The Conscious Couples Podcast

Alan Lazaros and Emilia Smith
  • 3.3 (12)
  • Relationships
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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your host Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this podcast, we share our life, love story & combined relationship expertise to help you create & consistently cultivate the most magnificent intimate relationship possible. Never again will you feel hopeless and alone in facing your intimate relationship challenges. Having accumulated thousands of hours coaching conscious couples & individuals all over the world, as well as starting & growing a global business together, we are here to guide you on all things relationships. Thank you again for tuning into the one place where it’s not about you, or me, it’s about The We!

  1. 2d ago

    Are You And Your Partner More Active Or Sedentary? (236)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #62 on Wednesday, August 19th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "Declutter Your Relationship & Eliminate Overwhelm" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/wSr3TBv_R5SjEH6HzVT84A Fitness is forever, it's a lifestyle. Get jacked and join the Next Level Fitness Accountability Group - https://chat.whatsapp.com/E0qd4j9CjByAfwWywJW8w0?mode=gi_t 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ Your lifestyle shapes your relationship. In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan talk about how active and sedentary habits can affect your energy, connection, mindset, and future as a couple. They share why partners often mirror each other’s routines and how too much sitting, stress, and low energy can quietly pull a relationship off track. You’ll hear simple ways to build more movement into everyday life, create meaningful time together outside, and make healthier choices without trying to change everything at once. Whether you are in a relationship or building habits as a single person, this episode offers a clear reminder that small actions can create lasting change. Make your next step one you take together. Show notes: (2:13) Active or sedentary relationship? (5:20) How shared habits shape health (8:03) Exercise supports mood and self-respect (10:28) Small movement creates meaningful change (12:21) Walks build connection and conversation (17:23) Audit habits with your partner (19:23) Start small and stay consistent (23:42) Outro Watch this episode on YouTube to see the WALL-E images/clips: https://youtu.be/Y80FUycWizQ ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  2. Aug 10

    What is Your Partner's Willingness Score? (235)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #62 on Wednesday, August 19th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "Declutter Your Relationship & Eliminate Overwhelm" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/wSr3TBv_R5SjEH6HzVT84A 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down the willingness score and why it can shape the future of your relationship. When one partner wants more than they are willing to work for, it can create stress, resentment, and conflict around love, money, goals, and daily responsibilities. Emilia and Alan explain the difference between healthy ambition and entitlement, how social media can raise unrealistic expectations, and why shared dreams require shared effort. They also reveal key signs of high and low willingness, helping conscious couples and singles take a more honest look at their habits, mindset, and ability to grow together. Show notes: (2:00) What your partner’s willingness score means (3:03) The three levels of willingness (7:41) Taking steps back to move forward (11:37) Wanting outcomes versus doing the work (14:03) How mismatched willingness affects couples (16:37) Social media raises unrealistic expectations (18:22) Clear signs of high willingness (21:24) Red flags for low willingness (23:17) Outro ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  3. Aug 3

    Which Partner is More Impulsive? (234)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #62 on Wednesday, August 19th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "Declutter Your Relationship & Eliminate Overwhelm" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/wSr3TBv_R5SjEH6HzVT84A 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Inside Out Program: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ Could one quick choice quietly hurt your relationship? In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan reveal how impulsive habits around spending, food, social media, and everyday choices can create stress, debt, and distance between partners. They explain why delayed gratification matters for trust, money, health, and the future you are building together. You will hear how to spot your personal “kryptonite,” talk about impulse control without blame, and create more teamwork around the choices that affect both people. This conversation is for conscious couples and singles who want stronger habits, clearer boundaries, and a relationship that supports their biggest goals. Before your next impulse gets same-day shipping, hit play and give your future relationship a vote. Show notes: (1:55) Which partner is more impulsive? (3:54) Why adults must delay gratification (8:40) Quick wants Vs. Wise choices (14:17) Talk together before major purchases (18:25) Create a safe space to talk (23:17) Find your impulse triggers together (27:43) Outro Digital Asset: The Marshmallow Test Audiobook - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ZllpyD3XDBnc_SzGTKznLjlJ3OrIFtPl/view The We Dictionary: Raise Your Standards - A call to action within the conscious couples community to choose "clarity over comfort" and stop repeating the same cycles.Relational Safety - The foundation for "Lasting connection" and "Trust," essential for navigating "Conflict repair" and fostering deep intimacy.Emotional Maturity - A key component for a "Partnership built to last," emphasizing honest reflection, responsibility, and the ability to engage in adult relationships.Honest Reflection - A practice integral to emotional maturity and honest awareness, crucial for identifying "Limiting beliefs" and facilitating personal and relational growth. ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  4. Jul 27

