Communicate to Lead

Kele Belton
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Ready to step into your full potential as a leader? Join communication expert and leadership coach Kele Belton for conversations that go beyond traditional leadership advice. Each week on Communicate to Lead, discover practical strategies to strengthen both your leadership presence and communication impact. Through solo episodes and inspiring guest interviews, Kele tackles the real challenges women face in management - from mastering high-stakes conversations and building executive presence to overcoming perfectionism and imposter syndrome. Whether you're an experienced manager or an aspiring leader, this podcast delivers actionable insights to help you navigate workplace dynamics, amplify your voice, and lead with authentic confidence. Tune in to transform challenges into opportunities and build the leadership career you envision.

  1. 5h ago

    174. Executive Presence Under Pressure: How to Show Up in High-Stakes Moments | Part 4 of 4

    Send us Fan Mail Executive presence shows up most clearly in the moments that test you. The hard question. The skeptical room. The presentation that matters. In this finale of the Executive Presence Series, we follow Diane, a composite client you may remember from Episode 172, into her first high-stakes boardroom moment as a new operations director. We walk through her presentation in four chronological moments: the walk-in, the opening sentence, the hard question, and the close, so you can experience how the visual, vocal, and verbal pillars actually work together when the pressure arrives. In this episode of Communicate to Lead, Kele Belton closes the four-part Executive Presence Series by bringing all three pillars together in one real high-stakes moment. The episode is built around a single scenario: Diane, the composite client from Episode 172, now presenting a major vendor contract restructuring proposal to senior leadership. Through four chronological moments- the walk-in, the opening sentence, the hard question, and the close - Kele shows how the Three Anchors of Embodied Presence, the four vocal behaviors, and the language of authority all integrate when the pressure is real. This is the finale of the four-part Executive Presence Series. Each part built one layer of presence: Episode 168 on the visual pillar, Episode 170 on the vocal pillar, and Episode 172 on the verbal pillar. This episode integrates all three into a single high-stakes moment. The series moves from being seen, the throughline of the April visibility series, to being felt, which is what executive presence delivers. What You Will Learn: How to enter a high-stakes room so the people inside it have already started calibrating to your leadership before you make your case.The grounded breath that settles your pitch in the seconds before you speak, so your opening sentence lands with weight instead of nerves.What to do in the two seconds after a hard question that separates a defensive answer from an authoritative one.Why you cannot consciously think about three pillars in a live moment, and what to practice instead, so executive presence shows up automatically when it counts.How to close a presentation in a way that lands the ask cleanly, without the apologetic trailing-off that signals you are unsure of your own recommendation.The single most important reframe of the entire series: executive presence is not a costume you put on to look like a leader. It is the practice of letting the leader you already are come through clearly.Your Action Step: Pick one upcoming high-stakes moment and prepare for it across all three pillars: Choose one behavior from each pillar: one anchor from Episode 168 (visual), one vocal behavior from Episode 170, and one language swap from Episode 172.Write your three choices on a sticky note before the meeting. Then, in the moment, do not run a checklist. Be present.Afterward, reflect on which of the three came most naturally and which one needed the most attention. That tells you where to keep practicing.Listen to the Complete Executive Presence Series: Start the series with Episode 168: How to Build Executive Presence: 3 Anchors for Women Leaders (Part 1 of 4), on the visual pillar and the Three Anchors of Embodied Presence.Continue with Episode 170: Vocal Presence for Women Leaders: 4 Behaviors That Build Authority (Part 2 of 4), on pitch, pace, volume, and intentional pauses.Then Episode 172: The Words That Undermine Your Presence (Part 3 of 4), on the verbal pillar and the language of authority.About Your Host: Kele Belton is a communication and leadership facilitator, coach, and consultant who helps high-performing women in middle management build the communication and leadership strategies that get them recognized, sponsored, and promoted. Connect with Kele: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kele-ruth-belton/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetailoredapproach/Website: https://thetailoredapproach.comBook a Leadership Strategy Call (30 minutes, complimentary): https://calendly.com/kele-thetailoredapproach/leadership-strategy-call

