The Immigrant Experience in America (TIEIA)

Simone W. Johnson Smith
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The Immigrant Experience In America Podcast amplifies and humanizes the experiences of immigrants living in The United States of America and around the world. We are building a human library of immigrant stories. Connect with us at thebridgeconcepts.org to add yours to our library. Are you an immigrant, expat, international professional, international student new to the United States (or another country) and struggling to make sense of your new environment? Culture shock and adjustment challenges impact many of approximately 218 million migrants moving across the globe (UN, 2024). Are you feeling misunderstood and out of touch because you are struggling to understand the unstated rules of the new culture? That's what we do each week on The Immigrant Experience in America. Every episode is an in-depth look at adjustment challenges, navigating the pitfalls of immigrant life, and becoming a third culture person. I was inspired to start this podcast by my own experience as an immigrant American who legally migrated to the United States but yet has frequent experiences of a love-hate relationship of America with its immigrant population and as a result of a larger vacuum surrounding the positive contributions of immigrants to American Life. We will sit down with successful immigrant Americans to discuss how they navigated the complexity of being an immigrant-American to achieve their American Dream. This is a spot for us to get real - peel back the layers, if you will, of what it means to be an immigrant living away from their birth country. Our intention is to serve as a bridge from your culture to the American (or other country) culture – giving you a roadmap of tools and language to understand the unstated rules of the new country/culture, wherever you find yourself in the world. Disclaimer: The Immigrant Experience in America podcast is produced in my personal capacity. The views and opinions shared by me and my guests are our own and do not reflect the views, policies, or positions of the U.S. government or USCIS.

  1. Oct 19

    The Black Tax: Twelve Weeks Later: The Founding Cohort Invitation (Week 12 of 90-Day Black Tax Series)

    Twelve weeks ago, Simone started this series with a number most of us never write down or even talk about. In week twelve, the last of this stretch, she does three things: walks you back through where the series has been, widens the circle, and extends an invitation. She gives you the thread in case you joined late: the number that is never written down, honoring your mother and funding your future in the same breath, the system nobody explained, the two cups, your real number, and the four conversations that follow. The line between obligation and manipulation, which is a hard line to draw when you love people. A room in Alpharetta where about twenty people told each other the truth. The five-year cost of staying stuck. And last week's look behind the Immigrant Wealth Code and who it is not for. Then she widens the circle. She will keep calling the series Black Tax, because it is the name many of us grew up hearing, but she knows it is not the word every family uses. Some call it family obligation, some call it what we do for home, and some never gave it a name. In a 2023 Kaiser Family Foundation (KFF) and Los Angeles Times survey of immigrants, 65 percent of Black immigrants and 52 percent of Hispanic immigrants said they send money to relatives or friends in their birth country at least occasionally. The name changes from one family to the next. The weight does not. Then the invitation: Simone is opening the founding cohort of the Immigrant Wealth Code, the first cohort. She is taking eight founding members, and the cohort begins Saturday, November 14. Over six weeks, you meet live on Saturdays at 10:00am ET for 75 minutes. You also get support between sessions in a private Skool community, a one-on-one closing session with Simone, replays of every class, and a signed copy of the Revised Edition of Decoding America. The work starts with the weight, not the spreadsheet, then builds your real number and your security number, then writes the words for the conversations that make the plan real. She teaches it as education and is not a licensed financial advisor. She also repeats briefly who it is not for: anyone who wants to be told to stop giving, and anyone looking for investment or tax advice. It is for high-achieving immigrants, first or second generation, who love their people and are tired in a way a raise did not fix. Simone closes with her faith and the idea at the center of this series: you can love your people and still plan for your own future. Those two things belong together. This episode is for anyone who has followed the Black Tax series and wants to know what comes next, and for high-achieving immigrants ready to look at their number and learn the words. Two ways to begin 1. Apply for a Chemistry Call before Saturday, November 7. One real conversation about where you are and whether the Code is the right fit. If it is not, Simone will tell you and point you to what is. Apply here: https://form.jotform.com/261967575607068 2. Join The Giving Plan Live, free. Build your real number and write your first script with Simone, live. Saturday, October 24, 10:00 to 11:15am ET. Live only, with seats capped at 25. Register here: https://thebridgeconcepts.org/masterclass-registration.html About Simone W. Johnson-Smith Simone is the founder of Thrive Abroad and The Bridge Concepts, LLC, a Jamaican-born American intercultural strategist, coach, and former U.S. diplomat. She is the International Impact Book Award-winning author of Decoding America & Coming Home to Yourself: The Immigrant Experience, available in print on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Decoding-America-Coming-Home-Yourself/dp/B0DMWQ1GLR/), and as an audiobook (ElevenLabs-narrated) on Spotify, Barnes & Noble, Rakuten Kobo, and other major retailers via InAudio. She is also host of this podcast, reaching listeners in over 100 countries. #ThriveAbroad #BlackTax #ImmigrantWealthCode #FoundingCohort #FirstGenImmigrants #FamilyObligation #DecodingAmerica New to the U.S.? Start here: thebridgeconcepts.org/newcomer Not started yet? Get The Black Tax Boundary Kit free first: thebridgeconcepts.org/black-tax-boundary-kit.html Want the conversation to continue weekly? Subscribe to The Thrive Abroad Brief on Substack: https://thriveabroad.substack.com The Immigrant Experience in America Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theimmigrantexperience Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon Music Support the show on Patreon Visit: https://thebridgeconcepts.org Follow along: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonewjohnson/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theimmigrantexperience Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theimmigrantexperiencepod/ Facebook: @simonewjohnson Pitch your story to us: https://form.jotform.com/262255221488054 This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. For guidance specific to your immigration status, consult a licensed immigration attorney. For guidance specific to your financial situation, consult a licensed financial professional.

