Bones

Phoenesse
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This collection is like the bones of a body—a framework around which the remaining body of work can arrange itself. Sure, there’s a lot that needs to be filled in to make it all come to life, but with Bones podcasts, now we’ve got the basic building blocks in place. Plus the words go down like a strawberry milkshake—pleasing to the tongue yet with all the calcium we need for optimum health.

  1. EPISODE 1

    1 Emotional growth and its function

    In every child’s life, there will be circumstances that are unhappy. Disappointment and pain are the human common denominator… We each draw a similar conclusion: “If I don’t feel, I won’t be unhappy”… This is one of the most basic wrong conclusions that people draw about life… We bury our feelings deeper in our awareness where they stay stuck, destructive and inadequate, even though we have long-ago forgotten we even hid them… But if we don’t let these experiences be felt and moved along, they will stagnate and create a dull climate of vague unhappiness that we will struggle to pinpoint… We shut down our feelings and along went our intuition and creativity. From there, we limped along on a fraction of our potential. Often, we still don’t realize the high price we pay for doing this… We grabbed a wrong solution like it was scissors—hoping to cut out what hurt—and we ran… This blocking action doesn’t prevent us from feeling the painful feelings forever—it just defers them… So as we grow up, the unhappiness we seemed to have avoided will come to us in a different, indirect way that is much more painful. We will suffer the bitter hurt of isolation and loneliness… We fail to see how we willingly choose our current painful isolation when we chose to defend ourselves this way… Listen and learn more. Bones, Chapter 1: Emotional Growth and Its Function Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #89 Emotional Growth and Its Function

    25 min

  2. EPISODE 2

    2 The importance of feeling all our feelings, including fear

    Our defenses work by blocking access to our emotions, so they choke off our ability to get to our feelings. We’re going to need to lower our weapons… Every tear not shed is a block. Every protest not spoken sits like a lump in our throat, causing us to lash out inappropriately. These feelings feel like bottomless pits… Feelings, which are moving energy currents, will change and transform as long as the energy is flowing. But freezing our feelings stops the movement and therefore stops life, making us feel lazy… When we stagnate, becoming lazy, passive and inert, we desire to do nothing. Often, we confuse this state with the natural, spiritual state of just being. But there’s a big difference… We have to feel the fear that’s underneath our laziness… No matter how undesirable a feeling is, we compound our pain when we won’t feel it. And that secondary pain becomes twisted and unbearable… We must commit to going in and through, and not around. Humans, generally speaking, have a strong preference for going around… Listen and learn more. Bones, Chapter 2: The Importance of Feeling All Our Feelings, Including Fear Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #190 Importance of Experiencing All Feelings, Including Fear – The Dynamic State of Laziness

    31 min

  3. EPISODE 3

    3 The Higher Self, the Lower Self, and the Mask Self

    One of the subtle bodies that every living being has is called the Higher Self, or divine spark… The higher one’s spiritual development, the faster these vibrations will be… Ever since the Fall of the Angels, our Higher Self has gradually wrapped itself in various invisible layers of more dense matter, Their frequency is somewhere in between the density of the physical body and the Higher Self. This is the Lower Self… The Lower Self, which also varies from soul to soul, is made up of our faults and weakness. It’s also characterized by laziness and ignorance. The last thing it wants to do is change and rise above itself. It always wants to have its own way, without having to pay any price for this… There is another layer that is quite significant but often overlooked. We could call it the Mask Self. We create this false covering because we realize we’ll likely run into trouble with our surroundings if and when we give in to our Lower Self… Our mask is not our Higher Self, although we’re hoping others will believe that it is. And it’s not our Lower Self, although we’re hoping it will work to cover up our shadow side. It’s inauthentic. It’s not real… The Mask Self is sickeningly sweet. For an artist, it would be the difference between a good, genuine color and artificial coloring. It’s like the word we use to describe bad art: kitsch… Listen and learn more. Bones, Chapter 3: The Higher Self, the Lower Self, and the Mask Self Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #14 The Higher Self, the Lower Self, and the Mask

    11 min

  4. EPISODE 4

    4 Three basic personality types: Reason, will and emotion

    If we are the Reason Type, we govern our lives primarily using the reasoning process, making us prone to neglecting our emotions. Frankly, we’re afraid of our feelings so we thwart them. In doing so, though, we cripple one of our most important faculties: intuition… The Emotion Type is equally one-sided. We pride ourselves in being capable of truly feeling. So while we may find it easier to connect with inner divinity, we easily become carried away by our emotions… As Emotion Types, we secretly look down on Reason Types. We may derogatorily labeling them “intellectuals” and lose sight of the fact that reason is as God-given as emotions… If we’re an extreme Emotion Type, we will impact our surroundings with our uncontrolled emotions… But the Will Type makes a master out of the servant, which pulls us out of focus in a dangerous way… If we’re a Will Type, we will tend to disregard caution, losing sight of the many essential considerations needed to discover the truth in any situation… Listen and learn more. Bones, Chapter 4: Three Basic Personality Types: Reason, Will and Emotion Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #43 Three Basic Personality Types: Reason, Will, Emotion

