They Talk Sex

Elle Stanger, CSE
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Certified Sex Educator and adult entertainer Elle Stanger hosts weekly guests to discuss common sexuality topics, including non-monogamy, STI’s, sex education, jealousy, pleasure, relationships and more.

  1. 2D AGO

    The Ex Seventh Day Adventist and Sexuality Episode

    Our guest grew up in a fundamentalist Seventh Day Adventist church and led a life of rebellion after she left it. High powered jobs and risky hookups shaped Melissa Duge Spiers before she learned that her father was a serial child predator shielded from the church, and thus began another stage in her reconstruction of self. Let’s talk about her memoir; called “Holy Disobedience - Sex, Sin, and Secrets in the Biggest Church No One Knows”. 2:00 leaving the church  4:00 leaning into the violent things 7:00 family predators and patterns 9:00 what is a “mass tort”? 13:00 how SDA primed her for abusive relationships 16:00 humor about sexual assault 20:00 a book event in Portland? 25:00 how to deal with social isolation 30:00 how to handle sex-repulsion feelings 34:00 opposition to her  37:00 “Adventist Risk Management” 40:00 abusing a weiner dog! James Dobson 44:00 SDA vs Catholics 47:00 who owns the eatery? 50:00 atheism today and sex tips FIND YOUR GUEST: TT & IG @the.glory.whole & @melissadugespiers_writer FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.com See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order! and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

    53 min

  2. MAR 16

    The Somatic Pleasure Episode

    Our guest is a male provider of touch to women clients. He has worked as a surrogate partner, coach and more. Let's talk about clients, and attachment, and our own personal relationship tips and pitfalls. 2:00 a somatic approach to sex 4:00 better sex comes from body awareness 7:00 when it sucks to be 'in your body' 11:00 requirements for working as a surrogate 15:00 go explore! 19:00 some of us are drawn to sex work 18:00 male sw profiles from hell 22:00 why pay for it? 30:00 clients attaching to him 37:00 no dating at this time 40:00 sunlight and showering is key for me 44:00 orgasm retreat-events 48:00 upcoming events 52:00 aim to diversify and inform self, how? 55:00 sex tips and breathing FIND YOUR GUEST: JamesHumecky.com FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.com See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order! and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

    58 min

  3. MAR 9

    The Brothel Discussions Episode

    Miss M has worked in sex in a variety of ways, but never a brothel. Let’s talk about the pros and cons of sugaring, escorting, companion and dominatrix work - and why sex workers tend to prefer decriminalization instead of legalization models, when given the option. We’ve also got safety and pleasure tips for everyone! 1:00 SA to escorting  5:00 she applied to Sheri’s  8:00 brothel surveillance  12:00 structure doesn’t equal equity 16:00 tips for safety 20:00 is this what it’s like dating? 25:00 find her Substack here: @menopausemermaid  Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com  26:00 dating 30:00 thoughts on policing 34:00 police in portland lately 38:00 confidentiality is cool Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com  45:00 Unionizing in Nevada news 49:00 concerns re: ownership of image 55:00 DECRIM not legalization plz  58:00 sex tips  1:00:00 female condoms are cool! FIND YOUR GUEST: Substack @ menopausemermaid FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.com See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Sceness at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order! and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

    1h 4m

  4. FEB 17

    The Pornmaker and Intimacy Episode

    Sinn Sage is an an Adult Video Hall of Famer, who offers reflections and advice for people who want to make their own materials and seek to understand the market. Let’s talk about how years of pornmaking has lended insight into intimacy and the politics between touch and advocacy.  2:00 how she got started 5:00 burnout and spark 8:00 facesitting and fetish themes 11:00 AVN evolutions and COVID 15:00 Pornhubs problematic origins  18:00 ad revenue tiers? 22:00 learned boundaries in SW 25:00 theater nerd overlap  Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com 29:00 having a favorite  35:00 relationship advice for SWs 38:00 advice for using apps  42:00 advice for newbies in the industry 47:00 thots on coaching? 52:00 she wants all SWs to earn more 54:00 Sponsored by Love-Blanket.com 58:00 clips4sale and platform rules 1:01:00 manyvids drama and changes 1:05:00 custom video guidelines 1:09:00 helping guide people to intimacy  FIND YOUR GUEST: Sinn-Sage.com FIND YOUR HOST: stripperwriter.com See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenesat Patreon.com/strangebedfellows This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order! and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

