The Inner Wealth Podcast

Mike Kitko
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Mike Kitko is the Founder and Creative Director of Inner Wealth Global, a personal and professional development company that helps business owners create aligned wealth, success, freedom, and deep fulfillment—without sacrificing themselves in the process. As an author, speaker, podcaster, and coach Mike guides visionaries and impact-driven entrepreneurs to align their inner world with the life and business they are truly meant to live and create. His work helps you master your mind, energy, and emotions while building intense personal power so that wealth and opportunity flow effortlessly. Through coaching, training, and transformational content, Inner Wealth Global helps business owners break free from unnecessary struggle, trust their path, and create a life deeply aligned with their soul.

  1. 1d ago

    Ep264. Belief, Clarity & Your Nervous System: The 3 Keys to Creating the Life You Actually Want.

    Send me a some feedback! Why do some people receive the same strategies, opportunities, and information but create completely different results? In this episode, Mike shares three foundational elements he has seen separate those who transform their lives from those who remain stuck. Those three elements are belief, clarity, and nervous system mastery. When you believe in yourself, get clear about what you truly want, and learn to move through the discomfort of unfamiliar circumstances, you become far more capable of creating and receiving the life you actually desire. Key Takeaways 1. Belief Is the Starting Point Sometimes you need someone else to believe in you until you develop enough evidence and experience to believe in yourself. 2. Clarity Is Power Most people know exactly what they don't want. Getting clear about what you do want gives your energy a direction and moves you from survival toward creation. 3. Your Nervous System Prefers the Familiar Your nervous system has one job: to keep you alive. It tries to accomplish that by keeping you in circumstances where it has already proven it can keep you alive. 4. Growth Requires Discomfort Creating something new requires moving beyond what currently feels familiar. That discomfort isn't necessarily a signal to stop—it can be a sign that you're encountering the current limits of your nervous system. 5. Put All Three Together Belief opens you to possibility. Clarity gives you direction. Nervous system mastery helps you move through the resistance that appears as you create a new normal. Notable Quotes “You are way more powerful than you will ever, ever know, than you will ever realize, and you will ever feel. Just having somebody believe in me when I didn't believe in myself was like a launching pad for me.”“Everybody in life knows what they don't want, but very few know what they do. There is so much power in clarity. It gives clear direction for the energy in your life.”“There is a dream buried inside of you. But if you don't look for it and if you don't get clear about it, you'll wake up to just survive. And when you unlock that dream, you give yourself the ability to thrive.”“Your nervous system has one goal and one goal only, and that's to keep you alive. It tries to keep you alive by trying to keep you in familiar circumstances because it has proven effective in being able to keep you alive there.”“You can't have growth and comfort at the same time. Growth requires understanding the current limits of the nervous system and beginning to work through them. If you master your nervous system, then it'll stop mastering you.”Take the Next Step Where are you struggling most? Believing in yourself? Getting clear about what you actually want? Or breaking through the discomfort that comes with change and transformation? These are exactly the areas we'll explore in my next live intensive workshop, Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive. If you're ready to identify what's keeping you stuck and begin expanding your capacity to receive the life you truly want, join me at the next workshop. Click Here for More Details! Or reach out to me personally. Tell me where you're struggling, and let's start the conversation. mike@innerwealthglobal.com Mike's Media: Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

  2. Aug 13

    Ep263. The Soul Carries the Dream, Mind Creates, and Body Receives: Putting the Creation Process Together.