  2. Oct 19 ·  Bonus

    For music fans:: Before The Moment with Nile Rodgers

    Introducing John Legend: How a Voice Breaks Through from Before The Moment with Nile Rodgers. Follow the show: Before The Moment with Nile Rodgers John Legend has always been ahead of the curve. He started playing piano at 4, graduated high school at 16. He grew up with a family surrounded by gospel music, and became a prodigy. After graduating from UPenn, he did what so many aspiring artists do - he hustled. Working a consulting job during the day, singing in clubs at night. Hoping to get someone to notice, to believe in him and to cut him a record deal. Funny to think about because it’s hard to imagine a world where John Legend isn’t a household name, but just goes to show that even the greats started somewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

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  3. Oct 14

    The Black Tax Series: Behind the Immigrant Wealth Code: What It Does and Who It Is Not For (Week 11 of The Black Tax Series, Ep. 239)

    In 2023, Simone decided to stop: the doing, the chasing, the traveling, the fixing, the rescuing, and the saving. She opens week eleven of the Black Tax series there because she owes you a plain answer to a plain question. You have heard her talk for ten weeks about the number, the conversations, and the cost of waiting. At some point you are allowed to ask, and then what? This week she takes you behind the scenes of the Immigrant Wealth Code. She starts with what it does not do: it does not begin with a spreadsheet, because the spreadsheet was never the first problem. The first problem is the weight. She shares what Pew Research Center found in its 2026 report: 71 percent of Black immigrants in the U.S. had given financial support to family in the past year, compared with 58 percent of U.S.-born Black adults, and among Black adults who gave, one in four said it significantly hurt their own finances. That research measured giving, not guilt, but if you have lived it, you can fill in the rest. From there, Simone walks through how the Code is built. First, naming the clash as normal: sending money home, covering a sibling, and answering the call at midnight are acts of love shaped by cultures where family is the safety net, carried into an economy that was never built with us in mind. Then the mechanics, which she keeps light on purpose: your real number (what you give, what it is for, and what it costs you), your security number (the amount that lets you sleep at night), and the difference between provision and accumulation, stewardship and stockpiling. Then the conversations, including what she calls weaning with dignity, where the love stays and the pattern changes slowly. Underneath it all is her faith: the wealth you build is not a betrayal of where you come from, it can be the fruit of it. She is also direct about who the Code is not for: anyone who wants to be told to stop giving, anyone looking for an investment pick, tax strategy, or legal advice, anyone who wants the numbers without the conversations, and anyone for whom this month is about survival. If you want the numbers without the conversations, she points you to the Giving Plan Workbook. If this month is about survival, she points you to the free Black Tax Boundary Kit and invites you to come back when you have room to breathe. She teaches this as education and is not a licensed financial advisor. This episode is for high-achieving immigrants, first or second generation, who love their people and are tired in a way a raise did not fix, and for anyone who wants to know what the Immigrant Wealth Code actually is before they ever get on a call. Saturday, October 24: The Giving Plan Live Want to see how Simone teaches? Join The Giving Plan Live, a free working session where you build your real number and write the first script for the hardest of the four conversations, live, with Simone. Saturday, October 24, 10:00 to 11:15am ET. Live only, with seats capped at 25. Register here: https://thebridgeconcepts.org/masterclass-registration.html About Simone W. Johnson-Smith Simone is the founder of Thrive Abroad and The Bridge Concepts, LLC, a Jamaican-born American intercultural strategist, coach, and former U.S. diplomat. She is the International Impact Book Award-winning author of Decoding America & Coming Home to Yourself: The Immigrant Experience, available in print on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/Decoding-America-Coming-Home-Yourself/dp/B0DMWQ1GLR/), and as an audiobook (ElevenLabs-narrated) on Spotify, Barnes & Noble, Rakuten Kobo, and other major retailers via InAudio. She is also host of this podcast, reaching listeners in over 100 countries. #ThriveAbroad #BlackTax #ImmigrantWealthCode #FinancialClarity #FirstGenImmigrants #DecodingAmerica New to the U.S.? Start here: thebridgeconcepts.org/newcomer Want to start with a conversation about where you actually are? Apply for a Chemistry Call: https://form.jotform.com/261967575607068 Not started yet, or this month is about survival? Get The Black Tax Boundary Kit free first: thebridgeconcepts.org/black-tax-boundary-kit.html Want the conversation to continue weekly? Subscribe to The Thrive Abroad Brief on Substack: https://thriveabroad.substack.com The Immigrant Experience in America Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theimmigrantexperience Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon Music Support the show on Patreon Visit: https://thebridgeconcepts.org Follow along: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonewjohnson/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theimmigrantexperience Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theimmigrantexperiencepod/ Facebook: @simonewjohnson Pitch your story to us: https://form.jotform.com/262255221488054 This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. For guidance specific to your immigration status, consult a licensed immigration attorney. For guidance specific to your financial situation, consult a licensed financial professional.

  4. Oct 14

    From Tehran to Tomorrow: A Sister Writes her Brother's Immigrant Story with Sara Fashandi (Ep. 238)

