Talking Away the Taboo with Dr. Aimee Baron

Dr. Aimee Baron

Talking Away the Taboo is the podcast for anyone in the Jewish community struggling to have a child and is seeking a place for emotional support and comfort. It is a show that will help you learn while validating your feelings and processing the hardship and to teach everyone else to be more sensitive. Each week, Dr. Aimee Baron and her guests will be talking away the taboo of infertility, pregnancy loss, infant loss, surrogacy, adoption and more. Your best friend just had a stillbirth and you don't know what to say? This is the space for you. We laugh, we cry and we challenge the Jewish community to think differently about a topic that has for so long been shrouded in secrecy and shame. Join us on the wild, unpredictable, and gut-wrenching journey of creating a family. Follow I Was Supposed To Have A Baby on Instagram and TikTok at @iwassupposedtohaveababy. To find out more about I Was Supposed To Have A Baby, visit our website at iwassupposedtohaveababy.org

  1. 5d ago

    205. Intimacy, Halacha, and Privacy with Dr. Lauren Hofstatter, LMHC, PhD

    In this episode, Dr. Baron sits down with Dr. Lauren Hofstatter, a clinical therapist often known as "the orthodox therapist," to unpack the complex realities of how Jewish couples navigate intimacy, marriage, and fertility through a traditional lens while protecting the privacy of their relationships. Dr. Hofstatter shares her insights from her popular, anonymous social media platform where community members submit questions from marital discord to sexual health concerns that they feel unable to ask anywhere else. She discusses the unique intersection between clinical training and strict Torah values. She emphasizes the necessity of bridging patients to trusted rabbis for Halachic queries, and the emotional weight that comes with being a support to others . The conversation explores the heavy emotional toll of fertility struggles on partnerships. From the hazards of over-sharing your marriage with casual friends to the pain of public pregnancy announcements, this episode offers an honest look at how to protect your relationship when community expectations become overwhelming. About Dr. Lauren Hofstatter, LMHC, PhD : Dr Lauren Hofstatter, LMHC, PhD, is a licensed mental health counselor based in Boca Raton, Florida, specializing in work with adult women and couples within the Orthodox Jewish community. She integrates clinical expertise in sex therapy with a deep understanding of Torah values, offering culturally sensitive support around intimacy, relationships, anxiety, trauma, and sexual health. Lauren is the founder of The Orthodox Therapist and is passionate about providing clear, modest, and shame-reducing education that promotes emotional connection and marital well-being. Connect with Dr. Lauren Hofstatter, LMHC, PhD : Instagram‍ Email‍ ‍Website Connect with us: Website‍ ‍Instagram - send us a message YouTube‍ ‍Facebook‍ ‍TikTok‍ ‍LinkedIn‍ ‍

    1h 18m
  2. Jun 4

    204. Family Reimagined with with Rabbi Megan and Paige GoldMarche

    In this episode, Dr. Baron sits down with Rabbi Megan and Paige GoldMarche, a dedicated couple working within the Jewish communal space, to discuss the deeply personal and complex realities of their family-building journey. Together, they share the emotional, physical, and financial hurdles of facing infertility as a queer couple while holding a profound desire to build their future family. Megan and Paige reflect on the early days of their relationship, tracing the path from their initial meeting at a Shabbat dinner to a shared realization that they wanted to build a life together. Driven by a poignant sense of urgency tied to family health history and a deep desire for their future children to know their grandparents, they set out with a clear timeline. However, their plans were quickly challenged by the clinical realities of donor selection, expensive medical protocols, and the physical toll of consecutive unsuccessful intrauterine inseminations (IUIs). The conversation also explores the complex logistics unique to family building in LGBTQ+, including navigating insurance gaps, utilizing the open healthcare marketplace for secondary coverage, and shifting from local sperm banks to larger cryobanks in search of matching backgrounds. As the journey progressed from IUIs into the world of IVF, the physical and emotional burdens mounted for both partners. This episode captures the heart-wrenching moment of finally receiving a positive pregnancy test, only to immediately face the agonizing anxiety of non-doubling beta numbers and the impending grief of early loss. If you are navigating the heavy intersecting roads of LGBTQ+ family building, medical fertility treatments, or the quiet grief of early pregnancy loss, this episode is for you. About Rabbi Megan GoldMarche: Rabbi Megan grew up in the Chicago suburbs where she found her voice as a Jewish leader at her Conservative youth group and Reform summer camp. She graduated from the University of Pennsylvania in 2006 with a B.A. in Psychology and Women's Studies. Megan then went to work for the Hillel at Yale University where she discovered her passion for working with young people, and realized that rather than pursuing a PhD in Clinical psychology she wanted to use the Jewish tradition as a source of meaning to empower young adults to create their own rich Jewish identities and communities. Megan was ordained by the Jewish Theological Seminary in 2014 and also received an MA in Jewish Gender and Women's Studies and a certificate in Pastoral Care and Counseling. Megan is an alumna of the Wexner graduate fellowship. Megan served as Senior Base Rabbi at Metro Chicago Hillel where she spent six years leading and building the thriving Base network for Jews in their 20s and 30s. She also has a passion for travel and outdoor adventure- which has currently led her to forty-eight of the fifty states in the US. Megan and her wife Paige, and their daughters Bri and Rori, live in Mt. Airy and loves hosting folks in their home for Shabbat and Holidays! Connect with Rabbi Megan GoldMarche: Instagram‍ About Paige GoldMarche: Paige (she/her) is the mom of two kiddos, a Jewish professional and a challah baker. She is the Director of the Meyer-Gottesman Kol Koleinu Teen Feminist Fellowship at Moving Traditions, working with teens all over the US to building feminist community and learn about activism through a Jewish and feminist lens. Paige is also the Mt Airy Challah Fairy, baking and selling challah for local Philly non-profits. She has a BA in International Development and Social Change from Clark University, an MA in Jewish Communal Service from Baltimore Hebrew Institute at Towson University, and a certificate in Non-Profit Studies from Johns Hopkins University. Paige is an active member of Germantown Jewish Center. Connect with Paige GoldMarche: Instagram‍ Connect with us: Website‍ ‍Instagram - send us a message YouTube‍ ‍Facebook‍ ‍TikTok‍ ‍LinkedIn‍ ‍

