Rising Above Shadows Of Abuse

Grace Ovba

Rising Above Shadows Of Abuse Show with Grace Ovba, is about the topical issues of abuse prevalent in our society and culture. The impact on lives and possible reformation strategies. The show portrays real life stories of exceptional valiant women, who suffered pain, shame, trauma and guilt. Some of these individuals, used the tools of healing, forgiveness and compassion to serve as a positive propellant to actualising their dreams and breaking barriers in their various fields of human endeavours. Each episode showcases case studies, stories, inspirational talks; involving interviews, conversations, solo/panel sessions with survivors, everyday people, professionals, charities, thought leaders and notable guests(Celebrities) KEY TAKEAWAYS "Abuse changes your life... Fight back and change the life of your abusers by breaking your silence on abuse" - Patty Rase Hopson ''So many people suffer abuse and suffer alone'' -Pamela Stephenson ''To those who abuse: The sin is yours, the crime is yours and the shame is yours. To those who protect the perpetrators: blaming the victim only masks the evil within, making you as guilty as those who abuse. Stand up for the innocent or go down with the rest.'' - Flora Jessop #I take back my power #Voice for the Voiceless #Resilience #Courage #Mental health ABOUT THE HOST - GRACE OVBA Grace is a survivor of Domestic Violence, who is passionate about using her experiences to pave the way for other victims who are stuck in any form of abusive situations. She is a transformational coach, mentor, author, inspirational speaker and mother. She has a background in education, law and psychotherapy. She's on a mission to bring healing and wholeness to bruised and broken women. Registered member of BACP (British Association For Counselling and Psychotherapy) Registered member of Law Society UK Connect via email: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com Social media platforms: twitter @risinaboveabuse YouTube @risingaboveshadowsofabuse Patreon @risingaboveshadowsofabuse.com

  1. 2d ago

    "Ten Years Incarcerated, A Lifetime Rebuilt:The Power Of Perseverance"

    Grace converses with Corey Wright, who was incarcerated for 10 years. He thought about the consequences of what happened but that did not deter him. He refused to carry his past and continue living in it, but rather became a positive example by holding himself accountable, changing his identity and utilising his experience; to rebuild across music, film, authorship, entrepreneurship and community work. Quotes: “You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated.” - Maya Angelou “The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” - Nelson Mandela “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” - Viktor E. Frankl “Not everything that is faced can be changed; but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” - James Baldwin “Without community, there is certainly no liberation.” -Audre Lorde “The time is always right to do what is right.” - Martin Luther King Jr. Original Quotable Lines for the Episode: “Accountability means facing what happened without surrendering the rest of your life to it.” “Your past can explain you without having to define you.” “Rebuilding isn’t pretending nothing happened. It’s deciding what happens next.” “You can carry your history without continuing to live inside it.” “Survival gets you through the storm. Purpose teaches you what to build afterwards.” “The consequence was part of my story. It didn’t have to become the conclusion.” Episode Takeaways: By the end of the conversation, listeners should walk away understanding: 1. Accountability and identity are different things. A person can acknowledge serious wrongdoing without believing they are permanently incapable of change. 2. Rebuilding takes time. Returning to society doesn’t automatically mean everything returns to normal. 3. Shame and accountability aren’t the same. Accountability can lead toward responsibility and change; destructive shame can keep someone trapped in their past. 4. Trust has to be rebuilt through action. Words alone don’t necessarily repair relationships or community trust. 5. Your past can become part of your purpose. Lived experience can inform writing, music, film, entrepreneurship, mentorship, and community work without romanticising the hardship itself. 6. Perseverance is more than endurance. It can mean continuing to learn, create, contribute, and take responsibility after circumstances have changed. 7. Rebuilding doesn’t require erasing history. The goal isn’t necessarily to forget what happened. It’s to prevent the past from controlling everything that happens next. Question: "If the person you were ten years ago could sit across from the person you are today, what would you tell them?" Journal Prompts: What part of my past am I willing to acknowledge without allowing it to define me? What does accountability mean in my life? What have I survived that taught me something valuable? Where have I confused shame with responsibility? What would rebuilding look like if I stopped waiting for everyone’s approval? Who am I becoming beyond the labels people have placed on me? What relationships need patience, honesty, or rebuilding? What lesson from my hardest experience could potentially help someone else? What am I carrying that I no longer need to carry alone? Am I using my past as a foundation—or allowing it to become a prison? What does perseverance look like in my life this week? If I stopped defining myself by my worst decision, what would I begin building? Contact Corey Wright: Email: iamcoreywrites@gmail.com Donation Link For RASA: ko-fi.com/grace_rasa Book a therapy and, or coaching session via my website: https://www.freedom4betterlife.com/ MBACP- Certified. (British Association For Counselling & Psychotherapy) Contacts For RASA: +447984098577 Email: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com To contribute, use #participation to be a guest, # feedback or comment on the subject title. To share your story on the podcast, kindly send an email to: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com - using #STORY for subject title. Kindly subscribe and leave reviews on Spotify, Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/rising-above-shadows-of-abuse/id1592540880 Follow RASA Podcast on social media. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Realrasa1/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rasareal1/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/risinaboveabuse TikTok: https://tiktok.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuse YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UColB9fTRkBSuon4lfsFaSJw Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/risingaboveshadowsofabuse/ Patreon: https://patreon.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuseEmail: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com

