Be VicTORIEus with Dr. Torie

EToyare McDonald-Williams
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The podcast "Be VicTORIEus" is a platform to educate people about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). People share their stories, experiences, and advice on topics such as mental health, self-love, empowerment and their ways of addressing and healing their ACEs.  Be VicTORIEus podcast offers a fresh perspective and independent point of view on ACEs, the silent mental health  pandemic addressed my the Center for Disease Control and  Prevention (CDC). This podcast empowers guests affected by ACEs to take control of their childhood trauma by sharing their ACEs score, their ACEs story, and their journey to healing.The podcast is hosted by Dr. Torie Williams, a mental health advocate and ACEs expert. Dr. Torie educates while offering guidance and support to her listeners as they navigate life's challenges and understands their ACEs score. If you are looking for a podcast that will educate you about ACES while others share their stories and ways to heal, then "Be Victorieus" is the choice for you! Be VicTORIEus and raise awareness of ACEs, a mental health crisis that has an effect on us worldwide. 

  1. Sep 29

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 114

    Got a question? Send us a text! This episode discusses domestic abuse and coercive control. US National Domestic Violence Hotline: call 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. Free, confidential, 24/7. Ama K. Karikari had the plan. Harvard undergrad. An MBA and a JD. Senior counsel at Citibank, twentieth floor, writing bond disclosure. Married to a Yale man whose family came from the same part of Ghana as hers. On her honeymoon, her husband stopped speaking to her. It lasted hours. Over the next fifteen years it would last between two weeks and three months at a time, every time she failed to submit. She Googled domestic violence. She Googled abuse. What she was living wasn't in the definitions. So she went to marriage counseling, individual counseling, EMDR, Reiki, wife coaching, two sex coaches, and read every book she could find — for fifteen years — before she understood that nothing was broken. It was working exactly as designed. She's now a lawyer campaigning to have the silent treatment recognized as coercive control. This is her conversation with Dr. Torie. You can follow her on IG @amakkarikari Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/xNkpIyybRq0 00:00 The episode starts here 00:30 Caught at Meet the Teacher night 01:30 Lawyer by training, and the 9% bond due in 2045 03:30 Following somebody else's plan 05:30 The first awakening 07:00 The marriage that looked perfect on paper 09:00 The honeymoon 11:00 Googling for a word that wasn't there 13:00 Fifteen years of trying everything 15:00 The fifteenth anniversary 16:30 "Uh-oh. You've had enough." 18:00 Why domestic abuse is the blueprint 19:30 Why Dr. Torie won't tell her own story 22:00 The gap in the ACEs framework 23:30 A screamer, a beater, and the man who never raised his voice 24:30 The father hierarchy 26:30 The welfare queen, and the fear that boxed her in 28:00 The download 29:30 Imago theory, and five coincidences from Ghana 32:30 Inside the workbook 35:00 Victim accountability, not victim blaming 36:30 Learning how to trust again 38:00 Soaring Sister Circles 40:00 Worship no one but God 41:30 Close Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  2. Sep 22

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 113

    Got a question? Send us a text! This episode includes discussion of addiction, family abuse and gang violence. Dr. Torie went to a performing arts high school. Almost nobody knows she can sing. Four minutes into this episode, Maximus Leroy stops the interview and asks her whose voice told her not to. That's the whole episode, really. Maximus is a certified psychotherapist and EQ practitioner who wrote a book called "Mental Health Is a Lie" — not because mental health isn't real, but because he thinks we're arguing about 30% of the problem and ignoring the other 70%. What follows is less an interview than a session. Two practitioners in the same field, taking turns putting each other on the couch. You can follow him on IG @maximuslerois Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/t3NFkgYiRrY 00:00 The episode starts here 00:30 "Maximus, where are you?" 01:30 Wait — you can sing? 04:00 Whose voice told you not to? 06:00 Cycle breakers, and the author of your own script 09:00 When singing was the therapy 11:30 Awareness + Community = Empowerment 13:00 You don't have time. You don't make time. 15:30 Why boundaries are hardest for the first one out 18:00 "I don't keep score" 19:30 Do you see me? Do you love me? 21:30 Forgive the version of you that needed it 24:00 The Ninth Child, and an audiobook in someone else's voice 25:30 The room where nobody is alone anymore 27:00 "Pull yourself up by your bootstraps" — I've got sandals on 28:30 South LA, and the brother who wouldn't let him come 30:30 Becoming the father who could give better answers 33:00 Trauma bonds, and the difference between loving and liking 34:30 His father, still using, and the line before that 36:30 The trauma Olympics: I'm not running this race 38:30 Entrepreneurship, and what your kids are actually watching 40:00 "You're so strong" — and why that's not a compliment 41:00 The imposter syndrome tool 42:30 Mental Health Is a Lie: the 70/30 split 43:30 Be it so you can see it 44:30 Where to find Maximus Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  3. Sep 21