    13 min

  5. EPISODE 5

    5 Intellect and will as tools or hindrances to self-realization

    An important difference between our superficial intellect and our Real Self is that we can direct, manipulate and govern the intellect using our will. We can’t do this with the Real Self. Of the two, the Real Self is the more intelligent one… We are so conditioned to focus on the use of our thinking ability and willpower that we believe we can become ourselves through an act of sheer will. We think we can use our minds to develop spiritually… It’s our Real Self that connects with the living spirit of a word, whereas unfeeling repetition comes from our intellect… If we boil it down, what obstructs the Real Self are our layers of confusion and error. On top of these sits our lack of awareness about our confusion and errors… What intellect and will can be used for is cleaning up the errors and confusion that they themselves have created… When we know we are confused, we are closer to our Real Self than when we are blind to our inner confusion. This is true, even if we don’t have any solutions to our problems… Trying to reach a higher state of being by using intellect and willpower causes us to construct images. These are essentially wrong conclusions about life. They are based on how we think we should be and how life should be, according to our limited past experiences… We can’t force ourselves to love. We might think we can, but in reality we can’t. Which doesn’t mean we don’t love… So we can’t just make up our minds that we’re going to be good people who love and have compassion and humility. We can, however, make up our minds to figure out what’s causing us to not be like that… What we don’t realize is that if we were to see ourselves as we really are, we would see that there’s nothing to fear. We need to realize that hanging on for dear life won’t bring us to the doorstep of the Real Self. We simply cannot find ourselves that way… Listen and learn more. Bones, Chapter 5: Intellect and Will as Tools or Hindrances to Self-Realization Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #104 Intellect and Will as Tools or Hindrances to Self-Realization

    14 min

  6. EPISODE 6

    6 The origin and outcome of the Idealized Self-Image

    There’s just no escaping our knowledge that unpleasantness is possible. It really happens. Our fear of this is ever-present, and that creates a problem for us… So we devise a countermeasure that we falsely believe will circumvent unhappiness, unpleasantness and death: we create an idealized self-image. In short, this is a pseudo-protection that doesn’t work… There’s a direct correlation between being unhappy and not believing in ourselves. Our loss of self-confidence is proportional to how badly we feel. Our idealized self-image is supposed to avoid all that by supplying the missing self-confidence. This, we think, by way of our unconscious reasoning, will lead us straight to pleasure supreme… We simply can’t be more than we really are in any given life situation… What we can do is have a genuine desire to better ourselves, which leads to accepting ourselves as we are right now… Once we’ve done a significant amount of personal work, we’ll start to see the difference between these two things. One involves feeling a genuine desire for gradual improvement. The other is the pretense of the idealized self that just wants to look better now… Listen and learn more. Bones, Chapter 6: The Origin and Outcome of the Idealized Self-Image Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #83 The Idealized Self-Image

    19 min

  7. EPISODE 7

    7 Love, power and serenity in divinity or in distortion

    There are three major divine attributes—love, power and serenity—that in the healthy person work as a team. They maintain flexibility amongst themselves so one never drowns another out… But when they are in distortion, they step all over each other. Then love, power and serenity get distorted into their malevolent counterparts: submission, aggression and withdrawal… In our efforts to master our difficulties, largely created in childhood and then perpetuated into adulthood through our wrong solution choices, we find ourselves increasingly bound up by the tight constrictions of a vicious circle… It never occurs to us that our real problem is the solution we have chosen… For a child, it is valid to need to receive protective love. But if such a need is carried over into adulthood, it’s no longer valid… When we’re so dependent on others for love, we become helpless.  We won’t stand on our own two feet… These attitudes become so ingrained in us, it’s like they’re part of our nature. But they are not… Listen and learn more. Bones, Chapter 7: Love, Power and Serenity in Divinity or in Distortion Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #84 Love, Power, Serenity as Divine Attributes and as Distortions

    27 min

  8. EPISODE 8

    8 How and why we recreate childhood hurts

    without any limits. In other words, every child’s desire for love is unrealistic… Since they seldom receive an adequate amount of warmth and mature love, children remain hungry for it throughout their whole life… Essentially everyone—even the most diligent spiritual seekers—overlooks just how strong the link is between the unfulfillment of our childhood longings and our present-day problems. This isn’t just a nice a theory… They may not have been as perfect as we thought and hoped they’d be back then, but there’s no reason to now reject them because they had their own immaturities and inner conflicts… Once we’re free of this repetitive cycle, we can stop being upset about not getting love the way we wanted it… By releasing the pain we feel now, which is inextricably bound to the hurt of then, we’ll see how we thought we had to choose this situation or admit defeat… We can turn our painful feelings into healthy growing pains whenever we become ready to rid ourselves of the bitterness and tension we’ve been hiding… Forgetting and forgiving will become a genuine thing that we won’t even have to think about doing. They will naturally occur. Listen and learn more. Bones, Chapter 8: How and Why we Recreate Childhood Hurts Read Original Pathwork® Lecture: #73 Compulsion to Recreate and Overcome Childhood Hurts

    17 min
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This collection is like the bones of a body—a framework around which the remaining body of work can arrange itself. Sure, there’s a lot that needs to be filled in to make it all come to life, but with Bones podcasts, now we’ve got the basic building blocks in place. Plus the words go down like a strawberry milkshake—pleasing to the tongue yet with all the calcium we need for optimum health.

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  • Creator
    Phoenesse
  • Episodes
    19
  • Seasons
    1
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    ©2016 Jill Loree
  • Show Website
    Bones