Girl, Take the Lead!

Yolanda Canny

Each week we explore Womanhood and Leadership with the goal to question the status quo and challenge our thinking so we celebrate every woman as a leader. Our episodes will interview leaders in the field, meet authors, explore books on the subject, hear inspiring stories, or talk with organizations leading the charge for women to lead. We’ll look at the different topics from different generational perspectives as my daughters, a Millennial and a Gen Z, will join me, a Boomer, from time to time. We hope to make you laugh and leave inspired as you hear our voices on this very important topic.

  1. 4d ago

    326. SOUND BITE: Conflict Resolution: Is Intention Enough?

    What happens when we’re in conflict with someone who sees things very differently than we do? This Sound Bite (8:41) was inspired by Yo’s conversation with Charlotte Reed, who talked about approaching disagreement with grace—listening to people’s lived experiences and considering the possibility that they may believe they’re trying to do the right thing, too. That got Yo thinking about something she’s been exploring in her own life: Intention. It’s easy to say we have good intentions. But is intention enough? What if being intentional in conflict means becoming more aware of what matters to us, getting curious about what may matter to the other person, and then choosing actions that reflect our values? In this reflection, Yo explores: Why we naturally gravitate toward people who see the world as we doWhat happens when differences move to the center of a relationshipThe difference between intention and intentional actionWhether we can respect someone’s intention without agreeing with their conclusionWhy curiosity about the other person isn’t enough—we also need to examine ourselvesThe uncomfortable question: Do I want to understand—or do I want to win? A Question to Take With You Maybe good intentions aren’t enough. But perhaps they give us somewhere to begin. When I’m in conflict with someone, can I get curious about their intention while also getting clear about my own? Listen to the Conversation That Inspired This Sound Bite 🎧 Episode 325 — Leading with Grace: Making Space for Different Views with Charlotte Reed ▶️ Watch Episode 325 on YouTube Connect with Girl, Take the Lead! 🌐 Website: www.girltaketheleadpod.com🎧 Listen: www.girltaketheleadpod.com/listen▶️ YouTube: @GirlTaketheLead📸 Instagram: @yocanny💼 LinkedIn: Yo Canny📘 Facebook Group: Girl, Take the Lead!

    326. SOUND BITE: Conflict Resolution: Is Intention Enough?
  2. 6d ago

    325. Leading with Grace: Making Space for Different Views with Charlotte Reed

    What happens when we step toward disagreement instead of away from it? In this episode of Girl, Take the Lead!, Yo talks with Charlotte Reed, a communications professional, community organizer, and candidate for Menlo Park City Council, District 4, in California. Charlotte’s path to public service grew from a lifelong commitment to service—and from seeing what can happen when neighbors who care deeply about their community begin talking past one another. During one particularly difficult City Council meeting, Charlotte found herself thinking: there has to be a better way. That experience helped move her toward running for office and toward a leadership approach grounded in listening, communication, and finding common ground. Charlotte shares how she approaches people whose views may be very different from her own. Rather than beginning with disagreement, she tries to remember that we each bring our own lived experiences, information, and values to a conversation. In this episode: The conversation explores what it means to lead with grace without expecting everyone to agree. We also talk about something Charlotte has learned from knocking on thousands of doors and talking with people throughout her community: Sometimes leadership is simply about showing up. How a commitment to service led Charlotte toward public officeThe connection between communication, storytelling, and leadershipWhat she’s learned from talking with thousands of people in her communityListening and finding commonality when views differWhy showing up mattersHope, community, and rebuilding trustSeparating outcomes from our worthCharlotte’s reminder: “What’s meant for you won’t miss you.”Why serious work still needs moments that make us laugh About Charlotte Reed: Charlotte combines a career in corporate communications with years of community service. She has led growth initiatives at multi-billion-dollar companies and has been a Junior League member for nearly a decade, helping build connections with elected officials and nonprofit partners around housing, food, and other community needs. She holds a BA in Public Relations and Strategic Communication from American University, with a minor in Spanish Language and a certificate in Spanish Translation, and is a 2026 graduate of the Emerge California political candidate training program. Connect with Charlotte 🌐 Website: charlotteformenlopark.com💙 Campaign donations: Charlotte Reed campaign donation page📸 Instagram: @thecharlottereed💼 Facebook: Charlotte Reed▶️ TikTok: @thecharlottereed🧵 Threads: @thecharlottereed🦋 Bluesky: Charlotte Reed This Week’s Sound Bite Charlotte’s approach to disagreement left Yo thinking about intention. What happens when we enter conflict curious about another person’s intention—and equally willing to examine our own? Conflict Resolution: Is Intention Enough? Connect with Girl, Take the Lead! 🌐 Website: www.girltaketheleadpod.com🎧 Listen: www.girltaketheleadpod.com/listen▶️ YouTube: @GirlTaketheLead📸 Instagram: @yocanny💼 LinkedIn: Yo Canny📘 Facebook Group: Girl, Take the Lead!

