The CBT Dive Rahim Thawer, MSW

In this conversation, psychotherapist and host Rahim Thawer is joined by José, a psychologist and poet who lives with their partner. José shares their experience as the anchor partner in a polyamorous relationship and they explore the feelings and behaviors that arise in certain situations, such as when their partner shows affection to another partner but not them. Rahim guides Jose through examining the automatic thoughts and consequences that result from these experiences, including feelings of being replaced or inadequate. 

The conversation highlights the importance of open communication and understanding in navigating polyamorous relationships. In this conversation, Rahim helps José identify and analyze their hot thoughts related to feeling forgotten and unappreciated in their polyamorous relationship. They explore past relationship patterns and evaluate evidence to challenge these thoughts. José generates alternative thoughts and reassurances to provide a more balanced perspective. Rahim also suggests asking for affection or attention as a way to address José needs.


ABOUT THE CBT DIVE PODCAST
The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.

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Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.

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In this bonus CBT Shorts episode, we’ve taken the highlights from a previous season for you to dip into. Host and psychotherapist Rahim Thawer talks with Farrah about her experience with a dishonest and disappointing father.
ABOUT THE CBT DIVE PODCAST
The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.

ABOUT HOST
Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.

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Host and therapist Rahim Thawer talks to Vance, a sex and intimacy coach, who discusses his behaviors and thoughts when he feels excluded, and his desire for a group of friends. Vance shares his experiences with friendships and the fear of being too much for others. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the isolation that can come with personal growth and the importance of being understood by a small group of people.
ABOUT THE CBT DIVE PODCAST
The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.

ABOUT HOST
Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.

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Psychotherapist and host Rahim Thawer and Riz discuss Riz’s travel adventures and how they have led to unique stressors and insights into his relationship with money. Riz shares situations that have brought up difficult feelings, such as feeling cheated and disappointed when spending money on experiences that don't meet his expectations. 

Rahim helps Riz identify his automatic thoughts and behaviors that arise in these situations, including self-criticism and questioning his choices. Overall, this conversation explores the complex emotions and rumination surrounding money and personal experiences.
ABOUT THE CBT DIVE PODCAST
The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.

ABOUT HOST
Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.

THE CBT DIVE
📸 Instagram: Instagram.com/thecbtdive
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In this episode, host Rahim Thawer talks to Kae about the recurring feelings of stress around when rent is due. The conversation explores Kae's thoughts and emotions related to financial struggles, self-criticism, and worries about falling back into unhealthy habits. Rahim and Kae also cover topics such as maintaining psychological safety, rationalizing thoughts, and the fear of not being able to escape past trauma and financial difficulties.
With the use of the “Thought Record,” Rahim talks Kae through identifying the feelings, behaviours, and automatic thoughts that come up for Kae on the morning she has to pay her bills. Together they hone in on a hot thought, which is an automatic thought that occurs in combination with a change in emotion or mood. Since our hot thoughts can be clouded by our emotional state, they are not always the most factual. To determine if Kae’s hot thought is an accurate representation of the moment, Rahim and Kae try to find evidence to support and contradict her hot thought. Since there was evidence to contradict Kae’s hot thought, they identify a more balanced thought that could be supported by the evidence. 
Takeaways
Maintaining psychological safety is important in therapy to ensure a feeling of connection and safety.Identifying and evaluating difficult thoughts can help in understanding and managing challenging emotions.Financial struggles can trigger feelings of defeat, self-criticism, and worry.The fear of regressing into unhealthy habits and past trauma can impact one's mental and emotional well-being.Recognizing and addressing the underlying beliefs and thoughts related to financial struggles can be helpful in developing healthier coping strategies.ABOUT THE CBT DIVE PODCAST
The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.

ABOUT HOST
Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.

THE CBT DIVE
📸 Instagram: Instagram.com/thecbtdive
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When you’re ghosted by someone after a couple of dates, it’s legitimately infuriating. It’s okay to feel frustrated and even deceived. But, what else comes up for you in those moments? In this episode, we explore the underlying fears that get reawakened after a ghosting experience. These include fears of being unworthy or unattractive and also an overarching fear of never finding happiness. Through the therapeutic process, this guest unexpectedly challenges beliefs about the formulas and frameworks of relationship-seeking. 
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ABOUT THE CBT DIVE PODCAST
The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.

ABOUT HOST
Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.

THE CBT DIVE
📸 Instagram: Instagram.com/thecbtdive
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RAHIM THAWER
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