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Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents
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Pregnancy loss grief support for parents who terminated a wanted pregnancy for medical reasons. Real TFMR stories, decision support, and understanding in the isolation. Host Sabrina Fletcher is a TFMR loss mom & pregnancy loss doula who understands your choice and experience. Episodes include real TFMR parent stories + support from grief therapists & baby loss professionals. Facing a TFMR decision or grieving after, you'll find community here: Support & connection: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup.html Decision Support call: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

  1. FEB 10

    "Will this ever end?" What's really happening in your TFMR baby loss grief (Part 2 of 2)

    In Part 1, we talked about feeling "stuck" in TFMR grief and how that feeling comes from using old, outdated ideas - using a broken map. In this episode, I'm showing you what's ACTUALLY in these grief waters. The old grief maps say "here be dragons" - monsters to fight, stages to conquer. But you've actually BEEN to this territory. You know what's really there: manatees (your baby's continuing love, the gentle waves of grief you learn to swim alongside) AND a giant squid (the soul fracture of choosing termination for a wanted baby, the impossible grief that wraps around you in the dark). The problem? Most people refuse to believe the giant squid exists because they haven't lived it, haven't held their dead baby, haven't named a baby and then had to choose their death. You're not stuck. You're not imagining things. You're navigating waters that don't exist on anyone else's map. And that's exactly why you need people who've seen the giant squid too. TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, caring groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Feb. 18th 2026👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes. Application only, free membership:http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup 🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com Music credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

    12 min

  2. FEB 9

    "Will this ever end?" On feeling 'stuck' in grief of TFMR baby loss (Part 1 of 2)

    If you’ve ever felt like your grief is never-ending, if you worry “will this ever end?” if you feel other people think you are ‘stuck’ in your grief after baby loss, listen in. I share what that "I feel stuck" feeling may be showing up as after ending a wanted pregnancy. You’ll also hear why the *idea* of being “stuck in grief' feels so prevalent. And you’ll find relief in looking at “stuckness” in a new light. TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, caring groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Feb. 18th 2026👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes. Application only, free membership:http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup 🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com Music credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

    16 min

  3. FEB 2

    Why "just think positive" doesn't work for TFMR baby loss grief

    You know that feeling when someone tells you to "just be grateful for what you have" and it makes you want to scream? When your own family acts like you should be "over it" by now, so you plaster on a smile and pretend you're fine? If you’ve been feeling so alone after losing your wanted baby, exhausted from putting on a “I’m okay” face, and wondering if you are the problem because positive thinking isn't fixing your shattered heart - listen in 3 This episode breaks down why toxic positivity doesn't just fail to help TFMR baby loss grief - it actively makes it worse. If you've been told to focus on the positive (even trying it yourself) but your grief feels exactly as heavy, this is for you. TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, caring groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Feb. 18th 2026👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes. Application only, free membership:http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup 🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com Music credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

    7 min

  4. JAN 29

    Megan's grief and healing after molar pregnancy and fertility loss Part 2 of 2

    Megan Tennis' story & journey continues after her molar pregnancy diagnosis and medical interventions. Part 2 of 2 takes us through the cancer treatments that followed, the grief that regular therapy couldn't touch, and how Megan's own experience of feeling unseen and misunderstood in traditional therapy spaces led her to specialize in pregnancy loss counseling. Megan has created something different: a therapeutic approach specifically for pregnancy loss that actually understands what grieving parents need. She shares what that looks like in this episode and how to help validate your grief after baby loss of all kinds. This episode is for anyone who's tried traditional therapy after pregnancy loss (especially when it is a “unique” or “rare” or “not talked about” kind of loss -like TFMR-) and felt like something was missing. For those wondering if your grief "should" look different by now. For anyone who's thought "my therapist just doesn't understand this type of loss." Megan's story shows how going through it yourself & professional training can come together to create the support that actually helps. CONNECT WITH MEGAN TENNIS: @meganmiscarried on TikTok Megan is also a licensed clinical professional counselor in Illinois: https://www.advancedbhs.com/megan-tennis-lpc/ and she wants to share the link for the helpful non-profit organization Chasing The Rainbows: https://linktr.ee/chasingtherainbows TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM STARTING IN FEB. 2026:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, caring groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Feb. 18th 2026👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes. Application only, free membership:http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup 🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com Music credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

    23 min

  5. JAN 28

    Megan's molar pregnancy loss, two D&C procedures and cancer treatment Part 1 of 2

    Megan's story begins with complications in a wanted pregnancy leading to a life-threatening molar pregnancy diagnosis. A molar pregnancy happens when what should be placenta/baby/pregnancy tissue grows abnormally instead, creating cancerous cells. For Megan, this meant facing something she never thought would come from pregnancy: becoming a cancer patient. She found herself not only grieving the loss of her pregnancy but also having to do cancer treatments to save her own life. Listen in to hear the raw reality of making medical pregnancy decisions under crisis conditions. If you’ve felt isolated during fertility and pregnancy health crises (that are just never talked about!)… if you wonder how to survive grieving a pregnancy that needed heartbreaking medical interventions …. if you had to make impossible choices for your body/pregnancy… this episode is for you. CONNECT WITH MEGAN TENNIS: @meganmiscarried on TikTok Megan is also a licensed clinical professional counselor in Illinois: https://www.advancedbhs.com/megan-tennis-lpc/ and she wants to share the link for the helpful non-profit organization Chasing The Rainbows: https://linktr.ee/chasingtherainbows TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM STARTING IN FEB. 2026:If you're longing for intimate, ongoing group support, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle💜 Small, caring groups of 5–6 people💬 Honest conversation, healing practices, and community support🌿 Next Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Feb. 18th 2026👉 Learn more & apply: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply Want early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live? Join our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes. Application only, free membership:http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup 🎙 Want to share your story?Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com Music credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons License https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search

