Your teenage son may be taller than you, stronger than you, pushing for more independence—and acting like he needs you less. But that doesn’t necessarily mean he needs less connection. In this episode of The Single Parenting Reset Show, I’m joined by relational and men’s coach Mike Elliott for an honest conversation about what teenage boys may be communicating underneath the shutdown, defensiveness, anger, and “Leave me alone.” Because sometimes what looks like disrespect or withdrawal is actually a young person who doesn’t yet know what to do with everything happening inside of him. Mike and I talk about what it means for a teen boy to be under-resourced emotionally and relationally—and why connection, emotional safety, support, and healthy mentorship matter so much as boys move toward adulthood. We also talk specifically about the experience of single moms raising sons. How do you remain the safe place without trying to fix everything? How do you recognize the tenderness that may still be there underneath your son's growing strength and independence? And how do you help him find healthy men to learn from when Dad may not be available—or may not be able to provide the mentorship your son needs? Inside this conversation, you'll learn: Why your teenage son's difficult behavior may be protecting something more vulnerableWhy fixing, lecturing, or problem-solving too quickly can make a teen stop opening upHow emotional safety changes the way your son experiences youWhy boys can still need reassurance and connection even while pushing for independenceHow to separate your own history and triggers from what is happening with your sonWhat healthy male mentorship can offer a growing boyHow to look beyond Dad and intentionally build a wider circle of healthy menMike’s simple VAR framework: Vulnerability, Acknowledgment, ReassuranceWhat to say when your teen is overwhelmed and snapping at youWhy seeing your son for who he actually is may matter more than trying to mold him into who you think he should become One of my favorite ideas from this conversation is simple: When your teen brings you vulnerability, you don't always have to fix it. Sometimes your job is simply to hold it. That is connection before correction in action. Listen to the full episode and consider this question: Where might my son need more connection, support, or mentorship right now—not more correction? Mike Elliott is an executive relational coach and men's coach based in British Columbia, Canada. His interest in relationships and emotional development grew partly from his own history. Mike was adopted twice during his first year of life and describes struggling with relationships, identity, substance use, anger, and disconnection during adolescence and early adulthood. After his own marriage ended, he devoted himself more deeply to understanding relationships, attachment, emotional development, and men's work. Today, he works with men around relationships, personal responsibility, emotional growth, mentorship, and becoming more grounded leaders in their families and lives. And if conflict with your tween or teen keeps turning into arguments, shutdowns, or power struggles, download my Tween & Teen Conflict Reset Kit for practical scripts to help you respond differently in those difficult moments. And be sure to follow or subscribe to The Single Parenting Reset Show so you don't miss the next Quick Reset. ⭐️ If your family is stuck in repeating school-morning conflict, book a Parent Reset Strategy Session. ⭐️Join the Family and get your weekly Mindful Kids and Family Journal here: https://www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com/join-the-family (Get ready for lessons, podcast leads, offers for parents, and ways to win free parent coaching or masterclasses) 📧Connect with Therese (Tess) Connolly, LCSW, CCC here👇: therese@mindfulkidsandfamilies.com Website: www.mindfulkidsandfamilies.com The Single Parenting Reset Show supports single moms, working moms, and all parents with practical parenting tips on screen time, emotional regulation, co-parenting, stress relief, setting boundaries, building trust, and raising confident tweens and teens, while tackling tech addiction, behavior problems, and parent burnout with conscious parenting strategies for stronger family connection. #singleparents #parentingtweensandteens #ScreenTime #behaviorproblems #Communication
