Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating

Tamara Schoon
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Are you perpetually single? Do you want longer-lasting relationships? Tired of the miscommunication and misunderstandings? Wish you were better in bed? Advice from experts as well as real talk from real people so that you can see you are not alone in your thoughts and experiences. I talk about sex in my stand-up comedy and people often tell me that I say what they are thinking but are too afraid to say or admit it to their partners; too taboo they think. We'll talk about books we've read on dating, relationships and sex so that you can gain knowledge without having to read all the books yourself. I'll interview people on both sides of an issue: people who are great at dating and unsuccessful at dating...learn from the person who's great and also learn what not to do! We'll do the same with sex and relationships so that you can learn what works so you don't need to repeat others' past mistakes. I'll interview sex coaches and love coaches. We intend this to be a how-to guide. Hit follow and join us!  Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  1. 1d ago

    Stop Calling It Compatibility And Start Calling It Skills #160

    We connect the dots between the brain, the nervous system, and the patterns that make couples feel stuck in the same fights. Dr. David Helfand explains how QEEG brain mapping, regulation skills, and intensive marriage retreats can turn “we’re incompatible” into a concrete plan for repair and prevention.  • Dr. Helfand’s path from neurofeedback and insomnia work to full-time couples retreats  • Why couples therapy works best when partners become self-sufficient  • How brain mapping can explain processing speed and auditory processing differences  • Reframing “not listening” as a neuroprocessing mismatch rather than disrespect  • What incompatibility really means compared with preferences and solvable differences  • Trauma and the fight or flight response showing up inside everyday conflict  • Why somatic approaches often help trauma more than talk alone  • How marriage retreats create momentum compared with weekly therapy  • Using neuroscience to understand bonding, affairs, and realistic expectations about sex  • The four pillars If you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as well. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic now TamaraSchoonDating Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  2. Oct 27

    Your Date Might Be A Catfish So Here Is A Checklist #159

    One bad relationship can cost you years. One smart reality check can save you. We sit down with Tampa-based entrepreneur Justin Smith, founder of Cray, to talk about the moment his long-term partnership collapsed and how that pain became a dating safety app designed to help people spot red flags earlier and protect themselves in a messy online dating world. Justin breaks down what Cray actually does: the Craze Score (relationship instability and warning signs), the Schemer Score (deception, manipulation, and financial scams), plus safety features like a catfish check. We also get into why “dating app” doesn’t have to mean swiping and shallow matching, and how structured questions can give you more objective data when emotions make everything blurry. The conversation goes deeper than tools and tech. We talk mindset, self-love, and boundaries, especially for people dating again after divorce or anyone who has a trauma history where red flags can feel normal. Justin shares his experience with inpatient trauma treatment, including CBT and DBT skills, somatic cues that show up in the body, and simple techniques like box breathing and nervous system resets that can help you ride out a trigger without making a risky choice. If you want practical dating safety advice, a clearer way to think about manipulation and scams, and a reminder to trust actions over words, you’ll get a lot from this one. Subscribe for more conversations like this, share this with a friend who’s dating again, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic now TamaraSchoonDating Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  3. Oct 20

    Are you an Emotional Vampire!? #158

    Some people don’t just annoy us, they siphon our energy and leave us feeling smaller, heavier, and weirdly guilty for needing space. I sit down with relationship coach, speaker, and author Daniel Ratner to name that pattern clearly: “emotional vampires” and the everyday ways they show up in friendships, dating, work, and even family. We talk about the difference between the people we keep close and the people we tolerate out of habit. Daniel shares his “keepers” framework and why the ability to say “I’m sorry” is a bigger deal than most of us admit. From there, we get into the toughest category: narcissism. We break down love bombing, control, and why a connection can quietly turn into what Daniel calls a “manipulationship”. You’ll also hear practical tools for boundaries like time boxing and emotional separation, plus Daniel’s memorable “Sunscreen Love” metaphor.  We close with a hard but helpful question: could we be the one draining others, and what does self-esteem have to do with it? Subscribe for more conversations on healthy relationships, share this with a friend who needs it, and please leave a rating and review. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic now TamaraSchoonDating Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  4. Oct 13

    Closing The Orgasm Gap #157

    The fastest way to better sex is not a new position, it’s better information and a lot more honesty. We sit down with Eve Hall, a licensed physical therapist and certified health coach, to talk about the real-world mechanics of sexual health and the conversations most couples avoid until things feel broken. Eve shares how her work in pelvic floor physical therapy became a mission to destigmatize intimacy, close the orgasm gap, and help people feel confident asking for what they need.  We break down what the pelvic floor actually does, why weakness or poor coordination can show up as incontinence, prolapse, painful sex, or erectile dysfunction, and why sexual symptoms often connect to blood flow and overall health. Eve explains acoustic wave therapy, why decreased vaginal sensitivity and dryness can be the female equivalent of erectile dysfunction, and how circulation changes can even raise bigger heart-health questions. We also talk menopause, estrogen, hormone replacement therapy, and why topical support can make a difference for comfort and tissue health.  Then we get blunt about pleasure and communication. The orgasm gap in heterosexual relationships persists because penetrative sex gets treated like the whole plan, even though most women need external clitoral stimulation to orgasm. We talk lube as a game changer at any age, “big c**t energy” as sexual confidence, and what kink and BDSM can teach everyone about consent and clear requests. If you want mind-blowing sex, start with shame-free talk and a willingness to learn.  Subscribe for more honest conversations, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more listeners can find us. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic now TamaraSchoonDating Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  5. Oct 6