    325. Leading with Grace: Making Space for Different Views with Charlotte Reed
  3. Sep 24

    324. SOUND BITE: Caring for Ourselves: What Can Get in the Way?

    What does it really mean to care for ourselves? This Sound Bite (9:17) was inspired by my recent conversation with Riana Malia, where we talked about love, identity, the patterns we carry, and what can happen when we get clear about who we are and what we want. I initially thought this reflection would be about loving ourselves. But the more I sat with it, the more I wondered whether loving ourselves and caring for ourselves are quite the same thing. We may love ourselves and still push through when we're tired. We may recognize what we need and still have trouble giving it to ourselves. We may be wonderful at caring for other people while finding it much harder to receive care—or even to accept where we are without immediately trying to fix or improve something. For me, that connects to my own patterns around achievement and to something I discovered when I took Riana's Extraordinary Love Index™: my pattern was “She Carries.” I've spent much of my life being the person who figures things out, gets things done, and carries what needs carrying. Those qualities have served me well. But I'm beginning to wonder whether caring for ourselves sometimes asks something different of us. Before we can care for ourselves, perhaps we first have to pay attention to ourselves—and accept what we notice. In This Sound Bite, I Explore: The difference between loving ourselves and caring for ourselvesHow achievement can sometimes get in the way of careWhy accepting where we are may need to come before trying to change itThe messages and beliefs we may carry without realizing itHow someone else's “no” can make us wonder about the voices we've begun carrying as our ownWhy care isn't always about doing what feels goodWhat it can mean to allow someone else to care for usLearning to ask not “How do I fix this?” but “What do I need?” A Question to Consider Because caring for ourselves doesn't have to become one more thing to achieve. Maybe it begins with meeting ourselves where we are—with attention, acceptance, and kindness. What do I need right now—and can I accept that need without judging myself for having it? Mentioned in This Episode Episode 323: Clear the Story, Create the Life: Who Are You Becoming? with Riana Malia Take the Extraordinary Love Index™:https://www.taketheeli.com/ Connect with Riana Malia:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rianamalia/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RianaMalia/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rianamalia/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@rianamalia Coming Next Next time, I welcome a very special guest, Charlotte Reed. Charlotte brings together two worlds that don't always get talked about in the same conversation: a corporate career leading growth initiatives and years of community activism focused on needs including affordable housing, food, and essential provisions for individuals and families. We'll talk about leadership, community, and what she's learned about bringing together the people and priorities needed to create meaningful impact. She's a living example of bravery, courage, and inspiration—and I think you're going to enjoy meeting her. Connect with Girl, Take the Lead! Website: https://girltaketheleadpod.comYouTube: @GirlTakeTheLeadLinkedIn: Yolanda “Yo” CannyInstagram: @girltaketheleadpodFacebook: Girl, Take the Lead!Pinterest: Girl, Take the Lead! 🎧 Listen wherever you enjoy podcasts.