    Sara Fashandi left Tehran, Iran, in 1977 as a teenager to study in the United States. Her mother, a seamstress who had married at fourteen, had a vision of educating all seven of her children. Sara's oldest brother, Mohsen, went first in 1973 with $300 and very little English, and he eventually brought five of his siblings to the U.S. In this episode, Sara tells me how that family story became two books: Message in a Matchbox (2022) and From Tehran to Tomorrow (2026). We talk about growing up in Tehran in the 1960s and 70s, a father who was a cobbler, and a mother who taught sewing and would not teach her daughters to sew. Sara shares the story Mohsen waited decades to tell: three nights homeless in Washington, D.C., sleeping in a park across from the Greyhound station. When she asked why he never told her, he said, "some stories you just don't tell." We also talk about what it costs the person who goes first and the family who waits. Sara's family went almost a month without knowing whether Mohsen had arrived safely, until a blue aerogram came in the mail. We also get into the gap between learning English in school and understanding it at full speed, what it means to feel American and Iranian at once, and what it feels like to become a foreigner in the land of your birth. And Sara brings two Cultural Faux Pas stories that still make her family laugh. If your family sent one person ahead, or you have been meaning to ask your parents or grandparents for their arrival story, this one is for you. TIMESTAMPS 0:00 Welcome and meet Sara Fashandi 0:41 Leaving Tehran for Ohio State in 1977 1:51 A family reunion contest and how Sara became a writer 3:58 Her father the cobbler and growing up in Tehran 6:14 European fashion, loud gatherings, bingo and poetry 8:32 Two seamstress mothers, one in Iran and one in Jamaica 11:03 Message in a Matchbox: Mohsen's childhood 16:48 Three nights homeless: "some stories you just don't tell" 18:21 How Mohsen brought five siblings to the U.S. 21:59 Her mother the motivator, her father the quiet support 24:52 What writing the story taught Sara about her family 27:08 The sewing classes that changed the family's finances 29:40 Arriving in the U.S. as a teenager: missing her parents and the language 33:29 West Virginia, Ohio and Midwest weather 36:20 Getting a student visa in the 1970s versus today 40:34 How the siblings stayed close 46:33 What it costs the person who goes first and the family who waits 51:23 The blue aerogram 52:18 My aunt, the first in our family to come 56:07 What Sara hopes readers take from the books 59:35 Feeling American and Iranian at once 66:31 Third culture kids and the 300 million of us 70:39 A foreigner in the land of your birth 71:43 What Mohsen would want you to know 73:52 The Cultural Faux Pas Moment 74:24 Story one: the phone call and the elevator 79:38 Story two: the uniform mix-up 82:36 Where to find Sara and her books 87:07 Giving back About the Author: Sara Fashandi is the author of Message in a Matchbox, a multi-award finalist memoir about her brother Mohsen's childhood in Iran and the sacrifices of a mother determined to give her children a better life, and its sequel, From Tehran to Tomorrow, which follows Mohsen to the United States. From Tehran to Tomorrow on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Tehran-Tomorrow-Sara-Fashandi/dp/B0H5T81QW5/ Sara's website: https://www.sarafashandi.com/ SATURDAY, OCTOBER 24: The Giving Plan Live Already established, and Sara's story about family sacrifice and obligation hit home? Join a free working session where you build your real number and write the first script for the hardest conversation, live, with me. Saturday, October 24, 10:00 to 11:15am ET. Live only, seats capped at 25. Register here: https://thebridgeconcepts.org/masterclass-registration.html Want to start with a conversation about where you actually are? Apply for a Chemistry Call: https://form.jotform.com/261967575607068 New to the U.S.? Start here: https://thebridgeconcepts.org/newcomer Get The Black Tax Boundary Kit free: https://thebridgeconcepts.org/black-tax-boundary-kit.html Subscribe to The Thrive Abroad Brief: https://thriveabroad.substack.com Decoding America & Coming Home to Yourself: The Immigrant Experience by Simone W. Johnson-Smith is available in print on Amazon and as an audiobook on Spotify, Barnes & Noble, Rakuten Kobo, and other major retailers. Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@theimmigrantexperience Website: https://thebridgeconcepts.org LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonewjohnson/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theimmigrantexperience Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theimmigrantexperiencepod/ Pitch your story to us: https://form.jotform.com/262255221488054 #TheImmigrantExperienceInAmerica #DecodingAmericaFauxPas #ImmigrantStories #IranianAmerican #PersianAmerican #ImmigrantMemoir #ThirdCultureAdults #ThriveAbroad About Simone W. Johnson-Smith Simone is the founder of Thrive Abroad and The Bridge Concepts, LLC, a Jamaican-born American intercultural strategist, coach, and former U.S. diplomat. She is the International Impact Book Award-winning author of Decoding America & Coming Home to Yourself: The Immigrant Experience — available in print on Amazon, and as an audiobook (ElevenLabs-narrated) on Spotify, Barnes & Noble, Rakuten Kobo, and other major retailers via InAudio — and host of this podcast, reaching listeners in over 100 countries. The Immigrant Experience in America  Subscribe on YouTube: youtube.com/@theimmigrantexperience  Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon Music Support the show on Patreon Visit: thebridgeconcepts.org Follow along: LinkedIn | TikTok | Instagram | Facebook Share your story with us: thebridgeconcepts.org/podcast.html#share-your-story This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. For guidance specific to your immigration status, consult a licensed immigration attorney. For guidance specific to your financial situation, consult a licensed financial professional.

  5. Oct 6

    The Black Tax:The Five-Year Cost of Staying Stuck (Week 10 of the 90 Day Black Tax Series, Ep. 237)