    22 min

  2. 3d ago

    173. When Disagreement Is Actually Alignment

    Send us Fan Mail She had spent three nights preparing her counter-argument. Data, stakeholder feedback, a slide deck she wasn’t even sure she would get to use. By the time she sat down for the meeting she was dreading, the knot in her stomach was already there. She was preparing to disagree with her VP. But that wasn’t the real conversation. In this Monday Momentum episode of Communicate to Lead, Kele Belton kicks off a five-part June series on the difficult conversations women leaders walk into braced for a fight. This episode shows why the conversation you name before you walk in shapes everything that happens inside it, and how reframing disagreement as alignment changes your tone, your language, and the response you get back. What You Will Learn Why high-performing women leaders often over-prepare for disagreement, and what that costs them over time.The difference between debating to win and aligning to make a better decision.A simple opening phrase and follow-up question you can use to stay grounded, surface your perspective, and keep the conversation productive.Your Action Step Identify one conversation this week where you’ve been preparing to disagree with someone. Before you walk in, ask yourself: what do I actually want to walk out of this room having accomplished? If the answer is, “I want us to make the best decision,” then this is not a disagreement. It is an alignment. Walk in with that frame, use the phrase and question from this episode, and notice what changes. AI Prompt Use this prompt to prepare for your next alignment conversation. Paste it into your preferred AI assistant and answer the questions as they come. I’m a [role] in [industry]. I have an upcoming conversation with my [manager, peer, stakeholder] in which I see the situation differently from them. Help me reframe this conversation from a disagreement to an alignment. Ask me 3 questions: What decision is being discussed, and where do I see it differently?What outcome do I actually want to walk out of this conversation having accomplished?What might my counterpart be seeing that I am not?Then write: One opening phrase I can use to surface my perspective without sounding defensive.One follow-up question I can use to invite their thinking and find the real gap.Constraints: Forward-facing toneNo language that signals confrontation or asks permission to speakMust carry the same weight as “surface it” or “flag it”Must sound natural when spoken aloudAvoid softening language like “just,” “a little,” “maybe,” “I was thinking,” or “I wanted to mention”Example output: Opening phrase: “I’m tracking something different on this, and I want to surface it before we decide.” Follow-up question: “Can you walk me through how you got there?” Ready to Go Deeper? Book a complimentary Leadership Strategy Call with Kele to talk through where you are, where you want to go, and what it will take to get there. About Your Host Kele Belton is a communication and leadership trainer who specializes in helping women leaders develop confidence and impact through strategic communication and practical leadership frameworks. Connect with Kele LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kele-ruth-belton/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetailoredapproach/Website: https://thetailoredapproach.com

    7 min

  3. 6d ago

    172. The Words That Undermine Your Presence | Part 3 of 4

    Send us Fan Mail Executive presence is not only about how you carry yourself or how you sound. It lives in the words you choose. Consider this: "Sorry, I just wanted to quickly jump in here. This might be a silly question, and I could be totally wrong, but I was kind of wondering if maybe we should look at the numbers again before we decide? Does that make sense?"  In a few seconds, that leader undermined herself nine times. Her idea was strong. Her language was apologizing for it. If you have ever walked out of a meeting wondering why the room did not respond to a recommendation you knew was right, this episode hands you the exact words working against you, and the swaps that turn your competence back into authority. In this episode of Communicate to Lead, Kele Belton goes deep on the verbal pillar of executive presence: the actual words coming out of your mouth. She walks through four categories of language that quietly drain authority from strong ideas, the apologies, the minimizers, the hedges, and the filler words, and gives you the specific swaps that change how the room hears you. Through the story of Diane, a composite client twice passed over for a director role until she changed her language, Kele shows what shifts in your executive presence when your competence is no longer hidden by the words around it. This is Part 3 of the four-part Executive Presence Series. It follows Episode 168 on the visual pillar (the Three Anchors of Embodied Presence) and Episode 170 on the vocal pillar (pitch, pace, volume, and pauses). Each part builds your executive presence one layer at a time, leading to Episode 174, where all three pillars come together in a real high-stakes moment. What You Will Learn: Why women learn these speech patterns early, so you can stop blaming yourself for habits that were once rewarded.The gratitude reframe that lets you stay warm without lowering your standing in the room.Why the word "just" is a verbal apology for the size of your own thought, and the one-second fix that makes any sentence stronger.How a hedge at the front of a sentence quietly instructs the room to dismiss what you are about to say, before you have even said it.The phrase Kele gives every client to replace the question "Does that make sense?", which keeps your authority intact and still invites a real conversation.Why filler words are not the villain, except in the moments that matter most, and how the pause does the same job with the opposite effect.Your Action Step: Pick one word and hunt it for one week: Choose either "just" or" sorry", whichever shows up more in your speech.When you catch it before it comes out, delete it. When you catch it after it comes out, notice it without self-criticism, and keep going.Bonus: Write your three favorite swaps on a sticky note. "Sorry" becomes "thank you". "Just" gets deleted. "Does that make sense?" becomes "What questions do you have?"Mentioned in This Episode: Continue building your executive presence with Episode 170: Vocal Presence for Women Leaders (Part 2 of 4), on pitch, pace, volume, and pauses.Start the series from the beginning with Episode 168: How to Build Executive Presence with 3 Anchors (Part 1 of 4), on the visual pillar.Book a Leadership Strategy Call (30 minutes, complimentary): https://calendly.com/kele-thetailoredapproach/leadership-strategy-callAbout Your Host: Kele Belton is a communication and leadership facilitator, coach, and consultant who helps high-performing women in middle management build the communication and leadership strategies that get them recognized, sponsored, and promoted. Connect with Kele: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kele-ruth-belton/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetailoredapproach/Website: https://thetailoredapproach.com

