Confident and Empowered Women

Letitia Hopkins
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Welcome to Confident & Empowered Women — the podcast for high-achieving women ready to rise in self-love, set strong boundaries, and build aligned relationships. Hosted by Life, Love & Empowerment Coach Letitia Hopkins, this is the confidence podcast for women who are done playing small and ready to step into their power, lead with love, and live fully aligned. Whether you're navigating self-love after heartbreak, breaking free from people-pleasing, learning how to step into your power, or finally putting yourself first and choosing to be the Main Character in your life — this show delivers the encouragement, real talk, and mindset shifts you need to stop settling and start shining. This is your space to grow in confidence, own your worth, and create the magnetic life and love you truly deserve. You were made to stand out, love deeply, and live fully aligned. We don’t settle. We shine. We Encourage Over Everything.

  1. 3D AGO

    EP 281. You're Not Attracting the Wrong People — You're Tolerating Them

    You don't have a people problem. You have a settling problem. And today we are fixing that. In this episode I'm breaking down the real reason the wrong people keep showing up in your life — and giving you two powerful frameworks plus a Self Love 2 Step to actually do something about it starting TODAY. Friend, that person who keeps draining you? You already knew. Your gut told you early. The signs were there. So why did you stay? That's exactly what we're getting into. This is your mirror moment AND your movement — because awareness without action is just a really emotional therapy session. We're not leaving without a plan. 💅🏾 WHAT WE GET INTO✦ Why you're not attracting the wrong people — you're tolerating them ✦ The S.E.T.T.L.E. Framework™ — 6 root causes of why we accept less than we deserve ✦ The ONE signature question to ask about every relationship in your life ✦ The O.W.N. I.T.™ Framework — five steps back to your full price self ✦ The Self Love 2 Step — two things you can do TODAY to start the shift ✦ Why familiar isn't the same as safe — and comfortable isn't the same as aligned ✦ How to stop waiting for someone to recognize your worth — and recognize it yourself first CHAPTERS00:00 Real Talk: You Don’t Have a People Problem—You Have a Settling Problem 01:02 Series Reset: Unavailable for Self-Abandonment & Building Self-Trust 02:32 You’re Not Attracting the Wrong People—You’re Tolerating Them (Today’s Roadmap) 03:40 Spot the Pattern: The Person Who Shows Up Less Than You Deserve 05:11 The SETTLE Framework (6 Root Causes) — Why You Stay 11:13 The Signature Question: If They Never Changed, Would You Still Choose Them? 12:05 Access Audit: Who Gets VIP, Cheap Seats, or Outside the Club? 13:56 The Solution: OWN IT — 5 Steps Back to Your Full-Price Self 19:58 Build Momentum: Main Character Momentum Builder (Support System) 20:50 Self-Love Two-Step: The Mirror Move + The Love Deposit 23:22 Let Me Pour Into You Real Quick: You’re Worthy of People Who Show Up 26:05 Final Assignment + Subscribe/Review + Closing Encouragement THE SELF LOVE 2 STEPStep 1 — The Mirror Move Ask the signature question about the top three relationships in your life right now: "If this person never changed — would I still want them here?" Write down the names. Write down the honest answers. No editing. No softening. Just the truth. Step 2 — The Love Deposit Immediately after — do one thing that is purely, completely, unapologetically for YOU. Not productive you. Not helpful you. Just you. One love deposit. Straight into your own account. 💬 Which letter of S.E.T.T.L.E. hit closest to home? Drop it below! 🎯NEXT STEPS✨ Main Character Confidence Checklist Your clarity + confidence game plan to stop shrinking and start showing up like you were born to. 👉 Get the checklist ✨ Main Character Momentum Builder Your grounded momentum game plan to stop circling and start moving with self-trust, consistency, and calm confidence. 👉Build your Momentum 💼 Ready to work with Letitia 1:1? This is for the woman who’s ready to rise. Let’s build...

