The Alive & Free Podcast

Samantha & Spencer Robbins

We have been on a relentless journey for over a decade to live whole hearted and connected to God and others (actually connected). As a byproduct of this journey, we became life coaches (by accident) in 2018 and have now worked with over 32,000 believers. We have committed to documenting what we've learned in our lives as well as what we've learned from our clients and that's why we started the Alive & Free Podcast...to offer whatever we can to other believers that don't want to settle for mediocre connection in their lives and relationships. We cover conflict, pain, forgiveness, addictions, coping, sin, codependency, as well as many other topics. Welcome to the conversation.

  1. 5d ago

    Listen To This If You Know God Loves You, But You Struggle To Feel It

    FREE COACHING BUSINESS TRAINING:  https://go.thecoachlaunch.com/purpose?el=video1&htrafficsource=youtube 12-WEEK HEALING PROGRAM FOR CHRISTIANS: https://come-alive.aliveandfreeconsulting.com/?el=video2&htrafficsource=youtube In Come Alive, Sammi and I take you through the healing process we've used to coach 12,000+ Christians. Over 12 weeks, in a small group of no more than 12, you'll explore the pain beneath your triggers, meet God's love there, and practice new ways of showing up in your marriage, family, and friendships. --------------------------- For those of you who don't know who I am, I'm Spencer Robbins, co-founder of Alive & Free Consulting. I grew up Christian, but I always questioned God's love in my life. 2001: I became addicted to p*rn. 2002-2004: I had no friends and cried myself to sleep often. I thought there was something uniquely wrong with me. I believed, "If I could become someone else, I'd be loved." 2004: I learned to become a chameleon and fit in wherever I could. Became the entertainer, class clown, the servant-hearted son, the good boy (when people were watching). 2005: I was dumped by my gf and blamed it on me being fat and unlovable. I lost 96 lbs. 2007: I became bulimic, but hid it from everyone I knew. I shared about my addiction to p*rn with church leaders. I was given a set of disciplines, action steps, and accountability management tools that didn't help me for the following five years. 2008: In college, I had a powerful encounter with Jesus Christ and gave my whole life over to Him. 2010: I led a kid to the Lord who was having ouija board parties at his house every weekend. We became best friends and started seeing healing and deliverance everywhere we went. 2011: I began three years of ministry school. 2012: I shared my struggles with bulimia with a pastor for the first time ever, and love got in. 2013-2014: I interned for an international traveler and pastor, went on 13 ministry trips, interned 30 hours per week, worked 32 hours a week to make ends meet, and co-led a trip for 32 students to Costa Rica. At the end of that year, I got burned out, and my heart turned off. 2015: I was offended at God, looking at p*rn all over again, getting drunk most weeknights. I met with a life coach for the first time and realized how much shame, self-hatred, and performance-based love were driving me. I also realized how much I had projected the face of my father and other authority figures onto the face of God. I worked with that coach for three years, and my life was changed and transformed in a way I never expected. 2016: I started working for Alex Hormozi and learned a lot about sales, marketing, and business (you can look him up). 2018: I married my wife, and we became obsessed with personal growth, emotional health, and mental health. We started going to coaching workshops and taking courses, and we accidentally got our first paying life coaching clients. September 2018: We started our life coaching company as a one-on-one practice. Relationships were getting restored, and people were getting free from codependency, shame, self-hatred, and body shame. 2019: We gradually scaled that business and started serving single Christian women to help them get free from relationship patterns and unwanted cycles so they could step into healthy relationships. That year, we served around 300 clients. 2020: We systematized and started growing our business, built coaching curriculum and courses, and created ways for people to access freedom, healing, and transformation without requiring a one-on-one with us. That year, we served over 1,000 clients. 2021-2023: We served over 200 new clients every single month and started offering new programs. January 2023: After people we had worked with started requesting to learn how to do this same type of coaching, we started our school and signed up our first 50 people. When we looked in our customer portal, we found that over 12,000 clients had worked with us to find change, healing, and restoration in their lives and relationships. Along the way, we invested over $100,000 in our own coaching and counseling, invested over $200,000 in business coaching, and personally took more than 14,000 sales calls. Today: We've trained more than 500 coaches and done $18M in coaching without losing our souls, staying connected to God the whole way. Our living comes from helping people heal and training coaches, not from YouTube videos. To everyone who has come through the fire: you've spent years becoming whole. Now it's time to help others walk that same path, with depth, integrity, and a real business model underneath it. Your first credential is a history with God. Start there. Spencer

  2. Oct 13

    You Understand Your Triggers. So Why Are You Still Stuck?