    324. SOUND BITE: Caring for Ourselves: What Can Get in the Way?
  4. Sep 22

    323. Clear the Story, Create the Life: Who Are You Becoming? with Riana Malia

    What if understanding our patterns isn't the same as changing them? In this episode of Girl, Take the Lead!, I talk with Riana Malia, a Board-Certified Integrative Neurosomatic Practitioner and identity architect for high-achieving women. Riana's own journey—and the work that grew from it—invites us to look at the stories and patterns we carry, what can keep us repeating them even when we understand them, and the role clarity can play in creating something different. As Riana puts it: “We have to clear the story to create the life.” We explore her approach of Clear, Create, Claim and some deceptively simple questions: Who are you now? What do you want? And what happens when beliefs like I can't have it, I don't deserve it, I'm not worthy, or I'm too old make those questions difficult to answer? I also get a little vulnerable in this conversation. Before we recorded, I took Riana's Extraordinary Love Index™, a 30-question assessment designed to identify patterns that may be influencing our relationships. My result? “She Carries.” That one landed. I've spent much of my life being the person who takes care of things, figures things out, and carries more than I probably need to. In This Episode, We Explore: Riana's personal journey and how it shaped the work she does todayThe difference between understanding a pattern and actually changing itHer Clear, Create, Claim frameworkWhy getting clear about our values, desires, and non-negotiables mattersThe beliefs that can make it difficult to name what we really wantThe Extraordinary Love Index™ and my “She Carries” patternWhy high-achieving women may be particularly comfortable carrying and managingWhat it can mean to allow someone else to step forwardReceiving care rather than always being the one providing itWhat Riana would tell her 20-something self todayThe Brave Butterfly card she chose and its connection to transformation Three Takeaways 1. Knowing our patterns isn't necessarily the same as changing them.Understanding where something came from and why we do what we do can be valuable—but awareness may be the beginning rather than the end of change. 2. Clarity matters.Before we can create something different, we have to allow ourselves to ask what we actually want—not what we think we should want, what we've learned to accept, or what we believe is available to us. 3. Being capable doesn't mean we have to carry everything.There can be strength in letting someone else step forward, allowing ourselves to receive rather than manage, and sometimes deciding that something doesn't need to be carried at all. About Riana Malia Riana Malia is a Board-Certified Integrative Neurosomatic Practitioner and identity architect for high-achieving women who have built extraordinary lives but are seeking love that matches them. She is the creator of The Extraordinary Love Method™ and the Extraordinary Love Index™ and has spent the past decade working with hundreds of clients. Riana has appeared on more than 100 podcasts and is the author of The Last Piece on Substack. Take the Extraordinary Love Index™ https://www.taketheeli.com/ Connect with Riana Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rianamalia/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RianaMalia/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rianamalia/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@rianamalia Coming Next Our conversation left me thinking about one more question. We talk a lot about loving ourselves. But how well do we actually care for ourselves? And what can make that difficult—especially when we're accustomed to achieving, carrying, fixing, and taking care of everyone else? That's where I'll go in the next Sound Bite: Caring for Ourselves: What Can Get in the Way? Connect with Girl, Take the Lead! Website: https://girltaketheleadpod.comYouTube: @GirlTakeTheLeadLinkedIn: Yolanda “Yo” CannyInstagram: @girltaketheleadpodFacebook: Girl, Take the Lead!Pinterest: Girl, Take the Lead! 🎧 Listen wherever you enjoy podcasts.

