I Wish You Could Hear This

I Wish You Could Hear This
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Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

  1. 4d ago

    How AI Is Impacting Your Relationships (And You May Not Even Be Realizing It) - Episode 50

    AI has become part of everyday life for most of us. We use it to answer questions, solve problems, brainstorm ideas—and sometimes even help us navigate our relationships. But could all that interaction with AI be changing us in ways we don’t realize? In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff take a fascinating look at what can happen when we get used to an AI that is always affirming, always available, and always ready with an answer. Could that make us a little less patient when our spouse pushes back? Could it make us more likely to avoid hard conversations? Could it even change what we expect when we go to God for answers? They also talk about why the normal “friction” of real relationships is actually important, how to keep our relationship muscles from getting weak, and a few practical ways we can use AI wisely—while still choosing the patience, humility, honesty, and genuine affirmation that our real relationships need. AI isn’t going away—and it can be an incredibly useful tool. But as it becomes a bigger part of our everyday lives, we need to be intentional about making sure it helps us without quietly changing what we expect from the people we love—or from God. Resources Why I Told My Chatbot to Stop Kissing Up to Me: AI responses are often too agreeable, too enthusiastic and too dramatic. And it’s partially our fault. By Nicole Nguyen, Aug. 16, 2026 https://www.wsj.com/tech/ai/why-i-told-my-chatbot-to-stop-kissing-up-to-me-62cea3fa?st=qc45KP&reflink=desktopwebshare_permalink How to Make ChatGPT Challenge You More     Open ChatGPT and click your profile icon.     Go to Personalization.     Under Base style and tone, choose Candid. This makes ChatGPT more direct and more likely to point out gaps, risks, and trade-offs.     Still under Personalization, open Custom Instructions and make sure customization is turned on.     Add an instruction like: “Don’t automatically agree with me or affirm my assumptions. Act as a thoughtful critical-thinking partner. If you think I’m overlooking something, tell me. Challenge weak reasoning, point out alternative explanations, and ask clarifying or probing questions when they would help me think more carefully. Prioritize accuracy and honesty over making me feel validated.”     Save your changes. These preferences will then influence your conversations with ChatGPT, including existing chats.   Note: You can also adjust Characteristics under Personalization to fine-tune things like warmth and enthusiasm, although the Custom Instruction is the more important piece for getting ChatGPT to actually push back on your thinking. Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    How AI Is Impacting Your Relationships (And You May Not Even Be Realizing It) - Episode 50

  2. Sep 8

    How to Rebuild Trust After Betrayal in Your Marriage, with Mark and Jill Savage - Episode 49

    Rebuilding trust after infidelity—or any serious betrayal—can feel impossible. How do you begin trusting someone again when that trust has been completely shattered? In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff sit down with longtime friends Mark and Jill Savage, authors, speakers, and marriage coaches who know this journey firsthand. They share the story of the affair that nearly ended their marriage, the moment everything began to change, and the long process of rebuilding what had been broken. Mark and Jill explain why trust isn't restored with one apology or promise to change. Instead, it comes back through consistent changed behavior over time—what they describe as rebuilding trust "one tablespoon at a time." They share practical examples of what honesty, transparency, accountability, and compassion looked like in their own recovery, as well as the role faith, humility, and grief played in their healing. For anyone facing infidelity or another serious breach of trust, this conversation offers practical steps for moving forward—and hope that even when a marriage feels beyond repair, the story may not be over yet. This Episode's Key Topics Mark and Jill Savage's personal story of infidelity and recovery The turning point that began the healing of their marriage Why rebuilding trust requires consistent changed behavior over time The "Trust Bathtub" and rebuilding trust one tablespoon at a time The importance of honesty, transparency, and proactive accountability Taking responsibility for betrayal without shifting blame The role of grief, humility, and faith in the healing process Hope for couples who feel like their marriage may be beyond repair Resources Mark and Jill Savage: markandjill.orgNo More Perfect Podcast: podcast.nomoreperfect.comFree Rebuilding Trust Guide: rebuildingtrust.us Connect with Mark and Jill Instagram: @jillsavage.authorFacebook: @jillsavage.author Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    How to Rebuild Trust After Betrayal in Your Marriage, with Mark and Jill Savage - Episode 49

