The Bad Influence Podcast with Bjordan Banderas

Bjordan Banderas
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I'm not a guru. I'm not a guide. I'm just a guy who fixed his own life by finally facing the mirror, and this channel exists to show you how to face yours. This podcast started with nothing but a mess I couldn't fix by ignoring it and a mirror I finally stopped avoiding. Years later, nothing about that method has changed. Take what works here. Burn the rest. Think for yourself. That's the whole point. Mindset Monday puts the fear you dress up as being realistic in front of you. Relationship Wednesday puts the apology you didn't mean and the resentment you're calling patience in front of you. Fired Up Friday puts the excuse doing your work for you in front of you. Subscribe. Turn on notifications. Be the bad influence in your own story. The choice is yours.

  1. 2d ago

    The Real Reason You Keep Getting Right to the Edge of Change and Stopping. | #450

    The thing that hurt you didn't decide who you became. You did, and you've never made that call. You tell the story of what happened to you like it's an introduction, not a memory. Every time you tell it that way, the wound gets a little more permanent and you get a little more explained by it. It's Fired Up Friday on the Bad Influence Podcast. In this episode, I share my perspective on why staying the person something happened to and becoming the person who built from it are two different choices. If people can predict exactly how your story ends before you finish telling it, this one's for you. By the end, you'll see what that unmade decision has been buying you, and the one sentence that finally closes it. Did you use the pain, or did you just carry it? Drop your answer in the comments. Then hit subscribe and finish the story differently the next time you tell it. Be the bad influence in your own story. https://linktr.ee/bjordanthebadinfluence

  2. 4d ago

    The Truth About What Happens the Night She Finally Stops Reaching. | #449

    If your partner has quietly stopped reaching for you, the reason usually isn't her. It's what your face does when she tries. She tells you something that matters to her, and your face goes flat before you even notice. She's not imagining the distance, she's been recalibrating around it. It's Relationship Wednesday on the Bad Influence Podcast. In this episode, I share my perspective on the difference between staying calm and going numb, and why she can feel the difference. If you can't remember the last time something excited you at full strength, this one's for you. By the end, you'll see what your flat reactions have been teaching her to expect, and the moment that starts changing it. What does your face do when she reaches for you? Drop your answer in the comments. Then hit subscribe and let your face react before you decide whether it's safe to. Be the bad influence in your own story. https://linktr.ee/bjordanthebadinfluence

  3. 6d ago

    The Real Reason Even Honest People Feel Distant Around You. | #448

    Reading people accurately isn't a curse. Doubting your own read is the actual problem. Your breath goes shallow the second you walk into a room, before you've said hello to anyone. You're running the same scan on people who've never given you a reason to. It's Mindset Monday on the Bad Influence Podcast. In this episode, I share my perspective on why you keep scanning people who've already proven they're safe. If you can't remember the last time you felt fully at ease around another person, this one's for you. By the end, you'll see where your clarity has been running unnecessary overtime, and the one place you get to let it rest. Who in your life has earned enough trust that you don't have to brace around them anymore? Drop your answer in the comments. Then hit subscribe and let your breath go all the way down around them. Be the bad influence in your own story. https://linktr.ee/bjordanthebadinfluence

  4. Sep 25

    Stop Rehearsing the Complaint Before It Becomes Your Whole Personality. | #447

    Venting about the same problem for the hundredth time isn’t processing. It’s why nothing has actually changed. Your hands go restless every time you start complaining again, that’s fuel for fixing the problem, spent on words instead. You’ve mistaken that release for progress for years. It’s Fired Up Friday on the Bad Influence Podcast. In this episode, I share my perspective on why being heard and being helped are not the same thing. If you’ve had the same complaint with the same person more than once this year, this one’s for you. By the end, you’ll see the real ratio between talking about your problem and working on it, and the shift that closes the gap. What would change if you finally trusted your own restlessness instead of talking it away? Drop your answer in the comments. Then hit subscribe and do one small thing about it before you talk about it again. Be the bad influence in your own story. https://linktr.ee/bjordanthebadinfluence

