Do you know what to do when your spouse is angry at you? Christian marriage coach, pastor, and police chaplain Kelly DuPée uses a simple picture — the water bucket and the gasoline bucket — to show why most of us make an angry moment worse without even realizing it, and gives you seven biblical steps to respond instead of react.In this video you will learn:* Why your brain treats a spouse's anger as a threat, and what that does to your response* The difference between the "gasoline bucket" (defensiveness, shutting down) and the "water bucket" (a gentle answer)* Seven practical steps to respond, not react, when your spouse is upset — including calling a time-out the right way* How to listen to understand, repeat back what you heard, and empathize before you speak* The five Rs of an effective apology: repeat, responsibility, remorse, repent, and request forgivenessWhether your marriage is dealing with a recurring blowup or you just want to handle conflict with more wisdom, this video will give you a practical, faith-based path to putting the fire out for good.📖 Scriptures referenced: Proverbs 15:1, James 1:19, Proverbs 29:11, Proverbs 18:13, Romans 12:15, Proverbs 20:5, Matthew 5:23-24, James 5:16📞 For personalized help, book your free 30-minute strategy call — visit turnitup.coach or call or text 626-804-1731 or schedule online at https://tidycal.com/kdupee1/30-minute-strategy-call📘 Get your free digital copy of my book, Turn It Up — How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want: https://turnitup.coach/75📩 Download my free Couples Communication Guide: https://www.turnitup.coach/communicationguide🎥 Watch my video on Apologizing Using the Five Rs: https://youtu.be/kKUgGgV2M9cKelly DuPée is a Christian marriage coach, ordained pastor, and author who helps couples avoid the pain of divorce so they can have the marriage God wants them to have. He holds a Master's degree in theology and a Bachelor's degree in psychology — offering both biblically grounded and research-based solutions. After 35 years as a megachurch associate pastor, Kelly stepped into full-time coaching while continuing as an ordained pastor and active police chaplain. His chaplaincy work has equipped him to help couples process trauma, de-escalate conflict, communicate effectively, and grieve loss. Married to Carrie for almost 39 years, he has coached hundreds of couples across the US and internationally.#christianmarriage #christianmarriagecoach #marriageadvice #conflictresolution #angermanagement #christiancouples #marriagehelp #biblicalmarriage #gentleanswer #healthycommunication