    For five years, the idea of writing a book for immigrants sat at the back of Simone's mind, nudging. She didn't write it. Nothing was broken enough to force the question. She tells you that because she knows what five years can hold when nothing looks wrong. Staying stuck rarely arrives as a crisis. It arrives as a normal month, repeated sixty times. This week, Simone talks about what it costs to wait. Not to scare you, just to wake you up. After weeks of talking about "the number," she puts one on the table: $500 a month sent home, handed to a cousin, or covered for a sibling, with no plan behind it and no agreement on what it's for. That's $6,000 a year. In five years, $30,000. She isn't saying you shouldn't have sent it. Some of it was love, and some of it was exactly what someone needed. She is saying that when the number has never been written down, you can't tell which was which. And that's only the part that shows up on the statement. The other cost doesn't have a column: the conversation rehearsed in the car and the shower and never had, the account you keep meaning to open, the version of you waiting for a calmer season to begin. She also tells you about "Dana," a composite of several women she has sat across from. Dana sends money every month the way her mother did, without ever discussing it. Five years in, she has been promoted twice and is more tired than the day she started. Nothing has gone wrong. That is the whole difficulty: no single moment announces itself as the one to act on. If you're doing that math in your head right now, this isn't a verdict. You did what love and loyalty asked of you with the information you had. A wake-up isn't shame. Shame says you should have known. A wake-up says now you do. This episode is for anyone quietly running the numbers on what they've sent home without ever writing them down, and for anyone who keeps telling themselves they'll deal with it "after the holidays" or "after things settle down." The Giving Plan Live Already established, and the financial piece resonated? Join The Giving Plan Live, a free working session where you build your real number and write the first script for the hardest conversation, live, with Simone. Saturday, October 24, 10:00 to 11:15am ET. Live only, with seats capped at 25. Register here: https://thebridgeconcepts.org/masterclass-registration.html About Simone W. Johnson-Smith Simone is the founder of Thrive Abroad and The Bridge Concepts, LLC, a Jamaican-born American intercultural strategist, coach, and former U.S. diplomat. She is the International Impact Book Award-winning author of Decoding America & Coming Home to Yourself: The Immigrant Experience, available in print on Amazon, and as an audiobook (ElevenLabs-narrated) on Spotify, Barnes & Noble, Rakuten Kobo, and other major retailers via InAudio. She is also host of this podcast, reaching listeners in over 100 countries. #ThriveAbroad #BlackTax #ImmigrantExperience #FinancialClarity #DecodingAmerica New to the U.S.? Start here: thebridgeconcepts.org/newcomer Want to start with a conversation about where you actually are? Apply for a Chemistry Call: https://form.jotform.com/261967575607068 Not started yet? Get The Black Tax Boundary Kit free first: thebridgeconcepts.org/black-tax-boundary-kit.html Want the conversation to continue weekly? Subscribe to The Thrive Abroad Brief on Substack: https://thriveabroad.substack.com The Immigrant Experience in America Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theimmigrantexperience Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon Music Support the show on Patreon Visit: https://thebridgeconcepts.org Follow along: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simonewjohnson/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theimmigrantexperience Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theimmigrantexperiencepod/ Facebook: @simonewjohnson Pitch your story to us: https://form.jotform.com/262255221488054 This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. For guidance specific to your immigration status, consult a licensed immigration attorney. For guidance specific to your financial situation, consult a licensed financial professional.

  6. Sep 28 ·  Video

    The Black Tax: Sip & Share's Own Words (Week 9 of 90-Day Black Tax Series)