    Send me a some feedback! Everything starts with clarity—but clarity alone isn’t enough. In this episode, Mike brings together nearly a decade of personal experience, coaching, visualization, embodiment work, success, self-sabotage, and nervous system work to explain why some of the things we desperately want remain outside our current reality. The missing piece is our capacity to receive. Mike revisits his Creation Process of Clarity, Certainty, and Commitment and explains how the nervous system determines what feels familiar and safe enough to receive. When we combine a clear vision with embodiment, release the beliefs and resistance standing in the way, and remain committed to the process, we expand our capacity for a new reality. The soul carries the dream. The mind creates. The body receives.  Key Takeaways 1. Everything Starts With Clarity You can’t intentionally create what you haven’t allowed yourself to clearly want. Vision gives direction to the creation process, but getting clear about the dream is only the beginning. 2. Certainty Is Built Through Embodiment Visualization happens in the mind, but embodiment allows you to begin experiencing the emotional reality of what you want in your body now. Over time, the desire can move from something you merely want to something your body begins to anticipate. 3. Your Nervous System Determines Your Current Capacity We each have a current capacity for wealth, success, love, acceptance, admiration, impact, and receiving. When circumstances move beyond what feels familiar, the nervous system can respond with worry, doubt, fear, anxiety, resistance, and even self-sabotage in an attempt to return to familiar territory. 4. Expansion Requires Letting Go Creating a new reality isn't only about adding more action. It's also about releasing the beliefs, stories, identities, and internal blocks that keep the body attached to the old reality. This is where deep inner work and the DRILL Method become essential. 5. The Soul Carries the Dream. The Mind Creates. The Body Receives. All three are required. The soul carries the unique dream, the mind gives that dream clarity and form, and the body must develop the capacity to receive it. When the body remains blocked against something unfamiliar, we can create it mentally without ever fully allowing ourselves to receive it physically.  Notable Quotes “Everybody knows exactly what they don't want, but very few people know exactly what they do want. Everything starts with vision, and without vision, nothing else is possible.”“The more I visualized and embodied these new circumstances and this new life, the more my body began to receive it. My mind and my body started to anticipate that it was probable, not just possible.”“Your capacity for wealth, success, love, impact, acceptance, approval, and admiration is determined by what your nervous system feels is safe and not a threat to your very existence.”“The part that creates the biggest impact is the letting go, the releasing, the embodiment, the nervous system work. It's the deep inner work to create wealth inside of you instead of just chasing it outside.”“The soul carries the dream and the mind creates. But the juiciest part, and the part that everybody seems to miss, is that the body receives. And if your body is blocked from receiving, you won't receive.” Take the Next Step Getting clear about what you want is exciting. But the deeper work is becoming capable of receiving and sustaining it. If you're ready to move beyond clarity and begin identifying and releasing the beliefs, resistance, and nervous system blocks that may be limiting your current capacity, join me for the Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive Workshop, August 28–29. Click here for details! We'll go beyond simply dreaming about a different life and begin doing the deeper inner work of releasing what you've outgrown, expanding your capacity to receive, and becoming more available for the wealth, love, freedom, success, impact, and fulfillment you truly want. If you want to contact Mike directly, his email address is mike@innerwealthglobal.com Your dream is already within you. The question is: are you willing to do the work required to receive it? Mike's Media: Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

  3. Aug 6

    Ep262. Your Emotions Are Real, But They're Lying to You: The Hidden Beliefs Your Emotions Reveal.

    Send me a some feedback! Your emotions are real—but they aren't always telling you the truth. In this episode, Mike Kitko explains why emotions are valuable signals, but the beliefs creating those emotions are often built on stories that no longer serve you. Instead of ignoring your feelings or allowing them to control your life, you'll learn how to decode them and uncover the limiting beliefs buried within your nervous system.  Through personal stories from building his coaching business, Mike demonstrates how emotions like guilt, fear, and shame once shaped his decisions—and how changing the beliefs beneath those emotions transformed the way he showed up in business and in life.  Key Takeaways 1. Your Emotions Are Real—But the Story Beneath Them May Be False Your emotions deserve your attention, not your obedience. They're real experiences, but they're often generated by limiting beliefs that no longer reflect reality.  2. Every Emotion Points to a Belief Fear, guilt, shame, inadequacy, and self-doubt are clues. Instead of suppressing them, become curious about the belief creating them. That's where lasting transformation begins.  3. Your Nervous System Protects Familiar Beliefs Your nervous system isn't trying to make you wealthy, successful, or fulfilled. It's trying to keep you alive by preserving what's familiar—even when those familiar beliefs are limiting your life.  4. Discomfort Often Signals Growth The emotions that arise when you ask for more, receive more, charge more, or become more visible aren't proof you're doing something wrong. They're often evidence that you're moving beyond the boundaries of your current conditioning.  5. Sustainable Success Requires Rebuilding Your Belief System As you reshape the beliefs embedded within your nervous system, your internal world changes first. Your external life naturally begins to reorganize around that new identity and those new beliefs.  Notable Quotes "Your emotions are real. They're happening in your body right now. But the story creating those emotions may be completely false. The emotion deserves your attention—the belief beneath it deserves your investigation.""For years I believed that offering my services made me selfish, greedy, and pushy. Those feelings were real, but the belief beneath them was a lie. The moment I changed the belief, offering became an act of service instead of an act of selfishness.""Your nervous system has one job and one job only: to keep you alive. It protects what's familiar, even when what's familiar is keeping you from creating the life you truly want.""Don't ignore your emotions, and don't let them run your life either. Learn to decode them. Every uncomfortable feeling is pointing you toward a belief that's ready to be healed, rebuilt, and replaced.""The quality of your external life will always reflect the quality of your internal operating system. Change the beliefs within your nervous system, and your life begins to change with them."Call to Action If this episode challenged the way you've been thinking about your emotions, spend a few moments reflecting on what your feelings have been trying to tell you. Instead of asking, "How do I get rid of this emotion?" ask yourself, "What belief is creating this emotion?" That one question can begin transforming the way you relate to yourself and your life. If you're ready to go beyond awareness and begin rebuilding the beliefs and nervous system patterns that have been shaping your life, join Mike for the Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive Workshop on August 28–29 in St. Charles, Missouri (just outside St. Louis). Together, you'll identify the hidden beliefs limiting your growth and begin creating an internal foundation capable of receiving more wealth, fulfillment, love, freedom, and impact. Click here for more information! Questions about the workshop or working with Mike? mike@innerwealthglobal.com No assistant. No gatekeeper. Just a conversation about creating an inner world that naturally produces an extraordinary outer life. Mike's Media: Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

