Broken to Brave: The Love Coach Donna Barnes | Dedicated to fixing what is broken in your love life

Donna Barnes | The Love Coach
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Dear Donna...Ask Away!!! Record your question! The desire to be loved is universal, but the knowledge to create a lasting partnership isn't clear-cut. I intend to help as many people as I can. I've walked in many of your shoes & fully understand feeling broken. I've struggled with abandonment issues & endured plenty of loss and heartbreak, even abuse. But I've also lived a very charmed & exciting life, filled with love. I am an NYU Certified Life & Love Coach, however, I promise you there has been no better teacher than my personal experiences. I'm excited to share my life's wisdom with you!

  1. The Mindset Shift That Attracts Love

    1D AGO

    The Mindset Shift That Attracts Love

    Are you still single and secretly wondering… “What’s wrong with me?” Do you feel like you’re not attractive enough, interesting enough, or good enough to keep the kind of relationship you want? In this episode of Broken to Brave, love coach Donna Barnes shares a powerful mindset shift that could completely transform your dating life: What if your thoughts are the real reason you’re still single? Your self-talk shapes your self-esteem. And your self-esteem shapes your energy. And your energy? That’s what people feel when they meet you. If you: Struggle with insecurity in dating Feel frustrated that you can’t find the right person Believe you’re not attractive enough to keep a good match Assume people won’t like you before giving them a chance Feel embarrassed or discouraged about still being single This video is for you. Donna breaks down the critical difference between self-confidence and self-esteem, how negative thinking sabotages relationships, and why assuming rejection creates the exact energy that pushes love away. You’ll learn:✔ How negative self-talk damages your dating life✔ Why insecurity shows up in your body language✔ How to stop deciding what other people think about you✔ A powerful mindset shift to instantly change your dating energy✔ How to create attraction by believing you’re worthy of it If you want a loving, lasting relationship, it starts with the relationship you have with yourself. Stop picking apart your flaws.Stop assuming rejection.Stop sabotaging your own happiness. Put a new thought in your head — one that supports the love you want. Because the right relationship doesn’t start when someone chooses you.It starts when you choose yourself. ❤️ Work With DonnaIf dating feels exhausting or confusing, I can help you create healthy, secure connections and meet the right partner.👉 Coaching info: https://www.donnabarnes.com/virtual-coaching/🔔 Subscribe for weekly dating and relationship insightsIf you want to become more confident, more emotionally aware, and better at choosing partners who choose you back, subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications.Visit my new store: https://www.donnabarnes.online/#DatingAdvice#SelfEsteem#FindLoveDonna Barnes is an New York University Certified Love Coach, Breakup Specialist, Podcast Host, and Author of Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices. https://amzn.to/3gFykPS💔 Ready to become the best version of yourself?👉 Breakup Recovery Program https://www.donnabarnes.com/breakup-recovery/ — 10+ HOURS of expert coaching videos, quizzes, and checklists to help you heal and move forward stronger than ever.

    8 min
  2. The Breakup Blueprint: Move On or Try Again?

    5D AGO

    The Breakup Blueprint: Move On or Try Again?

    Are you wondering… Will my ex come back? Do you feel like they were the one and you’re not ready to let go? In this episode of the Broken to Brave Podcast, love coach Donna Barnes breaks down the real “Ex-Factor” blueprint for a breakup — and how to know if your relationship is truly over or if there’s a real chance of reconciliation. 💔 Going through a breakup?Donna’s online course walks you step-by-step through healing, self-growth, and becoming your strongest self. (Coupon code - YouTube25.) https://www.donnabarnes.com/breakup-recovery/After nearly 20 years of coaching men and women through heartbreak, Donna reveals: Why most people want their ex back (hint: it’s grief, not destiny) The difference between right person, wrong time vs. a relationship that ran its course The #1 word that determines if your ex could come back: capability Why fear (commitment, intimacy, abandonment) destroys relationships How long it realistically takes for reconciliation to happen (and why you can’t rush it) The powerful cons-list exercise that helps you finally let go Why “nothing changes if nothing changes” When getting your ex back actually makes sense… and when it doesn’t How becoming a better version of yourself attracts a healthier, lasting love If you’re: ✔️ Obsessing over your ex ✔️ Wondering if you should move on ✔️ Hoping for reconciliation ✔️ Frustrated by your ex’s behavior ✔️ Afraid you’ll never find someone better This video gives you clarity. Because here’s the truth: The only way a relationship works the second time is if it’s different. And the only thing you can control… is you. Whether your ex comes back or not, your growth determines your future love story. ❤️ Work With DonnaIf dating feels exhausting or confusing, I can help you create healthy, secure connections and meet the right partner.👉 Coaching info: https://www.donnabarnes.com/virtual-coaching/