    1h 4m
  3. May 28

    203. How The Pain of Pregnancy Loss Helped Me Find My Purpose with Marla Rottenstreich

    In this episode, Aimee sits down with Marla Rottenstreich, a fitness professional, doula, and COO of One Israel Fund. She opens up for the first time about her fertility journey, navigating a congenital uterine anomaly, pregnancy complications, and grief. This conversation is a vulnerable exploration of how deep medical trauma reshapes the path to parenthood. Marla opens up about being diagnosed at age 17 with a bicornuate uterus and told she would likely never have children. She describes overcoming that prognosis only to face the isolating grief of secondary infertility, three miscarriages, and the trauma of a third-trimester stillbirth. Through her powerful story, she highlights the importance of somatic movement, faith, and radical self-compassion to process trapped trauma and reclaim her agency. If you are navigating the difficult intersection of medical trauma, pregnancy loss, and family building, this episode offers a compassionate and grounded perspective filled with resilience and perseverance. Want To Sponsor an Episode? Donate Here More about Marla Rottenstreich:  Marla Rottenstreich is an AFAA-certified Group Fitness Instructor, ACE-certified personal trainer, Kripalu Yoga teacher, IIN licensed Health coach and lecturer, licensed Zumba (5 formats) instructor, ACSM Teen/Adolescent Fitness Instructor as well as ACSM Senior Fitness provider, DONA-certified birth doula and prenatal fitness provider, a Mad Dog trainer indoor spin instructor and licensed Beachbody PIYO & Insanity instructor. She currently owns Mekor Fitness LLC, a Central NJ Women's Fitness & Wellness company and the virtual program at MindBody20.com. Marla offers programming at many camps, travel programs, and schools for specialty events across the country as well as Manager of a Pesach program with Leisure Time Tours. She is a trained vegan chef with a cooking show on Kosher.com. Her full time role is COO of One Israel Fund. Connect with Marla Rottenstreich: Instagram‍ ‍MindBody20.com‍ ‍Kosher.com Connect with us: Website‍ ‍Instagram - send us a message YouTube‍ ‍Facebook‍ ‍TikTok‍ ‍LinkedIn‍ ‍