    25 min

  4. May 25

    171. How to Lead With Presence When You Are Running on Empty

    Send us Fan Mail On the outside, she looked composed. She was leading her team through uncertainty, delivering on every project, and walking into senior leadership presentations with the same steady presence she had built her reputation on. Nobody around her would have guessed. But she knew. She knew that the energy she was bringing into those rooms was costing her more than it used to. She knew that by the end of the day, there was nothing left. And still, she showed up. Because that is what she does. In this Monday Momentum episode of Communicate to Lead, Kele Belton shares why depletion shows up in the room even when you think you are hiding it, and the two-minute reset that helps high-performing women leaders walk into high-stakes moments grounded and present, even when they are running on fumes. What You Will Learn Why depletion quietly shapes how you show up as a leader, even when your performance still looks strong from the outside.The difference between leading while tired and leading while depleted, and why one is sustainable while the other costs you the very presence your role requires.A two-step reset you can use in under two minutes before any meeting to shift from survival mode into grounded leadership presence.Your Action Step Before your next high-stakes meeting or conversation this week, use the two-step reset. Find sixty seconds alone. Stand with your feet hip-width apart, shoulders back, chin level, and take one deep breath and a slow exhale. Then ask yourself one question: what is the one thing I want to leave this room having done well? Say the answer out loud quietly, or write it down. Ready to Go Deeper? Book a complimentary Leadership Strategy Call with Kele to talk through what you are carrying right now and identify the next move that will help you lead with presence without depleting yourself further. About Your Host Kele Belton is a communication and leadership trainer who specializes in helping women leaders develop confidence and impact through strategic communication and practical leadership frameworks. Connect with Kele LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kele-ruth-belton/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetailoredapproach/Website: https://thetailoredapproach.com

