East Reads West Literature Podcast

Nils von Below & Anne Hardy

Western (Professional) Literature Read for Eastern Therapists

Episodes

  1. 10/14/2022

    Medicine with heart

    Like no other, Abraham Verghese knows how to describe medicine as an art that demands all our heart and mind. He tells the story of adopted twins who are raised by a pair of Indian doctors in an Ethiopian mission hospital. The setting is a feast for the senses: the vastness of the ethiopian landscape, the spice-rich cuisine and "Tizita" - music, which captures the Ethiopian soul. Verghese, who is himself of Indian descent and grew up in Adis Ababa, writes autobiographical experiences. Like his main character Marion Stone, he had to interrupt his medical studies in 1974 because of the military coup and emigrate to the USA. In his novel "Cutting for Stone" he transmits his passion for medicine. Marion, who sees his parents' medical work every day in the mission hospital, adopts their empathetic attitude towards the patients. And also their commitment to more social justice. Verghese points to the fact, that whether in the chronically underfinanced mission hospital or in the Bronx in New York: the poor and socially disadvantaged are still sicker and die earlier. A doctor's love for medicine "Cutting for Stone" is not only a declaration of love for medicine, however, but also a wonderful family story. And the suspenseful relationship of the twin couple Shiva and Marion Stone. Vergheese's characters are full of life and warmth. They struggle with relationships, run away, love and hate each other - and yet ultimately find each other. Through all of life's ups and downs, their vocation to medicine sustains them. Or in Verghese's words: "Medicine is a demanding mistress, yet she is faithful, generous, and true. […] she gives meaning to everything I do." Related podcasts: The podcast "My schizophrenic brother" is also about the difficult and yet loving relationship of a pair of twins. Here, the narrator's brother has schizophrenia. More information: Currently, Verghese is committed to focusing on healing in an era where technology threatens to overwhelms the human side of medicine. He also comments on this in the podcast "Medicine and the Machine". Read more on the website of Abraham Verghese.

    55 min
  2. 10/07/2022

    East reads West

    "Clean language" is a non-judgmental questioning technique designed to help patients tap into unconscious knowledge. Philip Harland and his therapeutic school are convinced that the patient knows the solution to his or her problem. In his book "Trust me, I'm the Patient", author Philip Harland explains the approach of his teacher David Grove, who developed the "Clean language" technique. It is based on two rules: Operate from a state of not knowing. And ask questions that have no imputation of meaning beyond the questions themselves. This approach puts the patient center-stage. The therapist has the role of a midwife, helping the unconscious to cross the threshold to consciousness. We step back and do not contaminate the process with our own assumptions, suggestions or emotions. In this way we shift the power imbalance in the therapist-client relationship. And we strengthen the patient's trust in the process, which opens up his or her own dormant resources. The theory section of the book is followed by a practical section in which Harland reproduces exemplary therapeutic conversations. He provides a large catalog of "clean language" questions. In doing so, Harland, who is also a screenwriter, raises awareness of ambiguity and word play. He encourages asking questions in order to tap into the "parallel worlds" in the subconscious. For from the wealth of associations, sensations and experiences, we can only communicate partial aspects with language at a time. For Philip Harland, a key to the unconscious is metaphors. "If we suppose metaphor to be the coded message, then Clean language is a formula for deciphering the code," Harland says. And with that knowledge, we open up the possibility for our patients to heal and change. Even if one does not regard the approach as the only possible way to proceed in therapy, in our opinion the book is a must-read for therapists. It encourages us to take a critical look at the influence we have on our patients. Taking into account that, in our view, therapeutic action is not possible without a relationship - of whatever kind - with our patients. More about Clean language To learn more about Clean language see the Website of Penny Tompkins und James Lawley. This Podcast might also interest you Michelle Weiner Davis also assumes that patients know the solution to their problems. However, she consciously influences the perception of her clients by showing them where they have already successfully changed something in their lives. And she encourages them to try new things. Podcast Change your life by brief therapy