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 111

    Got a question? Send us a text! This conversation discusses childhood abuse, bullying, and mental health struggles. Resources are listed at the bottom of this description. Please take care of yourself while listening. Lawrence C. Harris was severely bullied as a kid. At 12, his father became abusive toward him and his younger siblings. He was eventually put out of the house, and then the pandemic hit. At 15, he started filming himself talking about what he was learning in therapy and posting it for an audience of two subscribers. He is 20 now, and this is the conversation about what actually happened in between. Dr. Torie sits down with Lawrence to talk about what cycle breaking really requires, how adverse childhood experiences shape adult relationships people cannot explain, and what a 12-year-old in a bad house can practically do today. This one gets specific, including a full list of healing strategies for people who cannot afford therapy. If you need support right now 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988 Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741 You can follow him on IG @lawrencec.empowers Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/THlT_NvNHWo 00:00 Cold Open: The ACEs Book 00:45 Welcome and a Season of Grief 03:00 Who Checks On the Helpers? 05:00 Meet Lawrence Harris 06:30 Bullied, Then Abused at 12 09:30 Talking to Two YouTube Subscribers 11:00 What Cycle Breaking Actually Requires 14:30 If You Don't Deal With It, Your Kids Will 17:00 Finding Out About ACEs in Therapy 19:00 Why Your Relationships Keep Looking the Same 22:00 "It Stays in the Family" 26:00 Why the Cops Conversation Is Complicated 28:30 Bullying Is a Mental Health Issue 31:30 Emotional Regulation and Young Black Men 34:30 Healing Without a Therapy Budget 38:00 Why Men End Up in the Gym 40:00 Cutting People, Places, and Things 42:00 You Might Save Somebody at the Drive-Thru 44:30 You Cannot Blame the Child 47:30 What You See Before You're Old Enough to Filter It 50:00 Advice for the 12-Year-Old Going Through It Now 52:30 Faith, Higher Power, and an ACEs Score of 6 53:30 Where to Find Lawrence 54:00 Outro Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  4. Sep 21

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 112

    Got a question? Send us a text! This episode discusses suicide, childhood abuse and sexual assault. If you're struggling, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, US) or text HOME to 741741. You are not the only one. Melanie Cox thought she had thyroid cancer. Sitting at a window working out what she'd actually built, she realized she had left her children everything worldly and almost nothing spiritual. So she wrote a book — five copies, just for her kids. The publicist refused to print five. It became a number one. In this conversation with Dr. Torie, Melanie talks about being raised by a mother who spent her life trying to die, about lying on the floor by her mother's bed as a small child with a stuffed animal and a joke to keep her alive one more night, and about what it took to stop that inheritance from moving one more generation. It is also, unexpectedly, a very funny conversation about forgiveness. You can follow her on IG @itsmelaniecox — DM your email for a FREE digital copy of the book Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/5DWF9ggm-u0 00:00 The episode starts here 00:30 Welcome, and the grandest entrance we've had 01:45 Melanie: California CEO, and the diagnosis that changed the plan 04:00 What ACEs actually are, and why this show exists 06:00 Inside the book: "Kids, you have to know" 09:00 Her mother's illness, and the decision to break the cycle 11:30 "The bill has to be paid" 14:00 Taking thoughts captive, and the gratitude reset 17:00 She never meant to publish it 19:30 Awareness + Community = Empowerment 22:00 Legacy, and the potter's wheel 25:00 What it means to operate in purpose 27:00 Abandonment, dementia, and the woman she met too late 30:30 "Honor your mother and father is for the ones they leave behind" 32:30 Forgive and release — but don't invite them to Christmas 34:00 Suicide Prevention Awareness Month 34:45 Where to start, if you're at the beginning 35:30 Watch your mouth 36:00 Where to find Melanie Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  5. Sep 1

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 110

    Got a question? Send us a text! On this episode of Be Victorious, Dr. Torie sits down talks with David Deane Haskell, author of Wounded Angels, about losing his mother to suicide, surviving childhood violence, breaking a cycle of addiction and codependency, and the inner child healing work that got him here. You can follow him on IG @daviddeanehaskell Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/kEsbwpPME2c 00:00 It's Time to Talk About ACEs 00:40 Welcome to Be Victorious + Meet David Dean Haskell 03:30 Why He Wrote Wounded Angels 06:00 ACE Score: 9/11 — The Trauma He Almost Didn't Count 09:30 Spanking vs. Abuse: Where's the Line? 12:30 Publishing the Book His Father Would Read 17:00 Generational Trauma: His Parents' Own Childhoods 20:30 Vulnerable, Not Humiliating: The Inner Child Work 23:30 Codependency & the Family Scapegoat Role 27:00 "Go Where You're Celebrated, Not Tolerated" 30:30 Rock Bottom & Codependency with His Grandmother 34:00 Why Toxic Positivity Does Real Harm 37:30 The TED Talk That Gave His Trauma a Name 40:00 Healing a Trigger in Real Time 44:00 Suicide, Stigma & Trigger Warnings 46:00 A Spiritual Awakening on the Beach in Japan 48:00 Hearing About ACEs for the First Time 51:00 Closing Thoughts & Where to Find David Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  6. Aug 25