    323. Clear the Story, Create the Life: Who Are You Becoming? with Riana Malia
  5. Sep 17

    322. SOUND BITE: Defensiveness: What Is It Trying to Tell Us? (9:14)

    What happens when someone says something about us—and before they’ve even finished speaking, we’re already preparing our defense? That’s not what I meant. That’s not what happened. You don’t understand. Defensiveness can show up quickly. We explain. We justify. We shut down. We counterattack. Or we become so focused on proving that we’re right that we stop listening. But what if defensiveness isn’t simply something we need to get rid of? What if it’s trying to tell us something? In this Sound Bite, inspired by my recent conversation with Kerry Siggins about hard conversations, feedback, and trust, I explore defensiveness through a different lens: not judgment, but curiosity. Our brains are designed to help protect us. And the things we perceive as threatening aren’t always physical. Feedback can bump up against our sense of competence, our intentions, our identity, our belonging—or an older story we carry about ourselves. That may be why a comment that seems relatively small can sometimes create such a big reaction. A Question to Consider Kerry offered a question in our conversation that got me thinking: Am I trying to be right—or am I willing to be curious? Because being curious doesn’t mean the other person is right. It doesn’t mean we have to accept everything someone says about us. And it doesn’t mean poorly delivered feedback suddenly becomes okay. It simply creates enough room for us to ask: Is there something here I can learn? This reflection also inspired the third Girl, Take the Lead! Reflection Panel: When DEFENSIVENESS shows up... PAUSE What am I protecting? Am I trying to be right? What can I learn? How do I want to respond? That last question matters. The PAUSE Because the goal isn’t to never feel defensive. The goal may be to notice when it happens—and create enough space between the feeling and our response to choose what comes next. Maybe we own something. Maybe we apologize. Maybe we ask another question. Maybe we clarify what we meant. Maybe we ask for time to process. And sometimes, after considering what we’ve heard, we may decide that the feedback simply doesn’t belong to us. Receiving feedback doesn’t require accepting all of it. It asks us to be willing to examine it. The Girl, Take the Lead! Reflection Panels are handmade reminders designed to help us pause, reflect, and get curious when familiar feelings or patterns show up. You can find the Reflection Panels and other handmade cards in the Girl, Take the Lead! shop: Girl, Take the Lead! Shop The next time defensiveness shows up, instead of judging it or immediately acting on it, what might happen if you ask: What is this trying to tell me? Listen to the Conversation That Inspired This Sound Bite 321. Hard Conversations: Clarity, Kindness, and Trust with Kerry Siggins Available on Girl, Take the Lead! wherever you enjoy podcasts. Connect with Girl, Take the Lead! Website: girltaketheleadpod.comYouTube: Girl, Take the Lead!LinkedIn: Yolanda “Yo” CannyInstagram: @girltaketheleadpodFacebook: Girl, Take the Lead!Pinterest: Girl, Take the Lead! Coming Next Next time, I’m joined by Riana Malia, an identity architect for high-achieving women who’ve built extraordinary lives—except for the thing they may want most: love that matches them. Riana is a Board-Certified Integrative Neurosomatic Practitioner and creator of the Extraordinary Love Method™ and Extraordinary Love Index™. And yes—I took the Index myself. We’ll explore the patterns we may carry into love and relationships, what those patterns may be trying to protect, and what can happen when we begin to see them more clearly.

    322. SOUND BITE: Defensiveness: What Is It Trying to Tell Us? (9:14)
  6. Sep 15

    321. Hard Conversations: Clarity, Kindness, and Trust with Kerry Siggins

    What makes a hard conversation so hard? Sometimes it’s what we need to say. Sometimes it’s what we’re afraid we’ll hear. And sometimes it’s the story we’ve already told ourselves about what will happen if we speak honestly. In this episode of Girl, Take the Lead!, I’m joined by Kerry Siggins, CEO of StoneAge and author of Talk with Trust: How to Own Feedback, Spark Growth, and Build Stronger Teams. And we begin the conversation a little differently—with three deep breaths. It’s a practice Kerry uses with her own team to help people become more present before stepping into the work ahead. And it turns out to be a fitting way to begin a conversation about feedback, trust, emotional reactions, and the courage it takes to say what needs to be said. Kerry shares her SHARES model for approaching difficult conversations with greater clarity, curiosity, and intention. We explore why trust is at the heart of meaningful feedback, why being direct and being kind aren’t opposites, and why we’re responsible for how we show up in a conversation—but not for controlling the other person’s response. We also talk about what happens when we’re on the receiving end of feedback. Kerry shares a painful experience when someone close to her told her she was “erratic” and difficult to work for. Her first reaction was anger. She wanted to defend herself. Instead, she gave herself time and eventually asked a powerful question: What can I own in this feedback? That question helped her separate the way the feedback was delivered from what might still be useful for her to hear. I share a difficult feedback experience from my own corporate career, and together Kerry and I look at what might have changed if curiosity had been part of that conversation. Throughout our discussion, we return to the power of the pause—giving ourselves space when we’re triggered rather than immediately defending, explaining, or reacting. Kerry challenges us to consider: Am I trying to be right—or accurate?Right—or curious?Right—or influential? Because hard conversations aren’t just workplace conversations. These skills matter with our partners, our children, our friends, our neighbors—and anyone with whom we want to build trust. In this episode, we explore: Why trust is at the heart of giving and receiving feedbackKerry’s SHARES framework for hard conversationsWhy clarity and kindness belong togetherThe difference between describing behavior and judging someone personallyWhat defensiveness may be trying to protectWhy curiosity can change the direction of a difficult conversationHow taking a pause can help us respond rather than reactWhat we are—and aren’t—responsible for in another person’s reactionThe often-overlooked consequences of not having the conversationWhy feedback can still contain something useful even when it isn’t delivered well About Kerry Siggins In 2023, Kerry was named an EY Entrepreneur Of The Year and Colorado CEO of the Year. She is a speaker, podcast host, and contributor to Forbes and Entrepreneur. She is the author of The Ownership Mindset: A Handbook for Transforming Your Life and Leadership and Talk with Trust: How to Own Feedback, Spark Growth, and Build Stronger Teams. Connect with Kerry Website: kerrysiggins.comLinkedIn: Kerry SigginsYouTube: Kerry SigginsPodcast: The Kerry Siggins PodcastBooks: The Ownership Mindset and Talk with Trust Connect with Girl, Take the Lead! Website: girltaketheleadpod.comYouTube: Girl, Take the Lead!LinkedIn: Yolanda “Yo” CannyInstagram: @girltaketheleadpodFacebook: Girl, Take the Lead!Pinterest: Girl, Take the Lead! Listen to Girl, Take the Lead! wherever you enjoy podcasts. A question to consider Is there a conversation you’ve been avoiding—and what might be the cost of not having it?

