I Think I Like You

Clara Artschwager
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A counterintuitive approach to navigating dating and building relationships in the digital age. This is for the woman who feels disenchanted by more common dating rhetoric and sometimes even questions if she wants a relationship at all. She already lives a rich, full life. She would like to share that with someone, but not at the expense of herself. What gives? That’s where we’re digging in.

  1. 2D AGO

    On bringing back the genuine fun, whimsy and romance of dating (seriously) | Ep 162

    Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating Work with Me Privately Like many of you, I've been completely obsessed with Love Story, the dramatized JFK Jr. and Carolyn Bessette series. Along with making me want to revamp my entire wardrobe, rock a red lip, drill a land line into our wall, it's also completely lit up my intimacy with my husband ; ). I've had to ask: What is that about? In this episode, I'm unpacking that question — because I think you're hungry for it too. We've optimized, predicted, and controlled our dating lives so thoroughly that we've sterilized them. No feeling. No aliveness. No beautiful, terrifying uncertainty. So today I'm walking you through three concrete ways to bring some of that back — without throwing your phone in the garbage. It starts with sending the bolder message, saying something out loud to a stranger, and finding one place in your life where you let go of the outcome entirely. This one is a little bit of a manifesto. I hope it lights something up for you. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    29 min

  2. MAR 18

    I love my friends, but I’m also jealous that they’re married and have kids | Ep 161

    Register for my March 29th Masterclass: For the High-Achiever Who Struggles in Dating Here's something I hear a lot from my clients: "I know this sounds terrible, but it's just really hard to be around my friends with kids right now" —  no, it doesn't sound terrible. It's actually very, very normal. That's where we're digging in today. I'm sharing why the impulse to shut down these feelings is actually making things worse, and what it looks like to let them breathe so you can move through them with clarity instead of staying stuck in a loop of comparison and pain. In this episode, I'm talking about: Why labeling your feelings as "mean" or "wrong" actually works against youHow to turn your full emotional landscape — rage, sadness, loneliness, all of it — into real insightPractical ways to honor what you need right now, without blowing up your friendshipsThe question that matters more than "How do I make a relationship happen?"Why suppressing your pain around your friends and your longing for what they have actually makes it worseI'm also sharing a personal story from my own 30s, when the desire for a family felt like a weight I didn't know how to carry — and what finally helped me move through it. Your desires deserve to take up space. Let's talk about why you keep making them smaller. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    33 min

  3. MAR 5

    When Everything Starts to Feel Like It Doesn’t Fit (and what to do about it) | Ep 160

    Ever since I turned 35, my sense of self — who I know myself to be — has undergone a continuing, and in some ways quite rapid, evolution. Now, at 40, it only seems to be moving faster. Asking me bigger questions, pushing me to make bigger changes, and forcing me to stare more directly at all that no longer feels like a fit. From furniture to friendships — which can be scary AF, tbh. When I came across Anne Benveniste's Substack, and found her writing about things like burning down her entire social life in her late 30s, or getting an MBA simply because she thought it would make her look good, I was hooked. Shortly after, I emailed her and asked if she'd come on the show. If you're feeling stuck — in any facet of your life — today's episode will be a breath of fresh freaking air. You'll fall in love with Anne and want to follow along with everything she's doing, from her upcoming group course to her weekly tarot pulls and more. You'll walk away with wisdom, insight, and concrete next steps for wherever you feel stuck. Anne's Website Anne's Substack Private coaching spots are open. If you liked this episode, you might also like: If you want something new in your job, your career, you're also going to have to let something go.On making, maintaining and letting go of friends in our 30s and 40s.Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1h 9m

  4. FEB 25

    The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest, whether she's single or in a relationship | Ep 159

    The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest. Not because no one wants her — but because she's spent years making herself so easy, so low-maintenance, so needless, that there's nothing for anyone to actually attach to. But that's not a personality trait. That's a trauma response. In this episode, I'm digging into hyper-independence — where it comes from, why it masquerades as "just who we are" when it's really a trauma response, and how it shows up in dating, relationships, and marriage in ways you might not expect. If you're single and wondering why things never quite stick, or partnered and sitting on a slow burn of resentment, this episode will give you a lot to work with. Listen to The 40 Portal Podcast Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    33 min

