The Self Talk Experience Podcast

Darnell & Traci Self
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Scientists estimate that we have between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts every day. Whenever you think about something, it is a form of self talk. If you believe “Thoughts become Things” then the things we say to ourselves about ourselves eventually determine what we attract for ourselves. Darnell & Traci Self will be co-hosting a new podcast sharing how reshaping our thoughts (SelfTalk) enhanced our relationship with one another and others, our business, our faith and our ability to help others tap into their fullest potential as entrepreneurs, leaders, teachers, coaches, parents, and those who simply want to live a joyful life! So get ready to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging & negative thoughts. There will be lots of laughter but even more lessons as we grow through these podcast episodes together! Be sure to tune in!

  1. MAR 27

    Why "I Can't" Is a Lie: Win At Life With Your Self Talk! | Episode 272

    There are 70,000 thoughts we tell ourselves daily shape our self-esteem, relationships, and future success. From transforming "I can't" into "I'm choosing not to" to recognizing that unforgiveness is like drinking poison while hoping someone else dies, this episode delivers practical homework for shifting from a victim mindset to a driver's seat mentality. Whether you're navigating mistakes, grief, or self-doubt, this conversation offers real tools for mental performance and personal growth. As they close out the quarter, Darnell and Tracy share actionable self-talk reframes for common negative patterns—from "I always mess up" to "no one cares about me." They discuss why normalizing mistakes is essential for growth, how to prioritize what matters most when time feels scarce, and why your emotions are valid even when they're uncomfortable. This episode is packed with faith-driven wisdom on forgiveness, boundaries, healing, and the power of choosing your words carefully. If you're ready to elevate your mindset and stop being your own worst enemy, this finale will equip you to talk better to yourself about yourself. Get ready to : Recognize the difference between "I can't" and "I'm choosing not to"—one strips your power, the other puts you in control of your decisions and directionNormalize mistakes by shifting from "I always mess up" to "I sometimes make mistakes, and that's okay"—growth requires newness, and newness invites imperfectionValidate your emotions instead of dismissing them—feeling sad, angry, or frustrated is real, and honoring those feelings keeps you from turning bitter or resentfuland so much more! Connect With Us Instagram https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self Instagram https://www.instagram.com/traciself Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    26 min

  2. MAR 19

    Why You Feel Unsupported (Even When People Are Trying to Help You) | Episode 271

    This conversation goes beyond surface-level encouragement. Darnell and Traci reveal how the inner voice we use to interpret support—or lack of it—shapes our reality. If your self-talk is telling you "nobody supports me," but you haven't communicated what support actually means to you, you're setting yourself up for frustration. Learn how to give yourself grace during setbacks, how to course-correct without expecting overnight results, and why surrounding yourself with the right environments (social support) can provide the emotional and informational fuel you didn't know you needed. Discover the four types of support—emotional, practical, informational, and social—and why they don't all come from the same personLearn how to communicate what support looks like for you instead of expecting others to read your mindUnderstand why giving yourself grace during slow progress is essential for sustainable personal growth and mental performanceExplore how social support networks can provide emotional and informational resources you didn't know you neededRecognize the difference between changing your direction quickly and seeing results—and why patience with yourself is non-negotiableand so much more! Connect With Us Instagram https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self Instagram https://www.instagram.com/traciself Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    24 min

  3. MAR 12

    How to Stay Positive When Life Doesn’t Go Your Way | Episode 270

    What happens when you’ve done the mindset work, said all the right things to yourself… and life still doesn’t go according to plan? Even with strong self-talk and a positive outlook, life can still bring disappointment, setbacks, and unexpected moments that challenge your perspective. The key isn’t pretending those moments don’t exist. The key is learning how to pivot your mindset when things don’t go your way. Through humor, honesty, and practical wisdom, Darnell and Tracy break down the three habits that help you stay emotionally resilient and maintain a positive mindset—even when circumstances don’t match your expectations. Because the truth is simple: Your self-talk isn’t about avoiding problems. It’s about how you respond when they happen. In This Episode You’ll Learn • Why positive self-talk doesn’t mean everything will go according to plan • How to shift your perspective and find the silver lining in difficult moments • Why acknowledging your emotions is essential for emotional resilience • How expectations can shape the level of disappointment you feel • The importance of seeking support from people who understand your journey • How developing strong self-talk habits helps you bounce back faster from setbacks Life will always bring unexpected moments. But when you train your mind to look for gratitude, acknowledge your emotions, and lean on the right people, you build the resilience needed to keep moving forward. Because the things you say to yourself about yourself will ultimately determine what—and who—you attract into your life. Connect With Us Instagram https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self Instagram https://www.instagram.com/traciself Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    23 min

  4. MAR 5

    The Courage To Live Life On Your Own Terms | Episode 269

    What if the biggest mistake people make in life isn’t failure… but never pursuing what they truly wanted? In this episode of the Self Talk Experience Podcast, Darnell Self shares one of the most powerful mindset shifts you can make: learning to control your self-talk so you can live a life aligned with your purpose—not someone else’s expectations. Studies show that the most common regret people express near the end of their lives is not having the courage to live a life true to themselves. Instead, many people follow societal expectations, fear judgment, and delay pursuing the dreams that matter most. Untitled - March 5, 2026 Darnell breaks down how your daily internal dialogue shapes your decisions, relationships, and financial outcomes—and how changing your self-talk can help you create a life of purpose, joy, and freedom. If you’ve ever felt stuck between what you truly want and what others expect from you, this episode will challenge you to rethink the voice guiding your life. Because the truth is simple: The life you live will always follow the conversations you have with yourself. In this episode you’ll learn:• The #1 regret people have at the end of their lives—and how to avoid it • How your daily self-talk shapes your mindset, goals, and future • The three types of people you should intentionally surround yourself with • Why chasing income can actually support your family values and time freedom • How to stop living according to societal expectations and outside pressure • Why putting yourself first can be the key to building the life you want Your future is not determined by your circumstances. It’s shaped by the stories you repeatedly tell yourself. Start speaking better things over your life—and watch what begins to change. Connect with Darnell & Tracy SelfInstagram https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self Instagram https://www.instagram.com/traciself Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    22 min