    10 min
  3. The #1 Mistake Successful Women Make in Love

    FEB 11

    The #1 Mistake Successful Women Make in Love

    Are you a strong, successful woman who keeps attracting powerful men… but can’t seem to keep them? If you’re confident, driven, independent, and used to leading in your career — yet your relationships with alpha, high-value, or masculine men keep falling apart — this episode is for you. In this powerful conversation, love coach Donna Barnes (Broken to Brave Podcast) reveals why highly successful women often struggle to maintain relationships with strong, dominant, ambitious men — and what subtle dynamic may be pushing him away without you realizing it. Many accomplished women unknowingly create competition inside their relationship instead of connection. And when two alpha personalities compete, attraction can quickly turn into repelling energy — like two identical sides of a magnet. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: Why masculine men need emotional validation (yes, even the strongest ones) How ego, polarity, and relationship dynamics impact attraction The difference between holding your power vs. emasculating your partner Why vulnerability is the secret to deeper connection How to let him lead without losing yourself The real reason strong women struggle to keep high-value men How to balance confidence, boundaries, femininity, and softness If you’ve ever thought: “Why can’t I keep a great guy?” “Do successful women intimidate men?” “Why do alpha men lose interest?” “Am I too masculine in relationships?” “How do I attract and keep a strong, successful man?” You are not alone — and you are not broken. You may simply need to shift the dynamic. Two powerful people can build an extraordinary relationship — but only if they stop competing and start complementing each other. If you’re ready to stop repelling the man you want and start building a forever relationship rooted in respect, polarity, admiration, and emotional safety — this conversation will shift your perspective. ❤️ Work With DonnaIf dating feels exhausting or confusing, I can help you create healthy, secure connections and meet the right partner.👉 Coaching info: https://www.donnabarnes.com/virtual-coaching/🔔 Subscribe for weekly dating and relationship insightsIf you want to become more confident, more emotionally aware, and better at choosing partners who choose you back, subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications.Visit my new store: https://www.donnabarnes.online/#DatingAdviceForWomen#FeminineEnergy#AlphaMaleDonna Barnes is an New York University Certified Love Coach, Breakup Specialist, Podcast Host, and Author of Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices. https://amzn.to/3gFykPS💔 Ready to become the best version of yourself?👉 Breakup Recovery Program https://www.donnabarnes.com/breakup-recovery/ — 10+ HOURS of expert coaching videos, quizzes, and checklists to help you heal and move forward stronger than ever.

    8 min
  4. The Brutal Truth About Age Gap Relationships

    FEB 7

    The Brutal Truth About Age Gap Relationships

    Are you single later in life but still feel 25 inside?Do you keep chasing younger partners… but can’t seem to find a relationship that truly lasts? In this episode of the Broken to Brave Podcast, love coach and matchmaker Donna Barnes unpacks a hard truth about dating over 50, age gap relationships, and unrealistic expectations in modern dating. If you’re: A successful older man who believes you can still attract much younger women A vibrant woman in her 60s or 70s frustrated that men your age only want younger women Someone who “doesn’t feel your age” but keeps ending up alone Tired of short-term relationships that never turn into lasting love This conversation is for you. Aging is inevitable. Attraction evolves. But ego and outdated preferences can quietly keep you single for decades. Donna shares real-life matchmaking stories about: Why older men chasing younger women often end up alone Why money and power may attract someone — but won’t guarantee love The psychology behind men’s visual wiring (yes, there are brain imaging studies) Why dating within your age range dramatically increases your chances of long-term happiness How adjusting your expectations doesn’t mean “settling” — it means choosing longevity Studies show people in loving relationships live longer. But being with someone who wants your status instead of your heart? That’s not love — and it’s not sustainable. If you want a partner who:✔ Truly sees you✔ Understands what you’re going through✔ Grows older WITH you✔ Loves you for who you are — not what you provide Then it may be time to rethink what you’re looking for. Your thoughts create your feelings. Shift your mindset, and you may finally attract the kind of relationship that lasts. ❤️ Work With DonnaIf dating feels exhausting or confusing, I can help you create healthy, secure connections and meet the right partner.👉 Coaching info: https://www.donnabarnes.com/virtual-coaching/🔔 Subscribe for weekly dating and relationship insightsIf you want to become more confident, more emotionally aware, and better at choosing partners who choose you back, subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications.Visit my new store: https://www.donnabarnes.online/#DatingOver50 #AgeGapRelationships #FindingLoveLaterInLifeDonna Barnes is an New York University Certified Love Coach, Breakup Specialist, Podcast Host, and Author of Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices. https://amzn.to/3gFykPS💔 Ready to become the best version of yourself?👉 Breakup Recovery Program https://www.donnabarnes.com/breakup-recovery/ — 10+ HOURS of expert coaching videos, quizzes, and checklists to help you heal and move forward stronger than ever.