    Get the free coaching business training: https://go.thecoachlaunch.com/purpose Inner child work is one of the most misunderstood tools in Christian healing, and most people are either avoiding it or using it wrong. When you're in the middle of a conflict with your spouse and you shut down completely, no amount of information helps. You can't access logical thought when your amygdala is hijacked. What you can do is get curious about what's surfacing, because that triggered state is actually carrying information about a wound that never got met with love. This is the framework Sammi and I have leaned on more than anything else in our own marriage and in the work we do with clients and coaches. We've been through EMDR, ministry school, deliverance, inner healing encounters, therapy of almost every kind. What we kept returning to was this: it's not the original pain that creates the deepest wound. It's the absence of comfort in it. We talk through what it actually looks like to use this in real life: how to identify what's happening beneath anger, how to follow a current trigger back to something older without digging things up for the sake of it, why inner child work without God will only take you so far, and what goes wrong when awareness stays awareness and never becomes transformation. We also get honest about our own early marriage, the moments we blamed each other for pain that was already there, and what it took to stop doing that. If you're a coach or you're training to become one, there's a lot here for how to walk clients into this work without re-traumatizing them. We cover when to go there, what questions open it, and why we do so many session reviews in Coach Launch. If you're just someone trying to get healthier, start small. Notice what's hard right now. Get present with the tender emotion underneath the loud one. Ask yourself how old you feel in it. That's the doorway. To find freedom, healing, and emotional wholeness, check out the Alive & Free Collective: 👉 www.aliveandfreeconsulting.com To become a life coach and learn how to help people get free emotionally while building a meaningful business, watch our Coach Training: 👉  https://go.thecoachlaunch.com/purpose

  3. Aug 19

    The Art of Staying Regulated and Motivated as a Leader

    You feel called to something. You have vision, maybe even a clear sense that God put this in you. And still, weeks go by and you haven't touched it. Not because you're lazy. Because something underneath is running the show. In this episode, Sammi and I sit down after five months away from the mic and talk honestly about one of the most common struggles we hear from the coaches we work with: how to stay motivated and consistent when you don't have pressure forcing you, and how to know when lost motivation is actually a triggered state and not a character flaw. Together, we explore the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation, what Maslow's hierarchy actually tells us about why some people self-sabotage to feel something, and why so many driven Christians flip between white-knuckling their way forward and drifting in what we call greasy grace. We talk about what it looks like to function from a triggered state while trying to build something, why an eight-year-old version of you can't make powerful content or hold a coaching session well, and what it actually takes to get regulated and return to your real self before you take the next step. We also get into why rushing to pray your pain away is often just self-abandonment with spiritual branding, and what it means to let God meet you in the middle of the mess instead. This episode is for anyone who: Feels genuinely called but loses steam the moment life gets busy or the pressure lifts. Struggles to stay consistent without someone external holding them accountable. Knows the vision but keeps getting hijacked by fear of failure, fear of judgment, or perfectionism before they can act on it. Is carrying the tension between dying to self and actually being allowed to want something. Desires to coach or lead from a place of overflow rather than performance and striving. Wants practical, grounded ways to take care of their heart so they can show up fully for the people depending on them. At its core, this is a conversation about what it means to stay connected to yourself and to God so that discipline and motivation become a natural overflow, not a grind you have to white-knuckle your way through. To find freedom, healing, and emotional wholeness, check out the Alive & Free Collective: 👉 www.aliveandfreeconsulting.com To become a life coach and learn how to help people get free emotionally while building a meaningful business, watch our Coach Training: 👉 www.aliveandfreeconsulting.com