    22 min

  6. 12/28/2025

    The dark thoughts that nobody talks about after ending a wanted pregnancy (TFMR) for health reasons

    You're not alone if you have tough, scary, horrible thoughts after ending a wanted pregnancy, terminating a wanted pregnancy, having an abortion for medical reasons. When you've lost a baby in pregnancy after a horrible prenatal diagnosis, of course not all your thoughts are cheery and light. In this episode I talk about some hard thoughts you may be struggling with, and a safe space you could join if you'd like someone to hold you through it. The thoughts that keep you up at 3am after TFMR aren't talked about in regular grief spaces. They're too raw, too complex, too misunderstood. But having these thoughts doesn't make you a monster… it makes you HUMAN. In this solo episode, I share 5 of the toughest thoughts TFMR parents carry, from hoping your baby would die naturally to realizing there's no safe time in pregnancy. These aren't easy to hear, but if you've had them, you need to know you're not alone and you're not broken. We hold these thoughts together because that's the only way they become bearable. Special holiday support package with a 1:1 session AND "Peace of Mind: Audio mindfulness program for TFMR parents" here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/holiday-support START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW:📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com📅 If you’ve received a devastating diagnosis and want emotional support through deciding what’s next, book a Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html‌MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:For more TFMR support, join us over on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup‌🎙 Want to share your story on Our TFMR Stories?Email Sabrina sabrina @ the TFMR doula . com to be featured on the podcast‌Music credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=usuan1300036License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/...

    10 min

  7. 12/24/2025

    Getting through the holidays with love & grief

    Re-released episode, originally from 2023. Grief can be especially hard around the holidays and through the new year with expectations to be "joyful" and "cheerful." In this episode I answer questions from other TFMR parents in the community about getting through the holidays. You'll hear 4 main tips PLUS an explanation of "Grieving in 4D." This episode was originally recorded as a live video in the TFMR Support Circle Facebook group. Apply to join us here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup to listen to episodes early. Other links mentioned:Get your free copy of the guide "Self-care in the Grief of TFMR" here: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/tfmr-self-care Special holiday support package with a 1:1 session AND "Peace of Mind: Audio mindfulness program for TFMR parents" here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/holiday-support START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW:📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com📅 If you’ve received a devastating diagnosis and want emotional support through deciding what’s next, book a Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html‌‌MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES:For more TFMR support, join us over on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup‌🎙 Want to share your story on Our TFMR Stories?Email Sabrina sabrina @ the TFMR doula . com to be featured on the podcast‌Music credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/...

    24 min

  8. 10/24/2025

    Life after TFMR for rare genetic diagnosis: Rachel's physical & emotional recovery, and pregnancy after loss PART 2 OF 2

    In Part 2 of 2 of Rachel Polans' TFMR story, we move into what happened after her baby’s rare ‘de novo’ genetic mutation diagnosis. The D&E procedure in Brooklyn, the physical reality of being postpartum without a baby. Rachel talks about what it was like being in a general surgery pre-op area with people there for all kinds of procedures, not a space designed for pregnancy loss. Rachel shares about the haunting due date, seeing other people who were pregnant at the same time have their babies, and struggling with the medical record that says "elective termination" when that's not what this was at all. Rachel also opens up about how being a genetic counselor shaped her grief differently - she never even knew the term TFMR existed until after her loss, even though she had counseled families through this exact experience. If you're postpartum without your baby, if you're struggling with how the medical system names (or doesn’t name) what happened to you, if you work in healthcare and nobody prepared you for living through this yourself, or if you're trying to find your people and don't know what to search for: I hope Rachel's honesty about finding the TFMR community and now navigating pregnancy after loss will help you feel less alone. Thank you, Rachel, for sharing your baby's story with us 💜 Rachel also wants to share her Instagram profile if you’d like to reach out to her: https://www.instagram.com/rachel_polans START 1on1 SUPPORT NOW: 📧 Email me, I want to hear from you: sabrina @ the tfmrdoula . com You can have specific grief support in the heartbreak of TFMR. 📅 If you’ve received a devastating diagnosis and want emotional support through deciding what’s next, book a Decision Support call here: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html MORE TFMR GRIEF SUPPORT RESOURCES: For more TFMR support, join us over on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/thetfmrdoula 💜 Join our Facebook group: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup 🎙 Want to share your story on Our TFMR Stories?Email Sabrina sabrina @ the TFMR doula . com to be featured on the podcast Music credit:Pamgaea by Kevin MacLeodCreative Commons LicenseLinks: https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=usuan1300036License: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

    23 min
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Pregnancy loss grief support for parents who terminated a wanted pregnancy for medical reasons. Real TFMR stories, decision support, and understanding in the isolation. Host Sabrina Fletcher is a TFMR loss mom & pregnancy loss doula who understands your choice and experience. Episodes include real TFMR parent stories + support from grief therapists & baby loss professionals. Facing a TFMR decision or grieving after, you'll find community here: Support & connection: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup.html Decision Support call: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

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