Messy Friendship Lessons

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  1. S4 EP1: 6 Friendship Lies that must Die in 2026

    JAN 21

    S4 EP1: 6 Friendship Lies that must Die in 2026

    Grief and pain have a way of shifting your perspective. The irony isn’t lost on me that I came to you in 2025 with hard truths, only to realise in 2026 that I had been living with quiet lies, beliefs I’d accepted for so long that it took hurt and disappointment to finally expose them. This episode isn’t a rewrite of those hard truths. It’s the burial of old beliefs that were slowly eroding intimacy in my friendships and would have led me down a lonely road. Thank you Jesus, I realised this sooner rather than later! These lies need to go. Quickly. Finally. So let’s grab a shovel.It’s time to bury a lie.

    42 min
  2. S3 EP10: I HATE my Friend's Boyfriend

    11/19/2025

    S3 EP10: I HATE my Friend's Boyfriend

    I hate my friend’s boyfriend! He’s a liar/cheater/loser/user/toad and she’s a beautiful angel baby princess who deserves so much better. But no matter what I say, she loves that man and keeps going back. What does she even see in him?! If you can relate, same. But there are two sides to this mess and my guest knows the other one very well… because she’s the friend whose boyfriend everyone else hated. And nothing anyone said changed her mind either. So what should friends actually do in this situation? What should we say? And how do you keep a man from coming between your friendship? Join us as we dive into the drama and swap hilarious horror stories of horrible boyfriends. Because truly… it’s friendship over foolishness, every time.

    50 min
  3. S3 EP9: Stop trying to shove Humble Pie down my throat, I don't want a slice of your Humble Pie!

    08/06/2025

    S3 EP9: Stop trying to shove Humble Pie down my throat, I don't want a slice of your Humble Pie!

    Humble pie is best served hot—with a side of audacity—and often laced with jealousy or moral superiority. Frankly, I do not want a slice!! The truth? To the insecure, confidence looks like pride, and insecurity masquerades as humility. But real humility isn’t thinking less of yourself—it’s thinking of others more. Biblically, it’s about valuing others above yourself, not denying your worth or shrinking your gifts. Confidence should never be mistaken for Pride. Unlike Pride it doesn’t compare or lord itself over others; it simply walks with its head held high. True humility serves—without pretending to be small. So come, let's talk about the times I was served humble pie and why I have chosen to handle it like Barbie!

    34 min
  4. S3 EP8: Why You Weren't Invited?

    06/11/2025

    S3 EP8: Why You Weren't Invited?

    Raise your hand if you’ve ever not been invited to something. More than once? By your friends?! Not being invited sucks, but l think it’s a universal experience! It’s easy to label the person who didn’t invite you as the villian: a mean, fake friend excluding you without a thought for your feelings. But I don’t think it’s always that simple. Sometimes, the reason you weren’t invited has nothing to do with unkindness or secretly not liking you—it might just be a matter of circumstance. In fact, I’d go as far as to say that 80% of the time, it’s not malicious. But what about the other 20%? Don’t worry, we’ll get into how to handle those situations where exclusion is intentional. So, before you jump to conclusions, pause for a moment and ask yourself: could there be more to why I wasn’t invited?

    27 min
  5. S3 EP7: Why Your Birthday Parties are Cursed...

    03/19/2025

    S3 EP7: Why Your Birthday Parties are Cursed...

    You might not like what I have to say in this episode, but I have to keep it real with you. If people keep cancelling last minute or not showing up to your birthday parties, I fear you might be doing something wrong. I know how gut-wrenching and heart-breaking this must be. However, if this keeps happening, your guests might not be the villains here. Instead, you could be committing one of the four birthday party crimes. I’m going to break it all down for you and give you the action points you need to break the curse. If you listen with an open heart, I promise you’ll never, ever have a cursed birthday party again.

    27 min
  6. S3 EP6: A letter on the Mischaracterisation of Love (Valentine's Special)

    02/12/2025

    S3 EP6: A letter on the Mischaracterisation of Love (Valentine's Special)

    I love Valentine’s Day, and I love LOVE! Yet, I feel so many of us have misunderstood it. Last year, I wrote a love letter to my friends. This year, I’m penning a letter to you. The culture has warped our minds, making us more self-seeking and less appreciative of the people who have always been there for us. And I’ve identified the culprit—the root cause, if you will. It’s the mischaracterisation of love. When love is reduced to a fleeting feeling, it leads to complacency and taking others for granted. But love isn’t a feeling—it’s an action, a choice, and a covenant. As you figuratively read this letter—or more so as I read it to you—I hope it encourages you this Valentine’s Day to fight against the hyper-focus on self. Let’s rediscover the value of serving, appreciating, and loving our friends through our actions. This Valentine’s Day, I’m celebrating intentional love. Will you join me?

    10 min
  7. S3 EP5: Now I'm in my 20s How do I make friends?! (A reflection on building community and friendship)

    01/22/2025

    S3 EP5: Now I'm in my 20s How do I make friends?! (A reflection on building community and friendship)

    The school playground is gone, and third spaces are disappearing. Now that I’m in my 20s, how do I make friends? Scrolling through TikTok, one thing is alarmingly clear: a lot of young women are lonely or searching for community. Everyone seems to want that core group of girls, yet, despite so many longing for the same thing, the problem isn’t solving itself. We could blame hyper-individualism, the rising selfishness mislabelled as self-care, or the demanding working lives of young people. But the truth is, meaningful friendships require one thing: intentionality. If you search for community, you will find it. My guest, Dayo, knows this firsthand. After moving to Manchester, she had to start from scratch in the friendship department. Meanwhile, I spent 2024 intentionally seeking out and cultivating new friendships. Join us in this episode as we share our thoughts, stories, and reflections on finding friends and building community in your 20s. Whether you’ve moved to a new city, are searching for your group of girls, or simply want to grow and expand your circle, our experiences might offer some guidance—or at least make you feel seen.

    40 min
  8. S3 EP4: 5 Hard Friendship Truths for 2025

    01/01/2025

    S3 EP4: 5 Hard Friendship Truths for 2025

    Last year, I shared 24 friendship rules for 2024. This year, we’re stripping it back—five hard truths, five difficult pills to swallow, but ones I am embracing and carrying into 2025 with fierceness. 2024 was a year of profound changes felt around the world. The beauty of change and challenges is how they teach and shape us. These truths were born from the shifts in friendship I experienced last year. I have learnt that grace and forgiveness are essential, but so is wisdom. In 2025, let’s step boldly into friendships that are intentional, fruitful, and nourish the soul. I pray you walk into 2025 with wisdom.

    35 min
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  • Creator
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  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
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