find it on bookshop.org and Amazon (leave a review if you can!) Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Send a text Support the show

    39 min

  3. 06/13/2024

    A Colorful History with Dan & Alexis

    Surprise! We’re back with a new collaborative project– Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History. Haley joined forces with Dan of @longlostpersonals and Alexis @Alexis_aquarian to create this cheeky, kinky, one-of-a-kind coloring book featuring personal ads from LGBTQ+ newspapers from the 1920s to 1990s. In this episode, Dan, Alexis, and Haley talk about the long journey to create the book, where you can find it, and swipe left or right on some of the ads within!  You can find your copy of Queer Seeking Queer: A Colorful History at Women & Children First bookshop in Chicago, or order from them online! You can also find it on bookshop.org and Amazon (leave a review if you can!) Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Send a text Support the show

    1h 3m

  4. 02/15/2024

    Itty Bitty Ads

    Welcome to a truly itty bitty episode with guest host,  Gabriel—founder, creator, and archivist for @Itty_Bitty_Queer_History. In this episode, Haley takes a page out of Gabriel’s teeny tiny books to pursue some short & sweet personal ads. These authors are very concise yet have a diverse set of needs—from bowling buddies to sugar daddies, water sports to paranormal experiences. You should probably leave them a voicemail to learn more.  Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Sources: The New Works (Indianapolis, IN) - April 1987 BLK (Los Angeles, CA)- April 1990 BLK (Los Angeles, CA)  - January 1994 Washington Blade (Washington, DC)-  November 20, 1981 Gay Community News (Boston, MA) -  February 15, 1986 Kick! (Detroit, MI)- October 1996 OUT FRONT (Denver, CO)- March 11, 1988 OUT FRONT (Denver, CO)- April 18, 1980  The San Francisco Bay times (San Francisco, CA) Sep 1989 Send a text Support the show

    33 min

  5. 02/01/2024

    Heavenly Bodies Looking for Venus: Sapphic Ads with Jack Jen Gieseking

    Are you ready to source the galaxies of love? Dip your tongue into this new episode, where Haley & Dr. Jack Jen Gieseking (author of the incredible book A Queer New York) match with some sapphic ads. Whether you’re looking for a good old-fashioned co-dependent, a skateboard bean, a Genteel Daddy pretty boy butch, or a chic Joni Mitchell lookalike—come explore the full spectrum of the sapphic longing.  Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Sources: Joni Mitchel TweetJen Jack Gieseking WebsiteA Queer New York: Geographies of Lesbians, Dykes, and Queers, 1983-2008 (NYU Press, 2020) on contemporary lesbian-queer society, economies, and spaces in New York CityLBQTS Dating StudyThe Star Tarot Card MeaningJewel Box Lounge, Kansas City Primary Sources: Personally, (Kansas City, MO) January 1988 Vol. 4 Issue. 1 Gale Archives of Sexuality and Gender On Our Backs– summer and fall 1985 and 1986 (volume 1, issues 1-3, and volume 2, 1-2)- From Brown University Archives  Outweek (NYC) Jan 28 1990  Outweek Sept 19, 1990 (NYC)  The San Francisco Bay times., Dec 1989 The Lesbian Tide, 1 Nov 1979 Send a text Support the show

    51 min

  6. 01/04/2024

    Androgynous Ads with Asho

    Attention all you macaroni boys and genderful twinks! Asho joins Haley for a series of ads written by self-acclaimed androgynous lovers. Do you dream of tossing a salad with a cute “she-boy” or maintaining eye contact all the way “through”? Catch these ads before another 30 years passes! Follow Asho on Instagram at @Asho_Buckingham to view & purchase their incredible art! Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Sources:  Online Etymology Dictionary, accessed December 2023 The Her app slang glossary LGBTQ fandom Wiki page McNeil, Peter (1999-11-01). ""That Doubtful Gender": Macaroni Dress and Male Sexualities". Fashion Theory. 3 (4): 412. doi:10.2752/136270499779476081. ISSN 1362-704X.  Fisher, Harriet (2015-01-19). "The Queen of Androgyny – Marlene Dietrich". Barnebys. Archived from the original on 2016-06-16. Retrieved 2016-05-22. Ads:  LA Weekly (Los Angeles, CA) 1995 October 10 - Accessed from @LongLostPersonals Focus Point (Minneapolis, Minnesota), 1994 November 17  Outweek (NYC) 12 Nov 1989 Outweek (NYC) 11 July 1990 The San Francisco Bay times., Nov 1989 Send a text Support the show