    15 min
  5. Friend or Frenemy? When It’s Time to Walk Away

    JAN 31

    Friend or Frenemy? When It’s Time to Walk Away

    Can you break up with a friend without being cruel, dramatic, or feeling guilty?If you’re dealing with a toxic friendship, a one-sided relationship, or a friend who drains your energy instead of supporting you, this episode is for you.In this episode of the Broken to Brave Podcast, Love Coach Donna Barnes explores one of the most painful and least talked-about breakups: ending a friendship. Whether it’s a longtime friend, a frenemy, or even a family member who has become emotionally exhausting, you’ll learn how to evaluate the quality of a friendship and decide if it still belongs in your life.Many people stay stuck in unhealthy friendships out of loyalty, history, or fear of hurting the other person. But just like romantic relationships, friendships must be balanced, respectful, and emotionally safe. If you’re constantly giving and never receiving, feeling judged, ignored, or emotionally drained, that’s a sign something needs to change.In this video, Donna discusses:How to know when a friendship has become toxic or unbalancedWhether it’s better to slowly pull away or have an honest conversationHow to “break up” with a friend in a compassionate, mature wayWhy feedback, when delivered with care, can actually help both people growThe difference between a lifelong friend and someone meant for only a seasonIf you’ve been asking yourself “Is it wrong to unfriend someone?” or “How do I let go of a friend who no longer supports me?”, this episode will help you find clarity without shame.❤️ Work With DonnaIf dating feels exhausting or confusing, I can help you create healthy, secure connections and meet the right partner.👉 Coaching info: https://www.donnabarnes.com/virtual-coaching/🔔 Subscribe for weekly dating and relationship insightsIf you want to become more confident, more emotionally aware, and better at choosing partners who choose you back, subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications.#ToxicFriendship#FriendshipBreakup#EmotionalBoundariesVisit my new store: https://www.donnabarnes.online/Donna Barnes is an New York University Certified Love Coach, Breakup Specialist, Podcast Host, and Author of Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices. https://amzn.to/3gFykPS💔 Ready to become the best version of yourself?👉 Breakup Recovery Program https://www.donnabarnes.com/breakup-recovery/ — 10+ HOURS of expert coaching videos, quizzes, and checklists to help you heal and move forward stronger than ever.

    9 min
  6. Is It Ever OK to Date Your Friend’s Ex? The Truth About Guy & Girl Code

    JAN 24

    Is It Ever OK to Date Your Friend’s Ex? The Truth About Guy & Girl Code

    When you finally feel a deep, rare connection with someone… but they’re your best friend’s ex, your sibling’s partner, or someone who feels completely off-limits, what do you do? 🤯Is it ever okay to violate the guy code or girl code, or is crossing that line always a betrayal?In this episode of the Broken to Brave Podcast, love coach Donna Barnes dives into one of the most emotionally charged dating dilemmas there is: falling for someone who is closely tied to a friend or family member. Whether you’re single, emotionally entangled with a “forbidden” connection, or questioning your integrity in dating, this conversation will challenge how you think about loyalty, attraction, and long-term love.We unpack:• When attraction turns into emotional betrayal• The real cost of dating a friend’s ex or a sibling’s partner• Why friendships and family bonds often outlast romantic relationships• How integrity matters more than chemistry• When, if ever, a connection is worth the fallout• Why secrecy, cheating, and “getting it out of your system” almost always backfireIf you’re struggling with dating ethics, friendship betrayal, attraction to someone unavailable, or you’re afraid of losing a meaningful friendship while chasing love, this episode will help you slow down, reflect, and make a decision you can live with long-term.Because this isn’t really about a code.It’s about character, trust, and who you want to be in your relationships.❤️ Work With DonnaIf dating feels exhausting or confusing, I can help you create healthy, secure connections and meet the right partner.👉 Coaching info: https://www.donnabarnes.com/virtual-coaching/🔔 Subscribe for weekly dating and relationship insightsIf you want to become more confident, more emotionally aware, and better at choosing partners who choose you back, subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications.Visit my new store: https://www.donnabarnes.online/#DatingAdvice#FriendshipBetrayal#RelationshipBoundariesDonna Barnes is an New York University Certified Love Coach, Breakup Specialist, Podcast Host, and Author of Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices. https://amzn.to/3gFykPS💔 Ready to become the best version of yourself?👉 Breakup Recovery Program https://www.donnabarnes.com/breakup-recovery/ — 10+ HOURS of expert coaching videos, quizzes, and checklists to help you heal and move forward stronger than ever.

    13 min
  7. When You Love Them More Than They Love You: Should You Stay or Leave?

    JAN 17

    When You Love Them More Than They Love You: Should You Stay or Leave?

