I Think I Like You

Clara Artschwager
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A counterintuitive approach to navigating dating and building relationships in the digital age. This is for the woman who feels disenchanted by more common dating rhetoric and sometimes even questions if she wants a relationship at all. She already lives a rich, full life. She would like to share that with someone, but not at the expense of herself. What gives? That’s where we’re digging in.

  1. 6D AGO

    The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest, whether she's single or in a relationship | Ep 159

    The most capable woman in the room is often the loneliest. Not because no one wants her — but because she's spent years making herself so easy, so low-maintenance, so needless, that there's nothing for anyone to actually attach to. But that's not a personality trait. That's a trauma response. In this episode, I'm digging into hyper-independence — where it comes from, why it masquerades as "just who we are" when it's really a trauma response, and how it shows up in dating, relationships, and marriage in ways you might not expect. If you're single and wondering why things never quite stick, or partnered and sitting on a slow burn of resentment, this episode will give you a lot to work with. Listen to The 40 Portal Podcast Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    33 min

  2. FEB 19

    When your marriage starts to shift in your early 40s | Ep 158

    In the last few years I've started to notice something in my peers, colleagues and clients who are a few years deeper into their 40s — and a few years deeper into their marriage and life as parents: Things are starting to crack and fissure. Things that were a whisper of an issue before are now all encompassing. But are these big, life-altering cracks, or obstacles meant to drive a couple into its next evolution? Not the easiest of questions to contemplate. Not the easiest of questions to answer. I've been doing that work, asking those questions and surfacing those answers for years in my practice. I've now turned it into a formal program. In today's episode I'm discussing: Why things start to stir in our marriages/long term relationships at this point in lifeThe similarities I see between my single clients and married clients at this point in lifeWhy women, at this point in their marriages, wake up to how disconnected they can feel to their partners — how their role embodies more of 'Director of Operations' than a wife, partner or individualSome ways to navigate next steps, if you find yourself in this season of lifeQuestions mentioned in podcast: What version of myself am I missing right now? What do I long to feel or experience in my days that I don’t have access to? What’s driving that? In what ways have I been trying to get my partner to change — and what am I anticipating that change would do for me energetically, spiritually, emotionally? Is that something I could do for myself? Episode w/ Kara Loweintheil Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    27 min

  3. FEB 11

    On the ups and downs of dating, and now, a new, blooming relationship post-major breakup | Ep 157

    Nearly four years ago, my friend and colleague, Diana Davis, went through a life-altering breakup. She and her then-boyfriend of over six years decided to part ways, with her later learning he'd had an affair during the course of their relationship. You can listen to that episode here. For the last few years, she's hopped around the globe, living in different spots, dating different people (some good! some not so good!) and getting to know herself. Her work has also evolved, playing a parallel role in the evolution of her relationships. In this episode we discuss: The big dating lessons and shifts that led to her now-blooming relationshipHow burning out with her business correlated to changes in how she was datingThe key parallels between our work lives and our romantic livesTo learn more about or work with Diana, check out her website and Instagram. Private coaching spots are open. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1h 4m

  4. FEB 4

    On choosing your hard in life, the power of your ability to tolerate uncertainty and more with Megan Hellerer | Ep 156

    This week I've invited my dear friend and colleague, Megan Hellerer, back on the podcast. Megan was on the podcast in the fall of 2024 for the launch of her first book, Directional Living. Here's that first episode. I wanted to have her back on to discuss: What life is like as a 41 year old mom with a 2.5 year old, a year after writing her bookHave her discuss how the life she's living feels like her dream, but never one she would have imaginedThe unique let down she experienced (as many authors do) after putting her big project into the worldWe also dig into a rich discussion around this generation and younger generations' inability to tolerate uncertainty, and how the ability to do so is crucial when it comes to pursuing and experiencing that which you want in this precious life. I found myself furiously taking notes and contemplating my year ahead in a whole new way. Private coaching spaces are open. Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1h 11m