  3. Aug 25

    How to Love Someone When You Don’t Feel Like It, with Chip Ingram Episode 48

    What if love isn’t primarily something you feel—or something you have to wait for—but something you can choose?  In this episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff sit down with pastor, author, and Bible teacher Chip Ingram to talk about his book I Choose Love and a radically practical way to understand biblical love.  Chip explains the difference between the feelings we associate with love and the agape love modeled by Jesus: a willful, sacrificial choice to put another person’s needs ahead of our own. And that matters whether we’re dealing with tension in a marriage, a difficult family relationship, division in the church, or someone whose views are completely different from ours.  Chip also gets personal, sharing how this understanding of love helped transform a deeply difficult season in his own marriage. The breakthrough came when he stopped focusing on how his wife needed to change and started asking what he could do differently. As Chip puts it, you can’t control another person—but you can change your part of the relationship.  You’ll also hear why loving action sometimes has to come before loving feelings, why humility and servanthood are so important, and three practical ways to become a more loving person: declare war on selfishness, attack the pride underneath it, and intentionally practice humility by putting others’ needs ahead of your own.  In this episode:  Why biblical love is much more than a feeling  The difference between agape love and romantic, friendship, and family love  What Philippians 2 teaches us about loving like Jesus  Why waiting until you feel loving can keep you stuck  How choosing obedience can begin changing our hearts  What Chip learned during a painful season in his own marriage  Why you can’t control another person—but you can change your part of the relationship  How selfishness and pride undermine love  Three practical choices that can help us become more loving  How Christians can pursue love and unity in a deeply divided culture  Why the mindset “I am second” can change the way we approach everyday relationships  Resources mentioned:  Book: I Choose Love by Chip Ingram  Living on the Edge: livingontheedge.org  Also mentioned: Good to Great in God’s Eyes by Chip Ingram  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    How to Love Someone When You Don’t Feel Like It, with Chip Ingram Episode 48

  4. Aug 7

    What Your Son Needs to Hear From You, with Molly DeFrank: Episode 47

    Boys today are growing up surrounded by confusing messages about masculinity and what it means to be a man. So how can parents help their sons develop a healthy, confident understanding of who God created them to be?  Shaunti and Jeff talk with Molly DeFrank, mom of six and author of Mothering Boys: 8 Things Your Son Needs to Hear from You Before He Turns 10. Together, they explore the powerful role parents—and especially moms—play in shaping a boy’s identity, character, confidence, and understanding of masculinity.  You’ll hear practical ways to speak life into your son, recognize the unique strengths God has given him, and help him grow into a godly man of courage and character.  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

  5. Jul 15

    The Truth Every Overwhelmed Christian Mom Needs to Hear, with Brittany Ann, Episode 46

    Feeling overwhelmed by motherhood? Wondering how to prioritize your faith when you're barely keeping up with everyday life?  If you've ever ended the day feeling guilty because you didn't have time to read your Bible, pray, or spend quiet time with God, you're not alone.  In this episode of I Wish You Could Hear This, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with author, speaker, and Equipping Godly Women founder Brittany Ann to talk honestly about the challenges young Christian moms face. Together, they explore how to grow closer to God without adding more pressure to an already full life.  Brittany shares her own journey of balancing marriage, motherhood, ministry, and faith, along with practical encouragement for finding God's peace—even in the middle of exhaustion and chaos.  In This Episode You'll Learn:  Why so many Christian moms struggle with guilt over their spiritual lives  How to prioritize your relationship with God when life feels overwhelming  Practical ways to spend meaningful time with God—even if you only have a few minutes  The difference between striving for perfection and pursuing faithfulness  How to let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace God's grace  Encouragement for moms who feel spiritually dry or discouraged  Simple habits that can help you stay connected to God during busy seasons  Whether you're raising toddlers, homeschooling, juggling work and family, or simply trying to catch your breath, this conversation offers biblical encouragement and practical hope for this season of life.  Meet Our Guest  Brittany Ann is an author, speaker, podcast host, and the founder of Equipping Godly Women, a ministry dedicated to encouraging Christian women with practical, biblical wisdom for everyday life. Since launching the ministry in 2014, Brittany has reached millions of women through articles, Bible studies, books, and online resources. She and her husband are raising four children together.  Resources Mentioned  Fall in Love with God's Word by Brittany Ann https://a.co/d/000kPB4D  https://equippinggodlywomen.com/  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    The Truth Every Overwhelmed Christian Mom Needs to Hear, with Brittany Ann, Episode 46