  2. Oct 22

    "Rebuilt: The Mindset Of An Ironman"- Endurance, Pain & Purpose

    In today's episode, Grace converses with Colin Owensby an ultra-marathon athlete, a two times Ironman, Former model, actor and the founder of "The Purpose Through Endurance Campaign. His story centres on confronting, understanding and rebuilding after deep trauma. Quotes: 1. “You are not defined by your setbacks—your response to them defines you." — Unknown 2. “Strength isn’t just what you can lift, it’s what you can overcome.” — Rikki Rogers 3. “The obstacle in the path becomes the path.” — Zen Proverb 4. “Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” — Winston Churchill Journal Prompts: — “Never Meant to Walk, Built to Run” 1. Resilience & Adversity * What is one difficult experience in my life that changed the way I see myself? * When life has told me “you can’t,” how have I responded? * What setback have I survived that I rarely give myself credit for? * What does resilience mean to me personally? * If I could speak to my past self during my hardest season, what would I say? 2. Identity & Reinvention * Who am I beyond my job, achievements, relationships, or titles? * What part of my identity have I outgrown? * Is there a version of myself I am ready to leave behind? * What new version of myself am I currently becoming? * If I had permission to reinvent my life completely, what would I change? 3. Mindset * What thoughts consistently move me forward? * What beliefs are currently holding me back? * How do I respond when things don’t go according to plan? * What does “thinking outside the box” look like in my own life? * Where could I take a more courageous or unconventional approach? 4. Fitness, Health & Discipline * What does being genuinely healthy mean to me beyond physical appearance? * How does movement affect my mood, confidence, and mindset? * Where in my life could I benefit from greater discipline? * What small healthy habit could I commit to consistently? * Am I focused more on quick results or sustainable progress? 5. Community & Relationships * Who are the people who genuinely support my growth? * What kind of community do I want to build around myself? * Am I willing to ask for help when I need it? * What can I contribute to the people around me? * How could stronger relationships help me achieve my goals? 6. Purpose & Legacy * What is my deeper reason for wanting to succeed? * Who do I want to help through my experiences? * What knowledge or lessons could I pass on to others? * What would I want people to remember about me? * If I knew I couldn’t fail, what would I dedicate my life to? 7. Living Fully * What experiences make me feel most alive? * When was the last time I stepped outside my comfort zone? * Am I allowing myself to experience the full range of my emotions? * What does “living my best life” actually mean to me? * What is one experience I’ve been postponing that I want to make happen? 8. Action — The Final Reflection Finish these sentences: I am stronger than I think because… The obstacle I am currently facing is… The lesson this season is teaching me is… One thing I refuse to give up on is… The person I am becoming is… My next courageous step is… I will start today by… Episode Reflection Question: “If your current circumstances could not define your future, what future would you choose to build?” Key Takeaways • Resilience is built through adversity, not comfort • Identity is fluid—you can reinvent yourself at any stage • Fitness is not just physical—it’s emotional and mental healing • Community is a cornerstone of long-term success • Adaptability is a superpower in uncertain times • Mindset determines how you experience life, not just outcomes Contact Colin Owensby Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thecolinowensby/ Donation link for RASA: ko-fi.com/grace_rasa Book a therapy and, or coaching session via my website: https://www.freedom4betterlife.com/ MBACP- Certified. (British Association For Counselling & Psychotherapy) Contacts For RASA: +447984098577 Email: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com To contribute, use #participation to be a guest, # feedback or comment on the subject title. To share your story on the podcast, kindly send an email to: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com - using #STORY for subject title. Kindly subscribe and leave reviews on Spotify, Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/rising-above-shadows-of-abuse/id1592540880 Follow RASA Podcast on social media. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Realrasa1/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rasareal1/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/risinaboveabuse TikTok: https://tiktok.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuse YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UColB9fTRkBSuon4lfsFaSJw Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/risingaboveshadowsofabuse/ Patreon: https://patreon.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuse

