Your Own Medicine Podcast

Kali Somatics
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Creating spaces for recovering people pleasers to find support through somatics and nervous system regulation. Hosted by Kali Somatics

  1. 12/17/2025

    89| Beyond the villain edit with The Bachelor’s Courtney Robertson

    Courtney Robertson is best known from Ben Flajnik’s season of The Bachelor, where she was labeled the “villain”—called manipulative, calculated, and the Black Widow—for being confident, s*xually expressive, and openly chosen early by the lead in a high-pressure, highly surveilled environment. In my work around fawning and nervous system survival, her season is a powerful example of what happens when being agreeable or palatable doesn’t actually protect you, and a woman stops performing niceness to manage other people’s discomfort. This conversation isn’t about rehashing reality TV—it’s about identity, shame, motherhood, and what it takes to be visible again after being flattened into a role, especially when the culture is quick to punish women for not fawning.

    1h 24m

  2. 09/25/2025

    88| Parvati Shallow’s steal-able secrets to winner at Survivor & life

    In this episode, I sit down with two-time Survivor winner and author Parvati Shallow for a raw and refreshing conversation about intuition, expression, and reclaiming your inner villain. ✨ We dive into: Intuition + Self-Trust: how developing a deeper connection with your body opens access to guidance, clarity, and a friendlier relationship with the world around you. Freedom of Expression: moving beyond self-auditing and PR-trained polish to share experiences authentically—without rehashing every word later. Gaslighting & Self-Trust: how building inner trust becomes the antidote to external invalidation. Villain Work: why embracing your shadow is essential for healing, boundaries, and personal power. We also talk about Parvati’s time winning Survivor: Australia vs. USA, her new book Nice Girls Don’t Win, and the launch of our upcoming course How Villains Are Made—a six-week live program designed to help you step into your unapologetic self. 💥 If you’re ready to explore your edges and embody the parts of yourself you’ve been told to hide, join us here: https://kalisomatics.com/howvillainsaremade2

    1 hr

  3. 08/14/2025

    87 | Fawning at Work - Workshop Recording

    This is the final free workshop offered by me for the foreseeable future—and it’s a potent one. In this session, we dive into the often-overlooked survival strategy of fawning at work—where you overextend yourself, blur boundaries, and people-please in the name of job security, approval, or stability. You’ll learn: What workplace fawning looks like (and why it’s not your fault) How it’s connected to your nervous system, safety, and family dynamics Grounding practices to reconnect with your body and your “no” How to recognize urges and somatic cues before burnout hits Practical tools to start setting boundaries without sabotaging your livelihood This episode includes real participant shares, somatic exercises, and honest conversation about the cost of chronic overgiving at work—and how to begin to build a new pattern from the inside out. If you want to go deeper, I also share details about SHED, my 6-month live somatic program for people who intellectually understand the fawn response but don’t know how to stop doing it. 🌀 To learn more and register for SHED, click the link below: https://kalisomatics.com/SHED 🧠 For more content like this, subscribe and follow.

    45 min

  4. 08/07/2025

    86 | “Are You Mad At Me?” with Meg Josephson

    What happens when you spend your life reading everyone else’s emotions but feel disconnected from your own? What’s the cost of peacekeeping at the expense of your truth? In this episode of the Your Own Medicine Podcast, I sit down with licensed psychotherapist Meg Josephson, whose new book Are You Mad at Me? comes out August 5th. We explore the fawn response—the lesser-known survival strategy characterized by overthinking, chronic conflict avoidance, and compulsive people-pleasing. Meg shares her personal story, including the impact of growing up with a rageful father and a mother with Alzheimer's, and how these shaped her fawning patterns. We also discuss: Anger, grief, and nervous system healing The pressures of self-disclosure in a digital world Boundaries that feel good in the body Writing about trauma with integrity Why fawning is more than just “being nice”—it’s a trauma response This is an honest, grounded, and tender conversation about what it means to reclaim your needs, your body, and your voice—especially when you’ve been wired to abandon them. 📖 Preorder Are You Mad at Me?: https://megjosephson.com 🎧 Learn more about my current offerings: https://kalisomatics.com/SHED

    1h 5m

  5. 07/14/2025

    85 | Sexual Fawning 101

    In this special workshop replay, I guide you through the somatic foundations of sexual fawning—why it happens, how it shows up, and what to do with the shame, confusion, and disconnection that often follows. Whether you’re a recovering fawner or just beginning to realize how often your body says “yes” while your mind says “no,” this episode offers a grounded space to reflect and reconnect. We explore: • Why sexual fawning is not about being manipulative—but about safety • How trauma responses can show up in “safe” relationships • The subtle and overt ways we override our boundaries for connection • How to begin reclaiming your inner no (and your real yes) 🧠 Want to go deeper? Join my 6-month somatic program SHED. We start August 27th : https://kalisomatics.com/shed 🌿 Join me in Greece, May 2026: https://kalisomatics.com/greeceretreat ⚠️ TW: This episode includes mention of sexual trauma, coercion, and dissociation. Please care for your body and nervous system as you listen.