    28 min

  2. 5D AGO

    EP 280. What It Actually Looks Like to Stop Editing Yourself

    You know you're "supposed" to be authentic—but what does that actually look like when you're in the moment trying to decide whether to speak up or stay quiet? In this episode, we're getting real about what it means to live unedited. Not the Instagram caption version. Not the motivational quote version. The real, messy, lived-out version of what changes when you stop performing a version of yourself just to keep people comfortable. I'm walking you through practical examples from everyday conversations, relationships, work decisions, and even social media—so you can see exactly what living unedited looks like in action. Because here's the truth: Living unedited isn't about being reckless with your words. It's about being so connected to yourself that you stop abandoning who you are to make other people comfortable. If you've ever edited yourself mid-sentence, softened your truth, or deleted your preferences before anyone even knew you had them—this episode is for you. 💙 WHAT WE GET INTOIn this episode, you'll learn: ✨ What "living unedited" actually means (and what it doesn't mean) ✨ The identity shift that makes authenticity feel natural instead of forced ✨ Real-life examples of what living unedited looks like in: Everyday conversationsRomantic relationshipsWork environmentsSocial mediaDecision-making ✨ Why living unedited doesn't make you selfish—it makes you honest ✨ How to build self-trust one unedited truth at a time CHAPTERS00:00 Stop Softening Your Truth: The ‘Living Unedited’ Shift 01:06 Series Context: Unavailable for Self-Abandonment + Why Confidence Is Action 01:56 What ‘Be Authentic’ Actually Looks Like in Real Life 03:47 Define ‘Unedited’ (Not Harsh, Not Oversharing) + The Real Goal 05:55 Real-Life Examples: Conversations, Relationships, Work, Social Media, Decisions 10:46 Quick Break: Main Character Momentum Builder (Support System) 11:38 The Unedited Practice: Self-Love Two-Step (Notice + Speak One Truth Daily) 14:10 Pep Talk: Nervous Is Normal—Build Unshakable Self-Trust 16:06 Weekly Challenge + Resources + Final Reminder to Take Up Space 🌟 THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEPA simple daily practice to help you stay connected to yourself: Step 1: Notice when you're editing yourself in real time Step 2: Practice saying one unedited truth per day Listen to the full episode for detailed examples and how to implement this practice in your daily life. 🎯NEXT STEPS✨ Main Character Confidence Checklist Your clarity + confidence game plan to stop shrinking and start showing up like you were born to. 👉 Get the checklist ✨ Main Character Momentum Builder Your grounded momentum game plan to stop circling and start moving with self-trust, consistency, and calm confidence. 👉a href="https://encourageovereverything.com/shop" rel="noopener noreferrer"

    18 min

  3. FEB 12

    EP 279. When Your Standards Cost You Something

    Okay… let’s talk about the moment your standards actually cost you something. Not when they’re cute quotes. Not when they live in your journal. But when enforcing them means walking away, disappointing someone, or choosing long-term alignment over short-term comfort. Because let’s be honest — your standards aren’t too high. You’re a high-achieving woman. Excellence is your baseline. That’s not the issue. The issue is when kindness lowers the bar. When empathy overrides discernment. When we start valuing potential over patterns. We’re breaking down what it really looks like to build self-respect through behavior. I’m sharing a personal story and walking you through how self-trust is built in the exact moments that feel uncomfortable. This is about becoming unavailable for self-abandonment — even when it costs you something. Because standards aren’t proven in what you say you want. They’re proven in what you enforce. WHAT WE GET INTOWhy high standards are not the problem — but lack of enforcement isThe difference between potential and patterns (and why it matters for emotional maturity)How inconsistency can feel intoxicating — but not alignedFind out what it means to STANDWhy settling for short-term comfort can cost you long-term overflowHow self-respect is built through consistent, aligned decisionsWhat it really looks like to be unavailable for self-abandonment CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction: The Cost of Standards 00:56 Series Overview: Unavailable for Self Abandonment 01:49 Understanding Standards and Patterns 03:35 The Framework for Enforcing Standards 04:55 Personal Story: Walking Away from Potential 05:21 Breaking Down the Framework: S.T.A.N.D. 08:42 Navigating the Fallout and Deciding in Alignment 13:39 The Pattern Audit: A Self-Love Two-Step 15:13 Empowerment and Encouragement: Embracing Your Standards 18:09 Conclusion: Aligning with Your True Self 👑 THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEPBefore you can enforce a standard, you have to see clearly. Step 1: Audit the Pattern Look at what is repeated — not what is promised. Patterns are facts. Step 2: Adjust to the Pattern Instead of asking someone to change, change your response. Boundaries respond to patterns. They don’t argue with them. 💎 KEY REMINDERYou are not waiting for better. You are becoming aligned for it. Stay unavailable for self-abandonment. 🎯NEXT STEPS✨ Main Character Confidence Checklist Your clarity + confidence game plan to stop shrinking and start showing up like you were born to. 👉 Get the checklist ✨ Main Character Momentum Builder Your grounded momentum game plan to stop circling and start moving with self-trust, consistency, and calm...