    On June 27, about twenty of us sat in a room in Alpharetta and asked each other one question all evening: are you lost in translation? Simone had run the event in her head a dozen times, the panel questions, the timing, the logistics. What she hadn't planned for was how the room would answer back. On the panel, Dalkeith Thomas talked about something a lot of the room recognized, walking into the U.S. school system with no map for it. Not the curriculum. The culture underneath it. The different assumptions about discipline, about what it actually takes to get a room of students to want to participate instead of just showing up each day. He said if someone had warned him what he was walking into, the strategies he'd actually need, he would have started differently. Nobody had warned him. He had to learn it by living it. By the time the room reached the closing moment, the Declaration Collection, where each guest chose one scroll, one word to carry out of the room with them, "I Belong," "I Am Rooted," "I Have a Voice," it stopped feeling like an event Simone was hosting and started feeling like a room testifying to itself. Here's the part that undid her: nobody picks their word. The scrolls are drawn at random, one by one, and as each person read theirs out loud, she watched the room landing, again and again, on exactly what that person had carried into it. She wasn't expecting it, but she teared up watching it happen. Nine weeks in on the Black Tax, the number, the scripts, the difference between obligation and manipulation, and all of it is still theory until a room full of people sits across from you and says, mine too. Sip & Share was the proof that this isn't just Simone's story. It's the room's story. This episode carries the series into its final stretch, and for the first time it comes with two ways forward: apply for a Chemistry Call, one real conversation about where you actually are, or join the free live working session Simone is hosting next month, where attendees build their number and their first script together in real time. Registration is open now and capped, so it's worth not waiting too long. About Simone W. Johnson-Smith Simone is the founder of Thrive Abroad and The Bridge Concepts, LLC, a Jamaican-born American intercultural strategist, coach, and former U.S. diplomat. She is the International Impact Book Award-winning author of Decoding America & Coming Home to Yourself: The Immigrant Experience — available in print on Amazon, and as an audiobook (ElevenLabs-narrated) on Spotify, Barnes & Noble, Rakuten Kobo, and other major retailers via InAudio — and host of this podcast, reaching listeners in over 100 countries. #SipAndShare2026 #LostInTranslation #BlackTax #ThriveAbroad #ThirdCultureSuperpower #DecodingAmerica New to the U.S.? Start here → thebridgeconcepts.org/newcomer Sound like your own week, your own family, your own quiet exhaustion from translating yourself all day? Apply for a Chemistry Call, one real conversation about where you actually are. → https://form.jotform.com/261967575607068 Or join The Giving Plan Live, a free working session where we build your number and your first script together. Registration is open now and capped. → https://thebridgeconcepts.org/masterclass-registration.html Not started yet? Get The Black Tax Boundary Kit free first. → thebridgeconcepts.org/black-tax-boundary-kit.html Want the conversation to continue weekly? Subscribe to The Thrive Abroad Brief. → thriveabroad.substack.com The Immigrant Experience in America Subscribe on YouTube: youtube.com/@theimmigrantexperience Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon Music Support the show on Patreon Visit: thebridgeconcepts.org Follow along: LinkedIn | TikTok | Instagram | Facebook Pitch your story to us: https://form.jotform.com/262255221488054 This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. For guidance specific to your immigration status, consult a licensed immigration attorney. For guidance specific to your financial situation, consult a licensed financial professional.

  7. Sep 21