    6 min

  5. May 21

    170. Vocal Presence for Women Leaders: 4 Behaviors That Build Authority | Part 2 of 4

    Send us Fan Mail You had the right answer. You knew the numbers cold. You made your case, and ten minutes later, the room shifted toward someone else's version of the same idea. In the debrief, your manager said: you had the right answer, but you did not sound like you knew it. If you have ever been told you need more gravitas, more confidence, or more executive presence without anyone explaining what that actually means, this episode breaks it down into four vocal behaviors you can practice this week. In this episode of Communicate to Lead, Kele Belton goes deep on vocal presence: how you say your words, not what you say. She breaks down the four behaviors that determine whether your voice supports or undermines your message, namely pitch, pace, volume, and intentional pauses, and names the gendered penalty around women's voices. Kele also looks at what the most recent vocal fry research from 2025 and 2026 shows, and it contradicts a decade of leadership advice given to women. This is Part 2 of the four-part Executive Presence Series, following Episode 168 on the visual pillar and the Three Anchors of Embodied Presence. Part 1 covered what your body is doing while you speak. Part 2 covers what your voice is doing with the words. What You Will Learn: The breath technique that settles your pitch in high-stakes moments, so you sound grounded instead of tense, without forcing a lower voice.What the newest vocal fry research reveals about who uses it, so you can stop fixing a voice that may not need fixing.The one moment to slow your pace that makes the whole room calibrate to you instead of talking over you.How to project authority when you are naturally soft-spoken, the way Dr. Lisa Su commands a room without raising her voice.The three exact moments where a three-second pause reads as authority instead of hesitation.When upspeak costs you, and the targeted fix that does not require changing how you naturally speak.Your Action Step: Pick one of the four behaviors and practice it this week: Choose the behavior you suspect is your biggest growth opportunity: pitch, pace, volume, or pauses.Identify one specific high-stakes moment on your calendar where you will deploy it on purpose.Notice what shifts. Optional: record a sixty-second voice memo and listen back once, using the four behaviors as your lens.Mentioned in This Episode: Episode 168: How to Build Executive Presence: 3 Anchors for Women Leaders | Part 1 of 4Book a Leadership Strategy Call (30 minutes, complimentary): https://calendly.com/kele-thetailoredapproach/leadership-strategy-callAbout Your Host: Kele Belton is a communication and leadership facilitator, coach, and consultant who helps high-performing women in middle management build the communication and leadership strategies that get them recognized, sponsored, and promoted. Connect with Kele: •       LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kele-ruth-belton/ •       Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetailoredapproach/ •       Website: https://thetailoredapproach.com

    24 min

  6. May 18

    169. How to Keep Your Team Focused and Motivated When Layoffs Loom

    Send us Fan Mail She was leading her team through one of the most stressful quarters of her career. Layoffs were in the air. She was fighting hard behind closed doors to protect every person who reported to her. And in every team meeting, she said the same thing, with all the conviction she could find: everything is going to be fine. She meant it as protection. Her team heard something else entirely. In this Monday Momentum episode of Communicate to Lead, Kele Belton shares what happens when high-performing women leaders try to shield their teams from uncertainty by offering reassurance they cannot guarantee, and the one communication shift that rebuilds trust and refocuses a team in the middle of a shaky moment. What You Will Learn Why premature reassurance, even when it comes from a place of care, creates distance with the high-performing team members you most want to keep engaged.The difference between managing your team's emotions and respecting their intelligence, and why one builds trust while the other quietly erodes it.A simple two-part communication move you can use in your next team meeting to name uncertainty directly and anchor your team in what they can own.Your Action Step Before your next team meeting, write down three things: what you know, what you are still working to find out, and one priority your team can own right now. Open the meeting by saying those three things out loud. Close by inviting your team to come to you individually if they need more. Ready to Go Deeper? Book a complimentary Leadership Strategy Call with Kele to talk through what you are navigating with your team and identify the next move that will steady your leadership in this season. About Your Host Kele Belton is a communication and leadership trainer who specializes in helping women leaders develop confidence and impact through strategic communication and practical leadership frameworks. Connect with Kele LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kele-ruth-belton/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetailoredapproach/Website: https://thetailoredapproach.com

