I Think I Like You

Clara Artschwager
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A counterintuitive approach to navigating dating and building relationships in the digital age. This is for the woman who feels disenchanted by more common dating rhetoric and sometimes even questions if she wants a relationship at all. She already lives a rich, full life. She would like to share that with someone, but not at the expense of herself. What gives? That’s where we’re digging in.

  1. 22H AGO

    On life coming into bloom post-divorce with Melisa Russo | Ep 167

    These days, I find myself with an insatiable hunger for stories (meaning, real-life human stories) of unexpected outcomes. Of having life go one way when you thought it was going to go another way, and what one does from there. Melissa Russo's story is one of my favorites. I've followed Melissa since back in our 2010 blogger days. Her biting sense of humor, sharp wit, and talent as a writer has drawn me back to anything she's been doing. Whether it's been capturing the wildly entertaining lives of her two daughters, or launching her boutique social media studio, Golden Hive. I loved talking to her about the unexpected beauty and pleasure of life post divorce, how she thinks about dating and relationships now, and where she wants her focus to be.  Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1h 2m

  2. APR 29

    And one day, her husband just left (at the start of the pandemic). On Belle Burden's memoir "Strangers" | Ep 166

    Did you read Strangers? The memoir that blew up....idk, everywhere...over the past few months. Here's the down-and-dirty, which is really not a spoiler alert because it's revealed in the first two pages of the book: Socialite Belle Burden's husband of 20 years, a few days into the pandemic, up and left. And never came back.  There's obviously more to it, and well worth a read of the book. But why ARE people so obsessed with this book? It's not just because it has a media engine behind it. I had to discuss this, naturally, and did so with my dear friend Cath, who by the way is hosting an AMAZING retreat the June in the Hudson Valley. Listen to Cath's podcast, The 40 Portal Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1 hr

  3. APR 22

    When you wanted kids — and the time passed. On life now, as a woman. | Ep 165

    Call it turning 40, call it the state of the world, call it....just life (?), but lately, all I am hungry for is deep, real, can't-put-a-bow-on-it conversations. People living with the big questions, getting deep into the muck, and thriving there. Not always, but often. You know when you have a good friend, who is just good people, and then they bring more REALLY GOOD PEOPLE into your life? That's how I found my way to Alison Matheny. Alison is a writer, artist, and all-around legit creative. You're gonna wanna check out all the places to find her on the internet below. But the main reason I wanted to have Alison on was to discuss a reality she lives every day — childless by circumstance. Alison wanted to bear children, and despite desires and intentions, that longing didn't become a reality. Now, at 44, we discuss what life looks and feels like. Yes, this is a conversation about wanting to become a mom and not becoming one — but it's mainly about this: What does one do when the things they wanted and longed for don't come to fruition? Because that, independent of the details, is a reality we will all face. Alison's Website | Alison's Substack | Alison's Branding Studio Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    55 min

  4. APR 8

    The friend zone isn't where someone put you. It's where you put yourself — and there's a very good reason why. | Ep 164

    Register for my May 7th Event in NYC Recently, a beloved follower DM'ed me and said, without any mincing of words, "I need an episode on the friend zone." I was happy to oblige since, to be totally frank, I don't think the friend zone is an actual thing. I think it's more so a way to stay stuck, but safe. Stagnant but comfortable.  In this episode, I'm covering: The root of why we end up in the friend zone, and why it tends to be a repeat patternHow the friend zone acts like a permission slip to not actively date and instead wait for another person to actHow the obstacle we face here isn't with the other person, but our relationship to rejection and vulnerability, and the discomfort of putting oneself out thereIf you've ever found yourself stuck in almost, this one's for you. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    15 min

  5. APR 1

    Oooooh ok this is how you ACTUALLY surrender, even when you still want something | Ep 163