    321. Hard Conversations: Clarity, Kindness, and Trust with Kerry Siggins
  7. Sep 10

    320. SOUND BITE: Why Do I Keep Doing This? Patterns, Beliefs & Change

    Why can our own patterns be so difficult to see? You might think repetition would make them obvious. But what if repetition does the opposite—making our patterns feel so familiar that we stop noticing them? In this Sound Bite (12:56), Yo reflects on her recent conversation with Broadway actress, author, and success coach Leslie Becker about limiting beliefs and Leslie’s Gotcha Exercise. That conversation led Yo to wonder about the patterns that keep showing up in our lives. Maybe we keep taking responsibility for everything. Maybe we avoid asking for help. Maybe we say yes and then feel resentful. Maybe we become defensive when someone questions us. Each individual experience may have a perfectly reasonable explanation. But what happens when we stop looking at them separately and ask: What keeps repeating here? Yo explores how a recurring pattern may point us toward beliefs we haven't recognized yet—and how those beliefs and patterns can begin reinforcing one another. If I believe I have to take care of everything myself, I may not ask for help. Then I end up taking care of everything myself. And suddenly I have more evidence for the belief: See? I knew I couldn't depend on anyone. Round and round we go. In This Sound Bite: Why repetition can actually make our patterns harder to seeHow the circumstances can change while our roles, reactions, or emotions remain familiarThe question: Who do I keep becoming when this happens?Why finding the belief underneath a pattern can take some diggingHow Yo uses journaling to move beneath the explanation or story she already knowsByron Katie’s invitation to question what we believe: Is it true?How beliefs and patterns may reinforce one anotherWhy recognizing a pattern doesn't mean we've changed itHow awareness can create enough space for a different choiceWhy compassionate curiosity may be more useful than judgmentThe quieter bravery involved in looking honestly at ourselves As Yo reflects: We can't question a belief we haven't found.And we can't change a pattern we can't see. Maybe the first step isn't asking ourselves what we need to change. Maybe it's simply becoming curious about what keeps showing up. A Question to Consider: What keeps repeating in your life—and what might it be asking you to see? Coming Next on Girl, Take the Lead! Yo’s next guest is Kerry Siggins, CEO of StoneAge and author of Talk with Trust: How to Own Feedback, Spark Growth, and Build Stronger Teams. Kerry and Yo explore feedback, trust, difficult conversations, and the courage it takes not only to say what needs to be said—but to hear it. Kerry also shares her SHARES model for navigating difficult conversations, while she and Yo consider another kind of pattern worth noticing: What happens inside us when feedback makes us defensive? Can we notice the reaction, pause, and stay in the conversation rather than protect ourselves from what we're hearing? Until then, remember: Leadership takes bravery—and sometimes bravery begins with seeing the patterns we've learned not to see.