  6. Jun 30

    What's Happening to Our Boys and How You Can Help, Episode 45

    Summary: Boys and men are struggling—but this isn't a reason to lose hope. In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff unpack what's happening in today's culture, why so many boys and young men are falling behind, and the simple, powerful ways each of us can make a difference. Whether you're a parent, grandparent, mentor, teacher, or friend, you'll come away with practical encouragement and renewed hope for the boys and men you love.  Resources and Links:  Nancy Pearcy “The Toxic War on Masculinity”  https://a.co/d/05CJjqrE  Hannah Rosin, The End of Men essay in The Atlantic  https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2010/07/the-end-of-men/308135/  “If We Were Ants” short film  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE  Pew Research -Public Views on Men and Masculinity  https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2024/10/17/public-views-on-men-and-masculinity/  APA Guidelines on practice with boys and men  https://www.apa.org/about/policy/boys-men-practice-guidelines.pdf  Data tables:  Reading scores of 4th, 8th and 12th grade students – see Figure 5, 6, 7  https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/indicator/cnb/reading-performance  College enrollment of men v women  https://nces.ed.gov/programs/coe/pdf/2024/cpb_508c.pdf  https://nces.ed.gov/programs/digest/d22/tables/dt22_303.10.asp  Bureau of Labor Statistics about men and women in the workforce:  https://www.bls.gov/charts/employment-situation/civilian-labor-force-participation-rate.htm  Mortality data:  https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db456.htm  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FX23DMyzvHE  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    What's Happening to Our Boys and How You Can Help, Episode 45

  7. Jun 16

    What Every Dad Needs to Know About Your Teenage Daughter, with Michelle Watson Canfield

    Summary:  In this episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn sit down with author, counselor, and father-daughter relationship expert Michelle Watson Canfield to explore one of the most challenging seasons of parenting: connecting with adolescent daughters.  Many dads feel uncertain about how to respond when their daughters become more emotional, pull away, or seem resistant to their efforts. Michelle shares a powerful insight she has observed through years of counseling: many men would rather do nothing than risk doing it wrong—but when it comes to fathering daughters, stepping back often creates more distance.  Together, Shaunti, Jeff, and Michelle unpack why dads often feel sidelined during the teenage years, how mothers can become caught in the middle, and practical ways fathers can stay engaged even when conversations feel awkward or difficult.  You’ll learn:  Why many dads instinctively pull back—and why that can be harmful  How to stay calm and grounded when emotions run high  Practical ways to pursue your daughter with intention and consistency  Why your presence matters more than your perfection  How to build trust and connection during the adolescent years  If you've ever felt unsure how to connect with your daughter—or worried that you're getting it wrong—this conversation will equip and encourage you to keep showing up.  Because your daughter doesn't need a perfect dad. She needs an engaged one.  Links and Resources:  Website: drmichellewatson.com  Facebook: www.facebook.com/drmichellewatson  Instagram: michellejwatson and thedadwhispererpodcast  Twitter: @mwatsonphd  LinkedIn: Dr. Michelle Watson Canfield  The Dad Whisperer Podcast: Apple Podcasts + Spotify  YouTube: @thedadwhisperer  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    What Every Dad Needs to Know About Your Teenage Daughter, with Michelle Watson Canfield

  8. Jun 2

    Why Couples Drift and How to Reverse It, with Lindsey Maestas – Episode 43

    SUMMARY: What happens when a marriage starts drifting apart — and one or both spouses wonder if it’s even possible to reconnect?  In this honest and hope-filled conversation, and sit down with author, speaker, and podcast host to talk about the quiet disconnection many couples experience and the practical ways healing can begin — even when things feel broken.   Drawing from Lindsey’s personal story and her new book Don’t Burn Down the House, this episode explores:  Why many marriages slowly drift into “roommate mode”   What often causes emotional disconnection beneath the surface   How resentment and hopelessness quietly build   Why change can begin even if only one spouse is willing   The small shifts that can create major transformation   How to prioritize your marriage without losing yourself   What rebuilding trust and connection really looks like   If you’ve ever felt discouraged, lonely, unseen, or unsure whether your marriage can recover, this conversation offers practical wisdom and genuine hope.  LINKS AND RESOURCES: Book: Don't Burn Your Own House Down: Prioritizing Your Marriage, Your Spouse, and Yourself for a Deeper Connection: Maestas, Lindsey: 9780310369479: Amazon.com: Books  Website: HOME - Sparrows + Lily  Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.

    Why Couples Drift and How to Reverse It, with Lindsey Maestas – Episode 43
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Relationship tripwires. Mental health puzzles. Confusing work dynamics. You’re not the only one scratching your head. But now you have a secret decoder ring! Each episode of I Wish You Could Hear This is packed with proven, simple, and surprising secrets that help you thrive in life, faith, and relationships. Researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have spent decades interviewing and surveying more than 40,000 people to identify the little things that make a big difference in our lives. They’re Harvard-educated, Christian authors and speakers who also happen to be happily married, analytically minded, and a whole lot of fun! Join them and their guests for real stories, real help, and real hope.

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