    Private Coaching Spaces Open Register for my Dating Workshop in NYC A few weeks back,  I was perusing Instagram as one does, and I was fed Nikki Heyder's profile, based on a reel she had recently posted that went viral. And let's just say, it went viral for all the right reasons. Nikki is a trauma-informed psychotherapist, business mentor, and author based in Bali. Her perspective is refreshingly wise and down to earth when it comes to all conversations that fall under the umbrella of, well, getting what we want out of life, understanding our obstacles and redefining who we are. I could have taken our conversation many different directions, but my main interest was around the concept of surrender. Namely, what the hell is it and how the hell do we actually do it? How do we maintain a desire — like for a relationship— but surrender to the outcome of it? Use the code ITILY2026 to take $111.00 of Nikki's course Regulate & Receive Nikki's Homepage: Access her courses, workshops, books and other offerings. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1h 1m

  6. MAR 25

    On bringing back the genuine fun, whimsy and romance of dating (seriously) | Ep 162

    Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating Work with Me Privately Like many of you, I've been completely obsessed with Love Story, the dramatized JFK Jr. and Carolyn Bessette series. Along with making me want to revamp my entire wardrobe, rock a red lip, drill a land line into our wall, it's also completely lit up my intimacy with my husband ; ). I've had to ask: What is that about? In this episode, I'm unpacking that question — because I think you're hungry for it too. We've optimized, predicted, and controlled our dating lives so thoroughly that we've sterilized them. No feeling. No aliveness. No beautiful, terrifying uncertainty. So today I'm walking you through three concrete ways to bring some of that back — without throwing your phone in the garbage. It starts with sending the bolder message, saying something out loud to a stranger, and finding one place in your life where you let go of the outcome entirely. This one is a little bit of a manifesto. I hope it lights something up for you. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    29 min

  7. MAR 18

    I love my friends, but I’m also jealous that they’re married and have kids | Ep 161

    Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating Here's something I hear a lot from my clients: "I know this sounds terrible, but it's just really hard to be around my friends with kids right now" —  no, it doesn't sound terrible. It's actually very, very normal. That's where we're digging in today. I'm sharing why the impulse to shut down these feelings is actually making things worse, and what it looks like to let them breathe so you can move through them with clarity instead of staying stuck in a loop of comparison and pain. In this episode, I'm talking about: Why labeling your feelings as "mean" or "wrong" actually works against youHow to turn your full emotional landscape — rage, sadness, loneliness, all of it — into real insightPractical ways to honor what you need right now, without blowing up your friendshipsThe question that matters more than "How do I make a relationship happen?"Why suppressing your pain around your friends and your longing for what they have actually makes it worseI'm also sharing a personal story from my own 30s, when the desire for a family felt like a weight I didn't know how to carry — and what finally helped me move through it. Your desires deserve to take up space. Let's talk about why you keep making them smaller. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    33 min

  8. MAR 5

    When Everything Starts to Feel Like It Doesn’t Fit (and what to do about it) | Ep 160

    Ever since I turned 35, my sense of self — who I know myself to be — has undergone a continuing, and in some ways quite rapid, evolution. Now, at 40, it only seems to be moving faster. Asking me bigger questions, pushing me to make bigger changes, and forcing me to stare more directly at all that no longer feels like a fit. From furniture to friendships — which can be scary AF, tbh. When I came across Anne Benveniste's Substack, and found her writing about things like burning down her entire social life in her late 30s, or getting an MBA simply because she thought it would make her look good, I was hooked. Shortly after, I emailed her and asked if she'd come on the show. If you're feeling stuck — in any facet of your life — today's episode will be a breath of fresh freaking air. You'll fall in love with Anne and want to follow along with everything she's doing, from her upcoming group course to her weekly tarot pulls and more. You'll walk away with wisdom, insight, and concrete next steps for wherever you feel stuck. Anne's Website Anne's Substack Private coaching spots are open. If you liked this episode, you might also like: If you want something new in your job, your career, you're also going to have to let something go.On making, maintaining and letting go of friends in our 30s and 40s.Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

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A counterintuitive approach to navigating dating and building relationships in the digital age. This is for the woman who feels disenchanted by more common dating rhetoric and sometimes even questions if she wants a relationship at all. She already lives a rich, full life. She would like to share that with someone, but not at the expense of herself. What gives? That’s where we’re digging in.

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  • Creator
    Clara Artschwager
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    174
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2026 I Think I Like You
  • Show Website
    I Think I Like You

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