  3. Oct 15

    Open Justice for All: Turning Pain Into Change

    Grace sits with Charlotte Schreurs a women’s rights activist and the founder of Open Justice For All — a campaign committed to making the justice system more transparent, accountable, and accessible for all victims. Her advocacy is rooted in lived experience. After navigating the criminal justice system in a case against her former partner involving rape and coercive control, she saw firsthand how processes intended to deliver justice can instead leave victims feeling unheard, unsupported, and excluded. She turned that experience into meaningful change, she began campaigning to ensure the system is truly fit for purpose and works for those it is meant to protect. Notably, her campaign successfully secured a change in legislation this year; granting victims of all crimes the right to access their sentencing remarks free of charge — a significant step toward greater transparency and understanding. Her focus now is on further reforms, including ensuring that victims receive clear explanations following not guilty verdicts and advocating for the recording of proceedings in magistrates’ courts. Quotes: “Justice delayed is justice denied.” — William Ewart Gladstone “The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice.”— Martin Luther King Jr. “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” — Martin Luther King Jr. “The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.” — Gloria Steinem “Silence never won rights. They are not handed down from above; they are forced by pressures from below.” — Roger Nash Baldwin “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.” — Alice Walker “I raise up my voice—not so that I can shout, but so that those without a voice can be heard.” — Malala Yousafzai “There is no tool for development more effective than the empowerment of women." — Kofi Annan “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” — Eleanor Roosevelt “One is not born, but rather becomes, a woman.” — Simone De Beauvoir “You may not control all of the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” — Maya Angelou “The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.” — Elie Wiesel Journal Prompts: What does justice mean to me personally?What does feeling safe mean to me?Have I ever ignored a warning sign because I didn’t want to believe something was wrong?What behaviours do I now recognise as controlling that I may previously have dismissed as jealousy or concern?What boundaries are important to me in healthy relationships?How would I respond if someone I loved told me they were experiencing abuse?What does accountability look like when someone has caused harm?What does a truly victim-centred justice system look like to me?Why is it important for victims to be believed, heard, informed, and treated with dignity—even when a criminal case does not result in a conviction?What attitudes about gender, relationships, consent, or power do I need to challenge in myself or my community?Where in my life do I need to reclaim my voice?If I could speak to someone who feels powerless today, what would I tell them?What is one thing I can do to help create a culture where abuse is taken seriously?What would meaningful change look like—not just for survivors, but for future generations?What part of my story could become a source of purpose, advocacy, or positive change? Key Takeaways: 1. Abuse is about more than isolated incidents Rape and coercive control can affect a person’s autonomy, confidence, relationships, mental well-being, and ability to feel safe. 2. Coercive control can be difficult to recognise Control can develop gradually through intimidation, isolation, monitoring, manipulation, threats, financial control, humiliation, and restrictions on independence. 3. The justice process matters Justice isn’t only about the final verdict. The way victims are treated throughout the process can have a profound impact. 4. Transparency builds accountability Victims deserve meaningful access to information about proceedings and decisions that affect them. 5. A not-guilty verdict doesn’t erase someone’s experience A criminal court’s verdict determines whether the prosecution has proved its case to the required legal standard. It does not necessarily answer every question a victim may have about what happened. 6. Reform can come from lived experience Personal pain can become a catalyst for systemic change when survivors are given the opportunity and platform to advocate. 7. Prevention starts before a crisis Education about consent, healthy relationships, boundaries, respect, power, and control can help challenge behaviours and attitudes that enable abuse. 8. Men and boys have an important role Preventing violence against women requires challenging harmful attitudes, modelling healthy relationships, respecting consent, and speaking up when abusive behaviour is normalised. 9. Victims deserve dignity regardless of the outcome A justice system can acknowledge the needs and humanity of victims while still maintaining fairness and due process for everyone involved. 10. Change is possible Legislative change demonstrates that persistent advocacy can translate lived experience into tangible reform. Contact Charlotte Schreurs: Website: https://www.openjusticeforall.com/ Twitter: @openjustice4all Instagram: @openjusticeforall Donation Link for RASA: ko-fi.com/grace_rasa Book a therapy and, or coaching session via my website: https://www.freedom4betterlife.com/ MBACP- Certified. (British Association For Counselling & Psychotherapy) Contacts For RASA: +447984098577 Email: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com To contribute, use #participation to be a guest, # feedback or comment on the subject title. To share your story on the podcast, kindly send an email to: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com - using #STORY for subject title. Kindly subscribe and leave reviews on Spotify, Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/rising-above-shadows-of-abuse/id1592540880 Follow RASA Podcast on social media. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Realrasa1/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rasareal1/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/risinaboveabuse TikTok: https://tiktok.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuse YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UColB9fTRkBSuon4lfsFaSJw Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/risingaboveshadowsofabuse/ Patreon: https://patreon.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuseEmail: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com