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 109

    Got a question? Send us a text! On this episode of Be Victorious, Dr. Torie sits down with sits down with  ⁨@JasonABenefield⁩   to unpack his childhood, his ACE score, and the framework he built — Commodity Consciousness — to help others do the same healing work. You can follow him on IG @jasonabenefield Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/pxiovs3eruk 00:00 It's Time to Talk About ACEs 00:40 Welcome to Be Victorious + Meeting Doc Benefield 03:00 Who Is Jason Ojudu-Benefield? 05:30 Feeling Unworthy in a Family of Faith 08:30 Taking the Seat: This Is a Safe Space 09:30 The Seizure at Church They Called Demonic 13:00 Labeled "Bad": The Birth of a People Pleaser 15:30 The Zoo School Diagnosis 18:00 The Masquerade of Always Looking Healed 20:30 Writing an ACEs Book Without Knowing It 23:00 Mentorship, His ACE Score (5) & PTSD 27:00 The Second Largest Study in the U.S. 30:30 Inspired by Les Brown 33:30 Building Commodity Consciousness 38:30 20 Years in the Making 40:30 A New Book on Mother Figures 44:30 Dr. Tori as a Mother Figure 46:30 Face the Pain to Find Freedom Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  7. Aug 18

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 108

    Got a question? Send us a text! On this episode of Be Victorious, Dr. Torie sits down with  ⁨@rodneyjahan⁩   to talk about cycle breaking, adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), the mentorship that changed his life, and the healing habits that keep him grounded — from the gym to skincare to literature. You can follow him on IG @rodneyjahan  Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/X-PaGx9x7iY 0:00It's Time to Talk About ACEs (book intro) 0:45Welcome to Be Victorious + Meet R. Jahan 3:00Who Is R. Jahan? (Stage Name Story) 4:30What Is a Cycle Breaker? 6:30The Childhood Calling to New York 10:00Life as Activity Director & Losing TJ Shirley 15:00Naming ACEs: CDC Update & His ACE Score (7/11) 18:30The Leap to New York: Culture Shock & Grit 23:30The Mentor Who Changed Everything: Yvonne Nesbitt 28:00Healing Strategies: Gym, Shakespeare & Skincare 35:00James Baldwin, Literature & Black Archaeology of ACEs 40:00Full Circle: The Thermos Story 43:00Advice for the Next Generation of Cycle Breakers 46:30The Baldwin Play Update & Closing Thoughts Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

  8. Jul 28

    Be VicTORIEus Ep. 107

    Got a question? Send us a text! On this episode of Be Victorious, Dr. Torie sits down with Julianna Burmesch, former school principal, speech pathologist, early brain development trainer, and author of Life with Less of Me, to talk about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and their lifelong impact on physical and mental health. Grab Julianna's book, Life with Less of Me, wherever books are sold, and visit juliannaburmesch.com to connect with her directly. Learn more about ACEs education and join the Be Victorious community at BeVictorious.com. Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/inzF26zdLrE 00:00 – Cold open: Dr. Torie on her book & ACEs  01:15 – Welcome to Be Victorious + guest introduction  03:00 – Meet Juliana: principal, speech pathologist, author  05:15 – What's your ACEs score?  07:30 – Why ACEs categories weren't taught in depth  10:00 – Leaving public education for social-emotional learning  12:15 – Why Juliana wrote Life with Less of Me  14:30 – Childhood neglect, infections & long-term health effects  17:00 – Necrotizing fasciitis and unresolved trauma  19:15 – Realizing her childhood wasn't normal  21:30 – Struggling to ask for help, even as a principal  24:00 – Starting 6 years of trauma therapy  26:30 – How trauma rewires the developing brain  29:00 – Fight, flight, freeze, fawn — explained  31:15 – Family reactions to the book  33:30 – Health scares: shingles, cancer & the mind-body link  36:00 – Coping tools: pottery, music & grounding  38:30 – Advice for people starting their healing journey  40:45 – Where to find Juliana + closing thoughts Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador

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The podcast "Be VicTORIEus" is a platform to educate people about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). People share their stories, experiences, and advice on topics such as mental health, self-love, empowerment and their ways of addressing and healing their ACEs.  Be VicTORIEus podcast offers a fresh perspective and independent point of view on ACEs, the silent mental health  pandemic addressed my the Center for Disease Control and  Prevention (CDC). This podcast empowers guests affected by ACEs to take control of their childhood trauma by sharing their ACEs score, their ACEs story, and their journey to healing.The podcast is hosted by Dr. Torie Williams, a mental health advocate and ACEs expert. Dr. Torie educates while offering guidance and support to her listeners as they navigate life's challenges and understands their ACEs score. If you are looking for a podcast that will educate you about ACES while others share their stories and ways to heal, then "Be Victorieus" is the choice for you! Be VicTORIEus and raise awareness of ACEs, a mental health crisis that has an effect on us worldwide. 

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  • Creator
    EToyare McDonald-Williams
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2026
  • Episodes
    116
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 Be VicTORIEus with Dr. Torie
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