  5. JAN 28

    On the comfort of being single (a fresh take) | Ep 155

    Years ago, back when I first started this podcast, I shared an episode entitled "The comfort of being single." I will link to that podcast below. It's one of the most listened to episodes. My clients, always serving as the greatest mirror, reminded me this topic was worth revisiting. I find it to be an extremely comment sentiment, but it often gets buried with feelings of: There's something wrong with me. I should just date more. If I want a relationship, why am I not trying harder? This episode will resonate if you find yourself single and deeply resistant to dating, or stuck in a series of short or largely unsuccessful relationships, and can't seem to shake the pattern.  In it I cover: The deeper reasons as to why we resist dating or find our relationship attempts always fall shortHow and why we shame and blame ourselves — saying we're too picky and not trying hard enough — and how that actually isn't trueHow much of remaining single has to do with maintaining controlWays you can better understand your own relationship patternsEpisode 11 Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    42 min

  6. JAN 21

    How social media has bastardized the meaning of "blocks," a whole new way to look at codependency, and more with Bea Victoria Albina | Ep 154

    Quick videos with quippy captions, over-simplified sound bites and energy influencers claiming they understand your body better than you do your own,  have seemingly made us all "somatic experts," completely on top of our individualized trauma and blocks...but has it? That, and well, the release of her new book (!), was the main reason I wanted Bea to return to the show. If you identify as a type A, high-achieving, people-pleasing, good girl — essentially everyone who listens to this show — Bea's framing of these behaviors, our understanding of codependency, the buzziness of the terms "blocks" and "somatic" and how the popularity is leading us to misinterpret what we're actually feeling, will feel like a breath of fresh air. I walked away from this episode with a whole new understanding of how my own, personal, lived experience is still (in sneaky and subtle ways) in relation to my perceived sense of what's working and not working for someone else. Bea's Website Buy Bea's Book Join her program, Anchored Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1 hr

  7. JAN 14

    On falling for colleagues and bosses who make us feel really 'seen.' | Ep 153

    Years ago, I fell hard for a boss. Initially, I might have used the word love. That I fell in love with him. Now much older, knowing what love actually means and entails, it wasn't love. It was infatuation. But my feelings of infatuation were quite significant when it came to understanding my bigger romantic hunger and obstacles. I have worked with many a client who has experienced the same thing — some merely admired male colleagues from afar, while some entered full**-blown relationships. The consistency of this pattern among my clients (and, well, myself), hard-**working, hero daughters, is key. The draw to these types of men in these types of scenarios is very reflective of the way we long to be seen and loved, but not helpful when it comes to securing a committed, fulfilling relationship. In this episode I'm covering: What drives our attraction in professional environmentsWhat creates those heightened feelings of obsession and infatuationHow, even if the relationship isn't romantic, we get some emotional fulfillment, often causing us to not seek it elsewhereHow these "relationships," even when they result in affairs, feel "safe"How we can break down this pattern to understand what's begging to be healed (on our own), and why it's serving as an obstacle to finding true partnershipOther episodes mentioned: Ep 124 Why does sex with the people that are so wrong for us feel so good? With therapist Julia Zwerin. Ep 5 | The relationship that broke me in all the ways I needed to be broken (AKA uncovering my father wound) Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    46 min

  8. JAN 7

    Here's what 2026 is asking of you with psychological astrologer Dani Beinstein | Ep 152

    Psychological astrologer and general fountain of wisdom, Dani Beinstein returns!  In this episode we talk about: How the struggles, obstacles and general ways we were all put through the proverbial wringer in 2025 was a "pregame" (Dani's words) of sorts. Dani breaks down the what and why of last year.What 2026 is asking of us and how we can apply this to our livesDani's and my own current philosophies of the state of romantic relationships (Hint: our expectations of what they'll fulfill are way too high) and ways in which we see people could find more freedom, joy and fulfillment in their relationshipsLinks mentioned in the episode: Work Privately with Me Dani's Website Book a Reading with Dani Dani's Lives with Steph Sembari Work with me Privately Connect on Instagram Website Podcast Production by James Jorge

    1h 3m
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A counterintuitive approach to navigating dating and building relationships in the digital age. This is for the woman who feels disenchanted by more common dating rhetoric and sometimes even questions if she wants a relationship at all. She already lives a rich, full life. She would like to share that with someone, but not at the expense of herself. What gives? That’s where we’re digging in.

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  • Creator
    Clara Artschwager
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    166
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 I Think I Like You
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