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Sabrina Fletcher | Pregnancy Loss Doula supporting grieving parents
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Pregnancy loss grief support for parents who terminated a wanted pregnancy for medical reasons. Real TFMR stories, decision support, and understanding in the isolation.Host Sabrina Fletcher is a TFMR loss mom & pregnancy loss doula who understands your choice and experience. Episodes include real TFMR parent stories + support from grief therapists & baby loss professionals.Facing a TFMR decision or grieving after, you'll find community here:Support & connection: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup.htmlDecision Support call: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

  1. 1d ago

    TFMR procedures - what we wish medical professionals would have explained

    After and within the huge decision to end a wanted pregnancy for health reasons, you have to make many many micro-decisions. And you can't know what you don't know - cue medical staff who can orient and guide us through it in the best of cases. In this episode I share from the community about procedure & memory making options you wish the doctors/staff/social workers/bereavement midwives did or could have EXPLAINED better, or OFFERED, or SAID through the whole diagnosis/termination. TFMR parents share their experiences with termination procedures and what they wished medical staff had explained & offered - as well as what did go right and what was the most helpful. I also talk about rituals/remembrance items/right language that ARE offered and used at many place people have terminations for medical reasons & what was the most impactful. To see the reviews of U.S. TFMR Hospitals and Clinics I am talking about in this episode go here: www.thetfmrdoula.com/reviews ... And in this episode I talk about all the TFMR circles and communities I gather. You're invited to join the space that could work for you, places just for TFMR parents: TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM: If you're longing for intimate, ongoing support with the same small group, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle 💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people, we stay together for 3 months 💬 Real conversations, healing practices, and community support 🌿 Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Oct. 7th, Sun. Noon Eastern time round begins Oct. 11th 👉 Info & joining us: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY: The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. ‌ 💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby & feel the strength to get through another day 💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, replays always available and JUST as powerful 💜 Month-to-month, as you need support 🌸 $55/month ‌ Join us: http://⁠www.theTFMRdoula.com/join⁠ FREE FACEBOOK GROUP: Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you. PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes just like this one and a chance to ask questions live or have your comment/story be part of an episode. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. Witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. Share your story in our CLOSED group, and hear how others like you are getting through. Application only, free membership: ⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup ‌ 🎙 Want to share your story on the podcast? Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com Music credit: "Pamgaea" Kevin MacLeod ( https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search ) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

  2. 4d ago

    (Part 2 of 2) Life & recovery after TFMR for T21 & hydrops with Catt Gibbons

    Catt Gibbons shares (Part 2 of 2) about her mental and physical recovery after TFMR for T21 & hydrops, and how having so much compassion for herself after the decision has helped the most in her life after terminating her wanted pregnancy for health reasons. Catt talks about finding TFMR support groups as KEY to her healing. Advocating for herself and getting follow-up care with bleeding and retained placenta helped her physical recovery. Taking time to cry and to listen to music, and speaking out about TFMR has helped her so much. Being kind with herself when she finds herself feeling guilt or what-ifs, especially when reading miraculous survival stories, that are not our stories or reality. You can find Catt on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/catt.gibbons/ And you’re invited to join us in these TFMR spaces, just for parents who have had to end a wanted pregnancy for their or baby’s health: TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM: If you're longing for intimate, ongoing support with the same small group, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle 💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people, we stay together for 3 months 💬 Real conversations, healing practices, and community support 🌿 Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Oct. 7th, Sun. Noon Eastern time round begins Oct. 11th 👉 Info & joining us: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply FREE FACEBOOK GROUP: Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you. PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes just like this one and a chance to ask questions live or have your comment/story be part of an episode. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. Witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. Share your story in our CLOSED group, and hear how others like you are getting through. Application only, free membership: ⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup ‌ 🎙 Want to share your story on the podcast? Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com Music credit: "Pamgaea" Kevin MacLeod ( https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search ) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