  4. Oct 8

    "No Excuses, No Limits: A Father's Mission To Prove Impossible Wrong"

    Grace converses with Colin Dingelstad, an aspiring MMA champion. Who at 28, with no prior professional fighting background is going after his dreams to conquer the word 'impossible' and turn it into reality. He is currently filming a documentary called "Impossible." Quotes: “The future depends on what you do today.”— Mahatma Gandhi “It always seems impossible until it’s done.”— Nelson Mandela “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”— Wayne Gretzky “The only limit to our realisation of tomorrow is our doubts of today.”— Franklin D. Roosevelt “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”— Mark Twain “Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.”— Vincent Van Gogh Podcast Key Takeaways: Age is not always a limitation; sometimes it is a source of maturity and determination. Big goals require uncomfortable levels of discipline and sacrifice. The biggest battles often happen mentally before they happen physically. Commitment separates dreamers from people who take action. Children learn more from what parents do than what they say. A late start does not mean a lost opportunity. Impossible goals reveal your character. Success is measured by growth, courage, and consistency—not only results. Fear can either control your life or become fuel for transformation. Becoming someone new requires leaving old excuses behind. Journal Prompts: What dream have I delayed because I believed it was too late? What would I attempt if I stopped worrying about failure? What excuses have been holding me back? What does commitment mean in my own life? Who would I become if I fully believed in myself? What example do I want to set for the people watching me? What uncomfortable action can I take this week toward my goal? What fear do I need to confront? What legacy do I want to create? What does my “impossible” dream look like? Contact Colin Dingelstad: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/colin.dingelstad/ Donation link for RASA: ko-fi.com/grace_rasa Book a therapy and, or coaching session via my website: https://www.freedom4betterlife.com/ MBACP- Certified. (British Association For Counselling & Psychotherapy) Contacts For RASA: +447984098577 Email: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com To contribute, use #participation to be a guest, # feedback or comment on the subject title. To share your story on the podcast, kindly send an email to: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com - using #STORY for subject title. Kindly subscribe and leave reviews on Spotify, Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/rising-above-shadows-of-abuse/id1592540880 Follow RASA Podcast on social media. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Realrasa1/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rasareal1/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/risinaboveabuse TikTok: https://tiktok.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuse YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UColB9fTRkBSuon4lfsFaSJw Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/risingaboveshadowsofabuse/ Patreon: https://patreon.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuse

