The Self Talk Experience Podcast

Darnell & Traci Self
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Scientists estimate that we have between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts every day. Whenever you think about something, it is a form of self talk. If you believe “Thoughts become Things” then the things we say to ourselves about ourselves eventually determine what we attract for ourselves. Darnell & Traci Self will be co-hosting a new podcast sharing how reshaping our thoughts (SelfTalk) enhanced our relationship with one another and others, our business, our faith and our ability to help others tap into their fullest potential as entrepreneurs, leaders, teachers, coaches, parents, and those who simply want to live a joyful life! So get ready to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging & negative thoughts. There will be lots of laughter but even more lessons as we grow through these podcast episodes together! Be sure to tune in!

  1. 1D AGO

    Define Your Mission... or Stay Distracted | Episode 267

    In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell goes solo and shares a powerful reminder: A mission doesn’t need luxury to be powerful. In a culture obsessed with watches, cars, houses, and visible success, it’s easy to believe you need the look before you can lead. But this episode challenges that mindset. Darnell breaks down how clarity of mission, strength of vision, and alignment in self-talk matter far more than material proof. From personal stories about business trips, family sacrifices, and early income growth without flashy symbols, this episode reframes motivation, distraction, philosophy, and long-term legacy. If you’ve ever felt like you had to “have it” before you could build it, this conversation will shift your perspective. In this episode you’ll learn: Why a strong mission is more powerful than luxury.How waiting for material success can delay your growth.The difference between having goals and having a mission.How a clear mission makes decision-making easier.Why distractions increase when your vision isn’t defined.The traffic “rubbernecking” analogy and how it applies to your life.Why motivation comes from alignment, not hype.How lifestyle comes from results—and results come from activity.The role philosophy plays in shaping attitude and action.How shifting your philosophy shifts your entire life trajectory.Why sharing your mission attracts the right people.How to stop letting society dictate your priorities.A mission doesn’t need luxury to be powerful. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    24 min

  2. FEB 10

    Stop Letting People Speak to Your Past | Episode 166

    Are the people around you speaking to who you were… or who you’re becoming? In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell and Traci unpack a powerful mindset shift that can change your relationships—and your future. Many of us struggle with self-sabotage not because we lack ability, but because we stay connected to environments that only recognize our past. When people constantly remind you of who you used to be, it becomes harder to step into who you’re meant to become. This conversation dives into: Why self-talk shapes your trajectoryThe difference between being “nice” and being truly kindThe power of edification (building others up)Why tearing down is easy—but building up requires intentionHow communication can revive relationships that matterWhy you must speak to your own future self—even if no one else doesIf no one around you is speaking life into the person you’re becoming, start doing it yourself. Because the things you say to yourself about yourself eventually determine what you attract for yourself. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    22 min

  3. FEB 5

    Love Does Not Mean Limitless Access | Episode 165

    In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell and Traci dive into a freeing but often misunderstood truth: Love does not mean limitless access. Many of us equate love with constant availability, saying yes, and always being there—especially for family, friends, and people we care about. But as Darnell and Traci unpack, real love is rooted in mutual respect, healthy boundaries, and season-by-season wisdom. Limiting access isn’t rejection—it’s often necessary to protect your peace, purpose, and ability to show up as your best self. This conversation challenges the guilt that creeps in when access changes, and reframes boundaries as an act of self-leadership, not selfishness. When self-talk is healthy, you can love people deeply without abandoning yourself in the process. In this episode you’ll learn: Why love does not require unlimited access to your time, energy, or presence.How redefining love in friendships, family, and business relationships prevents resentment.The difference between boundaries (what you need) and rules (what you try to control).Why mutual respect should naturally adjust access during different seasons of life.How guilt creeps in when self-talk is weak—and how to silence it.Why even Jesus limited access while still loving people fully.How unlimited access can unintentionally create dependency instead of growth.Why rest, solitude, and margin are required to give people your best—not your leftovers.How to communicate changing access without damaging relationships.Why outgrowing a season doesn’t mean abandoning people—it means honoring purpose.Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    23 min

  4. JAN 30

    Unlearn That Stuff | Episode 164

    Welcome back to another episode of the Self-Talk Experience with Darnell & Traci Self. In this episode, we’re talking about something that quietly keeps people stuck longer than they realize: Unlearning old narratives — without staying in the same environments that created them. Because here’s the truth: You can change what you believe — but if you don’t change what you’re around, you’ll keep ending up in the same place. This episode is about growth, responsibility, relationships, and what it actually takes to move forward without burning bridges or losing yourself. We get into: 1. Why Awareness Alone Doesn’t Change Your LifeYou can unlearn a belief… but if you keep sitting in the same conversations, the same thinking, and the same circles, the old narrative keeps getting reinforced. 2. Identifying the Narratives You’re Living ByMany beliefs around money, work, family, and success weren’t chosen — they were absorbed. If something keeps repeating in your life, it’s time to ask where that story came from. 3. Facts vs. AssumptionsSome things are true. Many things are just repeated assumptions passed down without evidence. Growth requires learning the difference. 4. Social Norms Go UnquestionedWorking long hours for a job is considered normal. Working long hours for your vision gets criticized. Same effort. Different narrative. 5. Growth Brings Uncomfortable ConversationsNot every conversation is “tough” — but growth often brings discomfort. Especially when changing your thinking impacts relationships you care about. 6. Your Circle Reinforces Your CeilingMost people in the same circle think the same way, earn similarly, and justify the same limits. Unless someone intentionally shifts their philosophy, the group stays the same. 7. How to Elevate Without Abandoning PeopleYou don’t always have to leave your circle. Sometimes you elevate by: learning in higher-level environmentsbringing that thinking backand allowing others to rise with you — if they choose to8. Accountability Keeps You From Slipping BackGetting out of an old mindset is one thing. Staying out requires accountability, support, and reinforcement. 9. Direction Changes Before ResultsChange doesn’t happen overnight. Direction does. Grace is required while growth catches up. 10. Rewriting the Story You Tell YourselfYour future is shaped by the story you keep replaying. Sometimes growth means rewriting the movie — not denying the past, but seeing how it worked for you. Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    28 min