  3. 5d ago

    (Part 1 of 2) How Catt Gibbons decided to end her wanted pregnancy for T21 and hydrops | TFMR for Down's Syndrome & Hydrops

    Catt Gibbons shares (Part 1 of 2) how to be so kind and compassionate to yourself after TFMR. The compassion and care stared in how she decided to TFMR and the care she received through the process and procedure. Catt went through TFMR for her little boy Noah for a T21 and hydrops diagnosis. She found out her baby was poorly in pregnancy at 12 weeks along. From there the prenatal diagnosis of T21 followed, and follow-up for hydrops in the weeks that followed led Catt to need to end her wanted pregnancy. Listen in to Part 2 of 2 (coming out tomorrow) to hear about Catt’s mental and physical recovery after TFMR baby loss. You can find Catt on Instagram at: https://www.instagram.com/catt.gibbons/ And you’re invited to join us in these TFMR spaces, just for parents who have had to end a wanted pregnancy for their or baby’s health: TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM: If you're longing for intimate, ongoing support with the same small group, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle 💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people, we stay together for 3 months 💬 Real conversations, healing practices, and community support 🌿 Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Oct. 7th, Sun. Noon Eastern time round begins Oct. 11th 👉 Info & joining us: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply FREE FACEBOOK GROUP: Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you. PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes just like this one and a chance to ask questions live or have your comment/story be part of an episode. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. Witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. Share your story in our CLOSED group, and hear how others like you are getting through. Application only, free membership: ⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup ‌ 🎙 Want to share your story on the podcast? Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com Music credit: "Pamgaea" Kevin MacLeod ( https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search ) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

  4. Sep 4

    TFMR is intentional birth - TFMR parents share their birth choice stories

    I recently watched an interview of someone who had carried to term after a grave diagnosis, and the interviewer kept going on and on about how “intentional” this choice was. Which, yes, it IS an intentional choice, but I was stuck by how TFMR is rarely seen as “so intentional and wonderful” AS WELL AS CTT (continuing to term). So I decided to bring light to the deep INTENTION within the termination for medical reasons experience, since it is so often not spoken about or very misunderstood. I went into our TFMR Support Circle Facebook group and asked fellow parents/moms/dads in there about THEIR stories of the intention in their decisions and births and birthing choices. This episode is for you if you’ve been feeling how TFMR is often misunderstood or seen as “less than.” You’ll hear me talk about why and where this systemic misunderstanding is coming from, and how that can even hurt us after the fact and make us question the love and intentionality in our loving choices. And in this episode we invite you to join us in the TFMR space that could work for you, places just for TFMR parents: TFMR GRIEF CIRCLE PROGRAM: If you're longing for intimate, ongoing support with the same small group, apply now for the Ascend TFMR Grief Circle 💜 Small, intimate groups of 5–6 people, we stay together for 3 months 💬 Real conversations, healing practices, and community support 🌿 Wed. 7pm Eastern time round begins Oct. 7th, Sun. Noon Eastern time round begins Oct. 11th 👉 Info & joining us: http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/ascend-apply THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY: The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. ‌ 💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby & feel the strength to get through another day 💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, replays always available and JUST as powerful 💜 Month-to-month, as you need support 🌸 $55/month ‌ Join us: ⁠www.theTFMRdoula.com/join⁠ FREE FACEBOOK GROUP: Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you. PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes just like this one and a chance to ask questions live or have your comment/story be part of an episode. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. Witness the raw, unedited version of solo episodes like this one before anyone else. Share your story in our CLOSED group, and hear how others like you are getting through. Application only, free membership: ⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup ‌ 🎙 Want to share your story on the podcast? Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com Music credit: "Pamgaea" Kevin MacLeod ( https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search ) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

  5. Aug 10

    Getting through the grief after a TFMR for brain anomalies & rare genetic condition - Morgan Meaut shares her baby Collins' story (part 2 of 2)