    5 min

  7. May 14

    168. How to Build Executive Presence: 3 Anchors for Women Leaders | Part 1 of 4

    Send us Fan Mail You walk into the meeting. The room has not started yet. People are still settling in. And in the space of about three seconds, something gets decided about you, before you have said one word. You can have done the work, prepared harder than anyone else, and built a track record that speaks for itself, and still feel like something is missing in how you land in that room. That something has a name. It is executive presence. In this episode of Communicate to Lead, Kele Belton kicks off a brand-new four-part series on executive presence by tackling the question most leadership books never answer clearly: what is executive presence, really, and how do you build it on purpose? Kele reframes executive presence as a set of learnable behaviors, not a personality trait, and walks through the three aspects of communication based on Dr. Albert Mehrabian's foundational research.  This is Part 1 of the four-part Executive Presence Series, and the natural next step after the April visibility series (Episodes 160, 162, and 164). What You Will Learn: Why executive presence is a set of learnable behaviors, not a personality trait you either have or do not have.The three aspects of communication, verbal, vocal, and visual, and why the body wins when those aspects conflict.The Three Anchors of Embodied Presence and the behaviors under each: Engagement, Aliveness, and Authority, with concrete practices you can use in your next meetingTwo incredible women leaders to study for two different styles of presence: Kat Cole and Mellody Hobson.Your Action Step: Pick one behavior from the Three Anchors and practice it this week: Choose a single behavior. One. It might be holding eye contact a few seconds longer, planting your feet before you walk into a meeting, or letting a three-second pause sit after you make a point.Use it intentionally in one meeting, one conversation, or one call each day this week.At the end of the week, notice what shifted, even slightly. Optional bonus: record yourself for sixty seconds and watch it back, looking for one strength and one thing to refine.Mentioned in This Episode: Episode 160: How Perfectionism Keeps Women Leaders Invisible | Part 1 of 3Episode 162: Why Your Work Environment May Be Blocking Your Leadership Growth | Part 2 of 3Episode 164: How to Communicate Your Value Before You Feel Ready | Part 3 of 3Episode 151: Naming the Tension in Tough Conversations (Mellody Hobson)About Your Host: Kele Belton is a communication and leadership facilitator, coach, and consultant who helps high-performing women in middle management build the communication and leadership strategies that get them recognized, sponsored, and promoted. Connect with Kele: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kele-ruth-belton/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetailoredapproach/Website: https://thetailoredapproach.comBook a complimentary Leadership Strategy Call: https://calendly.com/kele-thetailoredapproach/leadership-strategy-call

    24 min

  8. May 11

    167. How Women Leaders Communicate Value During Restructuring

    Send us Fan Mail She showed up to the coaching session with her laptop open and her defense document ready. Two weeks of work. ROI figures, headcount justifications, three years of performance data — all of it organized into slides, all of it prepared to answer one question: “Why should I keep my job?” There was just one problem. Nobody in her organization was asking that question. In this Monday Momentum episode of Communicate to Lead, Kele Belton shares what this director at a financial services firm discovered in that coaching session — and the shift that changed how she walked into every high-stakes conversation after it. Not with a defense. With a position. What You Will Learn Why the instinct to defend your past makes high-performing women less visible at the exact moment visibility matters most.The difference between defending your value and positioning it — and why it changes how decision-makers see you.A three-part framework you can build today that shifts the entire tone of any high-stakes conversation with leadership.Your Action Step Listen to the full episode and build your own version of the framework Kele walks through. Then say it out loud before your next conversation with leadership. Not as a rehearsed speech. As a reminder of something you already know. AI Prompt: Build Your Positioning Statement Use this prompt to put the framework into your own words: “I am a [job title] in [industry]. I want to build a three-sentence positioning statement that communicates my value clearly and confidently without sounding defensive. The Result: [describe a specific outcome you have delivered recently and its impact]. The Strategic Focus: [describe the business problem you are currently solving]. The Direction: [describe where you are taking your work next and why it connects to what your organization needs most]. Requirements: Write three clear, confident sentences. No jargon. No defensive language. Forward-facing tone. Each sentence should feel natural to say out loud in a professional conversation.” Ready to Go Deeper? Book a complimentary Leadership Strategy Call with Kele to identify exactly what is standing between you and the recognition you have earned. About Your Host Kele Belton is a communication and leadership trainer who specializes in helping women leaders develop confidence and impact through strategic communication and practical leadership frameworks. Connect with Kele LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kele-ruth-belton/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetailoredapproach/Website: https://thetailoredapproach.com

    7 min
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Ready to step into your full potential as a leader? Join communication expert and leadership coach Kele Belton for conversations that go beyond traditional leadership advice. Each week on Communicate to Lead, discover practical strategies to strengthen both your leadership presence and communication impact. Through solo episodes and inspiring guest interviews, Kele tackles the real challenges women face in management - from mastering high-stakes conversations and building executive presence to overcoming perfectionism and imposter syndrome. Whether you're an experienced manager or an aspiring leader, this podcast delivers actionable insights to help you navigate workplace dynamics, amplify your voice, and lead with authentic confidence. Tune in to transform challenges into opportunities and build the leadership career you envision.

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  • Creator
    Kele Belton
  • Years Active
    2021 - 2026
  • Episodes
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