  5. Sep 3

    From Pain To Pages: How Storytelling Heals Hidden Wounds

    David Deane Haskell is Grace's guest in today's episode and the theme is deeply aligned with survival, truth-telling and emotional healing. - Perfect for creating a powerful, impactful conversation that resonates with listeners on a personal level. QUOTES “The pain we don’t face becomes the life we live.” — Dean Haskett “Shame survives in silence, but it cannot survive truth.” — Dean Haskett “Healing begins the moment you stop pretending you’re not hurt.” — Dean Haskett “We carry the past not because we want to, but because we haven’t been shown how to let it go.” — David Deane Haskell “Addiction is often the language of unspoken pain.” — David Deane Haskell “Your story doesn’t end where the pain begins.” — David Deane Haskell “What you totally avoid today will ask for your attention tomorrow.” - Grace Ovba PODCAST KEY TAKEAWAYS Unresolved pain doesn’t disappear—it transforms and resurfaces until it is acknowledged. Addiction is often a symptom, not the root cause. Shame thrives in silence but loses power when spoken. Healing is not linear—it is a long, ongoing process. Storytelling can be a powerful pathway to understanding and release. Facing the truth is painful, but avoidance is often more destructive. You are not defined by what happened to you—but by what you choose to do with it. JOURNAL PROMPTS What pain have I been avoiding, and why? Where does shame show up in my life? What patterns in my life might be rooted in past experiences? When did I first learn to suppress my emotions? What would it feel like to tell my story honestly? What am I afraid will happen if I face my past? How has silence shaped my life? What does healing look like for me right now—not perfectly, but realistically? What am I still carrying that no longer serves me? If I could speak to my younger self, what would I say? What does forgiveness mean to me—if anything? Where in my life am I ready to begin again? What support do I need to continue my healing journey? What truth have I been afraid to admit? How can I begin to release even a small piece of my pain today? Book a therapy and, or coaching session via my website: https://www.freedom4betterlife.com/ MBACP- Certified. (British Association For Counselling & Psychotherapy) Contacts For RASA: +447984098577 Email: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com To contribute, use #participation to be a guest, # feedback or comment on the subject title. To share your story on the podcast, kindly send an email to: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com - using #STORY for subject title. Kindly subscribe and leave reviews on Spotify, Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/rising-above-shadows-of-abuse/id1592540880 Follow RASA Podcast on social media. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Realrasa1/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rasareal1/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/risinaboveabuse TikTok: https://tiktok.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuse YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UColB9fTRkBSuon4lfsFaSJw Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/risingaboveshadowsofabuse/ Patreon: https://patreon.com/risingaboveshadowsofabuseEmail: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com

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Rising Above Shadows Of Abuse Show with Grace Ovba, is about the topical issues of abuse prevalent in our society and culture. The impact on lives and possible reformation strategies. The show portrays real life stories of exceptional valiant women, who suffered pain, shame, trauma and guilt. Some of these individuals, used the tools of healing, forgiveness and compassion to serve as a positive propellant to actualising their dreams and breaking barriers in their various fields of human endeavours. Each episode showcases case studies, stories, inspirational talks; involving interviews, conversations, solo/panel sessions with survivors, everyday people, professionals, charities, thought leaders and notable guests(Celebrities) KEY TAKEAWAYS "Abuse changes your life... Fight back and change the life of your abusers by breaking your silence on abuse" - Patty Rase Hopson ''So many people suffer abuse and suffer alone'' -Pamela Stephenson ''To those who abuse: The sin is yours, the crime is yours and the shame is yours. To those who protect the perpetrators: blaming the victim only masks the evil within, making you as guilty as those who abuse. Stand up for the innocent or go down with the rest.'' - Flora Jessop #I take back my power #Voice for the Voiceless #Resilience #Courage #Mental health ABOUT THE HOST - GRACE OVBA Grace is a survivor of Domestic Violence, who is passionate about using her experiences to pave the way for other victims who are stuck in any form of abusive situations. She is a transformational coach, mentor, author, inspirational speaker and mother. She has a background in education, law and psychotherapy. She's on a mission to bring healing and wholeness to bruised and broken women. Registered member of BACP (British Association For Counselling and Psychotherapy) Registered member of Law Society UK Connect via email: risingaboveshadowsofabuse@gmail.com Social media platforms: twitter @risinaboveabuse YouTube @risingaboveshadowsofabuse Patreon @risingaboveshadowsofabuse.com