    Are you deeply in love with someone… but don’t feel loved back?Are you questioning whether your relationship is still right for you, or wondering if the spark was ever really there in the first place?In this episode of the Broken to Brave Podcast, Love Coach Donna Barnes breaks down one of the most painful relationship experiences: loving someone who doesn’t seem to love you the same way. Whether you’re in the early stages of dating, stuck in a one-sided relationship, or in a long-term partnership where the love has faded, this conversation will help you get clarity.You’ll learn how to tell the difference between chemistry and real love, why chasing your partner often pushes them further away, and how imbalance slowly erodes attraction and respect. Donna explains why the most important question in any relationship isn’t “Do I love them?” but “Do I feel loved?” and how that single question can reveal whether your relationship can be repaired or whether it’s time to let go.This episode is for anyone who:• Feels emotionally neglected or unloved by their partner• Loves someone more than they love them back• Is stuck in a relationship that no longer feels loving or respectful• Is unsure whether to stay, fight for the relationship, or walk away• Wants a healthy, loving relationship that lasts long-termDonna also shares how to stop smothering attraction, when space can actually reignite connection, and why respect is the true foundation of lasting love. You’ll gain insight into how relationships fade, what you can control, and when trying harder is actually hurting you.If you’re tired of second-guessing your worth, chasing emotional validation, or feeling lonely inside a relationship, this episode will help you reclaim your power and make decisions rooted in self-love, not fear.❤️ Work With DonnaIf dating feels exhausting or confusing, I can help you create healthy, secure connections and meet the right partner.👉 Coaching info: https://www.donnabarnes.com/virtual-coaching/🔔 Subscribe for weekly dating and relationship insightsIf you want to become more confident, more emotionally aware, and better at choosing partners who choose you back, subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications.Visit my new store: https://www.donnabarnes.online/#UnrequitedLove#RelationshipAdvice#FeelingUnlovedDonna Barnes is an New York University Certified Love Coach, Breakup Specialist, Podcast Host, and Author of Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices. https://amzn.to/3gFykPS💔 Ready to become the best version of yourself?👉 Breakup Recovery Program https://www.donnabarnes.com/breakup-recovery/ — 10+ HOURS of expert coaching videos, quizzes, and checklists to help you heal and move forward stronger than ever.

    16 min
  8. What Should You Do With Your Ex’s Gifts After a Breakup?

    JAN 14

    What Should You Do With Your Ex’s Gifts After a Breakup?

    After a breakup, one of the most painful questions isn’t just why it ended, but what do I do with everything they left behind?Their clothes. Their photos. The gifts. The jewelry. The reminders.If you’re struggling to move on after a painful breakup and still hoping your ex will come back, this video is for you. In this episode of Broken to Brave, love coach Donna Barnes breaks down what to do with your ex’s gifts and belongings without reopening emotional wounds or keeping yourself stuck in limbo.Should you give back expensive gifts after a breakup?Do engagement rings legally or emotionally need to be returned?Is keeping or wearing something your ex gave you a sign you still love them?Are you holding onto their stuff because you secretly want contact with them again?Donna explains how keeping, returning, donating, or boxing up your ex’s belongings can either support your healing or quietly sabotage it. You’ll learn the difference between respectful closure and using “giving stuff back” as an excuse to see your ex again. This video also addresses why staying in contact with an ex often delays healing, weakens your emotional power, and keeps you trapped in hope instead of moving forward.If you’re tired of replaying the breakup, questioning your decisions, and wondering how to finally let go so you can create a healthy, lasting relationship in the future, this message will help you reclaim your clarity, boundaries, and self-respect.💔 Ready to Get Over Your Ex and become the best version of yourself?👉 Breakup Recovery Program https://www.donnabarnes.com/breakup-recovery/ — 10+ HOURS of expert coaching videos, quizzes, and checklists to help you heal and move forward stronger than ever.❤️ Work With DonnaIf dating feels exhausting or confusing, I can help you create healthy, secure connections and meet the right partner.👉 Coaching info: https://www.donnabarnes.com/virtual-coaching/🔔 Subscribe for weekly dating and relationship insightsIf you want to become more confident, more emotionally aware, and better at choosing partners who choose you back, subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications.Visit my new store: https://www.donnabarnes.online/#breakuprecovery #MovingOnAfterBreakup #NoContactRule Donna Barnes is an New York University Certified Love Coach, Breakup Specialist, Podcast Host, and Author of Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices. https://amzn.to/3gFykPS

    10 min
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Dear Donna...Ask Away!!! Record your question! The desire to be loved is universal, but the knowledge to create a lasting partnership isn't clear-cut. I intend to help as many people as I can. I've walked in many of your shoes & fully understand feeling broken. I've struggled with abandonment issues & endured plenty of loss and heartbreak, even abuse. But I've also lived a very charmed & exciting life, filled with love. I am an NYU Certified Life & Love Coach, however, I promise you there has been no better teacher than my personal experiences. I'm excited to share my life's wisdom with you!

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