  4. Jul 30

    Ep261. Your Beliefs Are Protected by Your Nervous System: And Both Are Trying to Keep You the Same.

    Send me a some feedback! Why do so many people sabotage the very success, love, freedom, and fulfillment they say they want? In this episode, Mike Kitko connects two of the most powerful concepts in personal development: your beliefs create your experience, and your nervous system works tirelessly to protect those beliefs by keeping you in familiar circumstances. When you understand how these two systems work together, you'll finally see why lasting change has felt so difficult—and what it really takes to create sustainable success.  Mike also introduces the foundation of his upcoming webinar, The Science of Sustainable Success, and explains how retraining your nervous system and releasing limiting beliefs allows you to receive more wealth, happiness, love, fulfillment, freedom, and impact without unconsciously sabotaging yourself.  Key Takeaways 1. Your Nervous System Prioritizes Survival Over Success Your nervous system has one primary job: keeping you alive. It prefers familiar circumstances—even when they limit your growth.  2. Your Beliefs Create the Life You Experience You don't experience life as it is—you experience life through the beliefs you hold about yourself, other people, and what's possible.  3. Your Nervous System Protects Your Beliefs Even limiting beliefs feel "safe" to your nervous system. Releasing them requires moving through uncertainty until your body learns a new normal.  4. Sustainable Success Requires Internal Change Creating success is one thing. Keeping it requires expanding your capacity to receive it without your nervous system pulling you back to what's familiar.  5. Receiving Requires Letting Go of Old Stories When you release beliefs that no longer serve you, you create space to receive greater wealth, freedom, peace, fulfillment, love, and significance.  Notable Quotes "Your nervous system has one job and one job only: to keep you alive. It doesn't care if you're wealthy, successful, happy, or fulfilled. It only cares that you're breathing.""You don't experience life as it is. You experience life as you believe it to be. Your beliefs create your reality.""Your nervous system protects the beliefs you're holding because those beliefs have become familiar—and familiar feels safe.""If you want to experience more, you've got to be willing to believe more. And that means allowing your nervous system to become uncomfortable for a while.""If your nervous system isn't comfortable holding success, it's only a matter of time before you'll sabotage it."Call to Action If this episode challenged the way you've been thinking about success, take a moment to reflect on the beliefs you've been protecting and the familiar patterns your nervous system has been working so hard to preserve. Real transformation begins when you become aware of what's been unconsciously directing your life. Click here to join Mike for his free webinar, The Science of Sustainable Success, on August 4 at 6:00 PM Central, where you'll learn how your nervous system and belief system work together—and how to create lasting success without self-sabotage. Then, if you're ready for a deeper transformation, click here to join the Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive Workshop on August 28–29 in St. Charles (just outside St. Louis), Missouri. You'll learn how to release limiting beliefs, retrain your nervous system, and become someone who can fully receive the wealth, success, peace, freedom, and fulfillment you've been working so hard to create. Questions? mike@innerwealthglobal.com No assistant. No gatekeeper. Just a conversation about helping you rebuild from the inside out so you can finally receive the life you've always been capable of. Mike's Media: Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

  5. Jul 23

    Ep260. Permission to Receive: The One Decision That Changes Everything About Your Life.

