Excellence Above Talent Podcast

Aaron Thomas
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The State of Man Is in Crisis—It’s Time for a Conversation.  The Excellence Above Talent podcast was born from pain, loss, and a deep need for change.  - Men are 3.6 times more likely to die by suicide than women.  - Men commit the majority of violence in the U.S., including domestic abuse and sexual assault.  - 90% of the prison population consists of men.  These are not just statistics—they represent broken families, lost lives, and a cycle of harm and abuse that must end.  As a BIPP (Batterer’s Intervention and Prevention Program) Director for four years, I’ve had countless conversations with men—men who believed abuse was necessary, men who didn’t even realize they were abusers. What I learned is that men want to talk, but they have no safe space to do so.  Society teaches men to suppress their struggles, to avoid vulnerability, and to uphold a toxic version of manhood. But silence is destroying us.  The Excellence Above Talent podcast is here to challenge the status quo. We’re redefining what it means to be a man—one conversation at a time.  Join me. Let’s fight for the future of manhood. Our sons are watching.  #ExcellenceAboveTalent #MensMentalHealth #RedefiningManhood #BreakTheCycle  

  1. 21H AGO

    How Men Break The Shame Cycle And Repair Harm

    Send us Fan Mail We talk about how men get trapped when we confuse accountability with shame, then wonder why the same harmful patterns keep showing up in our relationships. We break down how to own abusive behavior without turning our worst choices into our identity, so we can actually change instead of getting defensive.  • abuse showing up as emotional, financial, mental, and sexual harm  • why “at least I’m not hitting her” keeps men stuck  • accountability as behavior-focused ownership  • shame as identity-focused self-attack  • how shame shows up as anger, defensiveness, shutdown, avoidance, and blame  • the step-by-step cycle that keeps dysfunction repeating  • how harsh criticism and labels in childhood shape adult reactions  • fear of accountability and the need to control  • separating who we are from what we did  • why blaming your wife or kids is weak leadership  • what healthy accountability looks like in marriage and fatherhood  • reflection questions to practice ownership this week  Share this episode with someone who you think needs it.  Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode.  For daily, motivational, and up-to-date content, follow us on Facebook and Instagram at ExcellenceAbove Talent. Support the show #excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...

    22 min

  2. MAR 27

    What If The Real Strength Is Saying What You Feel

    Send us Fan Mail We name the quiet forms of emotional manipulation that many people excuse as normal relationship conflict and show how they function as control. We also lay out what healthy communication sounds like so we can rebuild trust and create a safer space at home.  • emotional manipulation as indirect pressure rather than open communication  • common tactics like guilt tripping and the silent treatment  • gaslighting that shifts focus from behavior to “your perception”  • emotional responsibility shifting and why each of us owns our reactions  • how control breaks trust and creates confusion, anxiety, and resentment  • healthy communication that invites connection instead of compliance  • using I statements to reduce defensiveness and open real dialogue  Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode. For daily, motivational, and up-to-date content, follow us on Facebook and Instagram at Excellence Above Talent. Support the show #excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...

    15 min
  3. What If The Real Danger Is In The Story?

    MAR 20

    What If The Real Danger Is In The Story?

    Send us Fan Mail I’m breaking down how men justify abusive behavior and how those stories keep the cycle of violence alive. I share the phrases we hide behind, the ego and comfort we protect, and what real accountability sounds like when we finally stop blaming everyone else.  • abuse as more than hitting, including emotional, mental, financial, sexual pressure, and using kids  • justification as the real engine that protects harmful behavior  • personal example of cheating, rejection, and blaming instead of owning choices  • common escape routes like “she pushed me” and “I didn’t mean it”  • intent vs impact and why impact is what counts in repair  • ego, identity, and comfort as the shields that block growth  • what real accountability sounds like with no conditions  • the need for a buffer of men and mentors who call you out  • reflection questions to replace excuses with ownership  If this episode spoke to you in any way and you need someone else to hear it, or want someone else to hear it, share it with them. Send me comments. DM me, tell me that I'm right or wrong or because I'm in this, not to say I'm de facto this is what it is. I'm in this because I'm trying to also figure it out as well. Support the show #excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...

    22 min
  4. What If The Hardest Part Of Love Is Accountability

    MAR 13

    What If The Hardest Part Of Love Is Accountability

    Send us Fan Mail We break down the cycle of violence and why abusive relationships can feel good again right before the pattern returns. We name what it takes for men to stop repeating harm, replace excuses with ownership, and build real change that shows up in daily behavior.  • the cycle of abuse as a repeating pattern rather than constant chaos  • tension stage signs like irritability, control, criticism, and emotional distance  • action stage behaviors including yelling, intimidation, manipulation, threats, and physical violence  • apology or honeymoon phase as affection, gifts, promises, and vulnerability that rebuild attachment  • calm stage as temporary peace that turns into tension when issues stay untreated  • why people get stuck between pain and hope and why leaving can take multiple attempts  • breaking the cycle through accountability, therapy, church support, emotional regulation, and consistent behavior change  • extreme ownership as refusing to blame stress, alcohol, childhood, or a partner  • stopping generational cycles so kids do not inherit rage, distance, gaslighting, and control  If this episode made you think differently about your relationships, share it with someone who needs to hear it.  Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode.  For daily motivational and up-to-date content, follow us on Facebook and Instagram at Excellence Above Talent. Support the show #excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...