    Morgan continues sharing her story (part 2 of 2) of life and grief and healing after a termination for medical reasons for a rare genetic disorder in her baby girl Collins. … Morgan shares how this podcast and the community has helped immensely throughout her grief and TFMR journey over the months since her loss. Living in Atlanta, Georgia, Morgan faced steep legal difficulties to obtain a termination at nearly 24 weeks gestation. Ultimately, the state of Georgia approved her case, and she underwent a termination at 23 weeks and 6 days at an abortion clinic. It was the worst day of her life. Since the death of her daughter, Morgan has been on a journey of learning how to survive unimaginable grief while still showing up as a mother to her living child, and also learning how to continue being a mother to Collins — honoring her, loving her, and carrying her, even though she is no longer earthside. Resources mentioned: Self-care guide: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/tfmr-self-care.html Morgan's Instagram: www.instagram.com/morgan_love_11 Morgan's email: bmorganlove@yahoo.com To meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find * your * way through with groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents: THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY ‌ If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore. ‌ The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. ‌ 💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby & feel the strength to get through another day 💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, replays always available and JUST as powerful 💜 Month-to-month, as you need support 🌸 $55/month ‌ Join us: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/join ‌ ... FREE FACEBOOK GROUP: Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you. PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes. ‌ Application only, free membership: ⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup ‌ ... 🎙 Want to share your story? Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com ‌ ... Music credit: "Pamgaea" Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search ) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

  6. Aug 10

    How Morgan Meaut decided to TFMR for brain anomalies & worst case scenario rare genetic condition in her baby Collins (part 1 of 2)

    Morgan Meaut shares her story of needing to terminate her wanted pregnancy for a rare genetic condition: 8p inverted duplication deletion syndrome, on the 23rd chromosome. Needing to make this decision for her baby girl Collins was one of the worst things she has ever been through. At the 20-week anatomy scan Morgan and her husband received the devastating news. The ultrasound showed severe swelling, ventriculomegaly and single cord. A follow up MRI of the brain showed missing corpus collosum in Collins’ brain This devastating diagnosis in pregnancy sent the couple on a four-week journey meeting with MFMs, genetic counselors, pediatric cardiologists, neurologists, and other specialists. Ultimately, through a genetic microarray they learned that Collins was worst case scenario. She had an extremely rare genetic condition: 8p inverted & duplication & deletion all on the 23rd chromosome. A very rare and large triple condition. Morgan was told that if Collins survived birth and infancy, she would be profoundly disabled — likely nonverbal, unable to live independently, and requiring lifelong full-time care. Morgan knew that was not the life they wanted for their baby. She was living in the state of Georgia at the time of her TFMR and had to pass a state board to approve the abortion. This is part 1 of 2 of Morgan's story where she shares how they made their decision to end their much wanted pregnancy. Morgan's Instagram: www.instagram.com/morgan_love_11 Morgan's email: bmorganlove@yahoo.com .... To meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find * your * way through with groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents: THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY ‌ If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore. ‌ The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. ‌ 💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby & feel the strength to get through another day 💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, replays always available and JUST as powerful 💜 Month-to-month, as you need support 🌸 $55/month ‌ Join us: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/join ‌ FREE FACEBOOK GROUP: Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you. PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes. ‌ Application only, free membership: ⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup ‌ 🎙 Want to share your story? Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com ‌ Music credit: "Pamgaea" Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search ) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

  7. Jul 23

    (Part 1 of 2) TFMR for TTTS - twin to twin transfusion syndrome, & ectopic abortion with Jayme Serbell | How she decided to have a selective reduction