    20 min

  4. FEB 10

    EP 278. Choosing Yourself Without Needing Agreement

    One of the hardest, most isolating—and yet most rewarding, confidence-building, deeply loving things you will ever do… is choose yourself without needing agreement. And whew—if you’ve ever felt emotionally torn, scared to disappoint people, or caught between being “selfish” and “selfless,” pull up a seat. This episode is for you. In this conversation, we’re talking about what it really means to stay aligned without consensus, why approval is not the same thing as alignment, and how emotional maturity shows up when you stop negotiating your truth just to keep the peace. This episode isn’t about becoming cold or cutting people off—it’s about becoming steady, grounded, and anchored in who God created you to be. Think of this as a training ground for disappointment tolerance—building the emotional capacity to honor yourself without collapsing, over-explaining, or abandoning your truth. If you’re ready to stop outsourcing your self-trust and start choosing yourself with clarity and love, let’s get into it. WHAT WE GET INTO1️⃣Why choosing yourself feels so emotionally charged—and how that inner turmoil actually comes from being disconnected from your own alignment. 2️⃣Approval is not alignment. If the validation you’re looking for lives outside of you, disappointment is inevitable. 3️⃣This was never about getting others to agree with you—it’s about getting into agreement with who God made you to be. 4️⃣How to stop over-explaining, softening the truth, and shrinking yourself just to maintain surface-level harmony. 5️⃣ Real peace doesn’t wage a war within you. Harmony that costs you yourself was never harmony to begin with. CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction: Choosing Yourself 00:59 Building Confidence and Self-Trust 01:50 The Struggle of Self-Abandonment 05:06 Aligning with Your True Self 07:37 Embracing Seasonal Relationships 08:58 Emotional Maturity and Self-Betrayal 13:02 The Self-Love Two Step 16:56 Living in Alignment and Self-Respect 20:47 Conclusion: Stay Unavailable for Self-Abandonment THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEPThis Self-Love 2-Step gives you something to practice the moment choosing yourself starts to feel shaky. ✨ Step 1: Get Aligned Before You’re Activated Decide what’s true for you before the conversation, the pushback, or the reaction. Alignment before activation protects your self-trust and keeps you from bargaining with yourself in emotionally charged moments. 🪞 Step 2: Stay Present Without Persuasion Let others have their reactions without rushing to fix, explain, or reverse yourself. You can be kind and still be firm. Loving and still aligned. Their disappointment does not require your self-betrayal. Because self-love isn’t loud—it’s loyal. And every time you choose alignment over approval, you build a version of yourself you can trust. 🎯NEXT STEPS✨ Main Character Confidence Checklist Your clarity + confidence game plan to stop shrinking and start showing up like you were born to. 👉 Get the checklist ✨ Main Character Momentum Builder Your grounded momentum game plan to stop circling and start moving with self-trust, consistency, and...

    21 min

  5. FEB 5

    EP 277. When Explaining Yourself Feels Easier Than Standing Firm

    If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I explain myself like that?” — this episode is for you. In this conversation, we’re talking about why explaining yourself can feel easier than standing firm, even when you’re clear about your decision. This isn’t about trauma or overthinking — it’s about belief formation and how self-trust is built (or quietly eroded) in everyday moments. You’ll learn why over-explaining is often a nervous-system response, not a clarity issue, and how standing firm—without justification—is one of the most powerful ways to strengthen your internal authority. This episode is an invitation to stop negotiating with your truth and start practicing self-trust in real time. WHAT WE GET INTOWhy explaining yourself is often about relieving discomfort, not communicating betterHow over-explaining quietly trains self-doubt and weakens internal authorityWhy standing firm feels hard because it’s new, not because it’s wrongA nervous-system reframe for the urge to soften, justify, or over-functionWhat it really means to let people learn their own lessons (without guilt)How self-trust is built through action, practice, and repetition — not insight aloneThe difference between being misunderstood and abandoning yourselfHow to stop outsourcing your knowing and stand rooted in your decisions CHAPTERS00:00 Introduction: The Power of Saying No 00:53 Breaking the Habit of Over-Explaining 01:15 Welcome to 'Unavailable for Self Abandonment' 02:02 The Emotional Receipts: Knowing Your Truth 03:11 Redefining Explaining: From Soothing to Clarity 04:08 Managing Reactions Without Losing Authority 04:44 Standing Firm: The New Normal 05:26 Parenting and Letting Go: Lessons in Self-Trust 08:40 Building Self-Trust Through Action 13:07 The Self-Love Two Step: Stand and Stay 15:27 Conclusion: Choosing Yourself THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP: Stand & StayStand Say what’s true—once, clearly, and without over-explaining. Let your decision be complete without a backstory. Stay Stay with the sensation that follows. The pause. The discomfort. The silence. This is where belief is built—by teaching your nervous system that you’re safe to stand firm without collapsing or reaching. This episode is for the woman who is done circling, done cushioning her truth, and ready to trust herself in moments that actually matter. Stay unavailable for self-abandonment. 💛 🎯NEXT STEPS✨ Main Character Confidence Checklist Your clarity + confidence game plan to stop shrinking and start showing up like you were born to. 👉 Get the checklist ✨...

