I Wish You Could Hear This

I Wish You Could Hear This
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Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

  1. Why Couples Drift and How to Reverse It, with Lindsay Maestas – Episode 43

    4d ago

    Why Couples Drift and How to Reverse It, with Lindsay Maestas – Episode 43

    SUMMARY: What happens when a marriage starts drifting apart — and one or both spouses wonder if it’s even possible to reconnect?  In this honest and hope-filled conversation, and sit down with author, speaker, and podcast host to talk about the quiet disconnection many couples experience and the practical ways healing can begin — even when things feel broken.   Drawing from Lindsey’s personal story and her new book Don’t Burn Down the House, this episode explores:  Why many marriages slowly drift into “roommate mode”   What often causes emotional disconnection beneath the surface   How resentment and hopelessness quietly build   Why change can begin even if only one spouse is willing   The small shifts that can create major transformation   How to prioritize your marriage without losing yourself   What rebuilding trust and connection really looks like   If you’ve ever felt discouraged, lonely, unseen, or unsure whether your marriage can recover, this conversation offers practical wisdom and genuine hope.  LINKS AND RESOURCES: Book: Don't Burn Your Own House Down: Prioritizing Your Marriage, Your Spouse, and Yourself for a Deeper Connection: Maestas, Lindsey: 9780310369479: Amazon.com: Books  Website: HOME - Sparrows + Lily  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    46 min
  2. Tired of Carrying Hidden Hurt? Finding Healing, with Willow Weston - Episode 42

    May 19

    Tired of Carrying Hidden Hurt? Finding Healing, with Willow Weston - Episode 42

    Summary: In this powerful episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with author, speaker, and ministry leader Willow Weston to explore what it means to truly heal from hurt instead of hiding from it. Together, they unpack how unresolved pain can surface in anxiety, broken relationships, unforgiveness, and emotional exhaustion—and why healing begins when we stop running from our wounds and bring them honestly before God.   Willow shares her personal story, the heart behind her ministry Collide, and insights from her new book about embracing pain as part of the pathway to restoration and deeper connection. This conversation offers encouragement for anyone carrying hidden hurt, walking through disappointment, or longing to experience emotional and spiritual healing.  You’ll hear:  Why unprocessed pain often “comes out sideways”   How honesty and vulnerability open the door to healing   The role faith and community play in restoration   Encouragement for those feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or emotionally exhausted   Hope for healing not only for ourselves, but also for the people we love   If you’ve ever wondered whether real healing is possible, this episode is a reminder that God meets us in our pain—and that hope and restoration are closer than we think.  Links and Resources:  Book: Collide  Website: https://wecollide.net/staff/willow-weston/  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    41 min
  3. The Blind Spots Hurting Your Relationships, with Debra Fileta: Episode 41

    May 5

    The Blind Spots Hurting Your Relationships, with Debra Fileta: Episode 41

    SUMMARY:   In this episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with licensed professional counselor and bestselling author Debra Fileta for an honest and insightful conversation about the relationship blind spots many of us don’t realize we have. Together, they explore how emotional patterns, past wounds, and unrecognized habits can quietly shape the way we connect with others.  Debra shares practical wisdom on how to grow in self-awareness, strengthen communication, and take ownership of the ways we impact the people we love. Whether you’re dating, married, leading others, or simply wanting healthier relationships, this episode offers hope-filled tools to help you break unhealthy cycles and build deeper connection.  If you’ve ever wondered why relationships can feel harder than they should—or how to become a healthier version of yourself—this conversation is for you.  LINKS AND RESOURCES:  Book: People Skills: Your Relationships Are Only as Strong as Your Skills  Website: Debra Fileta | Best Selling Author, Speaker, Psychotherapist, and Podcaster!  The Kindness Challenge  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    43 min
  4. How Young People Can Handle Ghosting, Disappointment, and Other Barriers to Dating – Episode 40

    Apr 21

    How Young People Can Handle Ghosting, Disappointment, and Other Barriers to Dating – Episode 40

    Summary:  In Part 2 of this important conversation on the modern dating recession, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn continue unpacking new research from the Institute for Family Studies on why so many marriage-minded singles are struggling to date—and what can actually help. With 70% of surveyed singles saying they want meaningful relationships but aren’t dating, the challenge is real—but not hopeless.  Shaunti and Jeff revisit the key barriers discussed in Part 1 and dive into additional reasons dating feels harder today, from fear and discouragement to unclear expectations and social disconnection. Most importantly, they offer practical, research-based encouragement for singles who desire marriage, as well as parents and loved ones who want to support them.  If you or someone you care about feels stuck in today’s dating landscape, this episode offers fresh insight, empathy, and a hopeful path forward toward genuine connection.  Resources: Report on “The Dating Recession”. https://ifstudies.org/report-brief/state-of-our-unions-2026-the-dating-recession   IFS article about young men. See point 2 for “Most unmarried young men want to marry”   https://ifstudies.org/blog/young-men-are-not-checked-out-their-hopes-are-being-frustrated   For Women Only link.  For Men Only link    Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    37 min
  5. Where have all the good dating partners gone? – Episode 39