    After 3 miscarriages, Jayme found out she was pregnant with twins. They were overjoyed, but then around 17 weeks a poor prenatal diagnosis was found in one baby, and eventually an even worse condition TTTS (twin to twin transfusion syndrome) was found and one baby was actively dying 💔 The only way to save the other baby was to intervene with a termination, also called "selective reduction." The delivery of the babies ended up in complications that no one saw coming. Jayme also shares how the grief and trauma affected her postpartum period. She found it very hard to find grief spaces that could hold ALL her losses and all the details of the termination intervention. Her next pregnancy also ended in tragedy, with a surgical intervention for an ectopic. This is part 1 of 2 with Jayme Serbell Jayme loves connecting and wants to share her Instagram page with you, so reach out to her there: www.instagram.com/jaymesharesthings She recently shared her story in Vogue magazine: https://www.vogue.com/article/the-abortion-that-made-me-a-parent ... To meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find * your * way through with groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents: THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY ‌ If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore. ‌ The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. ‌ 💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby & feel the strength to get through another day 💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, replays always available and JUST as powerful 💜 Month-to-month, as you need support 🌸 $55/month ‌ Join us: ⁠www.theTFMRdoula.com/join⁠ FREE FACEBOOK GROUP: Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you. PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes. ‌ Application only, free membership: ⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup ‌ 🎙 Want to share your story? Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com ‌ Music credit: "Pamgaea" Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search ) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

  8. Jul 23

    (Part 2 of 2) Grew up "pro-life" & now a repro freedom advocate, Jayme Serbell | Life after TFMR and traumatic reproductive experiences

    Jayme shares about life after TFMR, after miscarriages, after ectopic loss. Jayme shares her two biggest anchors that have helped her healing and grief after ending a wanted pregnancy (selective reduction) and all her reproductive losses. The unhelpful things that people say DO NOT help "at least you know you can get pregnant" ...and Jayme shares what does, her meditation practices, writing, advocacy, a storytelling. If you've been wondering "how will I get through the grief? How can I get through this?" this episode is for you. Jayme loves connecting and wants to share her Instagram page with you, so reach out to her there: www.instagram.com/jaymesharesthings She recently shared her story in Vogue magazine: https://www.vogue.com/article/the-abortion-that-made-me-a-parent ... To meet with Sabrina schedule your Connect Chat and find * your * way through with groups/1on1: http://www.thetfmrdoula.com/schedule-call And in this episode we invite you to join us in this space, just for TFMR parents: THE TFMR SUPPORT SANCTUARY ‌ If you're carrying the weight of your TFMR alone... you don't have to anymore. ‌ The TFMR Support Sanctuary: a monthly community for parents who want ways to release the shame, guilt, and despair of this loss and feel sure and seen in their motherhood, their parenthood, and the love they have for their baby. ‌ 💜 A safe place to feel whole again and honor your baby & feel the strength to get through another day 💬 Live circles every couple of weeks, replays always available and JUST as powerful 💜 Month-to-month, as you need support 🌸 $55/month ‌ Join us: ⁠www.theTFMRdoula.com/join⁠ ‌ FREE FACEBOOK GROUP: Join other TFMR parents who just GET it and are here to listen and hold you. PLUS you'll get early access to new podcast episodes and a chance to ask questions live. All in our private Facebook group, the TFMR Support Circle. You'll get to witness the raw, unedited version of my solo episodes before anyone else. You can also join in live and share your comments and get your questions answered to shape the episodes. ‌ Application only, free membership: ⁠http://www.theTFMRdoula.com/facebookgroup ‌ 🎙 Want to share your story? Email Sabrina to be featured on the podcast: sabrina [at] theTFMRdoula [dot] com ‌ Music credit: "Pamgaea" Kevin MacLeod (https://incompetech.com/music/royalty-free/index.html?isrc=USUAN1300036&Search=Search ) Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

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Pregnancy loss grief support for parents who terminated a wanted pregnancy for medical reasons. Real TFMR stories, decision support, and understanding in the isolation.Host Sabrina Fletcher is a TFMR loss mom & pregnancy loss doula who understands your choice and experience. Episodes include real TFMR parent stories + support from grief therapists & baby loss professionals.Facing a TFMR decision or grieving after, you'll find community here:Support & connection: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/facebookgroup.htmlDecision Support call: https://www.thetfmrdoula.com/decision-support.html

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