Ladies Like Us

Linda Leising

Who decides what a complete life looks like and how do we decide? Ladies Like Us is an exploration of the energy of Motherhood and what becomes of it when you don’t have a child. For the motherhood curious, childless, childfree, ambivalent or a self-defined mother of any kind. The mission of this podcast is to shift the paradigm of female experience away from binary poles of Motherhood and Otherhood and into an inclusive model reflecting the spectrum of experiences lived by real women- living their mothering energy confidently and authentically. Think non-binary mothering energy. This podcast is for all who wish to feel wholeness no matter the fruit of their wombs.

  1. 05/04/2022

    Watch your Language!

    Send us a text How are you talking to yourself when it comes to your goals?  Need to do versus want to do carry very different energy. Your body perceives the task, goal, or activity very differently depending on word choice. Should. Need to. Have to.  Believe it or not, it can subconsciously alter your energy for a given task or goal.  And unless you shift that energy, it's, it's always going to feel like a struggle. Linda unpacks how some of the language we use around our goals points to avoidance. Framing things as "need to" reveals your subconscious feeling about a task and keeps you in the energy of how you'll feel if you don't do it. Which robs you of the energy to DO IT.  Saying " I want to"  or "I choose to" calls forth energy.  Once again, this is likely a vestige from our childhood. We use the kind of language we hear growing up and don't question it. But beyond that, there is how childhood is structured.  We're either getting in trouble or, or we're getting a star, but either way we're trying to figure out  what the adults want and  how we're going to get rewarded and avoid punishment.  This polarity sets up  how we view what we need to do. It seems like I have to do it--whether it's " I have to do it this way so is I don't get punished or I have to do it this way to get rewarded. As kids we take that assignment seriously.  And as kids, we can indicate desire-- I want this and I wanted that and et cetera, et cetera. But kids don't have the power to get those things, at least not outrightly. So we have to manipulate to get those things, to get our desires met, so to speak.   So it makes sense that the language of I want -- of desire--  got replaced with,  language that reflected the value system of the adults around us.  And what happens next? Most of us just grow from that place, but still have  that  in place. then we create a more sophisticated version of punishment and reward.

    14 min
  2. 04/12/2022

    We Belong (just like Pat Benatar said)

    Send us a text  What does belonging mean to you? As a definition, it's an affinity for a place or a situation. It can be a feeling that you can be yourself that you're loved welcomed. That you'd be missed if you were away.   It's also a feeling of security and support we feel when there a sense of acceptance, inclusion, and identity for a member of a certain group. It is when an individual can bring their authentic self to the table and feel like themselves.  Ladies Like Us was created as a  place where feel that sense of belonging. But here's the thing,,, belonging is a two way street and an inside job.  How? Otherhood, or childless not by choice individuals often feel uninvited to the table by society at large. But more often than not, it's the internal "otherness" we are bringing into the room that makes us feel "other",  rather than the majority actually pointing at us and telling us we are other. There are plenty of groups you don't want to belong to. When you aren't invited to these groups, you literally don't give an F. Why? It holds no heat for you because the values of that group don't matter to you.  Others--It makes total sense to get triggered by this and have belonging become a difficult subject... But it doesn't have to stay that way.  The biggest shift you can experience, is to become clear on where and when you feel a sense of belonging. And bring that back to yourself. How are you creating belonging inside yourself? What is the sense of belonging you can take with you anywhere? You can literally create the experience of belonging.  Learn a quick exercise to bring you back to yourself.  Coming back to yourself helps unhook you from outside influences which are constantly fluctuating and distorting you from your true belonging and wholeness.  You belong. You are whole. You are perfect, just as you are.  XOXO Linda

    15 min
4.9
out of 5
12 Ratings

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Who decides what a complete life looks like and how do we decide? Ladies Like Us is an exploration of the energy of Motherhood and what becomes of it when you don’t have a child. For the motherhood curious, childless, childfree, ambivalent or a self-defined mother of any kind. The mission of this podcast is to shift the paradigm of female experience away from binary poles of Motherhood and Otherhood and into an inclusive model reflecting the spectrum of experiences lived by real women- living their mothering energy confidently and authentically. Think non-binary mothering energy. This podcast is for all who wish to feel wholeness no matter the fruit of their wombs.