  5. FEB 26

    Don’t Let Success Turn Into Arrogance! | Episode 268

    As you elevate, your language changes. Your standards rise. Your self-talk strengthens. But sometimes the people around you don’t adjust with you. What once felt like humility can slowly turn into shrinking. What once felt like gratitude can turn into ego. And what once felt like confidence can be misinterpreted as arrogance. This episode challenges you to examine your self-talk, your circle, and your posture. Are you growing with gratitude—or drifting into ego? Are you shrinking your dreams to make others comfortable? Or are you standing firm in who you’re becoming? Growth requires balance. Confidence requires awareness. And humility requires memory. In this episode you’ll learn: The real difference between arrogance and confidence.Why what people say, feel, and do reflects their reality—not always yours.How success can subtly shift your communication if you’re not careful.Why remembering where you came from protects your character.How journaling hard seasons keeps gratitude alive.Why it’s “funny to live in a life you once prayed for.”How insecure environments can cause you to tighten your dreams.Why shrinking your vision to appease others is a dangerous pattern.The importance of staying humble while still thinking big.How healthy self-talk protects you from ego and insecurity.Why growth sometimes makes others uncomfortable—and that’s okay.You prayed for this level. Don’t sabotage it with the wrong associations or the wrong self-talk. Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    18 min

  6. FEB 19

    Define Your Mission... or Stay Distracted | Episode 267

    In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell goes solo and shares a powerful reminder: A mission doesn’t need luxury to be powerful. In a culture obsessed with watches, cars, houses, and visible success, it’s easy to believe you need the look before you can lead. But this episode challenges that mindset. Darnell breaks down how clarity of mission, strength of vision, and alignment in self-talk matter far more than material proof. From personal stories about business trips, family sacrifices, and early income growth without flashy symbols, this episode reframes motivation, distraction, philosophy, and long-term legacy. If you’ve ever felt like you had to “have it” before you could build it, this conversation will shift your perspective. In this episode you’ll learn: Why a strong mission is more powerful than luxury.How waiting for material success can delay your growth.The difference between having goals and having a mission.How a clear mission makes decision-making easier.Why distractions increase when your vision isn’t defined.The traffic “rubbernecking” analogy and how it applies to your life.Why motivation comes from alignment, not hype.How lifestyle comes from results—and results come from activity.The role philosophy plays in shaping attitude and action.How shifting your philosophy shifts your entire life trajectory.Why sharing your mission attracts the right people.How to stop letting society dictate your priorities.A mission doesn’t need luxury to be powerful. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    24 min

  7. FEB 10

    Stop Letting People Speak to Your Past | Episode 166

    Are the people around you speaking to who you were… or who you’re becoming? In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell and Traci unpack a powerful mindset shift that can change your relationships—and your future. Many of us struggle with self-sabotage not because we lack ability, but because we stay connected to environments that only recognize our past. When people constantly remind you of who you used to be, it becomes harder to step into who you’re meant to become. This conversation dives into: Why self-talk shapes your trajectoryThe difference between being “nice” and being truly kindThe power of edification (building others up)Why tearing down is easy—but building up requires intentionHow communication can revive relationships that matterWhy you must speak to your own future self—even if no one else doesIf no one around you is speaking life into the person you’re becoming, start doing it yourself. Because the things you say to yourself about yourself eventually determine what you attract for yourself. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    22 min

  8. FEB 5

    Love Does Not Mean Limitless Access | Episode 165

    In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell and Traci dive into a freeing but often misunderstood truth: Love does not mean limitless access. Many of us equate love with constant availability, saying yes, and always being there—especially for family, friends, and people we care about. But as Darnell and Traci unpack, real love is rooted in mutual respect, healthy boundaries, and season-by-season wisdom. Limiting access isn’t rejection—it’s often necessary to protect your peace, purpose, and ability to show up as your best self. This conversation challenges the guilt that creeps in when access changes, and reframes boundaries as an act of self-leadership, not selfishness. When self-talk is healthy, you can love people deeply without abandoning yourself in the process. In this episode you’ll learn: Why love does not require unlimited access to your time, energy, or presence.How redefining love in friendships, family, and business relationships prevents resentment.The difference between boundaries (what you need) and rules (what you try to control).Why mutual respect should naturally adjust access during different seasons of life.How guilt creeps in when self-talk is weak—and how to silence it.Why even Jesus limited access while still loving people fully.How unlimited access can unintentionally create dependency instead of growth.Why rest, solitude, and margin are required to give people your best—not your leftovers.How to communicate changing access without damaging relationships.Why outgrowing a season doesn’t mean abandoning people—it means honoring purpose.Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    23 min
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Scientists estimate that we have between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts every day. Whenever you think about something, it is a form of self talk. If you believe “Thoughts become Things” then the things we say to ourselves about ourselves eventually determine what we attract for ourselves. Darnell & Traci Self will be co-hosting a new podcast sharing how reshaping our thoughts (SelfTalk) enhanced our relationship with one another and others, our business, our faith and our ability to help others tap into their fullest potential as entrepreneurs, leaders, teachers, coaches, parents, and those who simply want to live a joyful life! So get ready to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging & negative thoughts. There will be lots of laughter but even more lessons as we grow through these podcast episodes together! Be sure to tune in!

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