  4. Feb 11

    Bethel, Shawn Bolz, and "Cover-Up Culture" — Our Honest Conversation

    For many believers, recent conversations around church leadership, prophetic ministry, and spiritual authority haven't just felt theological — they've felt deeply personal. In this episode, Spencer Robbins and Josh Straub sit down to talk honestly about what surfaces when trust is broken, leaders fall, and faith feels shaken — especially in light of the growing discussion around Shawn Bolz and Bethel Church. This isn't a reaction episode or an online takedown. It's a grounded, compassionate conversation about how to walk through church hurt, leadership disappointment, and spiritual grief without partnering with cynicism, accusation, or walking away from God altogether. Together, they explore why we place leaders on pedestals, how wounds quietly shape our view of God, and what it looks like to hold justice and compassion at the same time. They also share practical ways to grieve well, rebuild trust, and process pain honestly instead of spiritually bypassing it. This episode is for anyone who: Feels unsettled or faith-shaken by recent events Has experienced church hurt or leadership betrayal Wants healthy discernment without becoming cynical Is carrying anger, confusion, or grief beneath the surface Desires to reconnect with God after disappointment At its heart, this conversation invites you to bring your pain into the light, remove people from pedestals, and rediscover a faith rooted in relationship — not performance or platforms. To find freedom, healing, and emotional wholeness, check out the Alive & Free Collective: 👉 www.aliveandfreeconsulting.com To become a life coach and learn how to help people get free emotionally while building a meaningful business, watch our Coach Training: 👉 www.aliveandfreeconsulting.com

  5. 11/20/2025

    How to Regulate with No Margin (Baby #2, Toddler Tantrums, & Trusting a Good Father)

    Out of margin? Whether you're navigating a new baby, a demanding job, a strained relationship, grief, or a big transition, this conversation gives you practical ways to stay grounded when life won't slow down. We share Romi's birth story and the grief that unexpectedly opened the door to peace, unpack why people "borrow" each other's nervous systems, and walk through simple, repeatable practices to regulate in real time—without perfection or spiritual jargon. Who This Is For (and Why It Helps) Parents and caregivers feeling stretched thin and reactive—learn how to co-regulate and repair. Singles and married couples without kids facing career pressure, loneliness, or change—use micro-practices to steady your inner world. Leaders, pastors, and coaches who carry others' emotions—discover how presence resets a room better than control. Anyone in transition or grief—see why honest sorrow can become the doorway to peace rather than a detour. You'll walk away with language for what's happening in your body, a kinder way to meet your triggers, and small steps that create real change. What You'll Learn How grief can make space for breakthrough (Romi's story) The pain–fear–tension loop and how to break it "Borrowed nervous systems": why your presence matters more than perfect words A clarifying question that transforms reactivity: "Why does this bother me?" Zero-margin tools: two breaths + one sentence, name the wave, orient to good, rhythm over rules, repair over perfection Chapters & Timestamps 00:00 When life feels unmanageable (why margin matters) 03:20 Grieving what's ending and how it made room (Romi's birth) 10:10 Pain–fear–tension: what bracing does to your body 16:45 Borrowed nervous systems: presence over control 23:00 The belief beneath the reaction: "Why does this bother me?" 31:15 Micro-practices for zero-margin moments (step-by-step) 38:00 Being parented by God so we can lead from peace   Learn more, find resources, or get in touch at: www.aliveandfreeconsulting.com

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We have been on a relentless journey for over a decade to live whole hearted and connected to God and others (actually connected). As a byproduct of this journey, we became life coaches (by accident) in 2018 and have now worked with over 32,000 believers. We have committed to documenting what we've learned in our lives as well as what we've learned from our clients and that's why we started the Alive & Free Podcast...to offer whatever we can to other believers that don't want to settle for mediocre connection in their lives and relationships. We cover conflict, pain, forgiveness, addictions, coping, sin, codependency, as well as many other topics. Welcome to the conversation.

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