    1h 15m
  4. May 18

    202. Reclaiming Joy: Building a Life That's Childless Not by Choice with Susan Kirshner-Sheldon

    In this episode, Aimee sits down with Susan Kirshner-Sheldon to discuss her journey through later-in-life dating, making Aliyah, and navigating the challenges of infertility and pregnancy loss. Susan candidly shares her experience of dating, the joy of finding her husband Jeremy, and the subsequent roadblocks they faced while trying to build a family.  Susan walks us through the physical and emotional weight of multiple losses, including a natural miscarriage on Sukkot and the devastating words Ein dofek (no heartbeat) during IVF. She also touches on the unique experience of undergoing fertility treatments in Israel.   Now living a full life in Jerusalem, Susan offers a powerful perspective on finding peace when life doesn't go according to plan. Her story is a testament to resilience, the importance of a supportive partner, and the realization that there are many ways to live a meaningful life. More about Susan Kirshner-Sheldon: Susan Kirshner-Sheldon made aliyah from Chicago to Jerusalem in 2014, where she now lives with her husband, Jeremy. With a master's degree in human resource management and development from National Louis University and a bachelor's degree in communications from Stern College, Susan began her career in the high-tech healthcare industry before transitioning into the nonprofit world in Israel. She is the founder and owner of Gold Star Concierge, a boutique concierge service that helps locals and visitors navigate life in Israel — from logistics and bureaucracy to events and day-to-day needs — with ease, efficiency, and a personal touch. Susan recently went back to school to earn a certificate in animal assisted therapy where she is learning how to train dogs to be guide dogs. When not working, Susan can be found dog sitting, reading or planning her next travel adventure. Connect with Susan Kirshner-Sheldon: Instagram‍ ‍Website‍ ‍Email‍ Connect with us: Website‍ ‍Instagram - send us a message YouTube‍ ‍Facebook‍ ‍TikTok‍ ‍LinkedIn‍ ‍

    1h 8m
  5. May 11

    Aimee's Reflection on 200 Episodes, and Special Guest, Jonah Platt, on Circumstantial Infertility

    In this episode, Aimee sits down with Jonah Platt, actor, musician, and host of The Being Jewish Podcast. Aimee first reflects on the milestone of 200 episodes and  impact of IWSTHAB on the Jewish community, before pivoting to Jonah's personal story. Jonah Platt discusses the complexities of navigating health, faith, and the public eye while trying to grow a family. This conversation is a vulnerable exploration of how chronic health challenges reshape the path to parenthood. Jonah Platt opens up about his upbringing in a musical household and his transition into fatherhood alongside his wife, Courtney, who lives with Multiple Sclerosis (MS). He describes the reality of MS—the extreme fatigue and the medical necessity for Courtney to stop life-altering medications in order to conceive and breastfeed. In discussing the lack of awareness around these specific hurdles, Jonah notes, "I think we don't talk about this story that much because her issue isn't fertility." This challenge led the couple through three distinct reproductive journeys: a natural pregnancy, IVF, and surrogacy. Jonah shares the emotional weight of supporting his partner through a taxing fertility journey and the gift of surrogacy, which allowed Courtney to be fully present for their daughter's birth. Through his story, Jonah highlights the importance of choosing a path that preserves the health of the mother while expanding options for building families. If you are navigating the difficult intersection of chronic illness and family building, this episode offers a compassionate and grounded perspective. You're not alone. More about Jonah Platt: Jonah Platt is one of America's most trusted voices on modern Jewish identity, culture, and current events. He hosts Being Jewish with Jonah Platt—the world's #1 Jewish podcast—exploring Jewish life through conversations with prominent Jews and allies like Jason Alexander, Congressman Ritchie Torres, Bernard-Henry Lèvy, Cindy Crawford, and Sheryl Sandberg. An accomplished entertainer, Jonah has starred in acclaimed projects from Broadway (Wicked) to Hollywood (Being the Ricardos), is co-writing the musical adaptation of The Giver, and producing his first feature film, The Mensch. He was honored with California's inaugural Community Excellence Award for Combating Antisemitism, Holocaust Museum LA's inaugural Roz & Abner Goldstine Advocacy Award, the 2025 American Friends of ELEM LifeSaver Award, and is currently pursuing his Master's in Antisemitism Studies at Gratz College. Connect with Jonah Platt: Website ‍ ‍Email‍  Instagram‍ ‍ Facebook‍ ‍ Threads‍ ‍ TikTok‍ ‍ X ‍ LinkedIn‍ ‍  Listen to the Being Jewish with Jonah Platt: Beingjewishpodcast.com‍  ‍Instagram‍  Facebook‍  TikTok‍ ‍ YouTube‍  ‍LinkedIn   Aimee's Favorite Episodes: 1-Seen and Remembered: Making Space for Everyone This High Holiday Season with Rabbi Yisrael Motzen I kept nodding through this episode with Rabbi Motzen because I agreed with everything he said.  As a rabbi at a large synagogue with many different kinds of family units, he has developed many unique ways to make sure everyone fits in... I loved all of its suggestions and thought they were so applicable to people in the fertility community too.  2- Finding Calm in the Chaos with Dr. Aliza Ancier  Mindfulness is something anyone can use to get through stressful situations, but I had never really given it much thought until this conversation with Aliza. It's amazing how something so simple can really help. 3- Making Mikvah Meaningful with Dr. Naomi Grumet  Mikvah is one of the hardest mitzvos to keep when you're struggling to have a baby.  I hated every single time I went. The suggestions here were personally life-changing and helped me reframe mikvah. 4-  A Decision I Never Imagined: An Anonymous TFMR Story  This was the first episode we did on TFMR, and I remember being so nervous before it came out.  Not because I was worried that we were doing anything wrong by sharing this incredible story, but more because I was concerned about backlash.  And the amazing thing is - TFMR stories are some of the most listened to in our 200 episodes.  Because people don't walk these stories openly, it's a huge gift to offer those dealing with this personally the knowledge that they are not alone.   5- Tokophobia with Yehudit Kosowsky Even as a doctor, I had never heard of tokophobia before, but I have had dozens of people/year message me that they are so grateful this episode exists.   Connect with us: Website‍ ‍ Instagram - send us a message YouTube‍ ‍ Facebook‍ ‍ TikTok‍  ‍LinkedIn‍ ‍

