It's All Relative with Dr Eliza Filby

Dr Eliza Filby
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'Different generations, same family.' Join writer and historian Dr Eliza Filby as she sits down with relatives from different generations to explore life through a generational lens, discussing how things have changed from jobs to dating, music to money, asking how different are we really? Teasing out quirky family traditions and hilarious anecdotes, It's All Relative is like eavesdropping on a Sunday family roast.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 2D AGO

    Prenups Rising | Why 40% of Gen Z Women Want One | It's All Relative | Dr Eliza Filby

    Are prenups just for billionaires, celebrities and oligarchs… or are they becoming a normal part of modern marriage?In this episode of It’s All Relative, I explore the surprising rise of prenups among millennials and Gen Z, and why attitudes toward money, marriage and inheritance are changing rapidly.Nearly 40% of Americans under 34 who are married or engaged now have a prenup. In the UK, attitudes are shifting too, with a growing number of young people, particularly women, saying they would consider signing one.So what’s going on?I don’t think this is about cynicism or the death of romance.I think it tells us something profound about the changing economics of marriage.Because today, marriage sits at a strange intersection of love, law, wealth, and inheritance.In this episode, I explore:00:00 Prenups and marriage01:05 US/UK divide02:56 From celebrities to everyone05:24 Why prenups are rising06:47 Asset mapping and family wealth09:41 UK legal turning point: Radmacher vs Granatino11:00 Female wealth and vulnerability12:29 Inheritance example14:32 Cohabitation and debt15:52 Quick fire and Community QuestionsThis conversation also touches on a deeper shift happening across Western societies.Subscribe for weekly episodes:This show explores generational change, work, wealth, family and the economic forces shaping our lives.👉 Subscribe to the channel so you don’t miss next week’s episode.Subscribe to my Substack newsletter:For deeper essays on inheritance, generational change and modern family economics:https://drelizafilby.substack.comBuy InheritocracyMy book exploring how inheritance is reshaping society:https://lnk.to/InheritocracyPBFind me here:Websitehttps://www.elizafilby.comInstagramhttps://www.instagram.com/drelizafilbyLinkedInhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/elizafilby

    26 min
  2. Double the Time, Half as Rich

    FEB 25

    Double the Time, Half as Rich

    This week on It’s All Relative, I’m unpacking one of the biggest economic shifts of the last 40 years: the rise of the dual-income household, and why it’s no longer a sign of feminist triumph, but financial necessity.We like to tell ourselves a story about progress. More women in professional careers. Greater equality. Higher household earnings. But beneath that narrative lies a quieter, more uncomfortable truth.Two incomes are no longer aspirational. They are structural and essential. The baseline requirement for accessing housing, affording childcare, and maintaining middle-class stability. In this episode, I explore: 00:00 Two Incomes Aren’t a Dream Anymore—They’re the Baseline 01:24 The Hidden Economic Story Behind ‘Feminist Progress’ 02:35 What Changed: Housing, Childcare & Education Outpaced Wages 03:36 Why You’re Exhausted: Institutions Still Assume a Stay‑at‑Home Parent 06:00 Millennials vs. Their Parents: ‘Working Double to Be Half as Rich’ 07:24 When One Income Is a Luxury: The 0.5% and the ‘Trad Wife’ Fantasy 08:51 The 1.5-Income Reality: Part-Time Work Driven by Childcare Costs 10:07 Class, Benefits Traps & the Rise of Female Breadwinners 12:11 Triple-Income Families: The Bank of Mom & Dad and Lost ‘Independence’ 15:07 Quick-Fire Answers: Is It Progress, What’s the Fix, Are We Worse Off? 18:50 Community Questions: Feminism, Guilt, Resilience,Trad Wife, and Outdated Workplaces 27:42 Does This Fuel the Gender Wars? Final Thoughts & Sign-Off This is about understanding the economic realignment that reshaped family life without rebuilding the structures to support it, not a critique of feminism. If you feel like you’re working twice as hard to be half as secure, there’s a reason. We are living through a structural shift in family economics. And until we name it, we’ll keep internalising what is actually systemic. If you want intelligent, contextual analysis of generational change, work, wealth, family, and the economic forces reshaping our lives, hit subscribe to get notified when a new episode drops every week. You can subscribe to my Substack here for deeper analysis and weekly essays. Find me here: Website Instagram LinkedIn