  5. FEB 19

    When your marriage starts to shift in your early 40s | Ep 158

    In the last few years I've started to notice something in my peers, colleagues and clients who are a few years deeper into their 40s — and a few years deeper into their marriage and life as parents: Things are starting to crack and fissure. Things that were a whisper of an issue before are now all encompassing. But are these big, life-altering cracks, or obstacles meant to drive a couple into its next evolution? Not the easiest of questions to contemplate. Not the easiest of questions to answer. I've been doing that work, asking those questions and surfacing those answers for years in my practice. I've now turned it into a formal program. In today's episode I'm discussing: Why things start to stir in our marriages/long term relationships at this point in lifeThe similarities I see between my single clients and married clients at this point in lifeWhy women, at this point in their marriages, wake up to how disconnected they can feel to their partners — how their role embodies more of 'Director of Operations' than a wife, partner or individualSome ways to navigate next steps, if you find yourself in this season of lifeQuestions mentioned in podcast: What version of myself am I missing right now? What do I long to feel or experience in my days that I don’t have access to? What’s driving that? In what ways have I been trying to get my partner to change — and what am I anticipating that change would do for me energetically, spiritually, emotionally? Is that something I could do for myself? Episode w/ Kara Loweintheil Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    27 min

  6. FEB 11

    On the ups and downs of dating, and now, a new, blooming relationship post-major breakup | Ep 157

    Nearly four years ago, my friend and colleague, Diana Davis, went through a life-altering breakup. She and her then-boyfriend of over six years decided to part ways, with her later learning he'd had an affair during the course of their relationship. You can listen to that episode here. For the last few years, she's hopped around the globe, living in different spots, dating different people (some good! some not so good!) and getting to know herself. Her work has also evolved, playing a parallel role in the evolution of her relationships. In this episode we discuss: The big dating lessons and shifts that led to her now-blooming relationshipHow burning out with her business correlated to changes in how she was datingThe key parallels between our work lives and our romantic livesTo learn more about or work with Diana, check out her website and Instagram. Private coaching spots are open. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1h 4m

  7. FEB 4

    On choosing your hard in life, the power of your ability to tolerate uncertainty and more with Megan Hellerer | Ep 156

    This week I've invited my dear friend and colleague, Megan Hellerer, back on the podcast. Megan was on the podcast in the fall of 2024 for the launch of her first book, Directional Living. Here's that first episode. I wanted to have her back on to discuss: What life is like as a 41 year old mom with a 2.5 year old, a year after writing her bookHave her discuss how the life she's living feels like her dream, but never one she would have imaginedThe unique let down she experienced (as many authors do) after putting her big project into the worldWe also dig into a rich discussion around this generation and younger generations' inability to tolerate uncertainty, and how the ability to do so is crucial when it comes to pursuing and experiencing that which you want in this precious life. I found myself furiously taking notes and contemplating my year ahead in a whole new way. Private coaching spaces are open. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1h 11m

  8. JAN 28

    On the comfort of being single (a fresh take) | Ep 155

    Years ago, back when I first started this podcast, I shared an episode entitled "The comfort of being single." I will link to that podcast below. It's one of the most listened to episodes. My clients, always serving as the greatest mirror, reminded me this topic was worth revisiting. I find it to be an extremely comment sentiment, but it often gets buried with feelings of: There's something wrong with me. I should just date more. If I want a relationship, why am I not trying harder? This episode will resonate if you find yourself single and deeply resistant to dating, or stuck in a series of short or largely unsuccessful relationships, and can't seem to shake the pattern.  In it I cover: The deeper reasons as to why we resist dating or find our relationship attempts always fall shortHow and why we shame and blame ourselves — saying we're too picky and not trying hard enough — and how that actually isn't trueHow much of remaining single has to do with maintaining controlWays you can better understand your own relationship patternsEpisode 11 Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    42 min
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A counterintuitive approach to navigating dating and building relationships in the digital age. This is for the woman who feels disenchanted by more common dating rhetoric and sometimes even questions if she wants a relationship at all. She already lives a rich, full life. She would like to share that with someone, but not at the expense of herself. What gives? That’s where we’re digging in.

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  • Creator
    Clara Artschwager
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    169
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 I Think I Like You
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