    52 min

  7. 12/01/2023 · BONUS

    Bitesized Bit: Lesbian Phone Sex

    You think you're sexually frustrated? Try talking to a gal on the lesbian party lines in the '90s! In this truly tiny bite-sized episode, Haley reads from Liz Tracey's article in Outweek: "Hung Up on the Lesbo Line."  Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast.  Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Sources: Liz Tracey, "Hung Up on the Lesbo Line," Outweek, January 14, 1990.  Out on the Town: Liz and Sydney in Outweek 1990-1991. Send a text Support the show

    6 min

  8. 09/07/2023

    The Body Politic with Dr. Alex Ketchum

    Haley sits down with Dr. Alex Ketchum, a professor at McGill University’s Institute for Gender, Sexuality, and Feminist Studies, and author of books such as Engage in Public Scholarship: A Guidebook on Feminist and Accessible Communication & Ingredients for Revolution: A History of American Feminist Restaurants, Cafes, and Coffeehouses. In this episode, we’re playing matchmaker for several Canadian hotties who posted personals in a 1984 issue of Toronto’s The Body Politic. Will the shy young woman find a gal to satisfy her fantasies? Can we crack the code to some super spy language? Is it possible to be hedonistic AND unpretentious? Come find out!  Follow Dr. Alex Ketchum at:  Twitter (X) and Instagram @aketchum22 https://www.alexketchum.ca/ Read her latest book, Ingredients for Revolution a History of American Feminist Restaurants, Cafes, and Coffeehouses. Listen to us on Spotify, Stitcher, Apple Podcast, or wherever you listen to your tunes! Interested in being on the show? Contact us at Q4QPodcast@gmail.com or find us on Twitter @Queerpersonals and Instagram @Queerpersonalspodcast. Cover art by Bekah Rich. Music by Kaz Zabala. Further Exploration:  The Arquives: Canada’s LGBTQ2+ Archives Archives gaies du Québec - Mémoires de nos communautés Archives lesbiennes du Québec P***y Palace Audiograms Esto no tienne nombre Collection, founded by tatiana de la tierra, housed at UC Santa Barbara Sara Youngblood Gregory, “Raging Against Cultural Amnesia: tatiana de la tierra and Latina Lesbian Herstory,” Autostraddle, June 19, 2018. Accessed September 5, 2023.  Gordon Richardson, “What’s in the Archives?The Body Politic” The Arquives website, April 17, 2013.  Accessed Sept 5, 2023.  History of The Body Politic - A Timeline, Information in the timeline has been taken from Bébout, online and Jackson & Persky, pgs. 224-24, Western University, Canada.  Denise Benson, “Then & Now: Voodoo,” Then and Now Toronto, September 20, 2014. Accessed Sept 5, 2023. Article originally published November 16, 2011 by The Grid online (TheGridTO.com). The Body Politic Wikipedia page, Accessed Sept 5, 2023.  Arshy Mann, “What was The Body Politic, anyway?: A brief explainer on a radical gay and lesbian magazine,” Xtra, June 9, 2016. Accessed Sept 5, 2023. Jack Gieseking, A Queer New York Find the Ads here:  The Body politic (Toronto, Canada), March 1984  Archives.org.  Send a text Support the show

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Let's get personal! Since the dawn of time, humans have been desperate for connection. Then we realized we could solicit strangers through the Sunday paper. You’ve heard of Craigslist personals, just imagine the pining and thirst from lonely queers searching for love. Listen as we read and rate personal ads from the ‘70s through 2000s! If you love gay yearning, you’ll love Q4Q! Be on the show: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSc8dOqRD6JF00L1fzyu8kXbBM58Z19ZlOs1aGeRv1usobmIDg/viewform

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  • Creator
    Haley Steinhilber
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    42
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Q4Q: Queer Personals Podcast
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