    48 min

  6. 06/11/2025

    84 | Ingrid Clayton on Fawning, Trauma, and Finally Telling the Truth

    Dr. Ingrid Clayton is no stranger to the complexities of trauma. A clinical psychologist with over two decades of experience, she’s worked at the intersection of psychology, addiction recovery, and trauma healing—long before those words became buzzwords. But her work got deeply personal with the release of her memoir Believing Me, where she named, for the first time, the covert abuse and emotional enmeshment that shaped her nervous system. It was raw, unflinching, and revolutionary in how it gave language to experiences so many of us carry but can’t name. Now she’s back with Fawning: The Trauma Response We Don’t Talk About—a book that goes deeper into the trauma pattern she knows all too well. Not fight, not flight, not freeze. But fawn. The survival response that looks like being “easygoing,” “helpful,” or “good,” while your body quietly braces for impact. In this episode, we talk about: How Fawning builds on the foundation of Believing Me Why fawning is so often missed—even by therapists The biology of appeasement and what it costs over time What it means to stop being “the good one” and start being real And the long road from trauma bonding to boundary setting Ingrid doesn’t just write about trauma. She brings a level of clarity and honesty that cuts through the noise—no posturing, no sugar-coating, just deep clinical insight and lived truth. ——— Connect with Kallie on social media at @kali.somatics Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https://kalisomatics.com/venom To learn more about Kallie's Greece Retreat in May 2026 https://kalisomatics.com/GREECERETREAT ____________ Connect with Dr. Ingrid Clayton on social media at @IngridClaytonPhD Pre-order her new book at: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/779579/fawning-by-dr-ingrid-clayton/

    1h 14m

  7. 06/04/2025

    83 | Explaining the people pleaser to rage pipeline

    Ever gone from smiling sweetly through discomfort… to fantasizing about slapping someone in the face? Yeah. Same. In this episode, I break down the people pleaser to rage pipeline—what happens when your body has been stuck in a fawn-freeze loop for years, and then finally starts to thaw. Spoiler: it’s not always cute. Sometimes, it’s loud, messy, and full of backlogged “no’s” that come out all at once. I share my own story of how learning French (and drinking cheap wine) unlocked a rage I didn’t even know I was holding—and what it taught me about the biology of fawning, freeze responses, and unexpressed boundaries. We also get into: * Why rage is a natural part of recovery from people-pleasing * Why cathartic rage practices (like screaming or punching pillows) aren’t always trauma-informed * How to work with anger in a way that’s titrated, embodied, and safe * The power of translating somatic cues into real-life boundaries If your body has been whispering “I’m not okay” for years—this episode is your permission slip to start listening. 💥 Want to dive deeper into somatic anger work? __________ 
My signature on-demand course VENOM has two full modules on anger + boundaries. Check it out via the link in my bio 🐍 Connect with Kallie on Instagram + Tiktok at @kali.somatics Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https:// kalisomatics.com/venom To learn more about Kallie's Greece Retreat in May 2026 https://kalisomatics.com/GREECERETREAT

    36 min

  8. 05/28/2025

    82 | From Reality TV to Real Healing: Rachel Leviss’s Journey

    In this engaging conversation, Rachel Leviss shares her recent transformative experiences at a sound healing retreat in Mexico. She discusses the profound impacts of sound healing, the importance of using one's voice, and how she has transitioned from a chaotic environment to a life of healing and self-fulfillment. Rachel also opens up about overcoming the challenges of being misunderstood and the journey to authenticity. Dive deep into the therapeutic aspects of sound healing, the significance of supportive communities, and the empowering process of setting and maintaining boundaries. __________ Connect with Kallie on Instagram + Tiktok at @kali.somatics Kallie's signature program, VENOM: https://kalisomatics.com/venom To learn more about Kallie's Greece Retreat in May 2026 https://kalisomatics.com/GREECERETREAT Connect with Rachel on Instagram at @RachelLeviss

    1h 7m
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Creating spaces for recovering people pleasers to find support through somatics and nervous system regulation. Hosted by Kali Somatics

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  • Creator
    Kali Somatics
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2025
  • Episodes
    88
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Kali Somatics
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    Your Own Medicine Podcast