    Apr 14

    Where have all the good dating partners gone? – Episode 39

    Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn unpack the growing “dating recession” impacting today’s young adults. Why are so many singles ages 22 to 35 dating less or not at all? They explore the emotional, social, and cultural factors behind the trend, from fear and discouragement to a lack of confidence and connection. With practical insights and real hope, Shaunti and Jeff discuss the relationship skills that matter most, why community support is essential, and how singles can navigate today’s dating landscape with greater clarity and confidence.  Resources:  Report on “The Dating Recession”. https://ifstudies.org/report-brief/state-of-our-unions-2026-the-dating-recession IFS article about young men. See point 2 for “Most unmarried young men want to marry” https://ifstudies.org/blog/young-men-are-not-checked-out-their-hopes-are-being-frustrated For Women Only  For Men Only link Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    40 min
  6. Emotional Baggage Isn't Our Problem (Here's How to Live Lighter), with Laurie Davies – Episode 38

    Mar 31

    Emotional Baggage Isn't Our Problem (Here's How to Live Lighter), with Laurie Davies – Episode 38

    Summary: In this episode, Shaunti Feldhahn sits down with author Laurie Davies to unpack the powerful concept behind the book Emotional Hoarding: Letting Go of the Stuff That Keeps You Stuck. Together, they explore how holding onto hard emotions costs us. Emotional 'hoarding’ limits how we love, it keeps us stuck in regret, grudges, and shame—and, most importantly, it creates a disconnect between us and the freedom God wants us to walk in.  Together, Shaunti and Laurie distinguish between emotional “baggage” and the deeper patterns of emotional hoarding, highlighting signs that you might be hoarding hard emotions, and why honest self-examination is essential to breaking free.  The conversation dives into emotions such as worry, worthlessness, regret, anger, and bitterness—focusing on how scripture offers a clear path to freedom. With worry, for example, Shaunti and Laurie discuss how renewing our thinking, grounded in principles from Philippians 4:8, can close the worry loop and restore peace.  As Shaunti observed in her foreword to the book: “You will never think about your inner emotional life the same way again.”  Tune in to this episode for a hope-filled path for stepping into greater emotional and relational freedom.  Links: lauriedavies.com Emotional Hoarding on Amazon   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    50 min
  7. Are You Snowplow Parenting? When Helping Your Kids Too Much Hurts Them - Episode 37

    Mar 17

    Are You Snowplow Parenting? When Helping Your Kids Too Much Hurts Them - Episode 37

    Summary:  Parents naturally want to protect their kids from disappointment and failure—but sometimes our help can actually get in the way of their growth. In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff talk about the growing trend of “snowplow parenting,” where parents try to clear every obstacle out of their child’s path. Through stories, research insights, and practical wisdom, they explore how well-meaning parents can unintentionally prevent their kids from learning resilience and responsibility. You’ll hear why allowing natural consequences can actually be a gift—and how to support your kids without removing every challenge in front of them.  For Parents Only https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-1/ https://shaunti.com/2024/05/how-to-stop-being-a-snowplow-parent-part-2/ https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/16/style/snowplow-parenting-scandal.html Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    37 min
  8. Navigating the Open Windows of Communication - Episode 36

    Mar 3

    Navigating the Open Windows of Communication - Episode 36

    Summary: In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn unpack one of the most overlooked sources of conflict in marriage: the very different ways men and women process thoughts and emotions. Drawing on two decades of research, they explore why many women experience ongoing “open windows,” lingering worries or mental tabs that are hard to close and why many men may not even realize those windows are still open.  With practical insight and empathy for both sides, Shaunti and Jeff explain the brain-based and physiological differences that shape how we handle stress and disagreement. Most importantly, they offer simple, powerful ways spouses can respond in moments of tension, turning misunderstanding into connection. If you’ve ever felt like you and your spouse were missing each other emotionally, this conversation will give you fresh clarity and practical tools to build deeper understanding.  Resources: Gur, R. C., & Gur, R. E. (2017). Complementarity of sex differences in brain and behavior: From laterality to multimodal neuroimaging. Journal of Neuroscience Research, 95(1), 189–199. https://doi.org/10.1002/jnr.2383  FOR MEN ONLY  FOR WOMEN ONLY     Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    34 min
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Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

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