    The Black Tax: When It's Not Obligation, It's Manipulation. (Week 8 of 90-Day Black Tax Series)

    There is a difference between giving and being drained, and for a long time Simone could not tell you where one ended and the other began. In week eight of the Black Tax series, she draws the line. She opens with the image she's returned to throughout this series, two cups, one pouring into the other, running dry if nothing ever pours back. In collectivist cultures that's supposed to be the whole point, everyone gives and everyone's cup gets refilled somewhere down the line. It works, until it doesn't, until you're the one always pouring and can't say exactly when your own cup went empty. Simone shares that she didn't grow up hearing the words self-interest or boundaries, and that giving from a collectivist mindset toward people operating purely from self-interest doesn't make you generous, it makes you prey. From there she brings in a story from her friend and past podcast guest Stella Leaburn, who described being the go-to person, the one everyone calls first, simply because she did better, and who sent money for years to cover a relative's school fees only to find out it was funding a second house. Stella's line is the one Simone builds the whole episode around: a lot of the time, they will try to make you feel guilty. That is emotional manipulation. Simone draws the distinction plainly, between giving that's actually needed and gratefully received, and giving that's become someone else's excuse to stop trying, and names what it looks like when someone would rather you work yourself into the ground than adjust how they live. She's direct that when you stop, the other person doesn't stop living, and that a pattern repeated over and over eventually stops being their problem and becomes yours. This is also the one week in the series where she uses the word boundary on purpose, defining it not as walling off the people you love but as naming clearly the difference between a need and a demand. This episode is for anyone in this series who already has their number and is starting to notice how often guilt shows up disguised as obligation. It's a direct, unflinching episode, and one of the more personal turns the series has taken. About Simone W. Johnson-Smith Simone is the founder of Thrive Abroad and The Bridge Concepts, LLC, a Jamaican-born American intercultural strategist, coach, and former U.S. diplomat. She is the International Impact Book Award-winning author of Decoding America & Coming Home to Yourself: The Immigrant Experience — available in print on Amazon, and as an audiobook (ElevenLabs-narrated) on Spotify, Barnes & Noble, Rakuten Kobo, and other major retailers via InAudio — and host of this podcast, reaching listeners in over 100 countries. #BlackTax #GivingPlan #EmotionalManipulation #ImmigrantFinance #DecodingAmerica #ThriveAbroad #FirstGenWealth New to the U.S.? Start here → thebridgeconcepts.org/newcomer Learning to tell the difference between a need and a demand? Get The Giving Plan Workbook, including this week's module on naming manipulation for what it is. → thebridgeconcepts.org/giving-plan-workbook.html Not started yet? Get The Black Tax Boundary Kit free first. → thebridgeconcepts.org/black-tax-boundary-kit.html Ready for the fuller plan, built around your specific number? Apply for a Chemistry Call. → https://form.jotform.com/261967575607068 Want the conversation to continue weekly? Subscribe to The Thrive Abroad Brief. → thriveabroad.substack.com The Immigrant Experience in America Subscribe on YouTube: youtube.com/@theimmigrantexperience Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon Music Support the show on Patreon Visit: thebridgeconcepts.org Follow along: LinkedIn | TikTok | Instagram | Facebook Pitch your story to us: https://form.jotform.com/262255221488054 This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. For guidance specific to your immigration status, consult a licensed immigration attorney. For guidance specific to your financial situation, consult a licensed financial professional.