  5. Sep 23

    Stop Confusing Not Hearing No With Hearing Yes. | #446

    Asking for a chance after someone’s shown you disinterest isn’t romantic. You’re refusing to accept information you already have. That drop in your stomach right before you ask anyway isn’t nerves, it’s your body already knowing the answer. You’ve been overriding it and calling it not giving up. It’s Relationship Wednesday on the Bad Influence Podcast. In this episode, I share my perspective on why treating a clear no as a starting position is quietly costing you the honest people worth pursuing. If you’ve ever sent the follow-up message hoping for a different answer, this one’s for you. By the end, you’ll see the real price you’ve been paying for overriding a clear no, and the response that finally respects it. Why does this one no feel like it’s about your whole worth? Drop your answer in the comments. Then hit subscribe and let the next clear answer be enough. Be the bad influence in your own story.

  6. Sep 21

    Stop Confusing Your Comfort Zone With Your Actual Identity. | #445

    That bone-deep tired by midday isn’t normal exhaustion. It’s the cost of performing a version of yourself so long you forgot it was one. The people closest to you love a version of you that took real effort to build. You’ve never let them near the one underneath it. It’s Mindset Monday on the Bad Influence Podcast. In this episode, I share my perspective on the difference between being liked for a performance and actually being known. If you can’t remember the last time you let someone see you struggle without managing how it looked, this one’s for you. By the end, you’ll see what that performance has been costing your closest relationships, and the sentence that starts changing it. What do you actually want right now, if nobody needed anything from you? Drop your answer in the comments. Then hit subscribe and finally let the real one out from behind it. Be the bad influence in your own story. https://linktr.ee/bjordanthebadinfluence

  7. Sep 18

    Why Maturity Is a Practice, Not a Milestone. | #444

    Getting older doesn't automatically make you more mature. You've been mistaking the birthdays for the actual work. You've been using your age as an alibi, whichever direction is convenient, too old to change, too young to bother. Both let a number answer for you instead of your actual choices. It's Fired Up Friday on the Bad Influence Podcast. In this episode, I share my perspective on why your birth year has never actually measured your maturity, your reactions have. If you've ever said "I've got time" or "I'm too old for this now," this one's for you. By the end, you'll see what that excuse has been costing you, and the response that finally proves it wrong. What if who you are right now is the actual evidence of your maturity, not your age? Drop your answer in the comments. Then hit subscribe and respond as the person you're becoming, not the age you are. Be the bad influence in your own story. https://linktr.ee/bjordanthebadinfluence

  8. Sep 16

    Why You're "Active" on Every App and Available to No One Real. | #443

    Getting no matches can feel like proof you're not wanted. That feeling isn't information about you, it's the product the app was built to sell. Your hands go still every time you check that app, bracing for a verdict it has no authority to give. That uncertainty is the business model, not a bug, a feature. It's Relationship Wednesday on the Bad Influence Podcast. In this episode, I share my perspective on why an app profiting off your uncertainty has no business deciding how lovable you are. If you've started dreading a notification before you even see what it says, this one's for you. By the end, you'll see what all that bracing has been costing your love life, and the move that starts giving it back. How many times have you let an app's silence tell you something true about your worth? Drop your answer in the comments. Then hit subscribe and put the phone down when it matters. Be the bad influence in your own story. https://linktr.ee/bjordanthebadinfluence

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I'm not a guru. I'm not a guide. I'm just a guy who fixed his own life by finally facing the mirror, and this channel exists to show you how to face yours. This podcast started with nothing but a mess I couldn't fix by ignoring it and a mirror I finally stopped avoiding. Years later, nothing about that method has changed. Take what works here. Burn the rest. Think for yourself. That's the whole point. Mindset Monday puts the fear you dress up as being realistic in front of you. Relationship Wednesday puts the apology you didn't mean and the resentment you're calling patience in front of you. Fired Up Friday puts the excuse doing your work for you in front of you. Subscribe. Turn on notifications. Be the bad influence in your own story. The choice is yours.

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