    Send me a some feedback! What if the only thing standing between you and the life you truly want is permission? In this episode, Mike Kitko explores one of the most profound realizations from his work with entrepreneurs, leaders, and high performers: the people who transform their lives aren't waiting for better circumstances—they finally give themselves permission to become, do, ask for, receive, and feel what they've wanted all along.  Through powerful personal stories and client transformations, Mike explains why permission is the gateway to receiving. Whether it's building a dream business, feeling financially secure, expressing your authentic self, or asking for what you want, lasting change begins the moment you stop waiting for someone else's approval and start giving yourself permission.  Key Takeaways 1. Permission Is the Beginning of Receiving Receiving doesn't begin with circumstances changing—it begins with a decision. The moment you give yourself permission to want, ask for, receive, and feel what you truly desire, your life begins to change.  2. Most People Are Waiting for Permission They Already Have Whether it's starting a business, changing careers, speaking up, or pursuing a dream, many people remain stuck because they're waiting for someone else to validate what only they can authorize.  3. Your Nervous System Will Resist Growth Growth feels uncomfortable because your nervous system prefers what's familiar. Learning to move through that discomfort is part of becoming more receptive to life.  4. Receiving Includes More Than Money Receiving means allowing yourself to experience confidence, fulfillment, peace, security, significance, love, and every other internal state you've been postponing until "someday."  5. You Become Free the Moment You Stop Waiting You don't need permission from your parents, your boss, your spouse, society, or anyone else. The freedom you've been searching for begins the moment you give yourself permission.  Notable Quotes "You don't need permission to be who you want to be, to do what you want to do, to want what you want, to ask for what you want, to receive what you want, or even to feel what you'd rather feel. The only permission you've ever truly needed is your own.""I didn't build Melanie's business. I didn't build Corey's business. I didn't build Matt's business. They did all the work. What I gave them was permission—the permission they wouldn't give themselves—and that became the spark that changed everything.""Receiving starts with one single decision, and that's to give yourself permission to want what you want, ask for what you want, receive what you want, feel what you want, be who you want, and do what you want. It all begins with permission.""Sometimes the greatest act of receiving is giving yourself permission to ask for what you want. I don't need anyone else's permission to invite someone into my work—I only need to give myself permission to be on the receiving end of life.""If you do need permission, then consider this your permission to be who you want, do what you want, want what you want, ask for what you want, receive what you want, and most importantly, feel what you want. Why would you settle for anything less?"Call to Action If this episode challenged the way you've thought about permission, spend a few moments reflecting on where you've been waiting for someone else to approve the life you already know you're meant to live. Where have you been withholding permission from yourself? What would change if you simply decided that today was the day you gave it to yourself? If you're ready to stop waiting and finally become fully receptive to the life that's calling you, join Mike for the Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive Workshop on August 28–29, just outside of St. Louis, Missouri. Together, you'll uncover the conditioning that's kept you from receiving, retrain your nervous system, and learn how to create a life where giving and receiving flow with equal ease. Click here for details and to register. Questions about the workshop or working with Mike one-on-one? mike@innerwealthglobal.com No assistant. No gatekeeper. Just a conversation about helping you give yourself permission to receive the life you've always wanted. Mike's Media: Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

  6. Jul 16

    Ep259. Over-Responsibility vs. Generosity: The Pattern Keeping You Stuck on the Over-Giving Side of Life.