  5. JAN 22

    Stop Chasing Balance | Episode 163

    “How do you balance it all?” Here's the truth… balance is overrated. In this episode, we break down why the real key isn’t trying to evenly juggle everything — it’s learning how to prioritize what matters most in the season you’re in, and making sure your priorities actually match what you say you want. The real key is learning how to prioritize the right things in the right season, and making sure your priorities match the life you say you want. In this episode, we discuss: ✅ Why “balance” doesn’t work in real life ✅ How to prioritize based on seasons ✅ What to do when goals and priorities don’t align ✅ Why rigid schedules can block growth ✅ The difference between family commitments and legacy building ✅ How to stop letting guilt and outside voices control you ✅ The discipline people never see behind the wins If this episode challenged you, helped you, or blessed you — make sure you: 👍 Like 💬 Comment “PRIORITIES” 📌 Subscribe for more episodes every Thursday Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    22 min

  6. JAN 15

    The Power of ONE: The Tiny Wins That Completely Change Your Life | Episode 162

    In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell and Traci dive into a game‑changing concept: The Power of One. It’s not just the one action that changes your life—it’s the way that one action makes you feel that starts a chain reaction. When you do the thing you said you would do (even if it’s just a part of it), you begin to build trust with yourself. That self‑trust leads to new standards, new habits, and a new level of life. In this episode you’ll learn:Why focusing on big numbers and big goals can feel overwhelming—and how breaking them down into one more action makes them doable.How small wins (like 50 pushups instead of 500) can shift your mindset and create momentum.The power of accountability and how challenges (push‑up challenges, stair climber commitments, etc.) can pull you out of your comfort zone.Why your mind looks for evidence to support what it already believes—and how changing your self talk helps you attract more good.How to stop speaking in absolutes like “nobody,” “always,” and “never,” and start seeing the truth about your progress.The importance of raising your standards—you’re not stuck, your expectations have just grown.Real life examples of doing one uncomfortable thing: writing letters to speak up, getting back Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    22 min

  7. JAN 8

    Your Habits Won't Change Without This! | Episode 161

    Welcome back to a brand new season of the Self Talk Experience with Darnell & Traci Self! This first episode of 2026 is all about intentionality, boundaries, honest conversations, and setting yourself up to elevate this year—in your faith, family, finances, health, and relationships. We'll talk about 1. Why Intentionality Changes Everything If you don’t intentionally choose better, you’ll unintentionally default to what’s easy and available—whether that’s food, habits, finances, or relationships. 2. The Difference Between Boundaries and Rules Boundaries are about you and how you protect your peace. 3. How To Choose what to continue, adjust, or remove in the new year. 4. Tough Conversations & Relationship Growth How to use planning time to have real, honest conversations about what each person needs. 5. Accountability, Habits & Execution Why execution—not just hoping, wishing, and writing goals—will shape your 2026. and so much more! Check Out AMEN WORLDWIDE : https://www.instagram.com/am3nworldwide https://www. Am3nworldwide.com Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    22 min

  8. 09/25/2025

    When Goals Shift, Growth Begins! | Episode 160

    in today's episode we are going to dive into why it's not just about knowing what you want to change, but understanding what you are changing towards. We'll also dive into: Embrace Change Mindfully: Change is inevitable, but it's crucial to be intentional about what you want to change to. Identify your new goals and make deliberate plans to reach them.Trust and Communication in Relationships: Successful pivoting often requires trust in one another, particularly in partnerships. Open communication can facilitate seamless transitions.Positive Self Talk: The way you converse with yourself can significantly influence your reality. Focus on affirming your abilities and potential rather than dwelling on past shortcomings.Goal Adjustment Is Normal: Goals may change several times through the year and that’s okay. Pivot your plans, just make sure you're still moving in the right direction towards something that excites you.Prepare for Setbacks: Anticipate and plan for unexpected setbacks in your goals, so they don't derail your progress. Keep motivated by shifting focus to what can be controlled or changed in the situation. and so much more! Connect with us on social media. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

    18 min
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Scientists estimate that we have between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts every day. Whenever you think about something, it is a form of self talk. If you believe “Thoughts become Things” then the things we say to ourselves about ourselves eventually determine what we attract for ourselves. Darnell & Traci Self will be co-hosting a new podcast sharing how reshaping our thoughts (SelfTalk) enhanced our relationship with one another and others, our business, our faith and our ability to help others tap into their fullest potential as entrepreneurs, leaders, teachers, coaches, parents, and those who simply want to live a joyful life! So get ready to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging & negative thoughts. There will be lots of laughter but even more lessons as we grow through these podcast episodes together! Be sure to tune in!

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