    Is There a Self-Worth Gap in Your Relationship? (233)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #62 on Wednesday, August 19th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "Declutter Your Relationship & Eliminate Overwhelm" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/wSr3TBv_R5SjEH6HzVT84A 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Session: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ What you tolerate reflects your self-worth. In this episode, Emilia and Alan talk about how a self-worth gap can affect the standards you keep, the red flags you may overlook, and the needs that can feel hard to say out loud. For conscious couples and singles, this conversation connects self-respect with healthy boundaries, honest communication, and learning to trust your own inner voice. They also break down the difference between self-worth that comes from within and validation that depends on other people’s approval, success, or appearance. A healthier relationship often begins with the way you treat yourself when no one else is watching. Choose one truth you have been avoiding and give it a voice today. Show notes: (2:18) Self-worth gap in your relationship (5:10) Ignoring red flags and your intuition (7:07) Intrinsic Vs. Extrinsic self-worth explained (11:43) Daily ways to build self-respect (13:20) Self-advocacy gives self-worth a voice (16:20) How to assess your self-worth (24:54) Self-worth gaps that show in relationships (30:30) Outro ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  5. Jul 20

    Have You Lost Belief in Your Dream Relationship? (232)

    🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Session: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #62 on Wednesday, August 19th, 2026, at 06:00 p.m. ET, "Declutter Your Relationship & Eliminate Overwhelm" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/wSr3TBv_R5SjEH6HzVT84A ____________________________ In today’s episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros speak to conscious couples and singles who have lost faith in their dream relationship. After breakups, divorce, or painful patterns, it can feel safer to expect disappointment than to believe love can be different. Emilia and Alan share why your past does not have to decide your future. They discuss how belief shapes your choices, what you invest in, and whether you stay open to healthier love. Learn how to build relationship skills, get clear on your values, and recognize the difference between healthy hope and denial. Show notes: (2:14) Why past failures create self-doubt (5:01) Growth changes your relationship future (7:08) Belief helps you see new options (11:50) Create clear partner and self-values (15:17) The belief and investment loop (17:10) Real growth takes patience and skill (20:43) When should you stop investing? (21:26) Denial Vs. Healthy relationship hope (22:13) Learn signs of emotional abuse (23:47) Outro The We Dictionary: Failing Forward - A concept encouraging growth through mistakes and using challenges as opportunities for "Honest reflection" and learning.Limiting Beliefs - Unconscious assumptions and narratives that hinder "Emotional maturity" and prevent the cultivation of a "Partnership built to last."Quick Fixes - Contrasted with the commitment and "Real effort" required for "Lasting connection" and a "Partnership built to last." ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  6. Jul 13

    Does Your Partner Struggle to Apologize? (231)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #61 on Thursday, July 16th, 2026, at 06:00 pm Eastern Time: "How to Increase Your Self-Worth & Standards in Your Relationship" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/q-VuVxvAQPKaoOPN_M1oWQ 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Session: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ What if one sincere apology could help your relationship feel safer, closer, and stronger? In this episode, Emilia and Alan discuss why heartfelt apologies are vital for trust, repair, and healthy communication. They explain why some people become defensive or shut down when they are asked to take ownership, and how shame, past experiences, and nervous system stress can make saying sorry feel so hard. You will also learn why both partners need to take responsibility for their part, how to begin with a small apology, and what real repair looks like after conflict. Whether you are in a relationship or preparing for one, this conversation offers practical guidance for building emotional safety and creating a healthier “we.” Show notes: (2:15) Why sincere apologies rebuild trust (7:31) Ownership helps couples grow together (11:09) Why nervous systems block apologies (16:17) Start with a small apology (18:50) Steps for a sincere apology (19:35) How shame causes defensiveness (23:07) Build stronger relationships through repair (25:40) Outro The We Dictionary: Relationship Talk Coaching - Coaching services mentioned to guide couples in developing "Emotional literacy" and practical "Relationship skills."Responsibility - A core principle emphasized in the podcast, especially in challenging narratives around "Emotional labor" and ensuring "shared responsibility."Conscious Parenting / Caregiving - Sharing the responsibility of caring for, developing & nurturing pets, children, or dependents with intention. Digital Asset: The Art of Apology - https://drive.google.com/file/d/11BB1YVvTpJJoFLMLsxAuOHU4Eu32e8n8/view ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  7. Jul 6

    What Core Beliefs Might Be Hurting Your Relationship? (230)

    📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #61 on Thursday, July 16th, 2026, at 06:00 pm Eastern Time: "How to Increase Your Self-Worth & Standards in Your Relationship" -  https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/q-VuVxvAQPKaoOPN_M1oWQ 🎁 Book your first free Relationship Talk Coaching Session: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 ____________________________ The fight underneath. In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan talk about what may be fueling conflict in your relationship, even when the argument seems small on the surface. For conscious couples and singles, this conversation looks at the hidden patterns that shape communication, trust, compatibility, self-worth, and emotional safety. They share why getting along is not the same as being aligned, how growth changes the way partners handle hard conversations, and what it means to protect your sense of self while still building something strong together. Bring one honest truth to the table, and let it change what happens next. Show notes: (2:30) Three types of core beliefs (5:38) When partners see life differently (8:31) How conflict reveals hidden beliefs (10:21) Compatibility is not always enough (14:21) Growth Vs. Painful compromise (18:03) Responsibility as a relationship belief (20:23) Core beliefs activity and support (23:02) Outro The We Dictionary: Emotional maturity - A key component for a "Partnership built to last," emphasizing honest reflection, responsibility, and the ability to engage in adult relationships.Relational Safety - The foundation for "Lasting connection" and "Trust," essential for navigating "Conflict repair" and fostering deep intimacy.Responsibility - A core principle emphasized in the podcast, especially in challenging narratives around "Emotional labor" and ensuring "shared responsibility".Breaking Autopilot (Operating on Autopilot) - Challenging familiar relationship stories and unconscious patterns to recognize behaviors that drain connection and intentionally choose healthier ways of relating.Conflict Repair - Strategies for effective communication and resolution during disagreements, emphasizing how to "Turn Conflict Into Connection."Relationship Skills - Practical frameworks and tools taught in "The We University" and "Relationship Talk Coaching" to develop "Emotional literacy" and foster healthy dynamics. Digital Asset: The Core Belief Audit - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1BObutQbcxNexDD5v0QHCEISuWr6UPUJU/view ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

  8. Jun 29

    The Type of Relationship Disconnect You Need to Know About (229)

    In this episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast, hosts Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros break down the relationship disconnects many couples miss, especially the words that come out when someone feels hurt, blamed, or misunderstood. They show how red button language like criticism, threats, shutdowns, character attacks, and “always” or “never” statements can turn one hard moment into lasting distance. You’ll hear why repair matters more than winning, how ownership changes the whole tone of a conversation, and how green button language helps couples return to honesty, care, and connection. For conscious couples and singles who want safer love and fewer emotional landmines, listen before your next “small” comment needs legal representation. Show notes: (2:28) Red button and green button language (5:51) Why conflict needs repair (7:48) Common red button examples (13:12) How language impacts your partner (16:26) Why ownership matters in love (22:37) Green button language examples (24:40) Outro The We Dictionary: Conscious Singles - A concept extending the podcast's philosophy to individuals who are "Grounding" and seeking to build "Lasting connection" in future "Conscious Couples" relationships.Failing Forward - A concept encouraging growth through mistakes and using challenges as opportunities for "Honest reflection" and learning. Digital Assets: 1. Green Button Language - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1EVNS8l72orod3PqOV7vSoO_Hl9sPiGYP/view?usp=drive_link 2. Red Button Language - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Dzw3CSFHBVSa0TpCVvu8tkD1Wr4Xx7lz/view?usp=drive_link Movie Reference: Anyone But You - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt26047818/ ____________________________ 🎁 Book Your First Free Relationship Talk Coaching Session: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching?back=1&month=2025-03 📅 Join the next free Relationship Talks Virtual Event #61 on Thursday, July 16th, 2026, at 06:00 pm Eastern Time: "How to Increase Your Self-Worth & Standards in Your Relationship" - https://us06web.zoom.us/meeting/register/q-VuVxvAQPKaoOPN_M1oWQ ____________________________ Follow us on Instagram: Emilia Smith: @evolvewithemilia Alan Lazaros: @alazaros88 *Email:* 💬 alan@theweuniversity.com emilia@theweuniversity.com Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com. Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with your host Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this podcast, we share our life, love story & combined relationship expertise to help you create & consistently cultivate the most magnificent intimate relationship possible. Never again will you feel hopeless and alone in facing your intimate relationship challenges. Having accumulated thousands of hours coaching conscious couples & individuals all over the world, as well as starting & growing a global business together, we are here to guide you on all things relationships. Thank you again for tuning into the one place where it’s not about you, or me, it’s about The We!

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  • Creator
    Alan Lazaros and Emilia Smith
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    237
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Conscious Couples Podcast
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