Messy Can't Stop Her

Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO)
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Are you a woman feeling overwhelmed by the chaos, crisis and challenges of life? Are you yearning to do something worthwhile with your life, but feel stuck in a cycle of problems? Join Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO, every Thursday on Messy Can’t Stop Her as she shares scientific insights, practical strategies and biblical wisdom to guide you through life’s struggles. With reflections, inspiring interviews, and heartfelt prayers, you will find the motivation and spiritual encouragement to overcome adversity, cultivate inner peace, and build a joy-filled life. If you are a woman who wants to rise above domestic violence, parenting challenges, and the mental health struggles caused by difficult relationships, this podcast reminds you that no matter how messy your story is, with God, your future is full of hope and endless possibilities. 

  1. How to Build Trust After Repeated Betrayals

    1D AGO

    How to Build Trust After Repeated Betrayals

    Send JKO a Text Message If you’ve been betrayed repeatedly, it’s not easy to trust again, especially when the betrayal came from someone you depended on. This episode is for the woman who feels lonely, cautious, and tired of being used. We talk about the Trust Ladder, how to spot safe people by patterns, and a lesson from 1 Kings 13 about misplaced trust. Nuggets of wisdom in this episode Trust is layers and patterns over time. The 4 Cs that prove a person is trustworthy. Loneliness makes you vulnerable to wrong counsel. God’s Word is your safest guide. Key scriptures: Matthew 10:16, Proverbs 4:23, Proverbs 27:12, Psalm 118:8, 1 Kings 13 References Betrayal Trauma: The Impact of Being Betrayed  How to Stop Hustling for Love  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover developed in Canva. Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

    33 min
  2. The Self-Love Valentine Reset in the Trenches

    FEB 12

    The Self-Love Valentine Reset in the Trenches

    Send JKO a Text Message Valentine’s season can be sweet… or sour. So this is not a romance episode, but a reset episode. Last week we talked about self compassion in the place of self-occupation, that inner courtroom of harsh self-talk. Today we continue with two practical paths to indoor and outdoor reset for physical and mental healing. If you’ve been carrying stress in your body and shame in your mind, this episode is for you.  References It's not Sephora, but Bath and Body Works Shower Steamers Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

    28 min
  3. Self Compassion When Life Leaves its Marks

    FEB 5

    Self Compassion When Life Leaves its Marks

    Send JKO a Text Message Women’s bodies go through changes in the course of their lives, but in the trenches, these changes from pregnancy, childbirth, stress, or trauma can feel like grief. Many women judge themselves for the weight, scars and visible reminders of survival that they carry. If you recognize this feeling, this episode is for you. JKO calls you out of that inner courtroom of relentless “self-occupation” and harsh self-blame, into self-compassion.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  The grief of body change is not vanity  The changes from child-birth and c-sections  Do not join “the committee” of judgement against yourself  Why self-compassion is not self-indulgence  Key Scriptures: Psalm 139:14, Romans 8:1, Matthew 11:28  References  Fascia cut after c-section is not Dr. Eric Berg but Dr. Bobbie Price's video about cellulite removal Bessel van der Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps the Score  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover developed in Canva.  Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

    23 min
  4. Facing the 2 Sides of Every Decision

    JAN 29

    Facing the 2 Sides of Every Decision

    Send JKO a Text Message Every decision has a price and a prize, and they rarely happen in perfect conditions. Most times, we decide under pressure, with limited information, and moving pieces. JKO explains the trade-offs women making hard choices in the trenches face and breaks down why constant “re-deciding” can steal your peace.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  Hindsight is not wisdomSome correct decisions still hurtDecision trade-offs don’t make you a hero or a failureA simple 6-step decision process God can still bring good out of what you didn’t fully understandKey Scriptures: Proverbs 3:5–6, Romans 8:28, Genesis 50:20, Lamentations 3:22–23   Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area. Picture on cover developed in Canva.   Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

    28 min
  5. Why Some Smart Women Stay in Abuse

    JAN 22

    Why Some Smart Women Stay in Abuse

    Send JKO a Text Message Why do smart women stay in abusive relationships? JKO breaks down the reasons that keep smart women in abusive dynamics. She also shares safety steps that women staying can take.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  8 reasons women stay  The prison you do not see  The place of trauma bonding  Why leaving can be impossible even with a social safety net  3 safety steps to take while staying  Key scriptures: Malachi 2:16, Romans 8:35, Psalm 82:4  References  Domestic violence non-profit in Nigeria: Toniabruisedbutnotbroken  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover developed in Canva.  Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

    34 min
  6. Staying With an Emotionally Absent Man

    JAN 15

    Staying With an Emotionally Absent Man

    Send JKO a Text Message There is a steep price you pay when you live with an emotionally absent man. Not just you, but your children, your family, and your community. JKO discusses the cost and the steps you can take when leaving is not possible.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  Signs of emotional absence  The emotional, physical, spiritual, and economic price you pay  7 concrete actions to help you and your children now  3 tiny practices that can make a whole lot of difference  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover adapted from Canva.  Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

    29 min
  7. 5 Things You can do When Silence is Weaponized

    JAN 8

    5 Things You can do When Silence is Weaponized

    Send JKO a Text Message Many women in toxic relationships endure a pattern of weaponized silence that harms them. JKO discusses the difference between healthy cooling-off and punitive silence, what it does to your body, soul, and spirit, and five things you can do to get the better of weaponized silence.  The January 1 episode had a glitch that made many listeners not see it, so am releasing both episodes back-to-back. Please listen to S10E01, A Pinpoint of Light, with this one.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  Cooling-off vs. weaponized silence  Effects of weaponized silence on your nervous-system effects  A 3-step self-check you can use to identify weaponized silence  5 practical responses to keep your life moving when a partner weaponizes silence  How to handle weaponized silence when co-parenting  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover adapted from Canva.  Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

    24 min
  8. A Pinpoint of Light is Enough

    JAN 1

    A Pinpoint of Light is Enough

    Send JKO a Text Message A New Year reset for women living through hidden abuse or heavy seasons. JKO shares three lessons to carry into 2026.  Nuggets of wisdom in this episode  A pinpoint of light can make a difference in a tunnel of darkness.  You don’t need the whole map, just take the first step.  Your value is real even in chaos.  It’s okay to have ebbs and flows.  When you’re overwhelmed, show yourself compassion.  Safety Note: Please use these ideas in a way that feels right and safe for your situation. For personal support, reach out to someone you trust or a local service in your area.  Picture on cover generated by Canva AI. Support the show If Messy Can’t Stop Her blesses or inspires you, please consider supporting it at supportmessycantstopher.buzzsprout.com. Thank you for being part of this journey. If you would love to share your story on the #MessyCantStopHer podcast, click here to let me know. Thank you so much for listening. Music Credit: https://indiefy.me/wanted-carter

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Are you a woman feeling overwhelmed by the chaos, crisis and challenges of life? Are you yearning to do something worthwhile with your life, but feel stuck in a cycle of problems? Join Judith Kambia Obatusa – JKO, every Thursday on Messy Can’t Stop Her as she shares scientific insights, practical strategies and biblical wisdom to guide you through life’s struggles. With reflections, inspiring interviews, and heartfelt prayers, you will find the motivation and spiritual encouragement to overcome adversity, cultivate inner peace, and build a joy-filled life. If you are a woman who wants to rise above domestic violence, parenting challenges, and the mental health struggles caused by difficult relationships, this podcast reminds you that no matter how messy your story is, with God, your future is full of hope and endless possibilities. 

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  • Creator
    Judith Kambia Obatusa (JKO)
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    169
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Messy Can't Stop Her
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