The Coach Daniel Ratner Podcast

By Coach Daniel Ratner

Coach Ratner is not a matchmaker, but a MateMaker. With 7 books under his belt, Coach Ratner is an accomplished author and sought-after speaker on topics such as relationships, self-esteem and spirituality. His unique insights and captivating speaking style have helped countless individuals achieve their goals and transform their lives.

  1. 2D AGO

    Are You an Emotional Vampire?

    Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening! Ever left a conversation feeling lighter—or strangely exhausted? We dig into what makes someone an emotional vampire, why it’s hard to see it in the mirror, and how simple shifts in awareness can turn draining patterns into healthy connection. We start by calling out a human bias: judging others by their actions while excusing ourselves with intentions. From there, we walk through real-life stories—awkward dates, nonstop talkers, and that friend who always needs you at the worst moment—to show how social awareness, facial cues, and true listening become your best tools in the room. We also break down the “keepers” framework to help you choose the people who add energy, not steal it. Strip out ego and envy, and look for four traits: kind, peaceful, respectful, empathetic. Kindness softens edges. Peace reduces drama. Respect prevents contempt. Empathy fuels intimacy. We talk about narcissists and empaths, love-bombing that turns relationships into manipulationships, and practical boundaries that protect your sanity. You’ll hear why responsibility is irresistibly attractive—like quietly picking up soup bowls at dinner or getting up at 3 a.m. for the baby—and why presence beats perfect profiles every time. If you struggle with second dates, feel unheard in friendships, or rely on constant validation, this conversation offers a mirror and a map. Try the 24-hour rule before hard talks, trade rebuttals for real listening, and run a friend audit to ask whether the price of admission is worth the emotional cost. By reading “the back of your shirt,” you’ll spot blind spots, build better habits, and choose people who make your life brighter. If this resonated, share it with someone who needs it, subscribe for more practical relationship tools, and leave a quick review to tell us your biggest takeaway.

    49 min
  2. JAN 22

    Three Secrets To Real Success

    Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening! What if the success you’re chasing isn’t the success you actually want? We open this class with a candid look at belonging—finding a spiritual home later in life—and a playful detour into halachic puzzles like the international date line. Then we dig into the heart of the matter: three secrets that reshape how you set goals, make choices, and carry responsibility without burning out. First, we argue for defining success before it blindsides you. Using a “God positioning system,” we map purpose the way you’d map a trip: specify the destination, expect wrong turns, and keep recalculating. Abraham’s tests become a model for living your values, not just talking about them. We also dismantle survivorship bias; copying winners ignores timing and luck. The fix is preparation. When opportunity arrives, it meets a ready person. Next, we tackle the truth that every path is hard. Staying safe can be its own risk. You’ll hear a real story about leaving a guaranteed job to build a business, and why desire, determination, and discipline turn uncertainty into progress. Relationships get the same honest treatment: love is a verb. Parenting means showing up. Marriage lasts when attention, respect, and understanding stay active. Hobbies, self‑esteem, and faith round out the inner scaffolding that keeps you steady. Finally, we reframe “obligations” as opportunities. Focus on the pleasure behind the pain—service, growth, meaning—and effort feels lighter. From health battles to business setbacks, we keep returning to the same promise: failure is feedback, not a verdict. Winners never quit, and quitters never win. Define what success means to you, choose the hard that leads there, and see every responsibility as a chance to become who you’re meant to be. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs a nudge, and leave a quick review with your biggest takeaway—what hard will you choose this week?

    52 min
  3. 12/16/2025

    Ask This Before You Say “Yes”: Will I Make Her Happy & Do I Respect Him

    Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening! Before you propose or say yes, ask the question that quietly predicts whether your home will feel safe, warm, and steady years from now. We unpack a counterintuitive truth: the third must-ask question changes depending on whether you’re a man or a woman—and that shift explains why some relationships grow calmer with time while others grind down under small daily frictions. I walk through the men’s filter first: am I willing to make her happy for the rest of her life? Not as a mood, but as a practice that holds through weight gain, career setbacks, emotional valleys, and the chaos of raising kids. Then we turn to the women’s filter: do I respect him? We explore why many men experience respect as oxygen, often ranking it above overt displays of affection. You’ll hear simple, repeatable habits—like pausing a phone call to greet your partner—that send powerful signals of value without costing more than a few seconds. Together, we map real-life scenarios that test love and respect: mismatched ambitions, hobbies you don’t admire, lifestyle differences, and the pressure to remake a partner into a fantasy. You’ll learn the difference between knowledge and wisdom, why small rituals beat grand gestures, and how core needs—attention, affection, appreciation, awareness for her; food, sex, respect for him—create momentum toward trust. If you hesitate on these questions, that hesitation is data. Use it to choose more wisely, or to build better foundations before you commit. If this conversation gave you a clearer lens on love, share it with someone who’s dating, subscribe for more Coach Talks, and leave a quick review to tell us which question hit home for you.

    6 min
  4. 12/10/2025

    Want a Soulmate or a Bedmate? Don't Waste Your Best Years, Or You'll End Up In Tears

    Let me know your thoughts about the podcast. Thank you for listening! Too many relationships drift for years without a decision, stealing time and muddying expectations. We pull the curtain back on why “we’ll see” is the most expensive phrase in dating and replace it with a simple, brave framework that keeps your future intact. If you want marriage, you need more than chemistry—you need clarity, standards, and a shared pace. We start by drawing a clean line between two goals: dating for fun versus dating for marriage. When you’re honest about the goal, your bar changes. You stop confusing a good time with a good partner. We introduce the D‑E‑W method—dating, engagement, wedding—as a practical way to avoid drift. Set a reasonable window to assess character, agree on a timeline, and let alignment—not inertia—decide the next step. No ultimatums, just mutual clarity about what you’re building together. We also unpack the comfort trap: how routine and physical intimacy can mask misalignment and lead to seven‑year situationships or marriages formed out of convenience. You’ll hear the markers of true marriage material—integrity under stress, shared values about money and kids, conflict repair, generosity—and how to test them in real life. The stats on divorce and unhappy marriages are sobering, but they aren’t destiny. Purposeful dating flips the odds by filtering quickly and investing deeply where it counts. If you’re tired of mixed signals and lost years, this conversation gives you the words and the plan to move forward with strength. Press play, share it with a friend who needs clarity, and tell us: What timeline and standards are you committing to now? Subscribe, leave a review, and help more people date with purpose.

    4 min

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About

Coach Ratner is not a matchmaker, but a MateMaker. With 7 books under his belt, Coach Ratner is an accomplished author and sought-after speaker on topics such as relationships, self-esteem and spirituality. His unique insights and captivating speaking style have helped countless individuals achieve their goals and transform their lives.