    320. SOUND BITE: Why Do I Keep Doing This? Patterns, Beliefs & Change
  8. Sep 8

    319. The Brave Life: Moving Beyond the Beliefs We Carry with Leslie Becker

    What if bravery isn’t something you’re born with? What if it’s something you choose? In this episode of Girl, Take the Lead!, I’m joined by Broadway actress, bestselling author, success coach, and host of the Unstoppably Creative Podcast, Leslie Becker, for a conversation about the beliefs we carry—and the bravery it can take to question them. Leslie spent years believing she simply wasn’t brave. Her sister, she thought, had gotten the “brave gene.” She also loved acting but was afraid to claim it as a career, convinced she wasn’t good at auditions and unsure she could actually make a living doing what she loved. Eventually, she began to see those thoughts for what they were: beliefs, not facts. That opened up a conversation between us about the stories we tell ourselves, where those stories come from, and how easily they can become part of our identity without our even realizing it. Leslie uses the metaphor of a coat—a role or belief we put on because of our experiences, expectations, or what others have told us about who we are. We can wear that coat for so long that we forget to ask: Is this actually mine? Sometimes we have to walk down a path before we can recognize that it isn’t ours. And maybe that recognition is part of living a brave life. In this conversation, we explore: Why bravery may be a choice rather than a personality traitHow limiting beliefs can quietly become part of our identityLeslie’s “Gotcha Exercise” for catching the conversations we repeatedly have with ourselvesWhy replacing an old belief requires practice—not a one-and-done affirmationHow to ask, Where did this belief come from? Is it mine or someone else’s?Why transitions can force us to reconsider who we are nowThe bravery required to admit when a path no longer belongs to usWhy creativity exists in all of us—even if we don’t consider ourselves “creative”How our creative gifts can find expression through art, business, problem-solving, performance, or simply the way we liveWhat it means to become unstoppably creative, even when we’re scaredAnd when I ask Leslie what she would tell her 20-something self, her answer brings us right back to where we began: You are way more brave than you realize you are. About Leslie Becker Leslie Becker is a Broadway actress of 25 years, bestselling author of The Organized Actor®, host of the Unstoppably Creative Podcast, and a top success coach for creatives. With a 30-year career in the industry, Leslie has consistently offered books, courses, coaching, and digital tools for actors and entrepreneurs while continuing her own unstoppably creative journey. Whether helping entrepreneurs grow their businesses or bringing bold, creative experiences to light, Leslie is a force to help others build a business and a life that is unapologetically their own. Connect with Leslie Website:https://lesliebecker.com The Organized Actor®:https://organizedactor.com Free Gotcha Exercise Guide:https://lesliebecker.com/landing/gotcha-exercise Instagram:https://instagram.com/thelesliebecker LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/thelesliebecker/ Pinterest:https://www.pinterest.com/thelesliebecker YouTube / Unstoppably Creative:https://www.youtube.com/@unstoppablycreative Email: Leslie@LeslieBecker.com Leslie’s Upcoming Fetching Water Concert Leslie is continuing her own unstoppably creative journey with Fetching Water, a musical she wrote with collaborator Michael Hunsaker. On September 12 in Nashville, Leslie will present a 45-minute concert presentation of songs from the musical at Analog at the Hutton Hotel. Concert Information & Tickets:https://www.analognashville.com/events/nmtn-presents-the-first-stage-3/ Follow Fetching Water on Instagram:https://instagram.com/fetchingwaterthemusical Three Takeaways 1. Bravery isn’t necessarily something we have. It’s something we practice. 2. Not every belief we carry belongs to us. 3. Creativity doesn’t disappear just because we stop calling ourselves creative.

    319. The Brave Life: Moving Beyond the Beliefs We Carry with Leslie Becker
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Each week we explore Womanhood and Leadership with the goal to question the status quo and challenge our thinking so we celebrate every woman as a leader. Our episodes will interview leaders in the field, meet authors, explore books on the subject, hear inspiring stories, or talk with organizations leading the charge for women to lead. We’ll look at the different topics from different generational perspectives as my daughters, a Millennial and a Gen Z, will join me, a Boomer, from time to time. We hope to make you laugh and leave inspired as you hear our voices on this very important topic.