    30 min
  3. Why Rich Kids are Miserable (Prof. Daniel Markovits)

    JAN 5

    Why Rich Kids are Miserable (Prof. Daniel Markovits)

    This episode of 'It's Relative' explores the concept of meritocracy and argues why it has become a trap. Featuring Daniel Markovitz, Yale professor and author of 'The Meritocracy Trap,' the discussion dissects the rise of elite parenting, the collapse of the middle class, and how current labor markets are exacerbating inequalities. The conversation includes insights into the social and economic pressures faced by both privileged elites and middle-class professionals, along with the impact on future generations. Additionally, it addresses how asset wealth and labor income contribute to this meritocratic disparity, shedding light on the paradoxical nature of today’s elite society. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction: The Illusion of Meritocracy 00:27 The Reality of Social Mobility 01:15 Welcome to the Show 01:38 The Meritocracy Trap Explained 02:09 The Rise of the New Elite 03:41 Middle Class Stagnation 05:58 The Disappearing Mid-Skill Jobs 08:10 The Cost of Elite Success 09:16 The Burden of Expectations 16:15 Economic Justice and Inequality 16:43 The Changing Class Map 17:22 Challenges for Today's Young Generation 19:40 The Rise of Meritocracy: A Historical Perspective 20:42 Winners and Losers in the Meritocratic System 22:11 The Middle Class Squeeze 23:00 The Dualism of Labor and Asset Wealth 24:44 The Impact of AI on the Job Market 26:27 Meritocracy and Immigrant Success Stories 29:39 Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion in Meritocracy 33:00 Gender Dynamics in the Meritocratic System 40:01 Advice for the Next Generation 41:21 Conclusion: The Future of Meritocracy About It’s All Relative Ever wondered why the world works the way it does? It's All Relative unravels the unspoken rules and hidden connections that shape our lives. We dig into the origins of privilege, power, and social structures, offering candid conversations that challenge assumptions and provide fresh insights into the intricate tapestry of modern society. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the forces that truly matter. About Eliza Dr. Eliza Filby is an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, broadcaster, and one of the world’s leading experts on generational change. Specialising in the shifts that define how we live, work, and connect across generations, Eliza delivers sharp insights, no-nonsense truths, and fresh takes on our parents' world, our present, and what’s next for our kids. Her latest book, Inheritocracy: It’s Time to Talk About the Bank of Mum and Dad (Biteback, 2024), became a Sunday Times Top 10 Bestseller, sparking global conversations about the future of wealth, family, and opportunity. Buy Inheritocracy: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Inheritocracy-Should-Talk-about-Bank/dp/1785908588 Instagram LinkedIn Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    42 min
  4. Inheritocracy: Is Meritocracy a Myth? (Polly Toynbee)

    12/22/2025

    Inheritocracy: Is Meritocracy a Myth? (Polly Toynbee)

    Are we living in a world where hard work isn't enough? In this episode of It’s All Relative, join Dr Eliza Filby with guest Polly Toynbee as they dissect the societal implications of the profound shift away from meritocracy, discuss the impact on social mobility and examine what this means for the future of opportunity and economic justice. This crucial discussion challenges the very foundations of how we understand success, exploring the undeniable rise of "Inheritocracy" – a system where inherited wealth, connections, and privilege increasingly dictate outcomes, replacing the long-cherished ideal of meritocracy. Take a deep dive into * The breakdown of traditional meritocratic pathways * How intergenerational wealth perpetuates inequality * The role of privilege in career and life success * The challenge of achieving true social mobility About It’s All Relative Ever wondered why the world works the way it does? It's All Relative unravels the unspoken rules and hidden connections that shape our lives. We dig into the origins of privilege, power, and social structures, offering candid conversations that challenge assumptions and provide fresh insights into the intricate tapestry of modern society. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the forces that truly matter. About Eliza Dr. Eliza Filby is an award-winning speaker, bestselling author, broadcaster, and one of the world’s leading experts on generational change. Specialising in the shifts that define how we live, work, and connect across generations, Eliza delivers sharp insights, no-nonsense truths, and fresh takes on our parents' world, our present, and what’s next for our kids. Her latest book, Inheritocracy: It’s Time to Talk About the Bank of Mum and Dad (Biteback, 2024), became a Sunday Times Top 10 Bestseller, sparking global conversations about the future of wealth, family, and opportunity. Buy Inheritocracy: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Inheritocracy-Should-Talk-about-Bank/dp/1785908588 https://www.instagram.com/dr_eliza_filby/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-eliza-filby/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    44 min
  5. Jaded The Must Read Novel of 2024 (with Author Ela Lee)