    52 min
  3. 06/26/2022

    East reads West

    Having a schizophrenic brother is hard for his twin Dominik. As long as he can think, he feels responsible for Thomas. He fears that the illness could break out in him, too. And he has feelings of anger and guilt because he longs for a completely "normal" life. The twins Dominik and Thomas grow up with their mother and stepfather in Connecticut. Thomas, the narrator's schizophrenic brother, attracts attention at the beginning of the story with a drastic act: in protest against America's entry into the Gulf War, he cuts off one of his hands in the local public library. Domenik, who has felt responsible for his brother for as long as he can remember, is on the edge of his strength. For more than six months he fights to get his schizophrenic brother out of the forensic psychiatrie. There he meets Dr. Patel, an Indian psychiatrist. For Nils, Dr. Patel is the model of a good therapist. She accompanies her patients with equanimity, humor and wisdom. She quickly understands that not only her schizophrenic patient Thomas "got lost in the woods", but also his brother. In flashback, the reader learns the family's history. There is the Italian grandfather who has worked his way up in America. Dominik's and Thomas' relationship with his mother and stepfather comes up. The mystery of the unknown father. And Dominik's failed marriage. Wally Lamb convincingly tells the story of Dominik's anger and despair. Of his feelings of guilt and overwhelming responsibility. Of his desire to be strong, which cuts him off from feeling grief and loss. It is a story full of strong emotions. With all the ups and downs of real life. And a story of healing. Of becoming whole. Because in the end Dominik, like the hero in the fairy tale, finds his true identity. About Wally Lamb Wally Lamb is an author who write about difficult subjects with great humanity and warmth. He helps women in prison to come to terms with their history through writing. His book has recently been turned into a mowie. More on the cast of "I know this much is True" in the CNN-interview: The Truth within the story.

    46 min
  4. 01/22/2022

    Change your life by brief therapy

    An important discovery: Patients often make first changes before their first therapy session. In "Change Your Life", Michelle Weiner-Davis explains how we can support this departure in a sustainable way. Her solution focussed brief therapy (sfbt) is inspired by psychiatrist Milton Erickson. He applied hypnotherapy in brief therapy. His case histories invite readers to be creative. Weiner-Davis book is very practical. In order to help her patients solve problems she uses a variety of questions: What have you noticed about your situation? If something has changed: Is this the kind of change you would like to continue to have happen? Notice what works and do more of it. When the same problem keeps coming up over and over in your life: Go beyond more of the same and do something different. Or - most important for therapists with a tendency to be a "hyperactive problem-solver": Do nothing. Execpt for taking a deep breath. Trance in brief therapy Milton Erickson, born in 1901, became best known for his work on hypnosis. Unlike Freud, he developed an individualized approach for every patient. For him "trance" is a state that everyone has experienced: daydreaming, meditating, or jogging (meditation in motion). These are situations in which one is aware of the vividness of inner mental and sensory experiences. The trance is intended to enable the patient to mobilize unconscious self-healing powers and to use creative resources. And Erickson assists them in breaking out of their mental patterns and crossing boundaries. Both authors rely on the fact that the patient knows the way out of the crisis. Brief therapy with or without hypnosis gives them the bit of skilful support needed. They work in a solution-oriented way and do not waste much time looking for the causes of problems in childhood. In our podcast we appreciate this approach but we also recommend Tara Brach's "Radical Compassion" in order to deal with painful memories from the past. Links: Michelle Weiner-Davis became known for her sequel Divorce busting. Tom Butler-Bowdon on Milton Erickson in Psychology Classics.

    41 min
  5. 11/03/2021

    Nothing is as erotic as an affair

    Finding out that your partner has an affair, is experiencing "death by a thousand stabs". This is why Esther Perel takes time to discuss the crisis and the consequences of the betrayal. The feelings of revenge and self-reproach. And the question of whether it is better to confess an affair or to keep it to yourself. Then she turns to the question: Why did one partner break out of the relationship? Often an affair is the result of an existing problem. But infidelity can occur even when there are no serious relationship problems. Esther Perel's answers are particularly interesting because we can learn how to reduce the probability of infidelity. We admire Esther Perel because she is not moralizing even though she has a clear moral compass. She helps us to understand all parties involved in affairs. And she recommends: to have a happy, erotically fulfilling relationship, you should adopt strategies from the script of the affair. Such as feeling that you can't quite posess the other person or crossing boundaries together. Learning from crisis or an affair Jorge Bucay, a psychiatrist from Argentina, focuses on the question: What can you learn about yourself in a partnership, especially from crisis? As an entertainer and storyteller, Bucay embeds his teachings in a frame story. Protagonist Roberto is in a relationship crisis when one day he receives emails from Laura, which are not addressed to him, but to her colleague Freddie. At first Roberto ignores these emails, but after a few days he decides to tell Laura that he is the wrong addressee. Opening the first email he finds a description of his own situation. Apparently, Laura is a psychologist. Roberto hopes to find a solution in further emails, so he decides not to inform Laura for the time being. But when Laura gets angry because of Freddie's silence and announces that she will not continue writing their joint book about couple relationships, Roberto assumes Freddie's identity. This is a wonderful book to recommend to patients. It is entertaining and at the same time contains some deep pearls of wisdom. Such as: When we feel unlovable, we wish on the one hand that our partner would make us feel better by loving us. On the other hand, we fear that we do not deserve his love. So Bucay encourages us: Learn to master your own life without expecting the partner to do it for you. And, vice versa, you don't have to solve your partner's problems either. And finally: The true power of love lies in the fact that it shows us - also through conflicts - where and how we must change to become more human. Because the great closeness of the bond in mariage or couple shows us our worst and our best qualities. Links Esther Perel's Website Mehr zu den Büchern von Jorge Bucay bei Perlentaucher. D

