Pt. 2: "We'll Talk About Our Dreams, Never Our Feelings"Verone Percuku on Her Thesis, Sleep Hygiene, and Why the Balkans Fear Therapy Part two with Verone goes deeper into her actual thesis, Psychological and Cultural Dimensions of Dreams in the Balkans, why she chose the region, what the small Kosovo-based sample revealed, and why she's careful never to overclaim from a study this size. The dominant themes that came through were control, helplessness and social disorder rather than individual anxiety. We widen out into something every Balkan household will recognise, why people will happily chat about a strange dream over coffee, but the second you mention therapy, it's treated like an admission of being "crazy." Verone breaks down the stigma still sitting over mental health in Kosovo, why dreams feel safe to talk about and feelings don't. We also get practical: sleep hygiene, screen time, imagery rehearsal, and simple tools for remembering your dreams without needing a psychology degree. I share my mum's story of waking at 4am every morning for years without knowing why, until therapy connected it back to the exact time she fled during the war, and Verone unpacks what's actually happening there without romanticising "the body keeps the score." We close on where this research goes next, what her parents make of it all, and what she wants listeners to walk away with. Why Verone chose the Balkans for her thesis, sparked by a breakfast conversation with researchers from SerbiaLimitations of a small, mostly Kosovo-based sample, and why she avoids overclaiming from itDominant themes in the data: control, helplessness and social disorder, not individual anxietyWhy so many participants dropped off just trying to remember and log their dreamsIvana's mum waking at 4am for years, and how therapy linked it to the exact time the family fled during the warWhy "the body keeps the score" is a good starting point but not the full pictureHow ongoing hardship and financial stress shape dreaming, not just single traumatic eventsPractical tools for better sleep and dream recall: journaling, voice notes, imagery rehearsal, less screen time before bedWhy some people struggle to fall asleep at all, and why sleep issues deserve individual, professional attentionWhy people will talk about a strange dream over coffee, but therapy still carries deep stigmaThe disconnect between being open about dreams and resistant to talking about feelings directlyWhat her parents made of her research, and explaining that psychology wasn't going to look like a private clinicWhere she sees this work going next, and her hopes for mental health in KosovoWhat she wants listeners to take away: get curious about your inner world, and don't fear an unconventional path "The body's not a second brain, there are no footage of memories being stored in our body." "People are more willing to say 'I saw a bad dream' than to say 'I need to talk about my feelings,' because the dream feels unrelated to reality." Verone Percuku is a Clinical and Community Psychology graduate from the University of Prishtina, born in Vushtrri, Kosovo. She's worked across mental health, education and civil society in Kosovo, including as Mental Health Projects Manager and later Vice Director at the Centre for Psycho-Social and Medical Research, and as an Educational Psychologist at BONEVET Prishtina. Her Master's thesis, Psychological and Cultural Dimensions of Dreams in the Balkans, explored dream content, personality, culture and history across the region. Instagram: instagram.com/verone.percukuFacebook: facebook.com/veronepercukuLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/veronë-perçuku Referenced in This Episode • Imagery Rehearsal Therapy: verywellmind.com/imagery-rehearsal-therapy-2797304 • Dr. Nancy McWilliams: nancymcwilliams.com If Part 1 and 2 hit home, share them with a Balkan sister who needs to hear it, and leave a review, it genuinely helps more of us find each other.