    18 min

  6. FEB 3

    EP 276. Right Before You Say “It’s Fine”

    Friend… let’s be honest. Most of the time, “it’s fine” is not fine. It’s the moment right before you abandon yourself to keep the peace. In this episode, we slow way down and talk about that exact moment — the pause, the tightening, the choice to smooth things over instead of staying with yourself. This is a conversation about real confidence, self-trust, and why confidence isn’t built by feeling ready… it’s built by what you do when things feel uncomfortable. If you’ve ever over-explained, gone quiet, minimized your needs, or told yourself “it’s not worth it,” this episode will feel like I’m sitting right next to you on the couch saying, “I see you — and there’s another way.” WHAT WE GET INTO1️⃣ “It’s fine” is rarely about peace — it’s about protection. Most of the time, you’re choosing safety over honesty. 2️⃣ Your nervous system isn’t asking if something is aligned — it’s asking if connection is at risk. Discomfort means unfamiliar, not wrong. 3️⃣ Self-abandonment doesn’t happen loudly. It happens politely — through minimizing, over-explaining, and keeping the vibe light. 4️⃣ Confidence isn’t built by feeling ready. It’s built in the pause — when you don’t smooth it over or disappear. 5️⃣ Main Character Energy is rooted, not dramatic. It’s staying with yourself even when the moment feels awkward. 🌿 THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP: The Stay PracticeConfidence doesn’t grow from insight alone — it grows from what you practice. The Stay Practice is how you stop leaving yourself in real time. First, you stay — pause long enough to notice the sensation before you override yourself. No fixing. No explaining. Just presence. Then, you honor — redirect your loyalty back to yourself with one small act of self-respect instead of politeness. This matters because every time you stay with yourself, you rebuild self-trust — and confidence comes back online naturally. 🎯NEXT STEPS✨ Main Character Confidence Checklist Your clarity + confidence game plan to stop shrinking and start showing up like you were born to. 👉 Get the checklist ✨ Main Character Momentum Builder Your grounded momentum game plan to stop circling and start moving with self-trust, consistency, and calm confidence. 👉Build your Momentum 💼 Ready to work with Letitia 1:1? This is for the woman who’s ready to rise. Let’s build your life, love, and legacy — together. 👉Book your FREE Main Character Alignment Call 📲 SHARE THE LOVEDon’t gatekeep your glow-up: Text this to your girlsDrop your fav quote on YouTubeBlast it on YouTube @EO_E and tag me! Your healing inspires...

    15 min

  7. JAN 29

    EP 275. Confidence Grows in the Gap — What Discomfort Is Asking of You

    This episode is part of the Unavailable for Self-Abandonment series — conversations for women who are done negotiating with themselves. If you’ve ever wondered why confidence feels solid one moment and shaky the next, especially when things get uncomfortable, this episode will shift everything. Confidence isn’t lost in discomfort — it’s built there. We’re breaking down why discomfort shows up right before growth, how to interpret it correctly, and what to do instead of abandoning yourself the moment things feel unfamiliar. This is about self-trust, nervous system safety, and learning how to stay with yourself long enough for confidence to form. This isn’t about pushing harder or fixing yourself. It’s about learning how to stay connected to who you already are — especially in the gap. WHAT WE GET INTO✨ Confidence Grows in the Gap The gap — the space between uncomfortable and comfortable — is where most people panic, overthink, and assume something has gone wrong. But that gap is actually the training ground. Discomfort isn’t random — it’s information. ✨ What “Uncomfortable” Is Really Signaling Discomfort isn’t danger. It’s your nervous system saying, “This is new. Pay attention.” New boundaries, new standards, new versions of you. Alert doesn’t mean incapable — it means unfamiliar. ✨ Why Interpretation Is Everything Two people can experience the same discomfort and walk away with completely different outcomes. Your interpretation shapes your confidence, your identity, and your future choices. Same sensation — different meaning. ✨ The Bridge Between Uncomfortable and Comfortable Comfort isn’t something you wait for — it’s something you create through repetition. Confidence forms when you stay instead of escape long enough for unfamiliar to become familiar. 💛 THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEPThe Stay & Reframe Method Because confidence grows when you stop leaving yourself in the gap. STEP 1: Stay With Yourself Pause the urge to explain, perform, or abandon what you know. Say: “Nothing has gone wrong. I’m just in the gap.” Staying builds self-trust. Leaving teaches your body you’re not safe with yourself. STEP 2: Reframe the Discomfort Instead of “I’m not ready,” try “This is training.” Instead of “This feels bad, so I should stop,” say “This feels new — and new is how confidence forms.” Repetition creates familiarity. Familiarity creates safety. Safety often gets mislabeled as confidence. 🎯NEXT STEPS✨ Main Character Confidence Checklist Your clarity + confidence game plan to stop shrinking and start showing up like you were born to. 👉 Get the checklist ✨ Main Character Momentum Builder Your grounded momentum game plan to stop circling and start moving with self-trust, consistency, and calm confidence. 👉Build your Momentum 💼 Ready to work with Letitia 1:1? This is for the woman who’s ready to rise. Let’s build your life, love, and legacy — together. 👉Book your FREE Main Character Alignment Call 📲 SHARE THE...