    1h 15m

  5. FEB 3

    The Girl Sex and Storytelling Episode

    This is a pleasure-centric episode! Learn some tips for pleasing people with vulvas, and get an insider’s idea of different ways to play. Allison Moon talks sex geek stuff like lesbianism, theater, disability, and sexual skills. 2:00 GIRLSEX 101 is about queer sex 5:00 straight men like this book too 8:00 Guide to Getting It/On 11:00 college professor in the PNW 14:00 Sex Geek Summer Camp 18:00 listening will make you better 21:00 more tips for sex with women  Sponsored by Netherlandswax.com  26:00 beware scammers selling stuff 30:00 oral sex tips 33:00 don’t kick me off online plz  36:00 more oral sex tips 39:00 transphobes hate her!  Sponsored by Lovecrave.com 45:00 SWOON - a short rom/com film about sex work and disability 47:00 leftist movements can leave people behind 51:00 sex can be silly and bizarre  54:00 @DirtyLola and Reid Mihalko shoutouts 57:00 a renaissance around sex positive media is possible  FIND YOUR GUEST: AlliedMoon.com FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order! and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

    1h 2m

  6. JAN 11

    The Weird History and Sexuality Episode 2

    Kaytlin Bailey is a comedian and former escort who founded a nonprofit organization that uses storytelling to advocate for human rights. She produces conferences and podcasts episodes and is touring The Oldest Profession Live Show now! Let’s talk about 10,000 years of sex work in history. 3:00 feminism succeeds with inclusion of sw 7:00 sw in history  10:00 feedback from audiences 13:00 internalized shame 15:00 the Honest Courtesan - maggiemcneil.com 18:00 sugaring and escort background 22:00 - Get 10% off your feministtrash.com order with code STRIPPERWRITER 25:00 Veronica Franco - fascinating historical figure 29:00 reminder to save your money if you can 33:00 fundraising and sugaring  37:00 differences in activism 40:00 what is “bad” money? 43:00 attitude is everything  47:00 flagging or signaling  50:00 it’s expensive to look “naturally pretty” 54:00 how to gauge compassion about sw? 57:00 how to be an ally  1:00:00 danger vs opportunity  1:02:00 sex tips from a married person jk FIND YOUR GUEST: kaytlinbailey.com/,  AND AT theoldestprofession.org/ FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenesat Patreon.com/strangebedfellows This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order! and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

    1h 5m

  7. 12/23/2025

    The Female Pain and Pleasure Episode

    Suzannah Weiss is an American sexologist and author of “Eve’s Blessing”, which discusses how people with vulvas can lead pleasurable lives in a world that normalizes their pain, specifically related to sex, childbirth and menstruation. This book is for gender diverse people, and is not a critique of the Bible, but a more sex-positive re-imagining of it. 3:00 chronic lyme disease, pain or no-gasm  7:00 stories from others 10:00 what is “the female experience” 13:00 medical forms and language can make it confusing 15:00 gaslighting example 18:00 PAXIL may mess up your vag 21:00 hormonal birth control side effects 25:00 CONDOMANIA.COM - code THEYTALKSEX 10% off first order 28:00 the Bible’s pain of child-raising? 32:00 wine is not the answer in this case 36:00 side effects of sexual violence 40:00 OF Bible Passages  43:00 advocate for yourself during doctor visits 45:00 Sponsored by NetherlandsWax.com 46:00 about 5% of people have endometriosis? 50:00 should periods be so painful? 53:00 reminder, she’s a sex therapist in CA 56:00 sex tips! FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @suzannahwise FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order! and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :)

    58 min

  8. 12/08/2025

    The ASK US ANYTHING - SEX EDUCATOR EPISODE 3

    Your questions on STIs, dating, and pleasure, answered by Mariah Caudillo of @SexedFiles of IG. She's worked in schools for a decade and is an online program creator for a major health care clinic. Let's talk health and fun sex stuff. 3:00 day and night jobs! 7:00 teaching in schools for a decade  10:00 bacterial vs virtual STIs 14:00 M.Gen is a new STI! Fun! 16:00 Qs for a new partner? 22:00 HPV info  25:00 THEYTALKSEX for 15% off first order Condomania.com 27:00 Bacterial Vaginosis is an STI? 34:00 the vagina is like a sleeping bag 37:00 how much is too much masturbation? 43:00 Sponsored by LoveBlanket.com - get 10% off via theytalksex.com 45:00 c**k ring questions  48:00 hallucinations while orgasming? 51:00 what to do about a chronic UTI? 54:00 how to stay motivated as a teacher  57:00 NY Post is trash 1:01:00 more on online harassment 1:03:00 sex tips! FIND YOUR GUEST: IG @sexedfiles FIND YOUR HOST stripperwriter.com See Elle’s $1 Behind-The-Scenes at Patreon.com/strangebedfellows This episode was sponsored by our friends at NetherlandsWax.com Condomania.com - THEYTALKSEX for a discounted first order! and Love-Blanket.com - 10% OFF with code THEYTALKSEX Please rate and review this podcast :) Please rate and review this podcast :)

    1h 6m
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Certified Sex Educator and adult entertainer Elle Stanger hosts weekly guests to discuss common sexuality topics, including non-monogamy, STI’s, sex education, jealousy, pleasure, relationships and more.

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  • Creator
    Elle Stanger, CSE
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    120
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Show Website
    They Talk Sex

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