No One Dies from Divorce

Jill Coil
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I'm Jill Coil — divorce attorney, family law expert, and author of "No One Dies from Divorce." I've helped hundreds of clients navigate separation and divorce, and I've faced it personally in my own marriage. This podcast exists to give you the divorce help, support, and real answers you can't always find elsewhere. Each episode covers the topics that matter most during and after divorce: divorce recovery, co-parenting, child custody, dividing finances, healing emotionally, and rebuilding your life. I'm joined by fellow divorce attorneys, therapists, financial advisors, health coaches, and everyday people sharing their divorce journeys. Whether you're considering separation, fighting for custody, protecting your finances, or just trying to survive the process — this podcast is your support system. Note: Jill Coil is an attorney, but not your attorney. Nothing here constitutes legal advice. You can do more than survive this. You can thrive after divorce. Let's get through it together.

  1. 9h ago

    Why ChatGPT Is Wrecking Divorce Cases

    Most people don't lose their divorce in the courtroom. They lose it long before they ever get there, through emotional decisions that feel good in the moment and wreck the case later. In this episode of No One Dies from Divorce, I sit down with CoilLaw attorney Samantha Frazier to break down the biggest mistakes we watch people make over and over, and how to avoid them. The angry text that gets read out loud in court. The "private" social media post your ex will absolutely find. Taking legal advice from friends who weren't married to your spouse. And the newest one I've had to deal with in almost 20 years of practice: clients handing me legal strategy from ChatGPT, complete with court cases that don't exist, which costs them more money, not less. We also get into why chasing fairness and justice in divorce sets you up to be disappointed, why revenge and pettiness get expensive fast, why "winning" is the wrong goal, and why bringing a new boyfriend or girlfriend into the picture before the divorce is final blows things up almost every time. If you're going through this, the takeaway is simple. The people who come out best aren't the loudest or the angriest. They're the ones who stay calm, strategic, and focused on the life waiting on the other side. ⭐ Follow Jill Coil: https://www.instagram.com/jillcoil/ 📕 Get the Book — No One Dies from Divorce: https://www.amazon.com/No-One-Dies-Divorce-Marriage-ebook/dp/B091Y8HP67 ⚖️ CoilLaw — Family Law Firm: https://coillaw.com/

  2. Aug 12

    Cheating Won't Destroy Your Divorce. Your Reaction Will.

    Finding out your spouse had an affair is one of the most devastating things a person can go through. After almost 20 years in family law, here's the hard truth I have to sit down and tell those clients: the affair itself probably won't change your divorce. But how you react to it can change everything. In this episode of No One Dies from Divorce, I'm joined by CoilLaw attorney Savannah Lawrence to talk about affairs, betrayal, and what actually happens when infidelity meets family court. This one is close to my heart, because the gap between the emotional damage of betrayal and what the law will actually do about it is one of the hardest things we have to explain to a client. Here's what most people don't realize. Utah is a no-fault state, which means the divorce is almost always granted on irreconcilable differences no matter who did what. Infidelity can matter in a very narrow set of circumstances, and I actually argued a case on exactly this in front of the Utah Supreme Court, but the scope is tiny and it only touches alimony. For the vast majority of people, the painful reality is that cheating will not hand you the win you're looking for. There is no justice or revenge waiting for you in divorce court, and chasing it usually costs you more than it ever gives back. Savannah and I get into when an affair genuinely does affect a case, like when the cheating spouse spent marital money on the affair or when it directly impacts the kids, and why even those are harder to prove than people expect. We talk about the myth that your ex is hiding piles of money somewhere, and why that rabbit hole almost always costs far more than it recovers. Then we get to the part that matters most: how betrayal makes people quietly sabotage their own case. The furious text message. The social media post. Following your ex to prove the affair, which crosses into stalking and harassment faster than people think. The blow-up that becomes a domestic violence charge or a protective order. Betrayal rarely destroys your case. Your reaction to it can. We share real, practical advice for staying out of that trap, including how to keep your communication clean, why revenge is a word I stop my clients from ever using, and how to keep your kids completely out of the middle of it. If you're living through this right now, please hear the most important thing we say. Let yourself grieve, lean on your people, and get a good therapist. But keep your emotional healing separate from your legal strategy, because they don't move at the same speed, and the calmer you stay, the stronger you come out the other side. ⭐ Follow Jill Coil: https://www.instagram.com/jillcoil/ 📕 Get the Book — No One Dies from Divorce: https://www.amazon.com/No-One-Dies-Divorce-Marriage-ebook/dp/B091Y8HP67 ⚖️ CoilLaw — Family Law Firm: https://coillaw.com/