    02/05/2024

    Jaded The Must Read Novel of 2024 (with Author Ela Lee)

    'Jade isn't even my real name. Jade began as my Starbucks name, because all children of immigrants have a Starbucks name.' Jaded is the must read novel of 2024, a debut from former City lawyer, Ela Lee. It's an interrogating exploration of race, class, work and sexual assault, not to mention what we tell ourselves (and others) in order to fit in at any cost. Ela sits down with Eliza and talks us through how she wrote Jaded in lockdown, millennial novels and heroines and the complexities and contortions involved in intersectional identity in the 21st century.  You can follow Ela Lee and purchase her book Jaded here. For all things Dr. Eliza Filby follow here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    31 min
  6. Beyond the Scaremongering: Here's what AI is really going to do (Dr. Lewis Liu)

    08/24/2023

    Beyond the Scaremongering: Here's what AI is really going to do (Dr. Lewis Liu)

    Is AI over-hyped? Or do we dangerously underestimate its looming impact? Which businesses should embrace AI, and which might resist it? In this fascinating episode Eliza talks to tech entrepreneur and leading AI expert Dr Lewis Lui about the transformative potential of artificial intelligence, as well as the risks and complexities surrounding it. Lewis began his career at McKinsey before advising private equity and law firms. He went on to found Eigen Technologies, which enables businesses to transform their data and documents into powerful, actionable insights. He holds a Doctorate in Atomic and Laser Physics from the University of Oxford and a Masters in Theoretical Physics. He also received Harvard University's first ever Joint Bachelors in Fine Arts and Physics, and it's this passion for the creative and the technical - the human and the machine - that makes him such a compelling voice on how AI is going to transform our society. You can follow Lewis Liu and  Eigen Technologies on on LinkedIn and @Eigen_Tech and @lewiszliu on X. #AI #ArtificialIntelligence #tech #innovation Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    39 min
  7. Why Generations DO and DON'T MATTER (Prof. Bobby Duffy)

    07/11/2023

    Why Generations DO and DON'T MATTER (Prof. Bobby Duffy)

    Eliza speaks to Prof. Bobby Duffy about the strengths and weaknesses of generational analysis; why it is useful, why it is not and how we can understand the generational gap a little better. Bobby and I had fun trying to dissect stereotypes from fact and some of the methodological challenges of analysing society through the prism of age. This is a good one! You can buy Bobby's book here and follow him on Twitter here. Do follow me, Dr. Eliza Filby, on LinkedIn, Twitter, YouTube, Instagram and sign up to my weekly substack. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    38 min
  8. How We Address White Supremacy in Our Education System (Jeffrey Boakye)

    06/19/2023

    How We Address White Supremacy in Our Education System (Jeffrey Boakye)

    Today Eliza sits down with writer, campaigner and educator Jeffrey Boakye to discuss the intersection of race and education. Race is inescapable when it comes to our education system; 86% of teachers are white even though 1 in 4 primary school pupils are from an ethnic minority and 1 million school children speak a language other than English as a first language. The disconnect is real. Here Jeffrey talks personally about the challenges of being a black teacher in a white system. Crucially, Jeffrey addresses what needs to be discussed and explored not only in our schools and in our businesses but across society at large. This is a MUST listen episode for anyone interested in diversity, teaching and history. Jeffrey goes deep on how we can all talk about racial differences in a way that is constructive and inquisitive rather than built on fear and our past.   You can follow Jeffrey on Twitter and LinkedIn and buy 'I heard what you said' and do check out his website and latest book, Kofi and the Rap Battle Summer. Do follow me, Dr. Eliza Filby, on LinkedIn, Twitter, YouTube, Instagram and sign up to my weekly substack. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    37 min
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'Different generations, same family.' Join writer and historian Dr Eliza Filby as she sits down with relatives from different generations to explore life through a generational lens, discussing how things have changed from jobs to dating, music to money, asking how different are we really? Teasing out quirky family traditions and hilarious anecdotes, It's All Relative is like eavesdropping on a Sunday family roast.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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