    Send me a some feedback! Over the past several episodes, Mike has explored the balance between giving and receiving and why so many generous people become chronic over-givers and under-receivers. In this episode, he shares one of the biggest breakthroughs of his own journey—a realization that transformed how he understands giving, boundaries, and receiving.  The breakthrough is simple but profound: responsibility and generosity are not the same thing. Responsibility rooted in guilt and obligation leads to depletion. Generosity flows from abundance, healthy boundaries, and a willingness to receive. This episode will challenge the way you think about helping others and caring for yourself.  Key Takeaways 1. Over-Responsibility Creates the Over-Giver Many people don't over-give because they're generous—they over-give because they feel responsible for everyone else's well-being.  2. Generosity Comes from Abundance True generosity is freely given from overflow, while over-responsibility is driven by guilt, obligation, and fear.  3. Healthy Boundaries Protect Your Well-Being You are responsible for your own well-being. Healthy boundaries allow you to give without sacrificing yourself.  4. Receiving Increases Your Capacity to Give The more willing you are to receive, the more you can give from abundance instead of depletion.  5. Freedom Begins When You Let Go of Over-Responsibility Releasing responsibility for everyone else's happiness creates space for both you and others to step into greater personal power.  Notable Quotes "There's a difference between responsibility and generosity. We can be generous without being responsible for other people. We can demonstrate generosity from abundance and overflow without carrying responsibility for someone else's well-being.""Healthy giving does not contain elements of responsibility for another person's well-being. But when you give from obligation, guilt, shame, or fear, you're no longer giving from generosity—you're giving from over-responsibility.""I realized that I had spent most of my life putting myself second because I felt overly responsible for everyone around me. That over-responsibility created the over-giver... and it also created the under-receiver.""You are responsible for one person in this lifetime, and that's you. Everything else you choose to give beyond that can come from generosity instead of obligation, and that's where real freedom begins.""The greatest lie ever handed down from generation to generation is that it's better to give than receive. When you level up your ability to receive, you stop being over-responsible for everybody else, and you finally step into the abundance that's been waiting for you all along."Call to Action If this episode challenged the way you've thought about responsibility, spend a few moments reflecting on where you've been carrying burdens that were never yours to carry. Where have you confused generosity with obligation? Where have you been saying "yes" because you felt responsible instead of because you genuinely wanted to give? If you're ready to break free from over-responsibility and learn how to give from abundance while receiving with ease, join Mike for the Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive Workshop on August 28–29, just outside of St. Louis, Missouri. Together, you'll uncover the conditioning that created the over-giver, retrain your nervous system to receive, and learn how to live from overflow instead of depletion. Click here for details and to register. Questions about the workshop or working with Mike one-on-one? mike@innerwealthglobal.com No assistant. No gatekeeper. Just a conversation about helping you let go of over-responsibility, embrace healthy generosity, and create a life where giving and receiving flow with equal ease. Mike's Media: Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

  7. Jul 9

    Ep258. Personal Power Received: Why Authenticity, Self-Trust, and Self-Acceptance Upgrade Everything.

    Send me a some feedback! In this episode, Mike Kitko redefines personal power and explains why it has nothing to do with controlling others. Instead, personal power is built upon three foundational attributes: authenticity, self-trust, and self-acceptance. As these qualities grow, so does your ability to express the highest version of yourself.  Mike also explores the three expressions of personal power—emotional sovereignty, emotional courage, and healthy boundaries—and explains why these internal states must first be chosen and received before they can be expressed. Discover how rewiring your nervous system and embracing healthy selfishness can transform both your inner and outer world. Key Takeaways 1. Personal Power Begins with Three Internal Attributes Authenticity, self-trust, and self-acceptance form the foundation of personal power. As these internal qualities grow stronger, your ability to express your highest self naturally expands.  2. Personal Power Is Expressed Through Emotional Mastery Emotional sovereignty, emotional courage, and healthy boundaries are the outward expressions of someone who has cultivated true personal power. These qualities allow you to remain grounded regardless of external circumstances.  3. Healthy Selfishness Is Required for Personal Growth Increasing your personal power requires putting your own growth, peace, and well-being first without intentionally harming others. Healthy selfishness allows you to protect your energy while becoming the highest version of yourself.  4. Your Nervous System Must Learn to Receive New Internal States Confidence, authenticity, self-worth, and personal power are not achieved through external success. They become your reality when you repeatedly choose, practice, and receive these elevated emotional states until your nervous system accepts them as your new normal.  5. Your Inner World Always Creates Your Outer World Lasting transformation doesn't happen by chasing external accomplishments. It happens by upgrading your beliefs, emotions, and internal quality of life first, allowing your external world to naturally evolve as a reflection of your inner state.  Notable Quotes "Personal power has nothing to do with hurting other people in the world. Personal power has everything to do with who you become in the world. And who you become is really the greatest version of yourself if you continue to upgrade and level up in your personal power.""Someone who is increasing and experiencing higher levels of personal power becomes radically authentic. They have no issues expressing who they really are in this world. They're the same person behind closed doors as they are in public, and they allow the people who love that version of them to lean in.""Real emotional courage is the willingness to feel any and all emotions and still be okay. It doesn't mean you don't have fear—it means you're not a victim of your emotions, and your nervous system becomes your servant instead of your master.""You can't achieve this. You can't accumulate this. You can't accomplish this. No one can give it to you. No one can gift it to you. This is something you must receive in your mind and body. It's a proactive choice, not a consequence of something outside of you.""Most people keep moving the goalposts because they're trying to feel these things as the consequence of achievement instead of choosing and receiving them first. These internal states are the cause—not the effect—of creating a higher quality life."Call to Action If this episode challenged the way you've thought about personal power, spend a few moments reflecting on where you've been giving your power away. Where have you been hiding your authenticity? Where have you stopped trusting yourself? What internal state have you been waiting for the outside world to give you instead of choosing and receiving it for yourself? If you're ready to strengthen your personal power from the inside out, join Mike for the Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive Workshop on August 28–29, just outside of St. Louis, Missouri. Together, you'll learn how to strengthen authenticity, deepen self-trust, build genuine self-acceptance, and retrain your nervous system to receive the internal states that create a truly powerful life. Click here for details and to register. Questions about the workshop or working with Mike one-on-one? mike@innerwealthglobal.com No assistant. No gatekeeper. Just a conversation about helping you become the most authentic, powerful, and fully expressed version of yourself. Mike's Media: Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