    11 min

  8. JAN 28

    EP 274. Confidence Doesn’t Start as a Feeling — How It’s Built When You’re Uncomfortable

    If confidence has felt inconsistent lately, this episode is here to remind you: nothing has gone wrong. We’ve been taught to believe confidence is just a feeling — calm, certain, ready — and that once we feel it, then we can move. But real confidence doesn’t work that way. Confidence is conditioned. It’s built through action, repetition, and staying connected to yourself when things feel unfamiliar. This episode starts the Unavailable for Self-Abandonment series — conversations for the woman who is done negotiating with herself and is confident enough to disappoint because self-trust is now the standard. We’re reframing confidence as something you practice, not something you wait for — and reconnecting you with the version of yourself who already knows how to move without guarantees. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I feel less confident now than I used to?” — this episode will land deeply. WHAT WE GET INTO✨ Confidence is conditioning Confidence isn’t motivation or mindset — it’s built through action, practice, and repetition, especially when things feel uncomfortable. ✨ Why confidence gets mistaken for a feeling We confuse calm with capability. Calm comes after repetition — not before. ✨ Discomfort isn’t danger Your nervous system feels alert when something is new — that doesn’t mean you’re incapable. It means you’re in unfamiliar territory. ✨ Why confidence feels inconsistent during growth New environments require new reps — and new reps create new confidence. ✨ Reconnecting with the version of you who already trusts herself You don’t need to become someone new. You need to remember who you’ve been before. 💛 THE SELF-LOVE 2-STEP: THE RECONNECT & MOVE METHODWhen confidence is shaky, come back to this: Step 1: Reconnect to Yourself Ask: What do I know right now, even if I don’t feel certain? Remind yourself: Nothing has gone wrong. I’m just in new territory. Step 2: Move With Yourself Choose one aligned action — not to feel confident, but to stay connected while you move. Confidence comes back online when you stop abandoning yourself. 🎯NEXT STEPS✨ Main Character Confidence Checklist Your clarity + confidence game plan to stop shrinking and start showing up like you were born to. 👉 Get the checklist ✨ Main Character Momentum Builder Your grounded momentum game plan to stop circling and start moving with self-trust, consistency, and calm confidence. 👉Build your Momentum 💼 Ready to work with Letitia 1:1? This is for the woman who’s ready to rise. Let’s build your life, love, and legacy — together. 👉Book your FREE Main Character Alignment Call 📲 SHARE THE LOVEDon’t gatekeep your glow-up: Text this to your girlsDrop your fav quote on a href="https://youtube.com/@EO_E" rel="noopener noreferrer"...

    19 min
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Welcome to Confident & Empowered Women — the podcast for high-achieving women ready to rise in self-love, set strong boundaries, and build aligned relationships. Hosted by Life, Love & Empowerment Coach Letitia Hopkins, this is the confidence podcast for women who are done playing small and ready to step into their power, lead with love, and live fully aligned. Whether you're navigating self-love after heartbreak, breaking free from people-pleasing, learning how to step into your power, or finally putting yourself first and choosing to be the Main Character in your life — this show delivers the encouragement, real talk, and mindset shifts you need to stop settling and start shining. This is your space to grow in confidence, own your worth, and create the magnetic life and love you truly deserve. You were made to stand out, love deeply, and live fully aligned. We don’t settle. We shine. We Encourage Over Everything.

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