    59 min
  6. Apr 30

    Trusting Your Timeline: Claiming the Future on Your Own Terms with Emily Sklar

    In this episode, Aimee sits down with Emily Sklar, a podcast producer and media personality, to discuss her proactive decision to freeze her eggs at age 35. After years of prioritizing her career in the Detroit, DC, and LA radio scenes, Emily opens up about her mother's influence and a professional pivot led her to claim her future by securing the possibility of motherhood on her own terms. Emily reflects on how her professional drive often pushed the idea of family into a far-off, hypothetical future. She describes the egg-freezing process as an emotional experience that connected her current, independent life with her long-term goals. This conversation touches on the need to normalize these discussions long before the "biological clock" begins to panic. Emily shares how she navigated the emotional and physical aspects of the process alongside her support system. Her story highlights the importance of trusting your own timing and taking intentional steps to keep your future possibilities open. If you're navigating the balance between career ambition and the "what ifs" of future family planning, this episode offers an empowering look at taking control of your own timeline. More about Emily Sklar: Emily is a podcast producer & former radio host who has worked in the audio space for over 15 years. She has a passion for finding human connection through shared story-telling, and believes that everyone has a story to share. Besides work, Emily also sings in a band and loves music, pilates, mindlessly scrolling on tiktok. Connect with Emily: - Connect on Instagram Connect with us: -Check out our Website -Follow us on Instagram and send us a message -Watch our TikToks -Follow us on Facebook -Watch us on YouTube -Connect with us on LinkedIn

    1h 1m
  7. Mar 30

    My Passover Miscarriage [Re-Release]

    In this special re-released episode, Aimee Baron, MD, founder of I Was Supposed To Have A Baby, shares her deeply personal experience with a second-trimester miscarriage. She explores the unique trauma of navigating a medical crisis while away from home for the Passover holiday and the lasting impact that loss had. Aimee walks through the timeline of a pregnancy that appeared healthy at her 16-week checkup, only to be upended by a phone call from her doctor while she was away. She describes the search for medical care and the crushing moment an ultrasound confirmed her baby had passed just days after her checkup. The conversation also touches on the complex intersection of Jewish law and medical emergency, as Aimee and her husband navigated the restrictions of the holiday to seek an immediate procedure. She shares the stark, painful memory of waking up from anesthesia in a public recovery room and the specific emotional weight of losing a genetically healthy baby. This story highlights how Jewish holidays, so often focused on children and family, can become permanent markers of loss and "scars" on the heart for those in the infertility community. If you are navigating the holiday season while carrying the weight of a past or current loss this episode is for you.   Connect with us: -Check out our Website -Follow us on Instagram and send us a message -Watch our TikToks -Follow us on Facebook -Watch us on YouTube -Connect with us on LinkedIn

    30 min
4.8
out of 5
27 Ratings

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Talking Away the Taboo is the podcast for anyone in the Jewish community struggling to have a child and is seeking a place for emotional support and comfort. It is a show that will help you learn while validating your feelings and processing the hardship and to teach everyone else to be more sensitive. Each week, Dr. Aimee Baron and her guests will be talking away the taboo of infertility, pregnancy loss, infant loss, surrogacy, adoption and more. Your best friend just had a stillbirth and you don't know what to say? This is the space for you. We laugh, we cry and we challenge the Jewish community to think differently about a topic that has for so long been shrouded in secrecy and shame. Join us on the wild, unpredictable, and gut-wrenching journey of creating a family. Follow I Was Supposed To Have A Baby on Instagram and TikTok at @iwassupposedtohaveababy. To find out more about I Was Supposed To Have A Baby, visit our website at iwassupposedtohaveababy.org

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