    18 min

  5. MAR 6

    Choose Influence Over Control Or Lose What Matters

    Send us Fan Mail We unpack how abuse often begins with power and control rather than violence, and how fear and insecurity fuel cycles that erode trust. We draw a clear line between leadership and control, share personal lessons, and offer practical steps to build influence instead of dominance. • control as the quiet start of abuse  • subtle tactics that shrink autonomy  • fear as the driver of domination  • leadership through respect versus submission  • the cycle of abuse and false repair  • emotional control and gaslighting explained  • healthy power as self-regulation and accountability  • breaking generational patterns with awareness and action  • self-assessment questions to build influence Listen to this episode with honesty. Then ask yourself, am I building influence or relying on control? And if this episode resonated with you in any way, like, subscribe, follow, share with a man that you think might need to hear it  Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode  For daily, motivational, and up-to-date content, follow us on Facebook and Instagram at ExcellenceAboveTalent  Keep moving forward, never give up, and you are never alone in this battle Support the show #excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...

    18 min

  6. FEB 27

    What Kind Of Father Are Your Reactions Raising

    Send us Fan Mail We challenge the myth that leadership at home is control and show how stability, humility, and consistency create safety for partners and kids. We share tools to replace fear-based habits with influence, emotional labor, and predictable, calm discipline. • redefining leadership at home as influence, not intimidation • healthy partnership as collaboration and shared responsibility • parenting with calm correction and consistent consequences • authority versus fear and the cost of anxiety • emotional labor: listening, compromise, and showing up daily • breaking generational patterns and choosing what works • five-question audit to assess safety and trust at home • one-week practice: replace one reactive response with a calm correction If this episode resonated with you in any way, share it with a father who you want to help grow Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode For daily motivational and up-to-date content, follow us on Facebook and Instagram at Excellence Above Talent Keep moving forward, never give up, and you are never alone in this battle Support the show #excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...

    15 min

  7. FEB 20

    If Sex Needs Pressure, It Isn’t Love

    Send us Fan Mail We confront how entitlement, porn, and unspoken expectations corrode trust and safety in sex, and why consent must be enthusiastic, ongoing, and freely given. We own past harm, define coercion clearly, and lay out how healthy sexual leadership sounds and feels. • unlearning entitlement and harmful scripts about sex • defining coercion and the subtle ways pressure shows up • why safety, not pressure, creates real intimacy • how porn distorts expectations and pushes partners away • consent as ongoing, enthusiastic, and changeable • practical language for check-ins and stopping • breaking cycles for sons and daughters through character Your call of action this week, as men, is to listen with humility, reflect honestly, and then share this episode with a man who needs to hear it Share this episode if it made you feel uncomfortable Share this episode if you know that there are people that are dealing with these things Support the show #excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...

    20 min

  8. FEB 13

    What If Being Right Is Why You’re Lonely

    Send us Fan Mail We dig into why men get defensive, how that reaction kills connection, and the practical skills that make listening feel safe at home. We share language you can use today to validate without surrendering your point and lead with calm under pressure. • what defensiveness really protects • how fear and ego fuel shutdown • three ways defensiveness harms connection • non-defensive listening habits that work • validation phrases that build safety • practical steps to stay calm in conflict • reflection prompts to build awareness • weekly challenge to practice listening This week practice listening without interrupting or defending If you heard something on this episode that resonated with you, like it, share it, send it to someone who you feel could benefit from this information Be sure to subscribe to the podcast so you never miss an episode For daily motivational and up-to-date content, follow us on Facebook and Instagram at ExcellenceAbove Talent Remember, keep moving forward, never give up, and you are never alone in this battle Support the show #excellenceabovetalent #EAT #dontgiveup #youdeservethebest #youareenough ...

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The State of Man Is in Crisis—It’s Time for a Conversation.  The Excellence Above Talent podcast was born from pain, loss, and a deep need for change.  - Men are 3.6 times more likely to die by suicide than women.  - Men commit the majority of violence in the U.S., including domestic abuse and sexual assault.  - 90% of the prison population consists of men.  These are not just statistics—they represent broken families, lost lives, and a cycle of harm and abuse that must end.  As a BIPP (Batterer’s Intervention and Prevention Program) Director for four years, I’ve had countless conversations with men—men who believed abuse was necessary, men who didn’t even realize they were abusers. What I learned is that men want to talk, but they have no safe space to do so.  Society teaches men to suppress their struggles, to avoid vulnerability, and to uphold a toxic version of manhood. But silence is destroying us.  The Excellence Above Talent podcast is here to challenge the status quo. We’re redefining what it means to be a man—one conversation at a time.  Join me. Let’s fight for the future of manhood. Our sons are watching.  #ExcellenceAboveTalent #MensMentalHealth #RedefiningManhood #BreakTheCycle  

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  • Creator
    Aaron Thomas
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
    108
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Excellence Above Talent Podcast
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