    Could you get over being cheated on? #156

    A betrayal can blow up a relationship in a day, but the real damage often reaches back decades. I’m joined by Kayla Crane, a couples therapist who specializes in relationships and relational trauma, to talk about what actually helps couples recover after infidelity and why “just get over it” rarely works. Kayla walks me through systematic affair recovery therapy.  That structure creates context for why the pain lands so differently from person to person. We also talk about how childhood modeling can shape faithfulness. From there, we zoom in on communication. Kayla shares how Relational Life Therapy helps couples move from surface fights to the deeper meaning underneath.  If you’re in Colorado, Kayla shares how to find her practice and free resources through SouthDenverTherapy.com. Listen, then subscribe, share this with someone who needs it, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic now TamaraSchoonDating Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  6. Sep 29

    You Can Relearn Desire By Listening To Your Body #155

    Dating can feel like a job interview with flirting on top, and a lot of us are exhausted by the same loop: say the right thing, try to seem confident, hope “chemistry” appears, then wonder why it still feels disconnected. We sit down with Emma Galland, a holistic and tantric sex, love, and relationship coach and the founder of Tantric Awakenings, to talk about a different starting point: your nervous system, your body, and your ability to be present. Emma shares the story that brought her from decades of coaching into tantra, including a moment of intimacy that showed her what happens when someone holds steady presence through big emotion. From there, we get practical about what she teaches men and couples who struggle with modern dating, sexual insecurity, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and the feeling of doing everything “right” while missing the closeness they want.  We also dig into her “soul gazing” tantric speed dating experiment, where people connect without talking and discover how much information lives in the body. Then we break down a deceptively simple question: how do you tell the difference between chemistry, anxiety, and real desire? If you want more presence, better communication, and a more grounded path to pleasure, hit subscribe, share this with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic now TamaraSchoonDating Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  7. Sep 22

    From People Pleasing To Real Interdependence #154

    Codependence can look like loyalty, romance, or “just being a good partner” until you realize it’s costing you your peace. I’m joined by dating, relating, and sex coach Louis Brantmeyer, who brings a sharp, sometimes confrontational lens to a question most of us avoid: are we building love, or are we negotiating for relief from our own discomfort? We talk about codependence as the tendency to hand your emotional steering wheel to the outside world, then blame a partner when you don’t feel okay. Lewis breaks down what changes when you stop outsourcing your happiness and start practicing a cleaner internal locus of control. We get practical about boundaries, standards, and why “love confronts dysfunction” instead of cushioning it. You’ll also hear a clear roadmap from dependence to codependence to independence to interdependence, plus how triggers and conflict can become data for nervous system healing rather than proof that someone is “wrong.” Because this show doesn’t dodge sex and intimacy, we also dig into attachment theory and Lewis’s take on polyamory. He challenges the idea that more partners automatically equals more freedom, and offers a different question: does your relationship structure support deeper intimacy and secure attachment, or does it help you keep love at arm’s length? If you want better dating advice, healthier relationships, and more honest conversations about intimacy, hit subscribe, share this with a friend who needs it, and leave a review. What part of this conversation do you most agree or disagree with? Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic now TamaraSchoonDating Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

  8. Sep 15

    Stop Fighting Dirty #153

    You can read every relationship book on your shelf and still get blindsided the moment someone you love moves closer, moves in, or simply hits the exact nerve you thought you already healed. That’s why we wanted this candid conversation with Nancy Pickard, author and certified relational life therapy coach trained in Terry Real’s work. We talk about why triggers are not just drama, they are data, and how the “adaptive child” takes over your brain in conflict unless you learn the skills to come back to your wise adult self.  We get practical about what actually derails couples: the five losing strategies and how they show up in everyday fights. We also unpack anxious attachment and avoidant attachment, including how even a secure person can start to feel anxious when their partner is walled off. Nancy explains boundaries in a way you can use immediately, including the difference between a containing boundary (so you don’t dump every thought) and a protective boundary (so you don’t absorb everything that’s thrown at you).  We also go deeper than conflict management. Nancy shares a framework for the five types of intimacy and why expecting one partner to meet every need can quietly create resentment and codependence. You’ll hear concrete communication tools used in relationship coaching and couples therapy. If you’re dating, rebuilding trust, or trying to stop repeating the same patterns, this one will give you language and next steps. Subscribe for more conversations like this, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review so more people can find the show. Send us Fan Mail Support the show Thanks for listening! Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!! https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315 Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/build NEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email  questions/comments/feeback to tamara@straightfromthesourcesmouth.co Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/ Instagram: @tamaraschoondating Twitter: @tamarapodcast YouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic now TamaraSchoonDating Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

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Are you perpetually single? Do you want longer-lasting relationships? Tired of the miscommunication and misunderstandings? Wish you were better in bed? Advice from experts as well as real talk from real people so that you can see you are not alone in your thoughts and experiences. I talk about sex in my stand-up comedy and people often tell me that I say what they are thinking but are too afraid to say or admit it to their partners; too taboo they think. We'll talk about books we've read on dating, relationships and sex so that you can gain knowledge without having to read all the books yourself. I'll interview people on both sides of an issue: people who are great at dating and unsuccessful at dating...learn from the person who's great and also learn what not to do! We'll do the same with sex and relationships so that you can learn what works so you don't need to repeat others' past mistakes. I'll interview sex coaches and love coaches. We intend this to be a how-to guide. Hit follow and join us!  Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

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