How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

Dr Maryhan

Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday. The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not! This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... We'd love to hear from you! We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. Bucket Emptying: Parenting Trends and How They Affect Our Own Parenting

    1D AGO

    Bucket Emptying: Parenting Trends and How They Affect Our Own Parenting

    From gentle parenting to FAFO, social media bombards us with content about the latest trends, so how do you really know what works and what doesn’t? In today’s bucket emptying episode, I talk you through some of the biggest parenting trends, and explain how they can be impacting you, and the ways in which you might then choose to parent your own kids. Because parenting is all-consuming. It’s a 24/7/365 gig, and the trends of day, whether we subscribe to them or not, can feel like they define us as parents. I’m here to tell you they don’t! So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:48 - FAFO Parenting 03:30 - Are we defined by the trends? 06:23 - Labels take away the overwhelm 09:56 - There’s no one size fits all approach 12:35 - Parental intuition 15:22 - Science vs media 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    22 min
  2. Let's Talk - 5 Ways to Start a Conversation About Mental Health

    5D AGO

    Let's Talk - 5 Ways to Start a Conversation About Mental Health

    Mental health is not just a buzz word, and oftentimes it goes hand in hand with physical health. But because we can’t see mental health, as parents it can be so easy to procrastinate these important conversations that provide a safe, supportive space for our children to really get honest with us. Whether you’re listening to this during Children’s Mental Health week or at any other time of the year, these practical tips will really help you to kickstart conversations about mental health with your family. It might not be easy, and it might take some time, but I promise you if you persevere and remain patient, your kids will eventually feel comfortable enough to talk to you. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Mentioned in this episode: Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/  Highlights from this episode: 01:15 - Physical health IS mental health 03:41 - I’ve noticed that… 07:17 - How are you feeling? 10:30 - Use books 15:09 - Teachable moments 16:38 - Talk out loud 18:46 - 3 things to consider 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    25 min
  3. Bucket Emptying: Valuing Children - 5 Ways to Build a Sense of Belonging

    FEB 9

    Bucket Emptying: Valuing Children - 5 Ways to Build a Sense of Belonging

    A sense of belonging is a basic human need. Without it can lead to loneliness, depression and many other mental and physical health issues. So to celebrate Children’s Mental Health Week, the theme of which this year is ‘this is my place’, I am going to give you five tips to help your children build their sense of belonging, because the world is a better place with them in it, and it’s our job as parents to help them believe that. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Mentioned in this episode: Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/  Attachment Theory: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/attachment-theory/  Highlights from this episode: 00:28 - Children’s Mental Health Week 02:21 - Attachment theory 05:48 - Emotional availability 09:27 - Help them to explore 11:58 - Don’t diminish their interests 14:05 - Belonging starts at home 16:32 - You are important 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    20 min
  4. Navigating Exam Stress

    FEB 5

    Navigating Exam Stress

    From the 8 Plus to A-Levels, exams can be a stressful experience… often as much for you, the parent, as the kids. You want the best for them, and of course you want them to do well, but it’s important to make sure we create a supportive environment, and not inadvertently add to the pressure. That’s why, in this important episode, I’m going to talk you through the dos and do nots of navigating exam season, and give you a bunch of super practical advice, which you can use right away. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:26 - It comes down to two things 03:17 - Stay in your own lane 07:29 - How to overcome self-sabotage 12:29 - Supercharge your revision 17:12 - Talk to your children 21:15 - A balanced routine includes time for fun 24:23 - Rest and restore 27:17 - Support ought to be directed by the child, not us 30:37 - What not to do 35:28 - Trust their process! 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    40 min
  5. A new perspective on emotional co-regulation

    FEB 2

    A new perspective on emotional co-regulation

    In this bucket emptying episode, I look a bit closer at my conversation with Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London. In last week’s interview he spoke to us at length about his research, but in today’s episode I want to drill down just a little more into some of his comments on emotional coregulation, and I’m going to share my own thoughts and some useful tips which you can put into action right away. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… More about Sam and his work: Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/  Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/  Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools  Highlights from this episode: 01:25 - Sam Wass on emotional coregulation 07:00 - Stress contagion 11:17 - Matching our children’s state 14:24 - Meet them where they’re at 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    18 min
  6. Neuroscience and Emotional Regulation in Children, with Professor Sam Wass

    JAN 29

    Neuroscience and Emotional Regulation in Children, with Professor Sam Wass

    Does your child ever get worked up, and you find it escalates super fast but feel powerless to bring them down from that ledge? Every parent has been there, but it’s only in recent years that we have really begun to understand the reasons why, and it’s all about neuroscience. Children’s brains are changing and developing all the time, which means as parents it can be so difficult to keep up, and know how to support them with things like emotional regulation, so I want to talk though some of these challenges and give you some practical advice that I hope will help you and your family. To have this conversation I am joined by Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London, and shares some of his expertise, to help us all understand some of the science behind emotional regulation. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… More about Sam and his work: Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/  Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/  Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools  Highlights from this episode: 04:10 - Measuring brain stem activity 08:08 - Nature versus nurture 13:18 - Panic disorders 17:20 - Long term effects of children in high stress states 21:23 - Brain stem arousal is trending up 25:29 - You’re only still when you’re dead 31:25 - Children hate broccoli because of science 35:18 - We’re going on a bear hunt 42:33 - Quadrants 48:00 - Mums and dads play differently 53:29 - Co-regulating 59:14 - Stress contagion 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1h 4m
  7. Stop Making Life Easy! 5 Proven Ways to Build Your Child's Resilience

    JAN 26

    Stop Making Life Easy! 5 Proven Ways to Build Your Child's Resilience

    “I can’t do it!” - as parents we hear this all the time. Our children are learning new skills and experiencing new things every day, which means they are always facing things they’ve never done before. This can be scary, and often our kids might think they can’t do it or they’re not good enough. That’s why building resilience is so important. It gives them the foundation they need to persevere, to fail without fear, and to find that inner strength when things feel tough or challenging. In today’s bucket emptying I’m going to share five things you can do to create that shift, and help to build that resilience. And the best part: these are things you can start doing right now. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:49 - Non-friction 06:23 - Modelling resilience 08:19 - Curated friction 10:20 - Boredom please 12:44 - Conflict is friction 14:16 - Don’t rush in to fix setbacks 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    19 min
  8. "Why Won't They Sleep?" The Hidden Factors Affecting Your Child's Sleep Part 2

    JAN 22

    "Why Won't They Sleep?" The Hidden Factors Affecting Your Child's Sleep Part 2

    Why won’t my kids go to sleep at their bed time? It doesn’t matter if your child is 2 or 20, every parent in the world will ask themselves this question, because sometimes, even if we stick to the routine, they just won’t settle down and get in bed. In this episode I continue our discussion around sleep, sharing some of the ways in which overtiredness can impact our kids and what you can do about it. Plus, I explain how things like puberty, technology and other factors have a bigger impact than you might realise. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 01:37 - Blankets and putty 03:50 - Chronic sleep deprivation 09:10 - Puberty and hormones 12:27 - The emotional tank 18:06 - Sibling dynamics and room sharing 22:25 - Over scheduling 26:02 - How to tackle overtiredness  💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/  💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library  💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com  DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    35 min

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About

Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves. Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday. The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them. The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting. We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not! This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... We'd love to hear from you! We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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