  3. Aug 5

    Why "Keeping the Peace" Can Destroy Your Divorce

    Are you so emotionally exhausted by your divorce that you’re willing to sign anything just to make the fighting stop? Wanting peace is completely understandable, but settling too fast out of temporary fatigue can lead to legal and financial regret that lasts for years. In this episode of No One Dies From Divorce, I sit down with Coil Law attorney Chelsea Hoffman to unpack the hidden dangers of "peace at any price." We dive into the crucial difference between a healthy legal compromise and an uninformed surrender—and why rushing into a settlement without knowing your rights often means giving away more than you ever would in court. From managing high-conflict spouses who bully you into agreeing to bad terms, to the massive expense of trying to modify a bad decree later, Chelsea and I share practical strategies to help you protect your future even when you're in survival mode. Key Takeaways from this Episode: Compromise vs. Surrender: How to know your legal rights so you never agree to terms that give you less than your worst day in court.The High-Conflict Dynamic: Why capitulating to an aggressive ex out of conflict avoidance only empowers them and ruins your long-term boundaries.Getting It Right the First Time: Why reopening and modifying a bad divorce decree later is exponentially harder and more expensive than slowing down now.Tune in to learn how to navigate emotional burnout, protect your long-term stability, and secure true, lasting peace for you and your kids. ⭐ Follow Jill Coil: https://www.instagram.com/jillcoil/ 📕 Get the Book — No One Dies from Divorce: https://www.amazon.com/No-One-Dies-Divorce-Marriage-ebook/dp/B091Y8HP67 ⚖️ CoilLaw — Family Law Firm: https://coillaw.com/

  4. Jul 29

    The Truth About Protective Orders in Divorce

    A protective order is the closest thing family law has to a nuclear bomb. In the right hands it saves a life. Used as a weapon, the fallout can level a family that was never in real danger to begin with. After almost 20 years in family law, I've watched both happen, and that's exactly why I wanted to do this episode. In this episode of No One Dies from Divorce, I sit down with one of my senior CoilLaw attorneys, Alex Maynez, who's spent more than 25 years in family law, to talk honestly about protective orders: what they actually do, when you genuinely need one, and how they get misused in the middle of a divorce. Alex and I walk through what a legitimate protective order actually requires under Utah law, and why a bad marriage or a heated argument isn't the same thing as abuse. We get into the cohabitant law and the case that changed it, the Taylor Frankie Paul and Dakota Mortensen hearing that played out so publicly here in Utah, and why timing, specificity, and evidence are everything. ⭐ Follow Jill Coil: https://www.instagram.com/jillcoil/ 📕 Get the Book — No One Dies from Divorce: https://www.amazon.com/No-One-Dies-Divorce-Marriage-ebook/dp/B091Y8HP67 ⚖️ CoilLaw — Family Law Firm: https://coillaw.com/

  5. Jul 22

    Will I Ever Be Happy Again? Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce

    When you're in the middle of a divorce, it can feel like a bomb went off and the smoke is so thick you can't see an inch in front of your face. You can't picture life on the other side, and you're terrified it's going to hurt like this forever. After almost 20 years in family law, here's what I know that you can't see yet: it doesn't. In this episode of No One Dies from Divorce, I sit down with my CoilLaw colleague Chariden to talk about the part nobody can imagine while they're still in it: life after divorce, and how often it turns out healthier, more peaceful, and more like you than the life you're leaving behind. We talk about why the fear of the unknown is so paralyzing, and why so many of the things people are most afraid of never turn out as bad as they imagined. I share what I call the rebound effect, the way your body is actually built to find its way back to happiness after something traumatic, even when you're convinced it never will. And we get into the one-year-later reality I see over and over: the client who swore they'd never get married again, who's thriving six months down the road and barely recognizes the person who first walked into my office. If you're a parent scared of what divorce means for your children, we cover that head-on. Kids do not thrive in a home full of conflict. They thrive with two parents who are calmer, healthier, and finally at peace, even in two different houses. Healing isn't linear and nobody expects you to be okay tomorrow. Some days you'll be on the floor. But your future is still being written, and this moment doesn't have to be the thing that defines you. No one dies from divorce. A lot of people finally start living. ⭐ Follow Jill Coil: https://www.instagram.com/jillcoil/ 📕 Get the Book — No One Dies from Divorce: https://www.amazon.com/No-One-Dies-Divorce-Marriage-ebook/dp/B091Y8HP67 ⚖️ CoilLaw — Family Law Firm: https://coillaw.com/