  8. Sep 17

    The Black Tax: The Four Converstations (Week 7 of 90-Day Black Tax Series)

    You have the number now. In week seven, Simone moves from the math to the words, the actual language for the conversations that come up again and again once someone starts trying to live differently with what they've learned. Simone is direct about the gap between knowing and doing: having the number does not automatically give you the sentences, and she's held a real number in her own head while still saying yes to something it couldn't afford, simply because she didn't have language ready that felt like both love and honesty at once. She walks through four distinct conversations, each requiring different language because each is actually asking something different underneath. The first ask sets the pattern for every ask after it, and it's where the number gets used for the first time, not as rejection but as information. The repeat ask carries its own guilt, the sense that consistency of love requires consistency of amount, which she names directly as untrue. The extended family or community ask often isn't about money at all, it's about a role or an assumption from someone who barely knows the real situation, and needs less explanation and more clarity, since over-explaining reads as guilt and guilt invites negotiation. The hardest of the four is the ask disguised as an emergency, because urgency short-circuits the pause that would otherwise let someone check their number first, and telling a real emergency from a learned pattern, in the moment, under pressure, is a skill nobody hands us on the way in. She closes by pointing listeners to the Giving Plan Workbook for the actual scripts, and teases a live session coming soon, the first of its kind for the show. This episode is for anyone who has the number from the last two weeks and is still missing the words to use it out loud. It sets up the close of the second month of the series and previews a live format the show hasn't done before. About Simone W. Johnson-Smith Simone is the founder of Thrive Abroad and The Bridge Concepts, LLC, a Jamaican-born American intercultural strategist, coach, and former U.S. diplomat. She is the International Impact Book Award-winning author of Decoding America & Coming Home to Yourself: The Immigrant Experience — available in print on Amazon, and as an audiobook (ElevenLabs-narrated) on Spotify, Barnes & Noble, Rakuten Kobo, and other major retailers via InAudio — and host of this podcast, reaching listeners in over 100 countries. #BlackTax #GivingPlan #ImmigrantFinance #DecodingAmerica #ThriveAbroad #FirstGenWealth New to the U.S.? Start here → thebridgeconcepts.org/newcomer Ready to learn the actual scripts? Get The Giving Plan Workbook, real language for the four conversations that come up again and again. → thebridgeconcepts.org/giving-plan-workbook.html Not started yet? Get The Black Tax Boundary Kit free first. → thebridgeconcepts.org/black-tax-boundary-kit.html Ready for the fuller plan, built around your specific number? Apply for a Chemistry Call. → https://form.jotform.com/261967575607068 Want the conversation to continue weekly? Subscribe to The Thrive Abroad Brief. → thriveabroad.substack.com The Immigrant Experience in America Subscribe on YouTube: youtube.com/@theimmigrantexperience Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and Amazon Music Support the show on Patreon Visit: thebridgeconcepts.org Follow along: LinkedIn | TikTok | Instagram | Facebook Pitch your story to us: https://form.jotform.com/262255221488054 This podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. For guidance specific to your immigration status, consult a licensed immigration attorney. For guidance specific to your financial situation, consult a licensed financial professional.

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