  8. Jul 2

    Ep257. Debunking the Selfishness Lie: Why Healthy Selfishness Creates a Better Life.

    Send me a some feedback! In this episode, Mike challenges one of the deepest beliefs many of us inherited as children: "Don't be selfish." While the intention behind that message may have been good, the long-term consequence is often a life of over-giving, under-receiving, and quietly sacrificing our own needs to avoid appearing selfish. Mike explains why healthy selfishness isn't something to avoid—it's something to cultivate.  Drawing from his own life, his coaching work, and the foundation of his upcoming book, Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive, Mike explores how our earliest conditioning shapes our relationship with giving and receiving. He shares why learning to receive isn't selfish at all—it's the key to creating a life of greater abundance, fulfillment, and generosity. Key Takeaways 1. Childhood conditioning often creates adults who over-give and under-receive. Messages like "Don't be selfish," "Don't ask for too much," and "It's better to give than receive" become unconscious programs that continue shaping our lives decades later.  2. Healthy selfishness is not the opposite of generosity. Wanting what you want, asking for it, and allowing yourself to receive doesn't make you selfish—it creates the capacity to give from overflow instead of depletion.  3. Giving and receiving are equal. Like breathing in and breathing out, both are essential. When one side of the exchange is blocked, life becomes imbalanced.  4. Your relationship with receiving determines the quality of your life. Many people unconsciously reject support, ease, abundance, and opportunity because they were conditioned to believe they must first earn or deserve them.  5. Becoming an easy receiver changes everything. As you release unhealthy beliefs around selfishness, you naturally become more open to life's opportunities while simultaneously becoming a more generous person.  Notable Quotes "The greatest lie ever told: It's better to give than receive.""It's not better to give than receive. These are equal. It's kind of like breathing. Inhaling is not more important than exhaling, and exhaling is not more important than inhaling. They're equal. Both are required.""There's a huge difference between giving from a place of sacrifice than giving from a place of overflow and abundance.""The more you receive, the more you have to give.""Because a lot of times we give really easily, but receiving is a struggle-icious event. And if receiving isn't as easy as giving, you're always gonna be on the depleted side of life."Call to Action If this episode challenged the way you've thought about selfishness, spend a few moments reflecting on where you've been saying "no" to yourself in an effort to avoid appearing selfish. What have you stopped asking for? What support have you rejected? Where have you been giving from sacrifice instead of overflow? If you're ready to transform your relationship with giving and receiving, join Mike for the Built to Give, Rebuilt to Receive Workshop on August 28–29 just outside of St. Louis, Missouri. Together, you'll identify and release the conditioning that's kept you on the over-giving side of life and rebuild your ability to receive with ease. Click here for details and to register. Questions about the workshop or working with Mike one-on-one? mike@innerwealthglobal.com No assistant. No gatekeeper. Just a conversation about creating a life where giving and receiving flow with equal ease. Mike's Media: Website: https://www.innerwealthglobal.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mikekitko Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mike_kitko Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@mikekitko Subscribe to my YouTube: / @mikekitko Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends

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Mike Kitko is the Founder and Creative Director of Inner Wealth Global, a personal and professional development company that helps business owners create aligned wealth, success, freedom, and deep fulfillment—without sacrificing themselves in the process. As an author, speaker, podcaster, and coach Mike guides visionaries and impact-driven entrepreneurs to align their inner world with the life and business they are truly meant to live and create. His work helps you master your mind, energy, and emotions while building intense personal power so that wealth and opportunity flow effortlessly. Through coaching, training, and transformational content, Inner Wealth Global helps business owners break free from unnecessary struggle, trust their path, and create a life deeply aligned with their soul.

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  • Creator
    Mike Kitko
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    265
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    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Inner Wealth Podcast
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