    53 min
  6. Radical Self-Compassion

    07/21/2021

    Radical Self-Compassion

    How can we heal old wounds? Free ourselves from the inner critic who constantly nags at us? Overcome the feeling of being unworthy or unlovable? For Tara Brach and Christ Germer, the answer is self-compassion - something that many people in a performance-oriented and self-optimizing society have forgotten or never even heard about. American meditation teacher and psychologist Tara Brach has developed an exercise based on mindfulness and self-compassion. In her book "Radical Compassion“ she describes the four steps of the RAIN technique. It helps you to recognise unpleasant feelings, allow them to be there, investigate what the most vulnerable part in you needs and nourishing it. If you feel you need help from a spiritual teacher, a deity, a benefactor or even your pet, you can also bring that in. Self-care in everyday life We often recommend this book to our patients because it shows them how to take good care of themselves. It teaches them to become more and more sensitive to unpleasant fellings and helps them, when they are feeling stuck. On an everyday basis they can practise not to run away from anxiety, fear, anger and grief, but to allow them fully to be there. And then to investigate what that wpunded part needs to heal. Psychologist Chris Germer takes a similar approach, drawing on the Buddhist practice of "metta meditation" (loving kindness). Here, too, mindfulness of one's own and others' emotions is the first step toward healing. The method helps to develop self-compassion and explains, why it is not egoistic to attend to your own feelings. Starting from this, it becomes easier to heal relationships with close people. Later, "neutral" and „difficult“ people are also included. Chris Germer belongs to the circle of scientists around brain researcher Richard Davidson. The latter studies the effect of meditation practices on the brain and the psyche. Germer's book approaches the subject of self-compassion from a more scientific point of view. He includes study results in information boxes. The book is lightened up with cartoons. Links: Guided meditations by Chris Germer (englisch): https://chrisgermer.com/meditations/ Guided RAIN-meditations by Tara Brach (englisch): https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/

    38 min
  7. 07/20/2021

    Desiderata & Great Bell

    The poem Desiderata has has been dear to Nils since he was a teenager. He has the frames text on the shelf next to the treatment couch in his practice, so he reads a couple of verses several times a day. Annes´favorite poem is a song: The Great Bell Chant by Thich Nhat Hanh. The prose poem Desiderata by the poet and lawyer Max Ehrmann from Indiana, USA, is considered a masterpiece of American poetry. The Latin term desiderata translates as the heart's desires or things to be longed for. Ehrmann phrases these in poetic form as words of wisdom and rules of life. It is precisely because of his short, simple and concise choice of words in combination with the artful poetic use of the American language that Max Ehrmann manages to touch the reader's heart. The poem of the hippies The poem from 1927, also known as the "Prayer of Baltimore", spread during the time of the hippies in the San Francisco area, where it was very popular. Desiderata even guided many politicians and leaders. Its world fame was established later on by Leonard Nimoy, the actor of Spock in Star Trek. Today, it is still considered one of the most inspiring poems of our time. In the podcast, Nils von Below and Anne Hardy share what the poem means to them as practitioners of Chinese Medicine. Desideratas wisdom is similar to what we encounter in Eastern philosophy: Finding peace in silence, being true to yourself and not comparing yourself to others. Ehrmann recommends what the ancient Chinese called the "path of the middle": "Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.." Desiderata is a declaration of love for life. A compass that keeps us on course. Also and especially over a long professional life as therapists. "Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time." The Great Bell Chant In many spiritual traditions the sound of the bell has a special meaning. In the monastery of Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh the bell is invited to bring us back to the present moment. It is a simple and effective way to bring moments of mindfullness to our day - especially, when we are on "autopilot". Thich Nhat Hanh, who is also a poet, has written a wonderful poem-prayer that expresses the wish for the end of suffering. It is wonderfully chanted in vietnamese by brother Phap Niem and illustrated on vimeo by beautiful pictures of the earth. When Anne needs to calm down, she likes to listen to the Great Bell Chant. Links: Desiderata original text Desiderata, read by Leonard Nimoy The Great Bell Chant on Vimeo

    48 min

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Western (Professional) Literature Read for Eastern Therapists