  6. Jul 15

    What Nobody Tells You About Money and Divorce

    Do you actually know where your family's money is going? After almost 20 years in family law, I can tell you the partners who don't are the ones who end up most vulnerable in a divorce. In this episode of No One Dies from Divorce, I sit down with my CoilLaw colleague Crystal Anderson to talk about the part of divorce nobody warns you about: money and power. We get into why completely separate finances are the single biggest thread I see running through divorces, the way financial dependency quietly builds over years, and the cold truth about chasing "hidden" money like crypto and cash, and how much people waste looking for accounts that were never there. We also get into the Utah specifics: how alimony and spousal support actually work as a shift of income, what equitable division and a no-fault state really mean for your case, why "fair" is the wrong word to bring into a divorce, and what to look for when hiring a divorce lawyer who'll tell you the truth instead of just running up your bill. If you've ever felt powerless about money in your relationship, knowledge is power. The more you understand before a divorce ever starts, the more freedom, stability, and peace you'll have on the other side. ⭐ Follow Jill Coil: https://www.instagram.com/jillcoil/ 📕 Get the Book — No One Dies from Divorce: https://www.amazon.com/No-One-Dies-Divorce-Marriage-ebook/dp/B091Y8HP67 ⚖️ CoilLaw — Family Law Firm: https://coillaw.com/

  7. Jul 8

    The Real Reason Nobody "Wins" in Divorce

    Think family court is about finding justice and punishing your ex? Think again. In this eye-opening episode of No One Dies From Divorce, I sit down with my partner in crime and senior managing attorney, Gabi Jones, to reveal the harsh legal realities that often shatter our clients' expectations. As experienced advocates in family law, Gabi and I explain why seeking revenge or "fairness" during a divorce usually leads to emotional burnout and financial strain. We unpack the profound psychological impact of splitting a household and explore why perfectly rational, successful people often make terrible decisions when operating in survival mode. Giving up control to a judge means letting a stranger decide your future—so how do you navigate the legal system without losing yourself? Key Takeaways from this Episode: The Justice Myth: Why the legal system is built to divide lives and assets, not to punish bad behavior or validate your emotions.Survival Mode Mistakes: How trauma, fear, and a lack of control drive people to make poor, reactive legal choices.Reclaiming Your Power: Proven strategies to let go of the things you cannot control and confidently rebuild your life on your own terms.Tune in to hear the specific cases that fundamentally changed how Gabi and I practice law, and learn how you can navigate your own split with clarity and confidence.

  8. 05/22/2023

    Take The High Road in Divorce

    Do you feel stressed out, bewildered, emotionally compromised, or overwhelmed with navigating your divorce? Today we are talking with author Andy Heller about how to deal with high-conflict divorces and co-parent effectively. Through his own divorce and life experience, Andy has outlined a pathway for how to manage emotional, logistical, and financial issues that occur during and after a divorce. His goal is to help people choose compassion over fear, heal hearts, prepare for a future, and provide security and stability for their children.

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I'm Jill Coil — divorce attorney, family law expert, and author of "No One Dies from Divorce." I've helped hundreds of clients navigate separation and divorce, and I've faced it personally in my own marriage. This podcast exists to give you the divorce help, support, and real answers you can't always find elsewhere. Each episode covers the topics that matter most during and after divorce: divorce recovery, co-parenting, child custody, dividing finances, healing emotionally, and rebuilding your life. I'm joined by fellow divorce attorneys, therapists, financial advisors, health coaches, and everyday people sharing their divorce journeys. Whether you're considering separation, fighting for custody, protecting your finances, or just trying to survive the process — this podcast is your support system. Note: Jill Coil is an attorney, but not your attorney. Nothing here constitutes legal advice. You can do more than survive this. You can thrive after divorce. Let's get through it together.

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  • Creator
    Jill Coil
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    131
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